Should I keep dating this guy? (Cheap)

BlackBarbieBABY

He is 29 and we seem to get along great.

Date 1: We had 2 drinks he payed.

Date 2: Watched movie (he payed), DIDN'T ask me if I wanted popcorn. After movie went to restaurant, I had like a 7 dollar plate, bill came and it was split. I asked if he wanted me to pay he said yes since he paid for movie.

Since this is date 2, is it too soon for him to start wanting me to pay or am I over reacting?

ryansgram

A gentleman always pays.

themeaningofthemorning

I'm of the opinion that it's totally ridiculous to expect a guy to pay for everything. If we as women want equal treatment in society, then we also need to let go of the chivalry we expect of men otherwise it's a bit hypocritical.

matchbox_girl

If my man has the money, he pays. Always. (We've been together over a year.) Find a more decent guy.

Nerdy_Rose

It just depends on what you want. If you want a guy who pays for everything, find someone else.
I prefer to pay for my own stuff, honestly.

31993703

I don't think its fair for the guy to have to pay for every date. Why shouldn't you have to help pay (if split) or even pay for the next date?

Dahllywood

I always try and pay and a good amount of girls don't like too much chivalry anymore. I think it's all just situation. It's only the 2nd date, give it some more time. Also weigh other things into consideration (do you actually like him?), instead of focusing so much on money...

Heaven71

A gentleman always pays.

THIS!!!!

samlankford

I get pissed if my boyfriend does not let me pay every now and then... we usually rotate, he pays one I pay one...

jimandpam87

I don't think its a big deal, especially since he paid for the first date (and the movie on the 2nd). I personally think it should be 50-50, so it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me. It's all personal choice though.

Capt_Apollo

A gentleman always pays.

THIS!!!!

no. a gentleman should always offer to pay.

so should a woman.

skinnyinnotime

I'm of the opinion that it's totally ridiculous to expect a guy to pay for everything. If we as women want equal treatment in society, then we also need to let go of the chivalry we expect of men otherwise it's a bit hypocritical.

Exactly.

Can't believe some women still expect the man to pay all the time, come on people get a grip why the f*** should they?!

JohnMessmer

Did you ask him on the 2nd date or did he ask you? If you asked him, then it may be between paydays or other expenses took priority and he may simply have not had the money, or had it but needed to pay for other expenses. If he asked you, he should pay, old fashioned or not...the man should pay if he asks for the date.

drewols

What a sad discussion

Brewster1215

A gentleman always pays.

/agree

kimosabe1

HELL no girl!!! If it started like this, it will remain like this...... smarten up girl!!!!!!!

pinkgumdrop123

It just depends on what you want. If you want a guy who pays for everything, find someone else.
I prefer to pay for my own stuff, honestly.

This

tigerblood78

It all boils down to penis size

Darkskinned88

its still early but i know personally, i dont pay when im not all that interested

emyishardcore

I prefer to pay for myself...

libbymcbain

A few years ago I would have said yes- I was always a girl who stood her round, went dutch etc. Had a variety of relationships lasting from 3 months to 2 years.

Met my husband- he wouldn't even think about letting me pay, unless it's his birthday or a special treat. Even then he's like "You sure?". It shows he wants to protect and take care of me, really says something about what he feels for me. And the penny kind of dropped for when I met him, that I deserve someone who wants to look after me (whether or not I need looking after, it's more about his intentions that my capabilities)

So if you are looking for something serious, with someone who respects you and wants to take care of you, then no, dont keep dating the guy.

If you are looking for a fling with a variable but ultimately insubtantial emotional attachment, keep seeing him.

grawrrrr

It should be equal. With today's economy, not every guy is Moneybags McCashmoney.

justlistening

I always try to pay for myself, but that is just me. It is nice when the guy insists but I have only seen that trend in older guys and it probably depends on where you live.

I would keep seeing him if you enjoy spending time with him, but I am guessing your expectations regarding finances and how you want to be treated probably don't mesh.

rudegyal_b

i don't think its fair to call someone cheap when you're the one that doesn't wanna pay

LuccyH

I wouldn't want a man to pay. You were only on two dates anyway, maybe drinks at bar that's fine but than 50-50. The question is if you really like the guy its not about the money its about personality.

taunto

Are you homeless?

Are you trying to sell him something that you wish for him to pay for?

Are you a charity case?

Unless the answer to any of those questions is yes, then keep dating a man who gives you the respect to think you're capable of paying for yourself.

Or just break up and find yourself a spineless turtle for a sugar daddy

trophywife24

I would never pay for a date- ever!............................ Ever! No.

trophywife24

its still early but i know personally, i dont pay when im not all that interested

I was going to say this, too. Maybe he's just not that into you.

tcunbeliever

You have had 2 dates and the only thing that concerns you is who paid, what was the question again??? I don't usually make it past one date without wanting to run screaming for the hills, but maybe I just bring out the psycho in men...

rieann84

I would take into consideration what someone else said previously - did he ask you on the 2nd date or did you ask him? That helps in determining who should pay for what. It's been a while since I've "dated" but, I always at least offer to pay. Makes me feel fuzzy when the guy insists that he does though..especially when things are new.

cmcollins001

If you have to ask, then it's obviously bothering you. Maybe talking to him might help...otherwise..

Just break up.