Major Blow to My Confidence Today-Rude People

You should actually have a great level of self confidence, as clearly you managed to move on. I would have decked her.

This happened to my wife once. The lady must have been so embarrased, that she kept trying to convince my wife she must be pregnant. I was standing right there, and my wife was being very polite about it. Well, being that I am a little bit of a smartass at times, and seeing my wife needed to break free of this conversation, I pulled out one for the record books. I looked at the lady straight up and said the following:

"Ma'am, my wife is telling you the truth. Ever since the accident, I just haven't been able to...you know. If you know something I don't, you better let me know. Have a nice weekend."

I thought the lady was going to pass out. She may be still standing in that parking lot in shock...four years later. Of course, I got a earful from the wife in the car...but I told her that lady will never, ever ask anyone if she's pregnant or try to convince her otherwise. She then couldn't stop laughing after replaying the event in her head.

Hang in there...what's always worked for me is to be happy with the person I am on the inside...and then get the rest of me back into shape.

Wow that is as bad as the prick at my job. I was walking behind him in our office 9 months pregnant. (Actually a week OVER DUE) and he says OUT LOUD.. WIDE LOAD COMING THROUGH! Really? SOB. I wanted to punch him in the penis. No lie.... Don't let her comment derail you. Let it provide you with the extra uumph and kick you can work with. Good luck girl.

Guys like that are insecure and they try to ovecompensate for a *lack* of something if you know what I mean. The only time I ever brought up pregnancy to a woman is when I saw printouts of websites with pregnancy information on them around her house. And then, I made it very clear - "I'm seeing pregnancy printouts everywhere, you're not pregnant, are you?"

Am I the only person here that thinks you have over reacted a bit....I also carry my weight on my belly and someone once asked me if I was pregnant....to be fair my posture was bad, I was overweight and wearing a smocky kind of top....I thought it was quite amusing and it made me take a look at myself....not once did I consider the person to ignorant or rude...I looked pregnant...it seemed like a genuine question and I got over it.....I am bemused at why most people replying to this thread think this is an insulting comment...I bet she feels really bad about it and wanted the floor to open up....perhaps being more forgiving would help you move on... either that or have a look at how your hold yourself or what you are wearing....it would more likely be that than being overweight......good luck with the weight loss....try and not let folk bother you....

I agree. They didn't mean any harm, they were just ignorant. And like someone below said, if a complete stranger is ignorant enough to ask another complete stranger if they are pregnant, they aren't worth stressing over. It's a common mistake, and while they really should be more considerate, it has happened to a lot of people. Don't freak out. Also, if you do anything like placing your hand on your belly, that can often send the "pregnancy message", because pregnant women (like myself) often do that. I am very sorry that your feelings were hurt, but a stranger shouldn't have that much control over your feelings. Keep your chin up.

How do you know what the stranger's intentions were?? The thing is, you don't. Maybe they asked innocently enough, maybe not....but either way, that is sooooo not the point! The point is, at the most, every person on this planet has an expectation of privacy...and at the least, an expectation of respect for personal space. Bottom line, it's nobody's damned business. When a stranger or anyone else crosses that line and violates another person's privacy and/or personal space, then they get what's coming to them, and in this case, it should be a lesson in sensitivity, regardless of whether it's delivered via kind words or a tongue lashing.

every person on the planet? really? wow...lots and lots of people...how can you possibly know that every person on the planet has the same level of expectation that you do or that the poster does or what that looks like at most or least....certainly the person asking the pregnancy question didn't have it...and there are lots more....some people are insensitive and a bit stupid....it's not a crime....just life......

"Expectation of privacy" is legal terminology. Ever hear of "inalienable rights"? These are personal rights with which, yes, EVERY person on the planet is born. I don't expect you to understand, so please allow me to illustrate: It's kind of like the difference between people who post intelligently, and those who post like high school drop outs.

I have heard of neither...I am not a lawyer, nor do I have any legal background or inclination to verse myself in such matters....thanks for putting me right and sharing your legal experience with me and the MFP community.....you're obviously a real bright girl.....although your inability to post a reply without resorting to insults suggests you have a low self esteem...just saying....

i am pretty sure expectation of privacy and inalienable rights do not go hand in hand with someone having a casual conversation.

was it out of line? depends on who is being asked, i am sure there are some women who enjoy being asked if they are pregnant because they are and would like to share the wonderful joy with others.

Oh so they are legal terms...I thought she'd made that up it sounded so ludicrous used in the context of this subject matter...

You r topic says "Major Blow to My Confidence Today-Rude People"! Sorry to say this: but, if your confidence is built up on what people says about you, then you are really going to be demotivated! Because you can't stop people from saying what they feel. Honestly I think, we have to have a confidence in our life which should come out of a true and realistic assessment. And I am sure it cannot come from people. My intention is not offending you, but I have found out that only a true, loving, and all knowing person can make that true assessment about me and I have found that's God. Because He says, 'I am created in His image and I am precious in His sight' ! That makes me beautiful and confident, irrespective of how I look now. And that gives me immense motivation to look better, better than what I am today and encouragement to shed those extra weight that I accumulated by over eating, indiscipline and careless lifestyle in the past. I like to encourage you to take the negative statement that the woman made to you and use it as a positive weapon to discipline your lifestyle.And of course, bitterness and un-forgiveness that's their in your mind against her is only going to generate more stress hormones in you and add a few more lbs to you... so move ahead with forgiveness, and joyful life! Life is worth living, when you know Him who created you in His own image! Blessings!

I am so sorry that happened to you!!!! I'm sure that lady feels awful.

One time my dad asked a woman, "when are you due?" and she simply said, "I'm not." That was almost 15 years ago and my dad STILL feels bad. Some people are just curious and have no idea that they're being rude. My dad asked her because he was excited for her; if she was pregnant he wanted to congratulate her. But yeah, he still feels really bad about it.

This lady seemed like she was being rude on purpose. She should've stopped while she was ahead. The "you look like you could be 3 months" was pushing it.

Just think of the source... just a rude and not very smart person.. See this is what i don't get.. No one knows that a person is in the process of loosing wt or has alreadylost some.. Just hang your head up high.. You are doing a awesome job.