How many sexual partners are considered too many?
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If you can no longer count the number of sexual partners you have had on all your fingers and toes, belly button, eyes and nose...
you might wanna hope you have a twin cus then technically you are one and the same person (ok not really but if you are desperate to keep counting) and so then you can start counting on their digits too lol so long as they havent used them up lol. just saying... that might be one too many lovers or not depending on who you are, but as I am still counting on less than one hand for all of mine in my entire life time I really dont care. Love long, love safe, love with all you got!0 -
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I'm not reading 8 pages of replies. There is no such thing as too many partners. There is only being stupid about health.0
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oh dear, best I sign up for some magical get your virginity back type thing then...3 is fine more then that is to much like ew ever thought about your not ONLY sleeping with that person your sleeping with everybody else they slept with and the people that the other people banged ya its like a chain so id say 3 is enough0 -
I thought this thread was going to be interesting....
but then i Norton'd....
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If YOU think it's too many, then it's too many. Otherwise, it's nobody else' damn business. Be smart, safe and respectful.0
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I think there are bigger questions besides "what number is too many".
1. Were you safe when you were sleeping with them? Clean, tested, condoms, etc. Id rather sleep with someone that had 10 partners and used a condom every time vs someone with 2 partners that was never tested or protected.
2. If your number is high, why? Daddy issues, emotional problems, etc. If its because youre older and enjoy sex then ok. But if youre 18 and your # is double your age, there might be something wrong.
I also think its more of a problem if you dont know your number. Thats just a big red flag to me. You dont have to keep a log book with their SSN in it, but a number should be remembered.0 -
<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<This is what happens when you have sex. Don't do it.
Kidding, this one was planned. As for the number amount. I would say that the number doesn't matter. If you have a burning down there at any time, maybe its the day to hang up the sword and giblets for a bit. I came from a very traditional hispanic family, and sexual promiscuity was a no no. In the outside world, I was used to guys greatly exxaggerating the number of women they had been with, to the point where the number 60 didn't bother me. My fiance (this is between us MFP) has only been with one other woman besides me (that stupid *****). I honestly was a bit wierded out by it at first, but now its nice knowing he doesn't value sex above all things. I on the other hand, had a three year streak of whoreishness. At the end of the day, I definitely think quality over quantity.0 -
This is getting on my nerves...
The people who dont want to be judged for sleeping with a lot of people are just as judgy about people who have been with very few.
Just because one is selective doesnt mean they are sexually deprived or not know what they are doing....mmmkthxbye.... Be it 1 or 100...i do not care.0 -
I had a hopeless romantic idea about saving myself for marriage and finding someone who was doing the same. I thought it would be great to know that this person was only with me. We could learn and explore together. I am now 32, single, and beyond sexually frustrated. My hope is now out the window and I am left just being frustrated because I am fat and inexperienced and shockingly girls don't find that appealing. Someone shoot me please. So much for being the romantic nice guy.0
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I have a very low number. I only get involved with a girl once I know she's one I'd like to spend a lot of time with and can connect. If I cannot connect with her, I won't sleep with her.
When I'm ready to sleep with someone, they become the only person in my eyes, no one else exists and I'll never look elsewhere nor cheat. Just not my style nor how I work.
I *hate* when I get mail here and on facebook from women saying what they like about me and what they'd like to do. Makes me cringe. A woman with self respect IMO goes a long way.
Will never apologise for my view on it tho, its how I was raised and how I learned to respect myself and others.
Love this!!0 -
I had a hopeless romantic idea about saving myself for marriage and finding someone who was doing the same. I thought it would be great to know that this person was only with me. We could learn and explore together. I am now 32, single, and beyond sexually frustrated. My hope is now out the window and I am left just being frustrated because I am fat and inexperienced and shockingly girls don't find that appealing. Someone shoot me please. So much for being the romantic nice guy.
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I don't think there's a magic number. A devout Christian would say 1 after marriage, someone else might say that it doesn't matter at all just be safe from STDs. I think you should be able to do what you want with your body as long a its 2 consenting adults. My number.....is 1. We got together when we were about to turn 15 and our 8 year anniversary is next month. Two freshman virgins who got together in high school and never parted.0
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I have only had 1, but it's not for me to judge - you ultimately, only have 'yourself' to answer to! If you feel good about yourself, that is all that matters! Rather it's only 1 or dozens!0
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I have two simple rules...
#1 - Wait till you are married
#2 - Once married, make up for lost time.
Of course, I never thought I would still be single at 40.0 -
This is getting on my nerves...
The people who dont want to be judged for sleeping with a lot of people are just as judgy about people who have been with very few.
Just because one is selective doesnt mean they are sexually deprived or not know what they are doing....mmmkthxbye.... Be it 1 or 100...i do not care.
Yep, lots of judgmental people. Lots of better-than-thou's in this place. Apparently, I lack self-respect because I've had more than a couple partners. :noway: I'd love to see how some of you actually manage to get up on those high horses! :laugh:0 -
I lost count0
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I had a hopeless romantic idea about saving myself for marriage and finding someone who was doing the same. I thought it would be great to know that this person was only with me. We could learn and explore together. I am now 32, single, and beyond sexually frustrated. My hope is now out the window and I am left just being frustrated because I am fat and inexperienced and shockingly girls don't find that appealing. Someone shoot me please. So much for being the romantic nice guy.
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I actually have a list!!! for nostalgic reasons of course I like to pull out my list and think about all the great times!!!:bigsmile:
31 and counting!
True story!!!
hell yeah!!:devil:0 -
This is getting on my nerves...
The people who dont want to be judged for sleeping with a lot of people are just as judgy about people who have been with very few.
Just because one is selective doesnt mean they are sexually deprived or not know what they are doing....mmmkthxbye.... Be it 1 or 100...i do not care.
Yep, lots of judgmental people. Lots of better-than-thou's in this place. Apparently, I lack self-respect because I've had more than a couple partners. :noway: I'd love to see how some of you actually manage to get up on those high horses! :laugh:
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My ex and I fought about this a lot. I was his second (he was engaged to his first) but he was my 6th. Seeing as I'm 24, that's really not bad at all. To him, that was a slutty amount. It made me feel like sh** to know that he saw me that way. It's not as though you can go back in time and magically erase it. Now, I feel that it's my body, my choice to make, and I'm not going to feel bad about that. Other people have no right to judge who I sleep with!!0
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There isn't a number because there can't be too many. Some people like sex more than others. Some like to be in love before. Doesn't matter. And it shouldn't have to matter.0
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I don't think that there is a set number that there are too many. Each person is able to have their own opinion and what is right for them. I would not date or be with someone just because of their sex partner number. Their past is their past. As long as when they're with me, they're only with me...I don't care what the number is
However, that being said. If a future partner mentioned that their number was really high because they liked to pick up hookers or something like that, I might have a problem with that, at least health wise. But that's just because I'm a relationship type of person and don't really do strangers or one night stand.0 -
I think if the person you are with can live with their number, then it's all good. An extreme in either direction is not desirable.
I think most people wouldn't want someone like, say, Wilt Chamberlain (who claims 20,000 partners lifetime) or Xaviera Hollander (The Happy Hooker)
I'm old school but for today's lifestyles, say for example some one was single for the past 3 years. Only got their freak on once every 3 months. Even that works out to 12 partners in the 3 years. My lifetime # is lower than that, but I don't judge a woman who's had that or more.
ETA: Don't forget the Factor of 3. A man's answer is usually 3 times the true number and a woman's answer is1/3 the true number! LOL J/K0 -
So wait....what if you're a swinger?
...not that I am.
Yet. Hahaha0 -
My ex and I fought about this a lot. I was his second (he was engaged to his first) but he was my 6th. Seeing as I'm 24, that's really not bad at all. To him, that was a slutty amount. It made me feel like sh** to know that he saw me that way. It's not as though you can go back in time and magically erase it. Now, I feel that it's my body, my choice to make, and I'm not going to feel bad about that. Other people have no right to judge who I sleep with!!
Good thing he is now your EX!!!!! No woman needs an insecure man like that!!!!!:bigsmile:0 -
My husband's number was somewhere around 20 which didn't bother me, but my 5 really gets to him.0
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zero. Your only partner should be the love of our lord and savior jesus christ.0
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What, there is a number that is considered too many??? :noway:
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My ex and I fought about this a lot. I was his second (he was engaged to his first) but he was my 6th. Seeing as I'm 24, that's really not bad at all. To him, that was a slutty amount. It made me feel like sh** to know that he saw me that way. It's not as though you can go back in time and magically erase it. Now, I feel that it's my body, my choice to make, and I'm not going to feel bad about that. Other people have no right to judge who I sleep with!!
Good thing he is now your EX!!!!! No woman needs an insecure man like that!!!!!:bigsmile:
I never divulged my # to my old man! I don't hear him complaining about me humping 30-ish dudes when I'm getting busy down there, if catch my drift.0
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