Major Blow to My Confidence Today-Rude People

One of mycoworkers said "You'd be prettier if you were taller" and "You should go to the gym more"

People can be insensitive. Use it to be a better you, then rub it in their less awesome faces

I don't understand how people can let other people talk to them that way. If someone had said that to me, I would've made a remark right back without a beat. But maybe that's just my personality. Where do people get the balls to say this kind of thing to a complete stranger?

However, I agree with what's been said. You want motivation? Get. Angry. Anger has always been one of my best motivators I tell ya what. Try and shake it off, clearly the woman was a rude snob who gets off on looking down her nose at everyone else. We're all here to support you and sorry to hear such a thing happened, dear.

Use the anger as motivation for your workouts! I've had some of my best workouts when I'd remember humiliating moments in my life that happened when I was obese.

My Own Example:
- When I was 16, I went to Cedar Point with my family. My sister and I waited in line for the Millennium Force roller-coaster, while my parents and oldest sister waited for us. After waiting in line for around 2 hours we finally got on the ride, but I couldn't get the straps to fit over my waist and shoulders. My sister and the employees tried their best to fit me in for a minute or so, but they couldn't. Everyone else on the ride became restless and literally started booing/hollering at me, and the employees told me I couldn't go on the ride. I didn't cry while making my exit from the area, but once my sister and I got to the rest of our family, I broke down in tears. It was one of the most humiliating moments of my life.

The people who booed/hollered at me... I will never forget them. Countless times they've given me the motivation to push through my workouts, and I'm thankful for that.

So, shout out to the people who booed/hollered at me.

Best of luck to you and everyone here in achieving their health/fitness goals. Again, use this experience to your benefit!

It's all water off a duck's back babe. You can fix your problem; she will always remain clueless. LOL

A cool response would have been: "Well, I wanted to tell you but your husband said it would be best for him to....."

Use the anger as motivation for your workouts! I've had some of my best workouts when I'd remember humiliating moments in my life that happened when I was obese.

My Own Example:
- When I was 16, I went to Cedar Point with my family. My sister and I waited in line for the Millennium Force roller-coaster, while my parents and oldest sister waited for us. After waiting in line for around 2 hours we finally got on the ride, but I couldn't get the straps to fit over my waist and shoulders. My sister and the employees tried their best to fit me in for a minute or so, but they couldn't. Everyone else on the ride became restless and literally started booing/hollering at me, and the employees told me I couldn't go on the ride. I didn't cry while making my exit from the area, but once my sister and I got to the rest of our family, I broke down in tears. It was one of the most humiliating moments of my life.

The people who booed/hollered at me... I will never forget them. Countless times they've given me the motivation to push through my workouts, and I'm thankful for that.

So, shout out to the people who booed/hollered at me.

Best of luck to you and everyone here in achieving their health/fitness goals. Again, use this experience to your benefit!

Dude, this haha is NOT at you but "hahaha, see....STUPID CEDAR POINT!" Gah, not a fan of that place or the traffic it creates so I'll take any excuse

But dang, good for you that after taking your time to be upset, turning it around for your motivation!

A random woman went up to my sister and rubbed her tummy once. She wasn't pregnant, just bloated...

WTF? Even if she had been pregnant, that's not ok! You don't touch or make unsolicited personal remarks to strangers, EVER!

I was at the grocery store with my husband today and we had just finished checking out and were putting the last of our bags into the cart. There was woman that was checking out after us and she had the gall to ask me if I was pregnant. I tell her that I am not pregnant and give her the most evil look ever. She goes "I am so sorry. Do you have any kids now?" I keep telling her "No I don't". At this point, I am fighting the tears. Then she goes "I am so sorry. If this makes you feel any better, you only look 3 mos. pregnant." I give her another evil look and ran out of the store. On top of feeling humiliated and angry, it makes me want to lose weight even more. I carry more of the weight in my belly so I guess I will be ramping up my workout routine to work off the gut. It is a shame how little people care anymore .

I've gotten similar comments. I'm certainly reading these posts to see what others have to say.

She dug herself a deeper grave, what an idiot! You are way better than her.

OP I am so sorry. Use it as motivation. :flowerforyou:

I went to the zoo yesterday. Being my first real outing as a single 51 yr old woman, I was struggling to begin with. After a short conversation about ticket purchase, inwhich I said "I don't like" and "I love" at least four times she says "2 adults?"

I froze for a moment and then said "why would you say that?"

I am tired of being nice and making others feel better when they have hurt me.

She say "I assumed...." And turned red.

I didn't say another word, but didn't wipe the tears or hide my distress. Something tells me she will be more careful with her words next time.

At this point in my life I would have replied to the idiot in the grocery store "Do I KNOW you?" :huh:
If she said no then I would politely say "OK, then why are you asking me such a personal question?

We must stick up for ourselves. Why must we be polite when others are rude? We can do so with out being mean

whenever someone would ask me when i was due i would look them in the eye and say, "i'm not pregnant, i'm fat."

that always made them feel stupid.

People are rude. They just have no class to say that. Sorry your hurting cause of one woman. Peace

she had the gall to ask me if I was pregnant.

Maybe she was just trying to make small talk. I hear some people do that but it could be an urban legend...

It doesn't seem to me that she was being deliberately rude simply to try and hurt you. She made a social faux pas and didn't know how to deal with it. None of that really is something to be concerned over.

I agree with this. No need to take it personally, dear. But if you want to use it for motivation, feel free to be inspired, but just know that some people make mistakes. I'm sure she wouldn't have said it if she had realized how much it would hurt your feelings.

Brush it off. I've done this and the woman wasn't pregnant but I didn't ask to be mean, I asked because I knew her well and I genuinely thought she was pregnant. My sister used to hate when people didn't ask her about her pregnancy when she was having my nephew. Sometimes you can't do right for doing wrong!!!

The evil part of me wants to answer such rudeness with "What went wrong in your brain surgery?" - the part of me that cares about karma just ignores idiots. :-)

Yeah, the half dozen or so times I've had a child at school pat my belly and ask if there was a baby in there were confidence deflating, to say the least. Once it was on a day that the scale hit a new low and I was feeling super good about myself.

But then there are other days when kids see old pictures of me and say I look different now or ask if I "usetabe fat".

Take it all in stride--women (strangers) who ask if you are pregnant probably just want to gush over you and congratulate you (and tell you all of THEIR baby stories). They are trying to be happy for you and are probably mortified when they have guessed wrong.

Dude, never ask a woman if she's pregnant, when she's due, etc!