it's 2013, why are women playing mother to their husbands?

because thousands of years have instilled a motherly instinct in women and because men no longer forage for themselves, men are no longer hunters and gatherers, they rely on super markets and kitchens, not big game and outdoor fires. that's why men do the barbeque. our society has made it this way.

This is why I dislike feminists. If you ladies want to fix the cars, take out the garbage and do all the other "traditional man" roles while your husband does the cooking and cleaning... that's your decision. But you don't have the right to call marriages where the couple enjoy traditional roles a mother/child relationship. There is absolutely nothing child like about my husband.

We have been together since high school (24 years) and have a wonderful marriage. I do the cooking, cleaning, etc. while he does the dirty stuff and heavy lifting. If i even attempt to take out the garbage he's all over it. He owns his own company and i do the bookwork from home. It amounts to about 20 hours a week of paperwork... I spend the rest of my time keeping a nice home for him and am happy to do it because it makes him happy. Just as he is happy to work long hours doing physically demanding labour to make sure he can give me and our daughters everything we could possibly need. He is very proud to say that he takes good care of his family financially (university tuition for our daughters and a very comfortable life style). That makes him feel good, just as it makes me feel good to keep our home nice and hubby fed. He doesn't know how to cook and I don't know how to change a breaker in the electrical panel or fix the furnace. That's why we have each other.

I think relationships where each person cares about the others happiness above their own are the ones that last. It makes no difference how you go about getting there and how the division of labour is done. Selfishness is what kills relationships. Perhaps if women (and men) asked themselves what they could do for their partner each day to make them happy, instead of taking foolish stands on principle, the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.

I do NOT understand.
I get it if he works late, and you are home earlier or stay at home. What I DO NOT get is making two separate meals, or even more for kids. Eating healthy should be a great new plan for the whole family.

You are not your husbands mother.

http://youareagrownman.com/2010/07/21/know-how-to-cook/
http://*****ielife.necole*****ie.com/2011/03/stop-coddling-grown-men/

Kids should learn early to enjoy and like healthy food; or it's a vicious cycle. They will have trouble liking them later in life.
Try starting a husband who can't on something like this
http://www.amazon.com/Paula-Deens-My-First-Cookbook/dp/1416950338/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1360038617&sr=8-4&keywords=my+first+cookbook
or
http://www.amazon.com/Man-Can-Plan-Great-Meals/dp/1579546072/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1360038663&sr=1-2&keywords=my+first+cookbook+microwave

I'm sorry.

I forgive you. Now quit mothering all of us.

Cal we let this be the /thread ?

When I worked, my hubby and I shared ALL responsibilities, now that I'm not working I do most things but I certainly don't mother him. He's a big boy, he can look after himself.

Why worry about what goes on in other peoples relationships? Live & let live.

Sheesh.

My ex wife told me to quit mothering her...at least, that's what it sounded like from under the pillow.

LOL!

Not a cool story.

My husband can not cook at all and I can guarantee you that he has no desire to ever learn how! If I don't feel like cooking, he grabs the jar of peanut butter and a spoon. Or a bowl of cereal. Or a microwaveable. Whatever, it doesn't bother me so I'm not sure why it bothers you. :shrug:

This, plus I LOVE to cook. Mine doesn't expect it, but I like doing it. And if I don't, it's PB for him and that's ok with both of us.

I cook most days as I work part time, we have 2 young kids, and my husband does shift work. When my husband's on late shift he gets something at work, or he makes himself a sandwich or something when he gets home (about 10pm). Sometimes I save him something if it's worth saving!

He's excellent at cooking, better than I am, but I am more organised, and I do most of the shopping so plan the meals. If we're having curry or stir fry, it's his job to make it!

Our kids eat what we do, unless we're having a really spicy thai curry, then i'll make them a jacket potato and tuna instead.

My husband can cook, he was single for 12+ years before I married him. I just don't want to eat it unless it came off the barbecue (his specialty for sure). We have different tastes. I do pretty much all of the cooking that isn't barbecue. And I loathe cooking. And he's a great sport and doesn't care when I declare I'm not cooking and we go out to eat. Or he offers to barbecue something.

Oh and he eats whatever I cook. I take his likes/dislikes into consideration and blend them with mine. That's what being a family is to me.

That being said. Every couple needs to do what works for them. If she does all the cooking and he mows the lawn and takes out the garbage, who cares? I'm certainly not going to start fighting for the opportunity to mow the front yard. If she's okay cooking separate meals to meet the needs of her family, and she isn't resentful about it, who cares? To each his/her own.