What is the worst comment you ever got about your weight?

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  • Jpinpoint
    Jpinpoint Posts: 219 Member
    It seems that Mothers, Aunts and Sisters have the take on making horrible comments.

    My niece is 15 and physically fit. She runs, she is a black belt in karate and is an asst teacher 4 nights a week. She is active.
    Her mother, 5'2 and about 80 pounds (she's on a liquid diet booze) she tells Brat she is fat. And Moms boyfriend is 5'10 and maybe 120 pounds, he is emaciated so badly, he tells SIL to tell Brat she is fat, to MOTIVATE HER.

    It's hard to reinforce good body thoughts when you have a parent telling you the opposite.

    I'm sorry people are so hideous. I'm most sorry that mothers, aunts and sisters are so hideously horrible.

    :smooched:
  • marcelka77
    marcelka77 Posts: 476 Member
    when I was 18 and at least 30 kg lighter my brother always called me Michelin - I had about 54 kg size 8-10 .... no need to say he is one of reason I haven\t been in my country for 4 years
  • KRaysor
    KRaysor Posts: 5
    At my grandmother's funeral (Which was my heaviest at 200 lbs) my step-grandmother (who is incredibly vain) walked up to me while I was talking to my father, rubbed my stomach and goes "oh, what's this about? are you having another baby? what is this?"
    I looked at her, dead in the eye, and told her it was simply my fat.
    Not only was i talking to my father at my grandmother's funeral, but EVERYONE heard her.
    Instant mortification.
  • metaphoria
    metaphoria Posts: 1,432 Member
    A friend told me that an acquaintance asked her if I was pregnant. I had gained ten pounds my first year after getting married. First of all, I didn't even LOOK pregnant!!! Second, why the tar did my friend tell me about that?! She's needy and passive aggressive, thinks shes better at taking care of my kids than I am. I'm glad she doesn't live near me, anymore.

    Another one that isn't intended to be an insult, but it grates my nerves when my husband says "you look fine." ARGH! I look slightly better than a trainwreck and I'm minimally presentable. Gee, thanks. *rolls eyes*
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    Honestly, the worst were from my mom. She would tell me I didn't look "that bad" or that I "carried it well." Lies!
  • divacat80
    divacat80 Posts: 299 Member
    My aunt who raised me did very hurtful comments, even when she was about to die.
    Then my mother in law used to comment on my weight or size at every situation even when it had nothing to do with what we were talking about or doing at that given time.
    But one of the worst things was when she gave me a gift (for a b-day or christmas, I can't remember) and it was panties that could have worked great as a parachute. She bought the largest panties available, I'm surprised she managed to get panties that big. They must have cost a fortune!
    I didn't accept them because they were so ridiculously big for me, and I had to play nice because I didn't know her intentions were quite dark back then.

    Really, I plan on doing the same to her one day. I don't give her gifts anymore (she never likes my gifts and I can't throw my money away). But, if one day I am forced to gift her, I plan on giving her the largest panties I can get.

    Then one day, (not directly related to my weight but related to my large physique) she said I had the largest boobs she had ever seen in her life and went on and squeezed them (MINE!). If that happened now I would have slapped her face, really. But she left me so stunned that I couldn't react.

    Now she has to eat her words because I'm currently the slimmest person in the family, and that's my revenge.
  • MsDover
    MsDover Posts: 395 Member
    My worst, not even worst because it's more hysterical than worst:

    My ex-husband (after 10 yrs of being overweight WITH HIM) he told me that he cheated because I was overweight. Ok. So divorce filed for, fast forward 9 months and 90 pounds LOST, he told me and everyone he could that I had lost the weight by doing drugs.

    Then he started dating someone who was HEAVIER than I was at the time he said he cheated because I was overweight, then he married her.

    It is motivation. He didn't hurt my fat feelers, if someone can blame you for their misgivings, yea...there is more to that than anything having to do with YOU.

    This one REALLY got me! I gained all of my 70 excess pounds while married to my former husband. He had some major intimacy issues, and was not physically affectionate at all. I mean, AT ALL, unless we were in public, then his arm would be around me and he'd be all lovely dovey (that was all for show, of course). I gained the weight (and bought tons of useless stuff) because I had a giant hole that he chose not to fill with his love and affection, so I filled it with food and things. When I finally got a clue that the problem was truly his and not mine (though he let me think it was me) I began losing the weight and told him I wanted a divorce. We separated, but that Christmas he came and stayed at the house to be with our son on Christmas morning. Christmas eve night, he came into my room and started talking "at" me in an attempt to hurt me... telling me why he had never touched me, and that it was because he had been so disgusted with my weight and couldn't bear the thought of being near me. I sat up, looked at him, and laughed! Here I was, with 60 of the 70 pounds I had gained lost, and my only thought was THIS is the best you've got? Odd, I said.... you stopped all affection long before I gained an ounce... did you think I was going to forget that part? LOL well... the entire 70 pounds will be gone soon and an extra 180 on top of that when YOU'RE gone! I then told him for the 80th time he needed counselling, which took years, but he finally did get. Since then he's apologized many times for how he made me feel and I know he means it. Sad, really.... but I was almost lost in the rubble of his issues and I dug my way out before I found myself 200 pounds heavier and bankrupt!

    ETA: I have an awesome, loving and supportive husband now... even painful things happen for a reason, and I feel the reason was to make me see my own worth and lead me to this wonderful man who compliments me in every way!
  • MightyDomo
    MightyDomo Posts: 1,265 Member
    A friend told me that an acquaintance asked her if I was pregnant. I had gained ten pounds my first year after getting married. First of all, I didn't even LOOK pregnant!!! Second, why the tar did my friend tell me about that?! She's needy and passive aggressive, thinks shes better at taking care of my kids than I am. I'm glad she doesn't live near me, anymore.

    Another one that isn't intended to be an insult, but it grates my nerves when my husband says "you look fine." ARGH! I look slightly better than a trainwreck and I'm minimally presentable. Gee, thanks. *rolls eyes*

    Guys don't always know what to say when you ask them or when they compliment you (or any woman really).

    I learned to take everything as compliments after so many years of getting the backhanded ones. The more you see the good, the less hurtful power they hold regardless if it was meant to be nice or mean. ^__^ But I do hope he does compliment you regularly, you're a very pretty woman.
  • dlashawn5
    dlashawn5 Posts: 28 Member
    Yeah, I got the old "when is the baby due?" question and I was not even pregnant......SO EMBARRASING! To this day, If I don't know the woman personally, I will never ask if she is pregnant UNLESS it is obviously so!
  • runbyme
    runbyme Posts: 522 Member
    When are you due? Yeah, thanks!
  • Mighty_Rabite
    Mighty_Rabite Posts: 581 Member
    One thing that spurred me.. maybe a month or two before I started to get fit, we have a salesman at my workplace who was 6'2" and about 290lbs. He had a pretty portly build. One manager right around my age was walking near one day and said I was starting to look like him. That was one of the straws nearer the top of the pile, if not THE straw. The rest has been history since.
  • lkokot
    lkokot Posts: 80 Member
    You look like ****!
  • StephCoff1969
    StephCoff1969 Posts: 357
    Hmm.. One was a few years ago... "you know you would be really pretty if you weren't so fat"

    Another one I got was " I wish I could dance around like you are, you should be dropping that baby really soon"... I wasn't pregnant...
  • sofulnaturalee
    sofulnaturalee Posts: 391 Member
    I hate the comments you get when they insult you on the sly instead of straight out like, "You BIG but you not that BIG," or "You not fat you just BIG BONED," or "atleast you not fat in one spot, it's spread all over so you carry it well," WTF!!!!!!!!!
  • lovemykids58
    lovemykids58 Posts: 195 Member
    The one i hated the most was you would be so pretty if you werent so heavy....that stuck with me for a LONG time.

    This :(
  • megalin9
    megalin9 Posts: 771 Member
    I took 5 & 1/2 years of Spanish through high school and college. The summer after I graduated high school, I went on a mission trip to Mexico. One of the boys in the children's home we were working in was flirting with a friend of mine and told her, in Spanish, that she was pretty. Then he looked at me and said, "Estas gorda." To translate, "You're fat."
  • gkwatra
    gkwatra Posts: 431 Member
    So here's some context: one of my close friends is Chinese and his mom doesn't speak alot of english. When I came back to atlanta after four-five years of college she said "You got fat".

    I didn't really find it really hurtful but at a gig not more than like a month or two ago I went to hug my bass player and this chick he was talking to and she went "I got my face smothered in man titties! Yes!" She did say that "she was f*d up"

    Its more.. only I'm allowed to make the weight jokes. Everyone else seems to be cool otherwise.

    In Eastern cultures, they don't have a sensitivity filter regarding weight. They don't think they're offending you if they tell you "You're fat."
  • lorcart
    lorcart Posts: 406 Member
    I was about 22 at the time and I had to go have an OB/GYN exam to get my birth control renewed. I had just started a new job and my insurance hadn't kicked in yet so I had to go to a family planning clinic. The doctor told me I was "difficult to examine because I was so fat"....WTF????? At the time I weighed about 165!! Good lord I'd hate to see what she had to say about me NOW! blah....I cried for DAYS over that one!
  • gkwatra
    gkwatra Posts: 431 Member
    It was 24 years ago. I was about to deliver my first baby. I wasn't obese, not even close, but hey, I WAS preggo chubby. Skinny nurse in my labour room takes one look at me and announces to the other nurses, her eyes rolling back into her skull, "This one's gonna be awhile. The fat ones always take all night,"

    Da. *kitten*?

    Seriously. I would've had words with this woman.

    She has no business being the nursing profession. :noway:
  • newdaydawning79
    newdaydawning79 Posts: 1,503 Member
    I get comments all the time, mainly from family. I've been told since a teenager that I was fat, wouldn't amount to anything because of it, and would never get a SO either. It's continued off and on to this day, although ALL the females in my family are overweight, not just me. Bullies have called me a whale, and one went so far as to call me day in and day out, tell me how much he liked me and then laughed in my face and said he'd never really like me because I was so fat, it was all a practical joke.

    Also, I've heard the 'oh you have such a pretty FACE' line so many times I want to throw things at some of the people that say it.
  • _SABOTEUR_
    _SABOTEUR_ Posts: 6,833 Member
    Lying in bed after sleeping with someone for the first time, 'You'd be really attractive if you lost a few stone.' I didn't see them again. In fact nobody else has either... :devil:
  • newdaydawning79
    newdaydawning79 Posts: 1,503 Member
    My mother is the absolute worst when it comes to making someone feel like crap. She always like to laugh while telling me that I was so fat as a baby they would just prop me up in the corner of the couch and I couldn't go anywhere. They thought it was cute to call me porky when I was little. My son overheard her telling someone recently they wouldn't recognize me if they ran into me on the street because I had gotten so fat. Shopping for clothes years back with my sister,I looked at a black dress and commented on hearing black was slimming. Her response was "throw a tent over an elephant and it's still and elephant." I have heard the "You have such a pretty face" comment so many times.

    I have heard a lot of hurtful things in over the years. But like another post said sometimes the things that go unsaid hurt just as much. I have lost a total of 37 lbs since I started focusing on losing weigh and my husband has not acknowledged it. I mentioned to him recently I lost 35 lbs and his responses was "maybe you should start exercising more."

    On the other hand I do have some great friends, my best friend is my greatest cheerleader. A close friend who always lets me know how beautiful i am. Ran into an ex-coworker recently and the first thing she said is "Wow, you have lost some weight. Great job!!"

    With the exception of the husband part, we could be twins. <3
  • NaomiJFoster
    NaomiJFoster Posts: 1,450 Member
    So here's some context: one of my close friends is Chinese and his mom doesn't speak alot of english. When I came back to atlanta after four-five years of college she said "You got fat".

    I didn't really find it really hurtful but at a gig not more than like a month or two ago I went to hug my bass player and this chick he was talking to and she went "I got my face smothered in man titties! Yes!" She did say that "she was f*d up"

    Its more.. only I'm allowed to make the weight jokes. Everyone else seems to be cool otherwise.

    In Eastern cultures, they don't have a sensitivity filter regarding weight. They don't think they're offending you if they tell you "You're fat."


    That's interesting to know. My assistant at work went through a time of bad body image and was also gaining a small amount of weight. A coworker from China said to her one day, "You used to be so pretty. Why did you get fat and ruin yourself?" It was pretty awful.
  • newdaydawning79
    newdaydawning79 Posts: 1,503 Member
    Lying in bed after sleeping with someone for the first time, 'You'd be really attractive if you lost a few stone.' I didn't see them again. In fact nobody else has either... :devil:

    Oh I'd love to hear what you did for payback...if anything.

    Haha I just realized there could be another meaning to that!
  • NaomiJFoster
    NaomiJFoster Posts: 1,450 Member
    Lying in bed after sleeping with someone for the first time, 'You'd be really attractive if you lost a few stone.' I didn't see them again. In fact nobody else has either... :devil:

    Ha ha, I just caught that after reading it 3 times, lol.
  • _SABOTEUR_
    _SABOTEUR_ Posts: 6,833 Member
    Another one was when I was with a group of friends and there was a big guy (i'm guessing over 300lbs) sat down near us. I said to my friend, 'I'm not that big am I?'

    My friend responded, 'Well, you're taller.'
  • agerig152
    agerig152 Posts: 13 Member
    My mother basically told me that I was "too big" to get a boyfriend and that it was my own fault I haven't been on a date in a while. I still haven't gotten over that. I cried for about a week after. That was 4 months ago.

    I get comments like that all the time from my mother and have since I was in high school. "Are you REALLY going to eat that 3rd piece of pizza?!" "That has too much fat for you" "You shouldn't eat all that ice-cream or you won't lose weight" Then I get back-handed compliments like "you look great! You must be losing weight." It really bothered me when I was younger but I'm used to it now. I think the worst one came from my mom's mom basically telling me that I need to run in the grass because it will be easier on my legs because I'm "heavier."

    The best comment I've ever gotten came from my dad's mom. I told her I need new clothes because I've been losing weight and her response was "are you trying to lose weight?! Be careful! Don't fade away!!" LOVE IT!! That made my day!
  • MissBackwards
    MissBackwards Posts: 1 Member
    I get "Whens ur due date?" All the time :(

    My mom has drilled into me that guys don't like fat girls. I'm 24 and only had 2 bfs bc of it. Hopefully when the weight drops I will have more confidence in myself....
  • newdaydawning79
    newdaydawning79 Posts: 1,503 Member
    I get "Whens ur due date?" All the time :(

    My mom has drilled into me that guys don't like fat girls. I'm 24 and only had 2 bfs bc of it. Hopefully when the weight drops I will have more confidence in myself....

    You are beautiful! I know where you're coming from though, completely.
  • RockKelly
    RockKelly Posts: 62 Member
    "Throw that girl a steak" I have been accused of being anorexic, bulemic, starving myself, surgery...just to name a few. I understand that people are not used to seeing me thin. (started at 198..now 119) It just gets under my skin when people assume the worst, rather than looking at the hard work and dedication you have put into your success.

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