it's 2013, why are women playing mother to their husbands?

MorgueBabe

I do NOT understand.
I get it if he works late, and you are home earlier or stay at home. What I DO NOT get is making two separate meals, or even more for kids. Eating healthy should be a great new plan for the whole family.

You are not your husbands mother.

http://youareagrownman.com/2010/07/21/know-how-to-cook/
http://*****ielife.necole*****ie.com/2011/03/stop-coddling-grown-men/

Kids should learn early to enjoy and like healthy food; or it's a vicious cycle. They will have trouble liking them later in life.
Try starting a husband who can't on something like this
http://www.amazon.com/Paula-Deens-My-First-Cookbook/dp/1416950338/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1360038617&sr=8-4&keywords=my+first+cookbook
or
http://www.amazon.com/Man-Can-Plan-Great-Meals/dp/1579546072/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1360038663&sr=1-2&keywords=my+first+cookbook+microwave

I'm sorry.

Gracerrr

My husband can not cook at all and I can guarantee you that he has no desire to ever learn how! If I don't feel like cooking, he grabs the jar of peanut butter and a spoon. Or a bowl of cereal. Or a microwaveable. Whatever, it doesn't bother me so I'm not sure why it bothers you. :shrug:


ETA: I grew up in a family where my dad was the WAY better cook and my brothers learned to use the stove by age 7. I'm not in the dark ages by any means, I just happen to have a husband who can't even boil an egg without tragic results! :P

mockchoc

I make one meal and if he isn't home he heats it up later on.

CharRicho

Who are you even directing this toward?

My husband does all the cooking in our house. He loves to cook and I hate it.

dirtnap63

For what it's worth not every man is like that. I do 90 % of the cooking at home, and that's for a wife with a medically restricted diet and two kids ages five and three.

lilcupcake213

I'm going to assume you don't have kids and you're not married.

Duck_Puddle

Last time my dearly beloved tried to boil water, he started a fire. I'd prefer he not try again.

Stacyplus5

I do all the cooking because I love to cook\!

ubermensch13

I'm going to assume you don't have kids and you're not married.

I'm Married, and my wife and I share those responsibilities in the house. We either make separate meals, or share cooking responsibilities during the week/weekend. Of course, I don't believe just because she has boobs she is my servant and I can't figure out how to cook or clean.

Gracerrr

Last time my dearly beloved tried to boil water, he started a fire. I'd prefer he not try again.

lol! Yep!

andyisandy

different strokes for different folks

SleepingBeauty12345

my personal opinion is that yes famnily should eat what is madde for them just out of pure respect! however,im very much a shovenist.lol i think the wife should take care of her hubby and chidren by preparing meals.if shes able.

JessWolf1002

Yeah this definitely does not apply to me! My husband does the majority of the cooking and also does 50% of the cleaning. He also gives the kids baths every night so that I can have some quiet time for myself. Oh, and hes in the military on top of all that! I love that he's not like a lot of other Soldiers that we know and comes home, plays video games for 5 hours and won't help with the kids or around the house. Yep, I'm spoiled and I LOVE it!

barb1241

My husband can cook. His mother-not so much. She didn't like cooking, but fed them enough to grow up on. I love to cook. I would rather eat my cooking than his. I cook, he cleans. If I don't cook, he can cook for himself or he can eat something not cooked. At lunch, we each cook our own. He cooks breakfast for himself since I don't eat brreakfast. If we have guests, I cook breakfast and he eats whatever I cook for them.

I guess it's complicate around here, LOL! When my kids were growing up, I cooked one meal for evceryone. Whoever wanted to eat it, fine. If not, they were free to eat elsewhere. Nobody was coddled at my house, except (according to my children) the dogs and the cat. When my Dad was alive and came to visit, I cooked lasagne for him by request. My mother cooked every day for him. He could open a can of Vienna sausages. His second wife purchased his favorite tv dinners. I'm not sure which of them used the microwave to hot up the food.

Lots of ways to work it.

BusyRaeNOTBusty

I'm going to assume you don't have kids and you're not married.

I'm Married, and my wife and I share those responsibilities in the house. We either make separate meals, or share cooking responsibilities during the week/weekend. Of course, I don't believe just because she has boobs she is my servant and I can't figure out how to cook or clean.

Can I have a servant with boobs?

MoreBean13

I agree with you from a personal standpoint, about my life and my relationship goals.

I don't agree with starting threads just to judge other people's relationships. I think everyone can make their own choices about who does what in relationships. Judging gender roles for others based on your own preconceived notions is wrong.

Shabadu

Get bent with your generalizations and accusations.

Amazon_Who

Oh, and hes in the military on top of all that!

Thank you for your's and your husband's service.

PikaKnight

Is this in response to the threads where people are blaming their SO's for not being able to eat right and such?

jha1223

Who are you even directing this toward?

I think I know a situation that this is directed at. My sister makes food for her and her husband. She also makes something different for her two boys who are 6 and 3 (mostly chicken strips or some variation) and sometimes a different meal for her and her husband.

She is a stay at home mom and pretty much does all of the family cooking and care.

My opinion? Quite accommodating to both kids and spouse. The kids need to be introduced to new foods or they will never find anything that they like. That is under mom's control as she is the one cooking for them. As far as her husband, she needs to tell him what she is planning on making. Sure, be somewhat considerate, but he's a grown man and shouldn't expect her to make whatever he wants whenever he wants it. It is downright sad.

My wife and I mostly cook separate. We have enough differences in what we like to eat that it makes sense. She will tell me though, "I'm making swordfish tomorrow so you are on your own." It works amazingly well.

Queen_JessieA

I don't make two meals...we do eat a little later because family dinner time is important to us.

But if he came home really late, I wouldn't hesitate to make him dinner. Our marriage is like that. He would do the same for me. He is my best friend And, we have been married for 14.5 years, so obviously we are doing something right!!

Queen_JessieA

Who are you even directing this toward?

I think I know a situation that this is directed at. My sister makes food for her and her husband. She also makes something different for her two boys who are 6 and 3 (mostly chicken strips or some variation) and sometimes a different meal for her and her husband.

She is a stay at home mom and pretty much does all of the family cooking and care.

My opinion? Quite accommodating to both kids and spouse. The kids need to be introduced to new foods or they will never find anything that they like. That is under mom's control as she is the one cooking for them. As far as her husband, she needs to tell him what she is planning on making. Sure, be somewhat considerate, but he's a grown man and shouldn't expect her to make whatever he wants whenever he wants it. It is downright sad.

My wife and I mostly cook separate. We have enough differences in what we like to eat that it makes sense. She will tell me though, "I'm making swordfish tomorrow so you are on your own." It works amazingly well.

I agree. If children are not exposed to different foods, then they won't ever learn to like them. We do not have a clean plate policy, but everyone is required to try a bite of something they don't think they will like. It works, in our case...my 7 and 10 year old boys would eat anything that you put in front of them (they LOVE broccoli, brussels sprouts and even asparagus!!).

Still working on my daughter and fish, but to her, it is a texture thing. LOL. She isn't big on meat.

AllTehBeers

Maybe they just like it that way.

fresh_start59

Both of my (grown) sons cook to some extent. The oldest likes to experiment. The youngest, who lives at home, doesn't care for the hassle of cooking, yet he cooks a great crockpot roast and a simple, yet yummy, enchilada soup, along with the basic barbecued meats.

My (now ex) husband never cooked. I stayed home with the kids and he went to work to provide a paycheck. I did laundry. He mowed the lawn and washed the cars. I cooked the meals and he put the toilet seat down.

I never really saw my cooking things he liked as "coddling", even when I cooked him something that I wouldn't eat (anything fishy). Instead, I saw it as a way of showing him that I loved him. In the same way, he took care of household repairs and little honey-dos like hanging shelves and moving furniture when I had a whim for a change.

In other words, going the extra mile to make him happy was something that made me happy. It was part of the give and take relationship that makes a marriage. It is a sign of respect. The problems started when we stopped respecting one another and caring how each other felt.

After a dozen years of marriage our relationship started to deteriorate. And just before our divorce, I noticed a trend. I did not keep up with the housework and did not always have dinner on the table at 5 p.m. For his part, he grumbled every time I asked him to do something around the house.

MorgueBabe

Who are you even directing this toward?

My husband does all the cooking in our house. He loves to cook and I hate it.

Every day there is at least a couple threads of women saying their husbands can't cook....

mindymolson

I get pleasure from seeing my family enjoy a meal that I prepare for them. They don't all eat the same, so I generally try to make sure there is at least 2 things on their plates that they love, then have them taste the rest. Just because you like something doesn't mean they have to. It's not living in the dark ages, it's simply enjoying individuality. My main job is to make sure the house runs smoothly, while my husband plays real life GI Joe.. all's good here.

disdatdude

This is why marriage doesn't work in the U.S. :laugh: A woman will still want to be pursued by a man, wined and dined when he catches her, provide/do the manly jobs that come up...but he better not expect anything other than the nightly headache in return for his effort - :drinker:

Oops, I forgot, I'm not supposed to tell the truth...just sit there like a neutered dog :flowerforyou:

Gracerrr

Who are you even directing this toward?

My husband does all the cooking in our house. He loves to cook and I hate it.

Every day there is at least a couple threads of women saying their husbands can't cook....

Oh god. The horror.

breckinloggins

I'm all about equality, so my rules on this are pretty simple:

- If you treat me like a child because I'm a man, then I'm going to kick your *kitten* to the curb.

- If I act like a child and expect you to take care of me because I somehow feel entitled, then I expect you to kick MY *kitten* to the curb.

mindymolson

I'm a traditional American.. that doesn't go for all of us lol

taunto

Usually your blog is much better suited to vent off any hard feelings you got. Or you can just email me and we can talk about whatever you're going through that made you create this thread.

Good luck in future. Please talk to somebody because its worrying how you just went off and created a thread like this...

Heres the link to your blog you can use to spread such news about men

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/morguebabe