So at what weight do women actually respond to a guy?
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So glad I'm married and my wife never stopped loving me!0
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i think your putting the pu**y on a pedestal0
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yes.....and make sure we can see the camera in the mirror.....that makes us really hot for you - oh...and maybe there could be some nasty *kitten* caked onto the bathroom mirror too........well ima t 185 so its obviously below 185
try taking pictures of yourself in the bathroom w/ your pants off. chics love that *kitten*
noted, and btw, have you seen the bathroom self shot of the girl w/ a huge log in the toilet in the back ground?
i simply cannot live another moment WITHOUT seeing it
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OP - not saying you do, but don't judge too much (if any) of your self-worth on vapid female approval. Their acknowledgment of you is fleeting and generally only based on superficial things. Don't let it bother you. Female hypergamy keeps women much more restricted than it does most men.0
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I know you said its not meant to offend anyone, but that still doesn't make it a nice thing to say. Personality has nothing to do with what people look like and by assuming that thin girls tend to not be so nice is no better than the girl who wouldn't even acknowledge OP in the first postThe girls who are ignoring you must not be quality anyway, so don't sweat it!
And yes, heavier girls tend to be nicer, so try not to go after the stick figures. This isn't meant to offend either heavier girls or really thin girls, but as a formerly obese girl, I had a great personality that was often ignored for total *****es who thought they hung the moon!
Be confident and the rest will follow
Either way its a snap judgement based on what someone looks like 0 -
Honestly, it doesn't matter. If a girl is judging you bc you weight 245 she sucks anyways. Somebody else already said it but she's right, it's about confidence. Turn on the charm, smile and don't let the girls get to you. Make a joke about it, that always puts people at ease. Maybe you're not a fitness model, but you are working on it. You care about yoru health and are trying to make a change. To me that's more important. A guy who is overweight and doesn't give a *kitten*, that is not attractive. But a smart, funny man who likes to eat, I can deal with that.0
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My guy 6"6 and very slim, when I first met him (seems stupid/shallow/ugly and ignorant of me now) but I kept telling myself not to fall for him/he wont like me because I'm so short 5"4 and fat....
The only size issue is all me - he's out of this world with support/compliments....its hard to not let your own size be an issue but sometimes its necessary...dont be disheartened focusing on size its only likely to end up on binging/punishing yourself...believe in yourself and how well you've done!
(I think I know what point im trying to make but im not sure if i have or not?!)0 -
I've dated men who weighed anywhere from 150 to 240 pounds. Their weight had nothing to do with me responding to them.0
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Any woman that would turn down Quail Man is crazy!!!!0
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try taking pictures of yourself in the bathroom w/ your pants off. chics love that *kitten*
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yes.....and make sure we can see the camera in the mirror.....that makes us really hot for you - oh...and maybe there could be some nasty *kitten* caked onto the bathroom mirror too........
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noted, and btw, have you seen the bathroom self shot of the girl w/ a huge log in the toilet in the back ground?
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i simply cannot live another moment WITHOUT seeing it
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http://www.google.com/imgres?start=132&um=1&hl=en&sa=N&tbo=d&biw=1920&bih=929&tbm=isch&tbnid=Mab_z_KdYGRdkM:&imgrefurl=http://www.truefail.com/2143/comparison-of-browser.html&docid=4EELnUm2WW76BM&imgurl=http://www.truefail.com/uploads/2011_12/1323997074_FAIL_EPIC_FAIL_thumb.jpg&w=215&h=268&ei=K4uZUKa4MYHlyAGPyoGQDQ&zoom=1&iact=rc&dur=217&sig=103417353990670576927&page=3&tbnh=141&tbnw=118&ndsp=72&ved=1t:429,r:55,s:100,i:169&tx=67&ty=94
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thank you kind sir!0 -
You're walking up to the wrong girls.
My advice is to make them laugh! "If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything" -Marilyn Monroe
Seriously though, I'll be honest and say my boyfriend isn't model material but he makes me laugh even when I'm crying and I wouldn't trade him for the world.
Being a millionaire athlete worked well with her also btw
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B*TCHES AINT *kitten* BUT HO'S AND TRICKS!
Just kidding so relax 0 -
Be yourself! My husband has always been around that weight and it's been 22 years this month since we met. I love most things about him still! (And the things I don't have nothing to do with weight...) 0
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so this.some women are shallow, some are not.
Really what turns women on is confidence, not arrogance (there is a fine line between the two). Be friendly, have a sense of humor, sociable.
if you have a hot body and are a douche, you will still be lonely.0 -
B*TCHES AINT *kitten* BUT HO'S AND TRICKS!
Just kidding so relax
How about this one for laughs?
BOYS AIN'T S**T BUT TOYS AND D*CKS!
Lol..0 -
All the ladies in here are so damn sweet! I bet if a girl in Op's situation would have posted this,the response would have been way different0
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B*TCHES AINT *kitten* BUT HO'S AND TRICKS!
Just kidding so relax
How about this one for laughs?
BOYS AIN'T S**T BUT TOYS AND D*CKS!
Lol..
its about time someone treated me the way i've always wanted to be treated! women and their stupid "feeling" 0 -
When you hit your current goal weight and become at least partially satisfied with your body, you will realize that it DOES NOT matter. At all. Actually, I think once you hit the fitness model look and then beyond...it hurts. Girls are turned off. They think you are an elitist jerk.
A nice body helps on the internet. In real life...it makes almost no difference. Trust me on this one.
I hit my original goal physique a long time ago. I expected a change. Some magical difference. There was nothing.
this is very very discouraging :mad:0 -
Got distracted, but I agree with the majority... be true to yourself - confidence, personality, and humor are key. As long as you approach someone and are real about it - most real ladies out their will reciprocate.0
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You're walking up to the wrong girls.
This, and it might not even be your weight.
Things that are unattractive to women;
obvious lack of confidence
mumbling and stumbling through whatever you're saying to them.
poor posture and negative body language
not dressing for the occasion properly
Sloppy appearance
I have seen men and women with a fabulous body and fail in the dating scene because of these things.
You are probably also looking in the wrong place for women, most every single person I know who is single has this problem.0 -
B*TCHES AINT *kitten* BUT HO'S AND TRICKS!
Just kidding so relax
How about this one for laughs?
BOYS AIN'T S**T BUT TOYS AND D*CKS!
Lol..
its about time someone treated me the way i've always wanted to be treated! women and their stupid "feeling"
Well, what do you want us to say? Our genetic disposition has us organized will all of these horomones that have to be managed somehow... the easy way out is through feelings! I tend to channel mine most of the time through the gym; it's helped me tremendously, let me tell you! Lol.0 -
B*TCHES AINT *kitten* BUT HO'S AND TRICKS!
Just kidding so relax
How about this one for laughs?
BOYS AIN'T S**T BUT TOYS AND D*CKS!
Lol..
its about time someone treated me the way i've always wanted to be treated! women and their stupid "feeling"
Well, what do you want us to say? Our genetic disposition has us organized will all of these horomones that have to be managed somehow... the easy way out is through feelings! I tend to channel mine most of the time through the gym; it's helped me tremendously, let me tell you! Lol.
ugh...feelings :grumble:0 -
You're walking up to the wrong girls.
This, and it might not even be your weight.
Things that are unattractive to women;
obvious lack of confidence
mumbling and stumbling through whatever you're saying to them.
poor posture and negative body language
not dressing for the occasion properly
Sloppy appearance
I have seen men and women with a fabulous body and fail in the dating scene because of these things.
You are probably also looking in the wrong place for women, most every single person I know who is single has this problem.
Some of that stuff make women sound more shallow than just saying it's weight. I thought it was supposed to be what's on the inside that counts? Jeez.0 -
In all seriousness,
I did notice i get checked out now A LOT more that i lost 30 lbs. its sad, but its true. When i was 225 i couldnt get a look anywhere. Now i get checked out all the time. Im sure confidence is a huge part of it.
But the most important thing to consider here: I can very easily say something at any moment to turn a woman off whether im 225 or 195 or 175. I am an expert of talking myself out of dates. The down fall of being oppinionated and not desperate enough to bite my tongue.
The key to getting women to like you as chris rock said: ask the right questions that will allow them to run their mouths. they will love you. 0 -
In all seriousness,
I did notice i get checked out now A LOT more that i lost 30 lbs. its sad, but its true. When i was 225 i couldnt get a look anywhere. Now i get checked out all the time. Im sure confidence is a huge part of it.
But the most important thing to consider here: I can very easily say something at any moment to turn a woman off whether im 225 or 195 or 175. I am an expert of talking myself out of dates. The down fall of being oppinionated and not desperate enough to bite my tongue.
The key to getting women to like you as chris rock said: ask the right questions that will allow them to run their mouths. they will love you.
The confidence thing to me is always funny. It's kind of a catch 22. If you're going up to women that's confidence isn't it? If they're pretty much immediately rejecting you that's them saying confidence really enough to overcome whatever nonsense thing turned them off.0 -
It is cool to get some positive insight and perspective from others though. One thing I'm really noticing is a gap between what the women are saying are their experiences and what the guys are saying are their experiences.0
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oh no no no no!In all seriousness,
I did notice i get checked out now A LOT more that i lost 30 lbs. its sad, but its true. When i was 225 i couldnt get a look anywhere. Now i get checked out all the time. Im sure confidence is a huge part of it.
But the most important thing to consider here: I can very easily say something at any moment to turn a woman off whether im 225 or 195 or 175. I am an expert of talking myself out of dates. The down fall of being oppinionated and not desperate enough to bite my tongue.
The key to getting women to like you as chris rock said: ask the right questions that will allow them to run their mouths. they will love you.
The confidence thing to me is always funny. It's kind of a catch 22. If you're going up to women that's confidence isn't it? If they're pretty much immediately rejecting you that's them saying confidence really enough to overcome whatever nonsense thing turned them off.
Just because you go up to a ho doesnt mean ur confident. (i'm being a shovenist on purpose so relax, JUST KIDDING!)
but no going up to a woman is a GREAT first step! But that doesnt automatically make you confident or give you confidence people can pick up on.
From my experience confidence comes when you stop being scared of rejection or whatever else you need confidence in.
James Brown baby0 -
oh no no no no!In all seriousness,
I did notice i get checked out now A LOT more that i lost 30 lbs. its sad, but its true. When i was 225 i couldnt get a look anywhere. Now i get checked out all the time. Im sure confidence is a huge part of it.
But the most important thing to consider here: I can very easily say something at any moment to turn a woman off whether im 225 or 195 or 175. I am an expert of talking myself out of dates. The down fall of being oppinionated and not desperate enough to bite my tongue.
The key to getting women to like you as chris rock said: ask the right questions that will allow them to run their mouths. they will love you.
The confidence thing to me is always funny. It's kind of a catch 22. If you're going up to women that's confidence isn't it? If they're pretty much immediately rejecting you that's them saying confidence really enough to overcome whatever nonsense thing turned them off.
Just because you go up to a ho doesnt mean ur confident. (i'm being a shovenist on purpose so relax, JUST KIDDING!)
but no going up to a woman is a GREAT first step! But that doesnt automatically make you confident or give you confidence people can pick up on.
From my experience confidence comes when you stop being scared of rejection or whatever else you need confidence in.
James Brown baby
Still a catch 22. If you get rejected every time there's no way to not be expecting to be rejected. There has to be a reasonable expectation of success. As you said with your situation though hopefully the odds will improve 45 pounds from now where I can at least not be completely sure I'm going to get blown off every time.0 -
In all seriousness,
I did notice i get checked out now A LOT more that i lost 30 lbs. its sad, but its true. When i was 225 i couldnt get a look anywhere. Now i get checked out all the time. Im sure confidence is a huge part of it.
But the most important thing to consider here: I can very easily say something at any moment to turn a woman off whether im 225 or 195 or 175. I am an expert of talking myself out of dates. The down fall of being oppinionated and not desperate enough to bite my tongue.
The key to getting women to like you as chris rock said: ask the right questions that will allow them to run their mouths. they will love you.
I can agree with this.... I've been called brutally honest before; just have to watch what you say and how you say it when you approach her. Definitely a part of those "feelings"... apparently guys have them too, lol. Otherwise this post would have never started - but majority of the guys just tend to block them off and don't say anything about it, while most ladies generally let it all out (and I mean TMI all out - totally unnecessary!). Crazy right?0 -
oh no no no no!In all seriousness,
I did notice i get checked out now A LOT more that i lost 30 lbs. its sad, but its true. When i was 225 i couldnt get a look anywhere. Now i get checked out all the time. Im sure confidence is a huge part of it.
But the most important thing to consider here: I can very easily say something at any moment to turn a woman off whether im 225 or 195 or 175. I am an expert of talking myself out of dates. The down fall of being oppinionated and not desperate enough to bite my tongue.
The key to getting women to like you as chris rock said: ask the right questions that will allow them to run their mouths. they will love you.
The confidence thing to me is always funny. It's kind of a catch 22. If you're going up to women that's confidence isn't it? If they're pretty much immediately rejecting you that's them saying confidence really enough to overcome whatever nonsense thing turned them off.
Just because you go up to a ho doesnt mean ur confident. (i'm being a shovenist on purpose so relax, JUST KIDDING!)
but no going up to a woman is a GREAT first step! But that doesnt automatically make you confident or give you confidence people can pick up on.
From my experience confidence comes when you stop being scared of rejection or whatever else you need confidence in.
James Brown baby
Still a catch 22. If you get rejected every time there's no way to not be expecting to be rejected. There has to be a reasonable expectation of success. As you said with your situation though hopefully the odds will improve 45 pounds from now where I can at least not be completely sure I'm going to get blown off every time.
Either way though, you cant let it get to you and you cant dwell on rejection.
Or you can do what i do. I date sluts and avoid intimacy all together!0
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