Major Blow to My Confidence Today-Rude People

I can't believe she kept going, though... .Screw that lady, and just keep doing you! I store it all in my tummy too, everyone asks when I'm due Ignore them and just whip out onto the beach this summer! Remember, that's what these cold months are for: breaking a sweat and don't go too intense just cuz of what she said. you could burn out.

That is awful. I work at a small doctor's office with three other women. We are all overweight. people say things to the heavier women about being heavy and usually the patients that make the comments are obese as well!!!!

OP I am so SORRY that happened to you. People SUCK!! I know how terrible you feel! I had this happen to me and it's what kick started my weight loss last year. Hold your head high and let it fuel you. Who knows maybe in a few months from now you will see that awful person again and they will be rendered speechless by your transformation! :flowerforyou:

I will never, ever understand why some people think it's perfectly acceptable to ask a woman if she is pregnant. Besides the obvious error of someone simply being overweight, what if that person is trying to conceive and having issues? What if they just lost a baby? There are so many cans of worms in that question - I never, ever bring it up.

id have asked her in a really condescending baby voice if she needed a ride back to her group

Some people are dilholes.

Here here!! And even then you should just politely comment that the baby looks adorable with no references to the mother and thr state of her physique!!! I hesitate to make statements to my cousins body and we are family! How strangers feel it is alright confuses and terrifies me for when I decide I want to try for children.

The only time it is socially acceptable to ask a woman if she is pregnant is when the baby is crowning.

That's my approach. I've had people assume I was pregnant. Nope just have fibroid tumors that make me look 6 months pregnant. That usually shuts them up.

I did have a client once ask me when I was due (I WAS 7 months pregnant). I told him I wasn't pregnant and he turns 30 shades of red before I let him off the hook and told him I was pregnant. It was mean but funny.

Don't beat yourself up over it, shake it off and take this one day at a time. Think about where you want to be 6 months from now and concentrate on that! You can do this!!

^^ Best advise. I'm sorry this happened. Use it as fuel

You are at the right place. MFP works and there are so many supportive folks here. I remember someone asking me if I had knee problems with my weight...I cried and got motivated.

Sorry you had to run into such a rude person.

Use her rude behavior and hurtful remarks as motivation. People who say hurtful things to others only do it because they feel bad about themselves. You are already on the right track by using this app / website. One time a lady asked me if I was pregnant with twins. It hurts really bad when outsiders or even insiders comment on subjects that we are sensitive about. In the long run you will be successful and they will still be bitter and rude. Good luck to you on your weight loss journey

Sorry it happened.....and NOT sorry for her if she was embarrassed. She should be. Not only did she get rude in asking, but she persisted.....and then persisted again. Get it through your thick skull, woman!

I've been asked that once before. I just grinned an antagonizing, mischievous grin at the woman and said "No. I'm just fat.". She turned as red as I've ever seen a person, and scurried away quickly

If there's a next time, I might play into it depending on my mood. Push it out a little more, put my hands on it......offer to see if the person can feel the baby kicking.....(haha that would be hilarious if they "could" feel it I guess it just depends on how testy i'm feeling and if I want to play with them or embarass them :-P

But.......who knows if it'll happen again. Maybe, maybe not. It somehow took til over 290lbs to get that question, and I've lost 11lbs.....headed in the right direction, lol

What bothered me more was when we were traveling, airport security asked me if my girlfriend (why not talk to her? yes, she's blind, but she's not deaf, LOL) was pregnant before metal detectors. Double edge sword there. I realize that going through them may be -ISH if you are pregnant (?), but kinda rude, and even worse.......she was anorexic and bulimic for years and is finally in recovery. Apparently per the place she was in treatment, when someone is anorexic often the fat will first develop in the abdominal area when they're refeeding, as the body's way of prioritizing and protecting the vital organs, and then it will distribute to other areas. So yeah, she did look kind of pregnant bc it had gone there, but not as much the other areas but.....

It was incredibly triggering for her Plus.....dude. Blind, not deaf.

At my HW, I was at a bus-stop and a complete stranger asked me when I was due, and when I told him I wasn't pregnant, he proceeded to ARGUE with me about whether or not I was pregnant, because I "sure LOOKED pregnant". I laughed it off, but I wanted to give him a swift kick in the pants.

I would never would ask a woman if she was pregnant, even if I saw the baby kick. Especially if you see someone who only looks in the early stages of pregnancy! Sorry that happened OP. Just use it as fuel to keep going!