What do you 'hate' about being fat?

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  • Oh gawwd a lot of things spring to mind, don't they?

    - I hate that special occasions are spent avoiding people because I feel like I want the ground to swallow me.

    - When I'm a passenger in some ones car, I hate that their hand hits my leg every time they change gear.

    - I hate that I can't strut around my apartment naked even when I'm on my own haha.

    - I hate being mortified every time my chair squeaks when I move on it during a lecture.

    - Having to review every picture I'm tagged in on my FB page before allowing it up, because I don't want others to see how fat I've gotten. (less than 5% make the cut!)

    - I hate that I'm left standing there, being ignored, when guys come over to hit on my friends. (Even if they are obnoxious jack *kitten* I would probably hate)

    - I feel ashamed when I buy a candy bar, even if I know it's not for me.

    - Most recently, I hate the fact that I can barely fit down a row of tables in an exam hall, and I'm PETRIFIED of bumping into a desk by accident.

    - I hate being too worried about people looking at me to even go to the bathroom during a movie. The hobbit was not fun.

    - I actually feel bad for my BF when I see photos of us and imagine what people must think

    -I don't look at photos and think 'Aw, that was fun' I only look at them and think how awful/fat etc. I look.

    - I can't get back into the only sport I ever loved, horse riding,until I lose weight.

    Woow that list is longer than I intended!!!! It's good to get these things off my mind though, and hope that's where they stay!!
  • maggs155
    maggs155 Posts: 258
    I know exactly what u mean before i got fat i got hit on all the time because im not ugly i just got fat!!!! Im married also but it does feel good to know ur still hot!
  • mom2pne
    mom2pne Posts: 215 Member
    How I look in the mirror....I see all the rolls and I hate myself for letting myself get this way. i wonder how I have managed to keep my husband for the past 16 years (today).

    Not having the energy to keep up with my kids....I played hide and seek with them tonight and I was so tired after.
  • EliRob
    EliRob Posts: 53 Member
    - Clothes (Lack of stylish clothes and cost)

    - Wondering if I'll fit in that chair at events (sports games, concerts, theater, etc)

    - Sex (positions, endurance, flexibility, etc)
  • Clothes not fitting
    Pictures
    Getting tired really easily
    Having big boobs. DD's suck :(
  • AlyiEli2017
    AlyiEli2017 Posts: 81 Member
    I hate the way I look in my clothes and the way I feel. My self esteem needs a boost also.
  • CrimsonDiva7
    CrimsonDiva7 Posts: 171 Member
    Feeling limited in movement, back fat and being afraid of what you look like in photos.
  • RissyK1
    RissyK1 Posts: 15 Member
    Being the fattest person at work.
  • belizsera
    belizsera Posts: 82 Member
    I look good standing up but sitting down my fat spreads making me look bigger.
  • EjaneK11
    EjaneK11 Posts: 209 Member
    Not being able to wear certain clothes. I am really starting to like the store Body Central but they are tight fighting clothes that I am not comfortable wearing but I want to wear them. And getting a pain nerve in my leg because I got fat. :|
  • skcardiog
    skcardiog Posts: 316 Member
    Not having people look twice or sneaking a glance when I walk by. Working hard to change that.
  • freddykid
    freddykid Posts: 265 Member
    I hated myself avoiding pictures. There are many family pics over the past few years I offered to take so I didn't have to be in them.
  • sarahjeangirl
    sarahjeangirl Posts: 8 Member
    I hate:
    * Being limited in terms of clothing; not being able to wear a lot of designers, and having to choose things based on whether or not they will flatter me, or how they might hide my "flaws". Also, a lot of plus-size clothes are UGLY.
    * Thighs chafing on hot days when wearing a skirt.
    * Being uncomfortable in bathing suits.
    * Feeling squished into airplane seats, and constantly being aware of not encroaching onto the space of the person next to me.
    * The awareness of being so out of shape while working out/doing something active.
  • fg8585
    fg8585 Posts: 110 Member
    Where should I start? Lol.
  • I hate a lot about being fat. It is extremely hard for me to deal with, because in high school I was a size 0. Then I went to college and got off my seizure medicine (Topamax) at the same time. Within 3 months I had gained over 70 pounds. With that rapid weight gain, I also got a lot and I mean A LOT of ugly stretch marks. I lost all my self confidence and hate to dress up and look nice like I used to because I feel awful about myself. I would love to be skinny again and find a way to get rid of my stretch marks so I can get back the self-confidence I once had. I hope by joining here that I will be able to control my weight and get support from you all as well. Best of luck everyone!
  • apriltrainer
    apriltrainer Posts: 732 Member
    Hmm...well I am not fat anymore. And even in my "before" pic I had lost weight from when I was bigger. But I remember this guy opening the door at Starbucks for this pretty little thing who walked in before me and then let go of the door as I was about to enter.

    Now men open doors for me. Give up their seats.

    Doesn't impress me though,because I remember when they didn't.
  • I hate two things. Rubbing thighs and batwings... if you know what I mean.
  • acrynne
    acrynne Posts: 74 Member
    The thing I hate the most is how much my weight has affected my self esteem. For years, I have forced myself through this torture: Every time I walk into a room, I do a quick scan and then I force myself to acknowledge that I am the fattest girl in the room. Of course, from there it's difficult to enjoy myself and the company of others. Because I think that everyone else has gone through this same assessment and that they are all acknowledging in their heads "yep, she's the fattest."

    As the weight comes off, I thought that I might magically get the self esteem that I am lacking.... not so. I am finding that just like I need to work at eating healthy and exercising, I also need to work on gaining confidence.
  • tifalva
    tifalva Posts: 220 Member
    Clothing options. I hate how many designers think that because we're plus sized we have to look like animals in bright colors. We don't want to draw attention to our size!! At least I don't.
  • bcriminger
    bcriminger Posts: 11 Member
    I would say I dislike not being able to fit into what I used to wear. This summer I mostly wore skirts because my shorts didn't fit. When school started I had to get some "fat pants" so I could stay warm. I'm anxious to be out of those and back into my old pants!
  • I am trying to loose weight for health reasons and to teach my son about discipline when it comes to food. I was diagnosed with MS about 3 years ago and have steadily been putting on weight and losing some mobility. I guess that would be what I don't like about being fat. Hopefully if I drop about 30 pounds I can get around better.
  • Hi I reallly try to focus on whats great when you lose some weight! And use this as "pay off" for the hard work.

    Eg for me peoples comments make me feel good emotionally . I have more choice in clothing its fun shopping . I feel healthy and more energised this makes me motivate and inspire others around me.

    I write these positives down every day in a note book by my bed to motivate me and keep me on track. . Then a write baby steps of what things I can do daily to point me towards this pay off.
    EG. drink less coffee - eat no chocolate for 3 days - reduce red meat this week - walk for 1 hr every day.

    I review these things daily and re write them daily if not achievable and make them achievable by baby steps eg. Dont eat chocolate today if a week is to hard then increase it - on make sat a chocolate day and set a limit of volume in my note book .

    As I believe that the eating behaviours are purely cognitive behaviours and it takes 9 weeks to change a behaviour by creating a new pathway. Saying "what makes me feel fat " for me I think I cut and paste the word "FAT" into my brain computer and I just keep unconciously repeating "Im fat " and I think it just makes me eat more.

    Ive tired every diet in the past and lost and gained - Im now 120 days into My Fitness Pal and 8.8kgs lighter. 10kgs to go.I will never go back as I feel to good with these tips I have just shared and created new pathways in my brain . I use more little things and Im happy to share more to those interested.
  • good for you great work! Doesnt it feel great.
  • you can do it just start focussing on the pay offs that you get when you start losing and start thinking about the one tiny thing you can do today to start the ball rolling! BABY STEPS at the start.
  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
    I hated feeling always "weighed down." When I was younger and fitter, I felt so much lighter and more nimble.

    I miss that feeling a lot.
  • liittlesparrow
    liittlesparrow Posts: 209 Member
    Being uncomfortable around skinny pretty girls, because I'm bigger than them.
    Worrying about sweating in the summer because I feel like I look like a fat pig.
    Not having confidence.
    Wondering if I'm the fattest person in the room, and then actually looking around judging if I am or not.

    I could go on. Haha.
  • triciab79
    triciab79 Posts: 1,713 Member
    When I was larger I hated that people wouldn't make eye contact with me. It was so lonely.
  • bellevie86
    bellevie86 Posts: 301 Member
    Backfat, Pictures, No clothing options, Stretchmarks, Being tired 24/7, Not travelling (or attending other events) out of fear i'll have to wear a bathing suit :(
  • red_road
    red_road Posts: 761 Member
    stretch marks. Its depressing to think that even if...when i lose this weight they will still be there.

    also no energy. which is kinda crazy when i consider how much more "energy" i consume? create? then everyone i know.
    ( i know why junk food leaves you with little energy, i still just find it a bit flabbergasting)
  • jencole057
    jencole057 Posts: 4 Member
    1. (and most important) My lack of energy. I used to do so much and now I feel the need to sit down alot.
    2. My health and what this will do to me in the long run. Both of my parents are morbidly obese and have been and they can barely walk across a room. (it terrifies me that I let myself go the way I have)
    3. The examples I am setting for my son by making allowances for me to sit often because I have no energy and the nutrition he is going to think is ok if I don't show him how to eat healthy.
    4. The way I look in the mirror and how that makes me feel everyday.