Children throwing tantrums in stores! What??

I can't speak about my experience being a parent, since I don't have kids.

But I can say that I distinctively remember that I would not have done that very long as a kid. My father would have just looked at me and that scene would have stopped right then, right there. And he never hit me either, I guess parents back then were just much clearer about what was ok and not.

I have a brother 14 years younger than me and a sister 18 years younger than me, and I can tell that my mother's attitude towards those situation is CLEARLY different now than it was when I was their age. They can get ANYTHING they want now, gosh I would have been evil given that much power, I can tell...

+2 And from the fact if he had spanked his son in the parking lot and someone with a camera phone had filmed it...he would be in jail and labled worst dad ever by the media.

And there is the problem right there. I was a kid. I would never had thrown a tantrum like that in a store, because Dad or Mom would have spanked me. Or Grandma, or the teacher, or someone. It's called discipline. You don't need to beat them until they bleed. That's abuse. But a simple spanking isn't. Once a kid learns that a tantrum earns them a spanking they won't do it anymore.

I had two boys. And neither of them threw that tantrum more than a few times either. When they did, they got spanked. And they learned not to.

We wonder why people are growing up having no idea what is right or wrong. Maybe it's because we've decided it is illegal to actually discipline and teach our children respect for others.

I'm hoping you're a troll. You seem to be promoting the idea of beating a child with a belt until he or she bleeds because it works on you.

Tantrums are easy to deal with. You ignore, or go home, you never give in. Kids will only use tactics that get a result, if throwing a tantrum doesn't work they learn it isn't worth the effort. If you give in, even once, they will try it again and again.

Tantrums are a normal part of childhood development, it is a stage of kids learning they have their own will but they haven't quite worked out what to do with it yet. We need to teach them that, but big people hitting little people is not a good lesson to share.

How old were your kids when you started spanking them? How old are they now?

The first time I spanked my daughter she was 3 and trying to stick her tongue in an electrical outlet. My kids are 7 and 6 now, daughter turns 8 in March.

To me the hand is much more dangerous than a belt or a switch, because the hand is much harder... A belt just stings. #1 rule is you don't spank out of anger.

It's very scary and frustrating to be a four year old.
I know that whenever I'm scared or frustrated, nothing calms me down like getting hit with objects by the only people I can trust.

I use to think the same as you and couldnt stand kids that act up while out in public. It was actually so bad I use to have to leave the store so I wouldnt lose it. Now that i have a two year old I understand the situation and have more patience. I'm not saying my daughter would get away with what you have described as she would be handled what my wife and I find works best for her.

In my opinion each person (adult or child) has ways that they respond to better than others. I'm one of the lucky one's I guess and know exactly what works for my daughter when these situations occur.

As you, I do remember the way my parents dealt with me when I was young and looking back it was effective. Was it the right way..not sure, but I do believe there is now better understanding of ways to deal with situations that could benefit going forward. Just not all parents and children are the same.

Just my two cents!

I can't speak about my experience being a parent, since I don't have kids.

But I can say that I distinctively remember that I would not have done that very long as a kid. My father would have just looked at me and that scene would have stopped right then, right there. And he never hit me either, I guess parents back then were just much clearer about what was ok and not.

I have a brother 14 years younger than me and a sister 18 years younger than me, and I can tell that my mother's attitude towards those situation is CLEARLY different now than it was when I was their age. They can get ANYTHING they want now, gosh I would have been evil given that much power, I can tell...

Yup. My sister (who is 18yrs younger than I) is the exact same way. I ditto this post. Ditto

I was spanked, but only with a hand and rarely. I spanked my daughter, but no way would I have used a belt on her.

And I sure as hell never left her with welts or bleeding. That is NOT OK.

Same, I was spanked as a kid and I turned out just f...... okay, maybe I'm not the best example. :laugh:

To any of you older people, what would your parents have done? I have one very distinct memory of pitching a fit for some doll. My parents took me out to the car and I got spanked there. Once we got home, I got the leather belt. I remember this spanking the most b/c the welp marks bled.... I'm so tired of this lack of discipline in kids. I have come across some of the rudest little twerps EVER, and am so happy I don't have any of my own. I know for a fact my temper would get the best of me if I had one.

rant over.

Yes because spanking children so that they bleed really teaches them good behavior......

You obviously don't have kids. I am sure when you do you will be an amazing mother and your kids will never throw tantrums though.

This and its none of your F-ing business how someone else parents a child.. thank you. Move along

It's very scary and frustrating to be a four year old.
I know that whenever I'm scared or frustrated, nothing calms me down like getting hit with objects by the only people I can trust.

Point for you. :drinker:

It's very scary and frustrating to be a four year old.
I know that whenever I'm scared or frustrated, nothing calms me down like getting hit with objects by the only people I can trust.

Point for you. :drinker:

Nailed it!

It is because when parents correct their child in public, other people try to get in their business and threaten to call child services. There is a difference between spanking your child and beating your child and apparently people do not know the difference.

As for me, I was never spanked as a kid. My mother always did the arm grab and would pull me out of the store if I acted up. I didn't act up much. But I was also afraid of my mom. It is okay to fear whatever discipline you are going to get. I think a lot of problem with children now is that they have absolutely no fear. End result, kicking and screaming and rolling around on the sidewalk.

Only read the first few responses about how you must not have kids. Well, when I didn't have kids yet, that kind of behavior appaled me. And you know what ? It still does!! Unless the children have underlying issues (which some can, you never know), It is pitiful how kids rule over their parents today. I see it ALL the time. It is much easier for the parent to put up with it than to put their stuff up and leave that store. It depends on the age. I have a two year old, and you cannot reason very well with them. By age four, however, it is a totally different story. I have a two year old, a four year old, and a seven year old. They have all acted like that at some point. That doesn't mean there are not consequences. They get a stern warning. Then I tell them if they continue said behavior, what the consequences will be. Guess what? If they keep on, they get the exact consequence I said they would. No begging or pleading or "If you do that one more time", ugh I hate that one. Anyway, sorry for the novel. I have never spanked my children the way you were spanked, but we are very strict with them. Great attitudes and actions are acknowledged, unacceptable ones are disciplined. Is it easy? NO! Extremely hard and tiring. But I know as they get older, it will pay off.:)

Also if someone dragged me into a Michael's I'd throw a f'ing tantrum too