Why are you single?

I'm not single just now, but before I got with my fiance I was single for 9 months (which since my first boyfriend, is the longest I've ever been single).

During that time I was trying to find myself. I had just split with my sons father after being cheated on, lied to and verbally abused. Before him I was with an abusive ex (the first), and between him and the previous ex, I kind of slagged around a bit.

This time, I decided I wasn't that person anymore and actually liked being single. I lost the majority of my weight, I got healthier, more confident and boosted my academics. I did see someone just before me and the fiance got together, but he was just another douche and I wasn't really interested.

Just got out of a pretty long relationship. I'm happy to be single now. Really not looking to date anyone any time soon unless it happens out of the blue.

life right now!

Divorced after 16 years of marriage. Its really hard to meet people my age and Im actually pretty shy. :ohwell:

I'm single because I'm not looking for all the commitment and titles. I'm living life and very happy so that's all that matters. .

Because I would much rather spend my time and effort on myself rather than waste it on someone who I will inevitably hate the sight of 12 months down the track.

Who want's to share half of the bed/pillows/remote control anyway?

Self esteem issues, because I am over weight.

The idea of a relationship freaks me out. Here is to being single forever :ohwell:

I'm single because I want to be. I broke up with my ex about 6mo's ago. He's still in love with me and wants me back....heeeeellll no. He lies. He wastes his money on drugs. I don't want any part of that. A few guys have shown interest in dating me since then but I just haven't felt a connection worth pursuing. The entire POINT of dating is to find someone worth becoming exclusive with, and eventually getting married. That's literally the whole point. So if I can see tell tale signs that it will crash and burn at some point ("red flags") I try not to even waste my time. Being single and drama free tops being in a sub-par relationship any day.

technically I'm not single, I've finally found someone who is my sexual equal...lol. But I must say that I will never walk down the aisle again, even if he begs...which frankly I doubt he would. But, I was married for almost 6 years of pure torture. It took me 8 years of isolation before I even considered dating again. So no, I won't ever marry because I value who I am and I don't want anyone to have that kind of power over me again.

Because I want to be. Why is being single viewed as bad? It certainly is by my friends husbands/partners etc. I'm not the rowdy one in a crowd, but I get the blame because "My wife/Girlfriend wouldn't do that when I'm around so it must be your influence." No, sorry guys, your wife/girlfriend would not do that with you around because it would upset your delicate ego and they don't want to hurt your feelings. They put up a front for you to feel safe and comfortable with, but are more honest when they are with me. Now have a good long look at your relationships and realise something is wrong if the honesty and trust is missing and leave me to be happy on my own, not settling for just one man permanently there. The only fixture in my life is my cat. I've been single around 17 years now and I've had a load of fun, some low moments, some great times, but I have friends to share them with. Just because I'm not part of a couple, doesn't make me desperate to hook up with someone. If it was going to happen it would happen, but if it doesn't I'm too busy to waste my time waiting for Mr Right. My old granny used to say I should never wait for a knight in shining armour to ride up on his charger to rescue me, because he'll end up wanting you to polish his armour and muck out the horse and look after things whilst he goes off to rescue someone else. Why the fixation with making people pair up. You can be alone and not be lonely, it's easy. And yes sometimes I go to restaurants alone and sometimes go on holiday alone. And FYI, yes I was married off, very young, as a teenager, but it didn't work out-far too young & both too stubborn to back down, so please end the stigma of choosing to be single, it's a very valid lifestyle choice, one I would heartily recommend.
For all you people who are in couples, don't feel sorry for us singles, we feel sorry for you, and the compromises you have to make and the sharing you have to do, and the secret thoughts of "is this it?" and "Have I just settled for something I didn't want because it's expected of me?"

Who want's to share half of the bed/pillows/remote control anyway?

Heh, I have a king sized mattress and some nights I wake up completely perpendicular to the original position I laid in.

Got out of a bad marriage a year and a half ago. Then just got out of a bad relationship. I need to get my head straight again, put myself first and foremost and love myself. Plus it's gonna take someone pretty amazing to make me want to change my mind about being single.

Because I'm afraid of openly being with someone, let alone someone I want.

After taking him back, he's unsure if he wants me or not... :mad:

Been there with my ex. Definitely not worth it. You can do so much better than someone who is unsure if they want you or not

Because I'm only attracted to guys who are self centred, immature, damaged and emotionally unavailable. Nice, functioning men need not apply.

OMG! I'm not the only one...don't worry luv, someday you'll meet one and either get tired of this douchebaggery or he'll decide you're worth putting out just a little more effort than usual...good god my life is flashing before my eyes.