When did you know it was over?
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Not bad Jimmy, not bad at all... but I'm sorry, you still don't win.
When I called her parents to tell her she was coming home and I couldn't take her drug/alcohol problem anymore, even if it did help her cope with the pain from cancer.
And they said, "What cancer?"
*keeps heavyweight belt right where it belongs*
I am still not sure that beats seeing a mexican third baseman giving her a liver massage with his fungo bat....
I love a good Jaws-style, you show me yours I'll show you mine, ex-off!
Ah you caught your woman cheating, happens ALLL the time! I had to continually try to get her to breathe again during her seizures (ok those were real I found out).
Plus I'm pretty sure she cheated on me too. But that was the least of my worries, what with all the vicodin I had to steal for her....
DON'T CHALLENGE THE CHAMP!!
You :"THINK" she was cheating huh? So you never actually saw his piston firing in her well-lubricated cylinder? No, sorry bro.....I had the pleasure of the drug induced bull****....and in actually catching her red handed, parked in a field behind the barn on my granddads farm. You lose.
Yeah, but did he ever make the majors???0 -
When I found out he was cheating on me. After 14 years of him sabotaging my fitness efforts - and me not being strong enough - I was over 200 lbs. For the past 2 1/2 years I've been able to lose the weight and finally live the healthy lifestyle I've always wanted to. If I was still married to him, I'd end up at 300 lbs. and miserable. No way.0
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With my ex husband I knew it was over about 6 months before I left. It was actually a very calm moment when I realized it. We weren't arguing or anything. He was sitting on the bed and I was standing there with his arms around me, I asked "when are you going to be the man I need you to be" He replied "I don't think I can ever be what you want". I didn't ask for a lot, I never do, just to be there for us, be honest and faithful, so from that moment on I worked on leaving.
More recently, as you know was torment to decide I had to give up. I love him so completely that it hurt to have to walk away, but after the 100th attempt to make a relationship work and have it end up the same I just finally had to give up.0 -
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You :"THINK" she was cheating huh? So you never actually saw his piston firing in her well-lubricated cylinder? No, sorry bro.....I had the pleasure of the drug induced bull****....and in actually catching her red handed, parked in a field behind the barn on my granddads farm. You lose.
I'm telling you Hoss as bad as that was it doesn't even come close. I spent a year thinking the woman I was going to marry was dying in my arms. She didn't work and was either drugged up or drunk and I supported her lovingly through all of it.. the whole time agonizing over her terminal brain cancer. Which didn't exist!!
Thankfully she's dead now.0 -
I think when I woke up and she had the knife to my throat pretty much put paid for me.0
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With my ex husband it was when he decided after he lost his job that it wasn't important to get a new one. I gave him 6 months to find a new job (he was a busboy when we got married so it wouldn't have taken much to find something equivalent) and he decided to play video games every day instead. :explode:
With my ex after him, it was over when we were supposed to fly home for Christmas and I had to track him down in a hotel because he had run off in a drunken fit the night before because I refused to pack for him. I missed work trying to find him and then barely got us to the airport on time. We almost missed the flight because he wouldn't leave the bar and then we almost couldn't board because he was so plastered. After flying into New Orleans and his mom waiting there for us for over 2 hours because our flight was delayed...then driving us another 2 hours home...he asks her to drop him off at his buddies house so he could keep drinking instead of going home and spending time with her.
That was just the final straw in his drunken escapades.
But now I am happily married and the ex quit drinking and is now married. So we had to fall apart for us to find better things. :flowerforyou:0 -
With my ex husband I knew it was over about 6 months before I left. It was actually a very calm moment when I realized it. We weren't arguing or anything. He was sitting on the bed and I was standing there with his arms around me, I asked "when are you going to be the man I need you to be" He replied "I don't think I can ever be what you want". I didn't ask for a lot, I never do, just to be there for us, be honest and faithful, so from that moment on I worked on leaving.
More recently, as you know was torment to decide I had to give up. I love him so completely that it hurt to have to walk away, but after the 100th attempt to make a relationship work and have it end up the same I just finally had to give up.
This sounds a lot like my most recent relationship. We really cared about each other and loved spending time together. But he was very needy, always wanting affection and discussion and I've never been a very affectionate or open person. We finally (yesterday actually) realized that as much as we care for each other, neither of us is what the other needs and we would never be completely happy together. So we just mutually decided to go our separate ways.0 -
When I started praying to God to let me die in my sleep. I was too scared to leave. That is, until my cousin said I could come live with her. She works for the police department and I knew I'd be safe there. I realized about 5 years in that it was bad and I needed to leave. I stayed for a little over 9 years. I was just too terrified to make a move. It's hard to fake being happy for nearly half a decade. I should get an Oscar.0
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With my ex husband it was easily a year or more before he finally moved out. He was a loser and I married him to get out of my parents' house. The good thing to come from the marriage was my son, other than that, it was 4 wasted years of my life.
Fortunately I have my current husband and have been with him for almost 23 years.0 -
When did you know it was time to end things? I had a dream where I kissed a coworker and not only did it feel like it should feel, unlike interactions with my ex, but I felt no guilt about it. At that point I knew that there were essential, irreplaceable things missing in my marriage...things that I longed for and deserved.
How long after that did you actually do it? It was about a year after that maybe when I finally called it quits.
How long has it been since you broke things off? 11 years.0 -
I farted on his weenis. I knew then it was over....
****This was my tribute to SofaKing, may he RIP.0 -
When I said to myself, " we seriously arent having the same fight yet again?" In that exact instant he started the same fight i knew I was fed up and couldnt deal with this anymore and there was no way I was ever having this fight again.
The fight was how he wants a girlfriend that will smoke pot with him, get drunk, and go to clubs and bars til 4am. He was never going to grow up and I couldnt stand being his mommy anymore. He was 27 and I was 30 at the time.0 -
his idea of a proposal was 'by the time you're 23 we'll be on at least one kid, married over in Yorkshire I know people so we can keep it cheap and we're going to have at least two kids' the convocation was finished with a door slam. He told me all of this two days after I'd mentioned I didn't want kids till I was closer to thirty and didn't want to get married o_O
He still calls me when he's drunk.0 -
You :"THINK" she was cheating huh? So you never actually saw his piston firing in her well-lubricated cylinder? No, sorry bro.....I had the pleasure of the drug induced bull****....and in actually catching her red handed, parked in a field behind the barn on my granddads farm. You lose.
I'm telling you Hoss as bad as that was it doesn't even come close. I spent a year thinking the woman I was going to marry was dying in my arms. She didn't work and was either drugged up or drunk and I supported her lovingly through all of it.. the whole time agonizing over her terminal brain cancer. Which didn't exist!!
Thankfully she's dead now.
Ok, ok...you win.
I am trying to be a sore loser, but the "Thankfully she's dead now" comment made me laugh too hard to be mad.
But I gotta ask......you never went to the doctor with her or talked to a professional about her condition?0 -
It was over when I found out he had a few online dating profiles and was answering ads on craigslist, we were 4 months away from our wedding.
When my name stopped being Michelle and started being Stupid B*tch. When he told me he wouldn't sleep with me again until I lost 10 pounds... those should have been it for me but I was dumb.
Luckily I met someone wonderful and married him, not the Douche Canoe!0 -
When I was with my now-ex-husband, I worked nights at a card shop. I was stocking Valentine's Day cards and it crossed my mind "I will never feel in love again." I was unhappy for a long time, but that was a moment of clarity, being in my early 20's and realizing I didn't want to spend the rest of my life feeling that way. We got divorced, and I have never looked back or regretted it!0
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I knew my marriage was over when he refused to go to couples counseling (I went by myself for 6 months); he started going into work earlier (4 AM) and not coming home until after 10 PM; we hadn't had sex in over 6 months; we were always arguing; and the final straw was he volunteered to work Christmas day instead of spend it with me and our daughter. I moved out a month later...and almost 2 years later it's been the best decision I could have made! I am now in a much healthier and happier relationship
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When she told me that she was going to Wisconsin Dells with Steve for the upcoming weekend. I said I would try to change my schedule, she said "No not you and Steve and I, just Steve and I". I said if you leave this house with another man on Saturday then when you return I will be in Florida. Well, been living in Florida ever since that weekend. I thank her for her stupidity ever winter :-)
Of course, now I am happily married and have what she could never give me, something that I did not even realize how much I wanted until after I had received it. A gift straight from the hands of God, my son.0 -
well, Christmas of 2005 I came home from work and called out to my fiance in the livingroom- hey baby whatdoyou want for dinner?
and he called back - I got you a Dr Pepper, Its in the fridge! I cant do this with you anymore!
And I called back - What? Dinner?
and he said - No Marriage!
And I was like - wait- that's not for two months and he came in the kitchen and put his arms around me and told me how he wanted to be single and unattached forever, and build a little home away from humanity and live off the grid with no responsibility, and he wasnt attracted to me anymore, and he just didnt want any more relationships in his life besides the one with himself and his family and friends. And I cried for a really long time because it was such a surprise, a complete shock that I never saw coming, cause we were very in love and never bickered or argued even a little bit, and everyone thought we were the sweetest ugliest little couple ever to bless the swamp.
And he did leave, and find his own place, and go off the grid - mostly, and never dated again.
And I never told another man that I loved him until 6 or 7 years later.
One of the best things thats ever happened to me.0 -
With my ex-husband, I knew as soon as our daughter was born and I realized that he was never going to grow up and put anyone (even his own child) before his own selfish needs. I kicked him out shortly after that and filed for divorce. Best decision I ever made.
My goodness....our ex's must have been twins. :flowerforyou:
I think they clone themselves. It's amazing how many of them are out there! :flowerforyou:0 -
Last LTR: I knew it was over when we were getting together one weekend to take our kids (my twins and his son who were 1 yr apart in age difference and about 4 going on 5 and mine 5's going on 6's) to the circus. My boys and I spent hours in the party supply store picking out funny foam visor hats shaped like animals that matched all of our personalities, big neon colored sunglasses, silly t-shirts and funky necklaces for all the guys and a multi-colored feather boa for me. Everything was bright colors and sparkly so we could sort of participate in the circus from the audience. Ex shows up in khakis and a button down shirt and would not 'allow' me or my kids in the car unless we all changed because he would be 'too ashamed' for people to see him with us 'dressed like THAT'.
Last STR: I knew it was over when we had broken up once because he was completely unsupportive of me getting healthy and working out and he made efforts to sabotage my efforts to 'make himself not look so lazy and fat' (he was about 30 lbs. over the weight that he wanted to be). We got back together after he apologized and started seeing a counselor for his weight issues which I made the strong point that his weight issues could never be MY weight issues and mine would never be his, etc. After getting back together, he went with my boys and I to the park to play tennis (which lasted about 10 minutes then he sat on the side of the court and played a game on his phone) and after a 1/2 mile walk, we left because he was being pissy about having to walk at all. When we got back to my place, he couldn't leave to drive home (it was 2:00 p.m. not 2:00 a.m.) because he was too tired from all that exercise and he 'planned to never do that *kitten* again' and next time i could 'go on my own' and drop him off at a friend's house so he could 'take a nap'. He then went to my bedroom and slept for 3 hours. When he woke up, he blamed me for him missing some online gaming tournament on his need for a nap because of all my 'stupid lifestyle stuff', so I dumped him.0 -
About the millionth night of not getting sleep because he was having another schizophrenic breakdown. I tried to break up with him, and he kept following me around. I started seeing someone else, and he didn't care. It took about three months and him finally starting medication for me to extract myself from him and another 2 years of having to see him all the time around campus before I was finally really free.
...How have so many of us ended up with such strange people?0 -
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Ok, ok...you win.
I am trying to be a sore loser, but the "Thankfully she's dead now" comment made me laugh too hard to be mad.
But I gotta ask......you never went to the doctor with her or talked to a professional about her condition?
Always gets a laugh...
Nope, she was very private about things. She would tell me about trips she made to the hospital when I wasn't around. Even sent flowers to The Cleveland Clinic when she said she was going there.. Plus she was a Jehovah's Witness so no blood transfusions...she said she didn't even see the point of seeing a doctor...
I gotta stop remembering all this, I'm turning red.0 -
When his booze/pill addiction became so bad he was literally wasted 90+% of the time, I had to leave work and pick him up from his job because his coworker called to tell me he was too effed up to even hold his head up. Took him home, he started to pass out in his Taco Bell taco, then got up and tried to zombie-walk out the door toward a six-lane street during rush hour. Had to call the cops to restrain him or he would have died horribly.
Slept on the couch for a few weeks until I could find a place to stay. Still best choice of my life to leave. No one can save someone who doesn't want to be saved. Wish I hadn't wasted so many years on someone who didn't truly care about me (or himself).
Much happier now.
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When I walked in on her with another guy right in the middle of it. I was in complete shock. I turned around and left.0
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Ok, ok...you win.
I am trying to be a sore loser, but the "Thankfully she's dead now" comment made me laugh too hard to be mad.
But I gotta ask......you never went to the doctor with her or talked to a professional about her condition?
Always gets a laugh...
Nope, she was very private about things. She would tell me about trips she made to the hospital when I wasn't around. Even sent flowers to The Cleveland Clinic when she said she was going there.. Plus she was a Jehovah's Witness so no blood transfusions...she said she didn't even see the point of seeing a doctor...
I gotta stop remembering all this, I'm turning red.
As a former JW that they erased from existence, the medical stuff is so restrictingly tight you really could fake anything from an entire pregnancy to your own death.
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I was married for 10 years to a man that I never truly loved. I had been convinced that I should just go ahead and marry him, as I was not gonna be getting many other offers...... I stuck it out, but I hated myself. I ate to cope. I finally started to lose weight and realize that it didnt HAVE to be that way for my life. I was driving home from the Jacksonville airport one night after a week away for work at midnight. I had to pull over a few times and cry. I didn't want to go home. I had my daughter at home that I was ready to see, but I did NOT want to be home with him. I realized that night, that I had to make some decisions. He is not a bad guy. Just not a good guy for me. He is a good dad to the kid (as much as he knows to be). And he and I are both far happier in our current situations.0
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