What's the worst thing said about your weight ?

Randon Person to me, "I guess you will be glad when that baby gets here"
Me to Random Person, "What the hell are you talking about?"
Random Person, "Oh um, I thought......."
Me, "Well thinking did not work out for you this time did it!"

"I'd rather go out then a Donkey then a WHALE"

and

"I can't go out with you cos you're fat"

Often called a fat hobbity *kitten* by complete strangers

I was sitting here thinking the same thing! I am reading all these posts and getting down and they didn't even happen to me! No, my life has not been perfect but I am not going to sit around and let a@%es control my feelings and emotions. I have enough going on in my life to worry about what others say. Granted, I have not had anything like this happen to me in years (and I just started losing weight) but don't let it control you. Let it motivate you so when you start losing the weight, you can just walk by those people and give them the one finger wave! (Not real mature but they don't seem to me on the mature side either if they are talking about people's weight.) I am sure everyone has a "fault," "complex", or concern about themselves. Don't let it control you!

actually, just remembered my husband shouting out "These are ELEPHANTINE!!!!" When he inadvertently put my jeans on...he wasn't even tryingto be nasty at the time - just surprised (and yes we're still married)

My husband has sort of done that to me. He put on my shorts once and danced around showing how much bigger they are on him. Than he couldn't understand when i tell him that is mean.

I was sitting here thinking the same thing! I am reading all these posts and getting down and they didn't even happen to me! No, my life has not been perfect but I am not going to sit around and let a@%es control my feelings and emotions. I have enough going on in my life to worry about what others say. Granted, I have not had anything like this happen to me in years (and I just started losing weight) but don't let it control you. Let it motivate you so when you start losing the weight, you can just walk by those people and give them the one finger wave! (Not real mature but they don't seem to me on the mature side either if they are talking about people's weight.) I am sure everyone has a "fault," "complex", or concern about themselves. Don't let it control you!

That's awesome that you're this way, but sometimes it helps to let it out sometimes, it's human.

In College a random guy at a party said to me, "lose some weight and maybe I will give you a chance". I was about 30 lbs heavier then. I will never forget it. Also my dad used to say to me "do you really think you need that?" when I was in high school and would go into the kitchen for a snack.

Some of these are truly horrific.

I wasn't an especially fat child, I was always just on the edge of chunky - I got very little abuse at school or in public, just the odd one ("fatface" was one jibe I'll remember).

Nope, the worst comments I got were from my alleged "best friend", my brother, my mother and stepfather. My tall slim "friend" controlled me for a good 8 school years by being extremely possessive, and making continual remarks about me having a fat belly, fat legs, a fat *rse, being podgy, not fitting through a doorway, etc etc.

My mother passed on her secret binging habits to be from a young age, by dishing me up tiny "slimmers" portions of food (identical to hers) at mealtimes with the family, reassuring me that she would never let me get "fat like her", then taking me to the shops and buying me chocolate which we would eat in the car together before we went home.

My stepfather used to watch me eating something fairly innocent, adopt a disapproving scowl, and say "You shouldn't eat too much of that Susan, you'll just get fat as a porker."

Even so, I was more popular and had more boyfriends than the slim friend, and got better exam results than her. My mother is now 75 and still grabs at her loose skin and berates herself for being fat and ugly (she is neither, she is beautiful), whilst eating half a chocolate cake when no-one else is around. My stepfather died 5 years ago, but despite his hurtful comments when I was young, he spent a good many years of my adulthood telling me I was beautiful, and I loved him for that!

How about a thread about the nicest thing ever said to you.....or the best backhanded compliment!!

ETA; I forgot my brother! He was reeeeally nasty and would make as many fat jibes as he could to make me cry. And then my mother/stepfather would tell me to toughen up. Ha!

Probably the most hurtful remarks come from my mother, the queen of passive-agressive. She once made me a pan of fudge for me when I came for a visit. After the fudge was gone she said, "Well, you might as well get rid of your old clothes. You'll never fit into a size 6 again, especially after eating all that fudge!" You would think that, after having been raised by her that I would have been better prepared/seen that one coming! Now when starts in on me, I politely inquire after her health (diabetes and heart issues), subtly making my point.

In general though, when I was fat/obese, no one said a thing to me! Part of me thought they were being polite. Another part of me thought I was camouflaging well with the way I dressed (people think I'm a lot taller than I am too!) Now I think that mostly they weren't thinking about me or, if they were, they were thinking about other stuff other than my weight!

But now that I've lost some weight, I'm getting some left-handed compliments like, "You look great! BUT if you lose any more weight, you'll look [variation of 'too gaunt"]" or skeptical looks when I answer their questions as to how I did it (No diets! No pills! No wraps! Just move more and eat less!) like I'm lying to them or something! The remarks that are kinda funny are the ones that are well-meaning but come out wrong, e.g. "You lost a TON!" Others have made allusions to anorexia or illness ("Are you sick?" "Do you have cancer?") (FYI, I am being careful not to go too far with my weight-loss campaign and actually have revised my goals twice to make sure I stay safely in the normal range.)

But to dwell on that over the people who were and are supportive is unfair. I lot more people have been encouraging and kind than mean. If I let the "off" remarks get to me, it gives those remarks more power than they deserve.

OMG!!! I can't believe that some people have said these things to y'all. I hope y'all just brush it off, because each and every one of you is beautiful, and each and every one of you deserve to be happy no matter your size!

That I was not fat enough for a BBW but was too fat to be attractive to normal men.

This is actually something I realized just last night.

Back when I was about 14, my family took a trip to Mexico. I remember we were walking down the road one day when two local men were walking down the street opposite of us. They started snorting at us like pigs. I didn't know what it meant and my step-mom and step-sister said they probably were "cat-calling" us, like pretty much what they do in the states when they see a sexually attractive woman. I don't know what made me think about it last night (I'm 22 now), but I realized they weren't cat-calling anyone... They were calling me fat. Our obvious language barrier left them to say it the only way they knew how, which is making pig noises. I knew they did it at me, because my S-mom and S-sister are verrrry small.

I was on the heavy side when I was 14. Pushing almost 170 lbs. I was fat. But 8 years later, I finally realized that was the first time I was openly called fat. It still hurt my feelings.

Um, if you were obviously tourists or Americans, you were more likely being snorted at for being American pigs rather than fat!

I was sitting here thinking the same thing! I am reading all these posts and getting down and they didn't even happen to me! No, my life has not been perfect but I am not going to sit around and let a@%es control my feelings and emotions. I have enough going on in my life to worry about what others say. Granted, I have not had anything like this happen to me in years (and I just started losing weight) but don't let it control you. Let it motivate you so when you start losing the weight, you can just walk by those people and give them the one finger wave! (Not real mature but they don't seem to me on the mature side either if they are talking about people's weight.) I am sure everyone has a "fault," "complex", or concern about themselves. Don't let it control you!

Ya know that's easier said than done. It's not so easy when from the age of 6-14 you are told daily by your father that you are fat and ugly and pathetic and that you will die alone, that no amount of money in the world would buy you a husband let alone a boyfriend. Sorry but that **** stays with you. I still struggle daily with feeling like I am worth it because of my fathers ****. Sometimes you can't just let it roll off your back.

I have been asked if I was preggers a million times. One woman (a customer) came in 3 weeks after asking if I was pregnant to make sure I wasn't because she was so sure I was! Also, my father called me thunder thighs since I can remember and used to tell my mother not to buy my favorite foods because I was getting too fat. I've never been obese like him, but he was convinced that I was going to be any second and I was going to develop diabetes. He was brutal about it. Also, my mom always said how she hates fat people (she is 5'9 and 113 lbs). She would say, just let your fat eat itself. Just stop eating and you'll lose weight. I eat whatever I want, I don't understand what your problem is. Or, you're def Italian, you like food too much and are too heavy to be from my side. It's amazing I didn't develop an eating disorder.

My grandmother:
"You´re too big for that dress, you should stop wearing it. And don´t think you can lose weight, look at me and your mother, it´s genetics. You can do nothing about it." (I was nowhere close to fat even back ten, but I did lose some weight and toned up too)
And then came this:
"Come here, quick! I must take a photo of you, who knows how long you will stay this thin!"
"I used to be just as thin as you are!"
"You look much better now. Have you gained 2 grams?"