Should I keep dating this guy? (Cheap)

Laces_0ut

A gentleman always pays.

only when sex is assured.

taunto

A gentleman always pays.

And a lady always puts out after getting paid.

I like how in this day and age dating is like a transaction.

Reminds me of a certain profession...

StinkyWinkies

IMO -- No one should expect another person to do all the paying. On a second date, personally, I think it's best to 'go dutch.' If you wanted popcorn at the movie, you should've bought yourself some and offered to share it with him. Long gone are the days when men are expected to pay for everything. I've gone out with a couple of guys who expected ME to pay for everything, that's a 'no go' as well.

Most especially, If I ask, I pay. I think it's rather rude to ask someone out (guy or *just* a girlfriend) and expect them to pay for my half.

Funnily enough years ago, I'd give 'my man' the money so it looked as though he was paying, we had a blast doing that.

trophywife24

A gentleman always pays.

And a lady always puts out after getting paid.

.

This is also true. I put out after my own husband buys me dinner. Or clothes. Or a newspaper.

laughingdani

A gentleman always pays.

THIS!!!!

no. a gentleman should always offer to pay.

so should a woman.

I couldn't agree more.

I've hardly ever had to pay for a date, even though I've always offered.

And the times I did pay, it was no big deal. If it's a good date, who cares who pays?

Elma1975

I'm of the opinion that it's totally ridiculous to expect a guy to pay for everything. If we as women want equal treatment in society, then we also need to let go of the chivalry we expect of men otherwise it's a bit hypocritical.

I totally agree.

amber1533

I bring money for me just in case but I do like a gentleman to pay at least the first date. But since he paid for the movie why not pay for dinner? I don't think it's a bring deal. I think it would be stupid to throw away the chance to get to know him better just because you think he should pay for everything.

grawrrrr

i don't think its fair to call someone cheap when you're the one that doesn't wanna pay

^ This.

diodelcibo

A gentleman always pays.

False.

shinkalork

well..I was paying most of the time but sometime it's fun to split too.
I think it depends...If you offer to go somewhere, well pay for it...If it's a mutual decision,well split etc...

Now, after many years,kids etc...we share everything. I pay a lot but sometime she helps...like I pay for the movie,she will get the food etc.....

But first couple dates....yea, I did pay.

AntWrig

Your name is blackbarbie, you have a picture of Lil' Kim.... enough said.

lamilli09

IMO If you've already labeled him as cheap, it sounds like you've already developed your opinion about this guy... so anyone else's opinions about your relationship with this guy really don't (or shouldn't) matter.

Sharon009

I think a gentleman always offers to pay in the beginning at least. I do however, think its nice for the lady to offer sometimes as well. I went on a coffee date once and the guy didnt even offer to buy my coffee, because of that, for me the date was over before it began. Chivalry is not dead, most ladies I know very much appreciate it.

lucyford22

A gentleman always pays.

THIS!!!!

no. a gentleman should always offer to pay.

so should a woman.

THIS.

When my boyfriend of four years and I first started dating he INSISTED on paying for everything. I was very independent and it was really hard for me to let him do that but he did. So I'd return favors like cooking him his favorite meals, paying for gas if we drove somewhere. Like I said though we've been together for about four years now. He's well into his career and I'm still in school (3 more weeks!!) So he mostly pays but I pick up the tab when I can. But, I buy the groceries. I don't ever like to expect someone to pay for EVERYTHING.

Laces_0ut

reminds of the Seinfeld ep where Elaine is dating a guy for his store discount. and Kramer had this gem of wisdom.

KRAMER: "Now see the two of you need to work on trust... and then and only then will there be a free exchange of sex and discounts.. Cornerstones of a healthy relationship....

AntWrig

I would never pay for a date- ever!............................ Ever! No.

How many dates have you gotten?

daylily2005

If this is seriously your question....geez. If you enjoy dating the guy, keep dating. Don't just go find another guy because he asked you to spend some money. Is time with him not worth a little money if you enjoy yourself? Oy.

YaGigi

He is 29 and we seem to get along great.

Date 1: We had 2 drinks he payed.

Date 2: Watched movie (he payed), DIDN'T ask me if I wanted popcorn. After movie went to restaurant, I had like a 7 dollar plate, bill came and it was split. I asked if he wanted me to pay he said yes since he paid for movie.

Since this is date 2, is it too soon for him to start wanting me to pay or am I over reacting?

If you ask this question it means you're not comfortable with him not paying.

I'd never date a man who doesn't want to pay for me on a date. I pay my half with my guy friends, because we are friends, nothing romantic there! But with a man I'm on a date with, I expect never pay for anything.
As the matter of fact, if I'm trying to pay, it means he's got no chances and I want to put him into the friends zone.

I'm a very generous person and always give to others and expect the same from my man. My boyfriend won over my heart when on the first date at a very good restaurant he said he was going to a boys room but instead went to ask and pay the check. So I wasn't even put in this uncomfortable situation when a waiter brings a check. He thinks its not for a lady and I completely agree.

Daysednconfused

This is why I don't date.

HelloSweetie4

It's 2012, not 1950. Women fight for equal rights and still expect men to pay for everything? That is ridiculous.

How dare he not ask if you want popcorn?! (if you didn't get it, this question is filled to the brim with sarcasm)

grawrrrr

I would never pay for a date- ever!............................ Ever! No.

How many dates have you gotten?

How bout some ice for that burn?

AntWrig

A gentleman always pays.

And a lady always puts out after getting paid.

.

This is also true. I put out after my own husband buys me dinner. Or clothes. Or a newspaper.

Isn't that prostitution?

clobercow

So the man is expected to pay because you're a woman or he is a man?

Way to contribute to sexism.

Put the ***** up on a pedestal and it will be treated as an object instead of a person.

Flame away. Tell me how I'm wrong. You can't do it without making it sound sexist "Well the man should, because..." "The woman should not, because...". Sexist.

Sharon009

well..I was paying most of the time but sometime it's fun to split too.
I think it depends...If you offer to go somewhere, well pay for it...If it's a mutual decision,well split etc...

Now, after many years,kids etc...we share everything. I pay a lot but sometime she helps...like I pay for the movie,she will get the food etc.....

But first couple dates....yea, I did pay.


Agree! Its been my experience that if a guy is not all that interested he'll let you pay.

spacechick365

I get pissed if my boyfriend does not let me pay every now and then... we usually rotate, he pays one I pay one...

This is what my husband and I did while dating and we have been married for almost 11 years now. It makes us more equal in the relationship.

trophywife24

I would never pay for a date- ever!............................ Ever! No.

How many dates have you gotten?

Me? I'm married but I used to date a lot, yea. Maybe it's because I grew up "small town" but it was never a question of bills being split or a man not paying for a date. Unless times have really just changed *that* much in the last 8 years, I don't know.

ohmelgosh79

HELL no girl!!! If it started like this, it will remain like this...... smarten up girl!!!!!!!

Why?!? He paid for drinks and movie tickets, why is there something wrong with her picking up HER meal? If it were me, I would have offered to pay for the entire dinner. Maybe he didn't have a lot of cash on him, times are hard but atleast he made an effort. I don't understand why some women think that a man has to empty his wallet on a date in order for there to be a connection/further dates.
To the OP: After 2 dates, you don't know this man well enough to call him cheap. Get to know him before you make any rude assumptions.

Capt_Apollo

i'm remembering the worst date i ever had. i was twenty two, and the girl, second date, was twenty one. we're both students, not a lot of money.

i drive to go pick her up, and it's kinda far, so i use a lot of gas ($$$). i pay for dinner, and pay for the movie tickets afterwards. movie didn't start for about an hour, so we went across the street to an appleby's or something to have a drink. i ordered a beer, and she ordered so giant fishbowl margarita thing. the check came and her drink was about twenty bucks. i guess she saw my eyes bug out, because she goes "do you want me to pay?" i breathed a sigh of relief and went, "yeah, if you wouldn't mind."

later at the movie, she might as well have been sitting on the other side of the row based on how far she was leaning away from me. i drove her home in near silence, and she got out of the car in a huff.

i called the next day and left it went to voicemail. i called two days after that, and she explained that she had never been treated so rudely and she never expected me to say 'yes' to asking her to pay. i didn't know what to say so we said good bye. i got over it pretty quickly.

i don't date princesses.

ellenasl210

It all boils down to penis size

hahahahaha!!! true....

trophywife24

A gentleman always pays.

And a lady always puts out after getting paid.

.

This is also true. I put out after my own husband buys me dinner. Or clothes. Or a newspaper.

Isn't that prostitution?

Wow there's a whole lot of panties wedged betwixt butt cheeks in this thread.