Christmas, porn & a nasty virus

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  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
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    Leave it alone, NO GODS, NO MASTERS

    That's no fun.

    You. Now I like you.
  • NormalSaneFLGuy
    NormalSaneFLGuy Posts: 1,344 Member
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    Leave it alone, NO GODS, NO MASTERS

    That's no fun.

    You. Now I like you.

    But you don't like me?
    Sexist!
  • AntWrig
    AntWrig Posts: 2,273 Member
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    For some porn is okay, others find it demeaning to men AND women. I'm one of those who thinks porn is demeaning.

    I would never watch porn with my husband. As your husband is a pastor this is doubly bad on his part.

    You need to talk to him and perhaps some counseling is in order?

    Demeaning to whom? To the people making tons of money and do this of their own free will, or to the couples who find it an alternative to taking drugs?
    Exactly or swinging with other couples. Or kidnapping and ....

    You see where I am going with this?
  • NotRailMeat
    NotRailMeat Posts: 509 Member
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    Leave it alone, NO GODS, NO MASTERS
    That's no fun.
    Great!!! Now I have Depeche Mode's "Master & Servant" stuck in my head.
  • sm1zzle
    sm1zzle Posts: 920 Member
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    Not to be presumptuous.... But Is the reason for his porn watching due to lack of sex on your part ?

    If not you need to sit him down and have a real world conversation with him and find out what the root cause is. The fact that he is the Pastor of a church means nothing. Just because someone is into the church thing does not mean they are not still human.
  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
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    Leave it alone, NO GODS, NO MASTERS

    That's no fun.

    You. Now I like you.

    But you don't like me?
    Sexist!

    Sorry but those little duck feet creep me out. Maybe with a wig and some lipstick. . .
  • mwcarew
    mwcarew Posts: 5 Member
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    On a practical note, you'll probably want to restart that computer in safe mode and run a good malware removal program - something like http://www.malwarebytes.org/
  • NormalSaneFLGuy
    NormalSaneFLGuy Posts: 1,344 Member
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    Leave it alone, NO GODS, NO MASTERS

    That's no fun.

    You. Now I like you.

    But you don't like me?
    Sexist!

    Sorry but those little duck feet creep me out. Maybe with a wig and some lipstick. . .

    do you love me now?
  • AntWrig
    AntWrig Posts: 2,273 Member
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    Not to be presumptuous.... But Is the reason for his porn watching due to lack of sex on your part ?

    If not you need to sit him down and have a real world conversation with him and find out what the root cause is. The fact that he is the Pastor of a church means nothing. Just because someone is into the church thing does not mean they are not still human.
    Was thinking the same thing.
  • sm1zzle
    sm1zzle Posts: 920 Member
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    Pray for him and still love him. Ask Good to remove his desire to view the porn. You may have to fast, also. Good luck, I am praying for you!

    She can pray all she wants.... it's not going to help one bit.
  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
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    Leave it alone, NO GODS, NO MASTERS

    That's no fun.

    You. Now I like you.

    But you don't like me?
    Sexist!

    Sorry but those little duck feet creep me out. Maybe with a wig and some lipstick. . .

    do you love me now?

    Yes. Yes I do.
  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
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    Leave it alone, NO GODS, NO MASTERS
    That's no fun.
    Great!!! Now I have Depeche Mode's "Master & Servant" stuck in my head.

    Glad to be of service.
  • andreanicole686
    andreanicole686 Posts: 406 Member
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    Watch the porn with him. Then at least, you're together, and maybe you'll learn something new. :flowerforyou:

    ^^ This.. It only becomes as big of an issue as you both allow it to become.

    Seriously? There is a difference between a guy randomly looking at porn and waking up at 4a.m. on Christmas to look at porn. Are you ****ing kidding me? That's NOT normal. You all are making it seem like it's no big deal and some how HER fault and she should just join in. He's the one with the issue. There is a difference between someone who looks at porn occasionally and someone who is addicted to porn.
  • MrsBikiniBound
    MrsBikiniBound Posts: 120
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    Alright- I'm going to be very careful with what I say here because obviously faith is something that it is important to you and your family.

    This is all about a matter of preference. I would first look at him as your husband first, your pastor second. No one is perfect. If you have established that porn is unacceptable because you, as his wife, feel it is disrespectful to you. And your marriage, then this is what you need to focus on. If you are open to allowing it to be something that you can use to bring you closer (watching it together) then I would suggest this. If you are not and this is a black and white issue for you then tell him so.

    I believe that this is something personal within your marriage- just because he is a pastor doesn't mean that his personal life has to be disseminated by his church. This is something that you should work through together. Humiliating him is not the answer- being honest with your feelings and where you stand and coming to an agreement within your personal relationship is. Regardless of what it is- your husband should never hide things from you- this is certainly something that is at the heart of this issue.

    Full disclosure, I know my husband watches porn from time to time, so do I- and we watch it together from time to time. Personally- this works for us. Lying doesn't work for us- that is what would piss me off...
  • SunshineandRoses66
    SunshineandRoses66 Posts: 10
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    This has got to be a send up!:noway:
  • andreanicole686
    andreanicole686 Posts: 406 Member
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    honestly ( i hope i wont get attacked )

    you guy needs to get laid more

    Your an idiot. Way to blame it on her instead of thinking maybe he's the one with the problem. I dated a guy who had a porn addiction and it didn't matter how many times we had sex he still felt the need to look at porn ALL the time. It's an addiction.
  • sm1zzle
    sm1zzle Posts: 920 Member
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    honestly ( i hope i wont get attacked )

    you guy needs to get laid more

    Your an idiot. Way to blame it on her instead of thinking maybe he's the one with the problem. I dated a guy who had a porn addiction and it didn't matter how many times we had sex he still felt the need to look at porn ALL the time. It's an addiction.

    Only an idiot would condem someone for simply stating their opinion.

    Grow up.
  • NormalSaneFLGuy
    NormalSaneFLGuy Posts: 1,344 Member
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    honestly ( i hope i wont get attacked )

    you guy needs to get laid more

    Your an idiot. Way to blame it on her instead of thinking maybe he's the one with the problem. I dated a guy who had a porn addiction and it didn't matter how many times we had sex he still felt the need to look at porn ALL the time. It's an addiction.

    Only an idiot would condem someone for simply stating their opinion.

    Grow up.

    Isn't that what you just did?

    SNAP!
  • EatClean_WashUrNuts
    EatClean_WashUrNuts Posts: 1,590 Member
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    I'm here for the porn.
    Where do I upload....








    wait, what?
  • NeverGivesUp
    NeverGivesUp Posts: 960 Member
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    I wonder why it is that the most religious people that get into trouble like this?. I don't watch porn and I am not in the slightest bit religious. What does this have to do with fitness anyway??? Oh right, calorie burn and sex. Wait, do you burn calories watching porn?
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