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    Should I keep dating this guy? (Cheap)

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    • Posts: 4,251 Member
      If you like him keep dating him.

      If not, don't.

      If you like him and want to dump him just because he's "cheap" then good luck with your life full of lonliness.
    • Posts: 2,819 Member
      This is the 21st century. Pay for your own ****.
    • Posts: 609 Member
      Bumping so I can come back:wink:
    • Posts: 762 Member
      I don't know what date is... lol but usually I pay for my own unless he offers to. i guess..
    • Posts: 3,119 Member
      I think for the first date, the guy should plan and pay according to his budget. Women shouldn't demand a 5-star dinner or something ridiculously expensive on a first date either.

      After that, I've never had an issue with splitting especially if I know he's on a tight budget. I treat my husband to dinner sometimes still even though he makes 3x what I do. It's just nice to share the financial burden and opens up a lot of fun dutch dates.
    • Posts: 878 Member
      I would plan on just splitting the bill for the first 10 dates or so. Some guys think that is the way we want it because of the feminist movement. If you want him to pay for everything, just talk to him about it. Being honest and open from the beginning and establishing good communication between the two of you can go far if this thing really takes off! :wink:
    • Posts: 8 Member
      I always try and pay and a good amount of girls don't like too much chivalry anymore. I think it's all just situation. It's only the 2nd date, give it some more time. Also weigh other things into consideration (do you actually like him?), instead of focusing so much on money...

      ^^^ this guy has it right. I too try to pay most of the time, BUT if its only the first couple dates then i expect the girl to at least pay her share. Why should I pay for everything when you hardly know each other? it is a 2 way street, imagine if the roles were flipped and you were expected to pay everytime.
    • Posts: 102
      A few years ago I would have said yes- I was always a girl who stood her round, went dutch etc. Had a variety of relationships lasting from 3 months to 2 years.

      Met my husband- he wouldn't even think about letting me pay, unless it's his birthday or a special treat. Even then he's like "You sure?". It shows he wants to protect and take care of me, really says something about what he feels for me. And the penny kind of dropped for when I met him, that I deserve someone who wants to look after me (whether or not I need looking after, it's more about his intentions that my capabilities)

      So if you are looking for something serious, with someone who respects you and wants to take care of you, then no, dont keep dating the guy.

      If you are looking for a fling with a variable but ultimately insubtantial emotional attachment, keep seeing him.

      Absolutely this. It's all about what you are looking for. And I really loved "it's more about his intentions than my capabilities".
    • Posts: 389 Member
      Me personally, until an actual "relationship" has been established would prefer going "dutch" unless he insists on paying. When/if a relationship starts would be the time I'd discuss with him about money/dates. Of course that's just me. I wouldn't call that guy cheap if he's paid for the majority of your dates. Having you chip in that last date seems plausible IMO.
    • Posts: 2,208 Member
      He is 29 and we seem to get along great.

      Date 1: We had 2 drinks he payed.

      Date 2: Watched movie (he payed), DIDN'T ask me if I wanted popcorn. After movie went to restaurant, I had like a 7 dollar plate, bill came and it was split. I asked if he wanted me to pay he said yes since he paid for movie.

      Since this is date 2, is it too soon for him to start wanting me to pay or am I over reacting?

      "I ain't saying she's a gold digger, but she ain't getting with no broke broke"

      You're already focused on money after date 2? Obviously you're not into this guy or you'd just be ecstatic to be with him. Just break up.


      So this totally new guy in your life buys you a few drinks and pays for your movie. Now you're already demanding dinner. Ha ha! If he pays for dinner is he now expected to start buying your clothes so you look nice when you go meet him?
    • Posts: 4,251 Member
      In addition I would think a nice young woman, would probably spring for popcorn if a man sprung for the movie....
    • Posts: 3,119 Member
      In addition I would think a nice young woman, would probably spring for popcorn if a man sprung for the movie....

      Agreed. Movie date with popcorn is expensive for two people. Not all guys can afford to blow that kind of cash on a first date with someone they don't know if they want to see again yet.
    • Posts: 312 Member
      whoever asked or suggested the date -- jmho
    • Posts: 824 Member
      What a sad discussion


      This! This discussion is setting back gender equality decades.....
    • Posts: 6,420 Member
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      This! This discussion is setting back gender equality decades.....

      Doesn't matter, got a free meal!
    • Posts: 268 Member
      First date, I think its nice for the guy to pay.

      After that, whatever everyone feels comfortable with.
      If I planned a date, I'd pay and then he could do next time.
    • Posts: 1,227 Member
      I don't really think you guys splitting the bill makes him cheap. I mean, you did ask....
    • Posts: 3,027 Member
      I'm of the opinion that it's totally ridiculous to expect a guy to pay for everything. If we as women want equal treatment in society, then we also need to let go of the chivalry we expect of men otherwise it's a bit hypocritical.

      This.





      I've been with guys (before I got married) who expected me to pay for everything because I had more money than them. There is a reason I didn't marry any of them. Hubby on the other hand hates that I pay for him 3/4 of the time yet I don't mind paying because I am the one with more money than him.

      Not dating someone because they won't pay for you is shallow.
    • Posts: 2,273 Member
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      Do you really pay for dates? Not you personally.
      The whole argument is about women must pay bcs it's equal rights.

      A man now needs to cover in tattoos, drive bikes and etc to still feel like a man. He's got no gender differences anymore. His job can be done by a woman. Any job. Anything. Now you don't have to be a gentleman to pay for a dinner, open a door, nothing is left. Just video games and going to gym. Don't you guys feel useless?
      WTF is this ****? You can't be serious. Please, you're not serious.

      Taking care of family and being a great father is what I consider a man.
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