it's 2013, why are women playing mother to their husbands?

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  • karimah_jamila
    karimah_jamila Posts: 16 Member
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    It's 2013, why are you worried about what another woman is doing for her husband?

    Exactly!
  • Dawnhasajeep
    Dawnhasajeep Posts: 180 Member
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    I think people should stop telling others how to live their lives. If you do not like that I treat my husband well & love him stay the Fawk out of my house and marriage. It is none of your business.
  • magicherry
    magicherry Posts: 81 Member
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    because thousands of years have instilled a motherly instinct in women and because men no longer forage for themselves, men are no longer hunters and gatherers, they rely on super markets and kitchens, not big game and outdoor fires. that's why men do the barbeque. our society has made it this way.
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
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    I guess if one wants to bring home the bacon I'll cook it for him, but I feel sorry if he isn't rich enough to send me to culinary school for a year or two. I'm not the greatest cook ever. Maybe I could learn. Maybe. He'd have to be bringing in some good bacon, though, else he can fend for himself.
  • Roni_M
    Roni_M Posts: 717 Member
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    This is why I dislike feminists. If you ladies want to fix the cars, take out the garbage and do all the other "traditional man" roles while your husband does the cooking and cleaning... that's your decision. But you don't have the right to call marriages where the couple enjoy traditional roles a mother/child relationship. There is absolutely nothing child like about my husband.

    We have been together since high school (24 years) and have a wonderful marriage. I do the cooking, cleaning, etc. while he does the dirty stuff and heavy lifting. If i even attempt to take out the garbage he's all over it. He owns his own company and i do the bookwork from home. It amounts to about 20 hours a week of paperwork... I spend the rest of my time keeping a nice home for him and am happy to do it because it makes him happy. Just as he is happy to work long hours doing physically demanding labour to make sure he can give me and our daughters everything we could possibly need. He is very proud to say that he takes good care of his family financially (university tuition for our daughters and a very comfortable life style). That makes him feel good, just as it makes me feel good to keep our home nice and hubby fed. He doesn't know how to cook and I don't know how to change a breaker in the electrical panel or fix the furnace. That's why we have each other.

    I think relationships where each person cares about the others happiness above their own are the ones that last. It makes no difference how you go about getting there and how the division of labour is done. Selfishness is what kills relationships. Perhaps if women (and men) asked themselves what they could do for their partner each day to make them happy, instead of taking foolish stands on principle, the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.
  • Silver_Star
    Silver_Star Posts: 1,351 Member
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    I do NOT understand.
    I get it if he works late, and you are home earlier or stay at home. What I DO NOT get is making two separate meals, or even more for kids. Eating healthy should be a great new plan for the whole family.

    You are not your husbands mother.

    http://youareagrownman.com/2010/07/21/know-how-to-cook/
    http://*****ielife.necole*****ie.com/2011/03/stop-coddling-grown-men/

    Kids should learn early to enjoy and like healthy food; or it's a vicious cycle. They will have trouble liking them later in life.
    Try starting a husband who can't on something like this
    http://www.amazon.com/Paula-Deens-My-First-Cookbook/dp/1416950338/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1360038617&sr=8-4&keywords=my+first+cookbook
    or
    http://www.amazon.com/Man-Can-Plan-Great-Meals/dp/1579546072/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1360038663&sr=1-2&keywords=my+first+cookbook+microwave

    I'm sorry.


    I forgive you. Now quit mothering all of us.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
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    I do NOT understand.
    I get it if he works late, and you are home earlier or stay at home. What I DO NOT get is making two separate meals, or even more for kids. Eating healthy should be a great new plan for the whole family.

    You are not your husbands mother.

    http://youareagrownman.com/2010/07/21/know-how-to-cook/
    http://*****ielife.necole*****ie.com/2011/03/stop-coddling-grown-men/

    Kids should learn early to enjoy and like healthy food; or it's a vicious cycle. They will have trouble liking them later in life.
    Try starting a husband who can't on something like this
    http://www.amazon.com/Paula-Deens-My-First-Cookbook/dp/1416950338/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1360038617&sr=8-4&keywords=my+first+cookbook
    or
    http://www.amazon.com/Man-Can-Plan-Great-Meals/dp/1579546072/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1360038663&sr=1-2&keywords=my+first+cookbook+microwave

    I'm sorry.


    I forgive you. Now quit mothering all of us.

    Cal we let this be the /thread ?
  • KenosFeoh
    KenosFeoh Posts: 1,837 Member
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    In most households that I know of, there are certain things the man does - like take out the trash, mow the lawn, do maintenance on the vehicles - and certain things the woman does - cook, vacuum, wash dishes. Nothing wrong with that!

    In my house, whoever has the time or inclination when a chore needs to be done does the chore. My husband can cook, I can take out the trash. We mix it up.
  • PrincessLou71186
    PrincessLou71186 Posts: 747 Member
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    When I worked, my hubby and I shared ALL responsibilities, now that I'm not working I do most things but I certainly don't mother him. He's a big boy, he can look after himself.
  • beskimoosh
    beskimoosh Posts: 375 Member
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    This is why I dislike feminists. If you ladies want to fix the cars, take out the garbage and do all the other "traditional man" roles while your husband does the cooking and cleaning... that's your decision. But you don't have the right to call marriages where the couple enjoy traditional roles a mother/child relationship. There is absolutely nothing child like about my husband.

    If someone has told you that is what feminism is about, they're lying to you. It's about having an equal role in society. So not a total role reversal.

    Rumour has it I'm a bit of a feminist, but one of my best friends is an active, goes to meetings, goes to protests kind of feminist. And do you know what? She does a lot of the cooking. She can also take out rubbish (really? That's a man job? I never knew that) and do other traditionally masculine things. Feminism isn't about telling others what to do, or swapping gender roles, it's about BOTH genders having the right to equal choices. And that includes who cooks.

    Edit: Yeah, going to meetings makes you a feminist :tongue:
  • OkieTink
    OkieTink Posts: 285 Member
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    Why worry about what goes on in other peoples relationships? Live & let live.

    Sheesh.
  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
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    I do NOT understand.
    I get it if he works late, and you are home earlier or stay at home. What I DO NOT get is making two separate meals, or even more for kids. Eating healthy should be a great new plan for the whole family.

    You are not your husbands mother.

    http://youareagrownman.com/2010/07/21/know-how-to-cook/
    http://*****ielife.necole*****ie.com/2011/03/stop-coddling-grown-men/

    Kids should learn early to enjoy and like healthy food; or it's a vicious cycle. They will have trouble liking them later in life.
    Try starting a husband who can't on something like this
    http://www.amazon.com/Paula-Deens-My-First-Cookbook/dp/1416950338/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1360038617&sr=8-4&keywords=my+first+cookbook
    or
    http://www.amazon.com/Man-Can-Plan-Great-Meals/dp/1579546072/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1360038663&sr=1-2&keywords=my+first+cookbook+microwave

    I'm sorry.


    I forgive you. Now quit mothering all of us.

    My ex wife told me to quit mothering her...at least, that's what it sounded like from under the pillow.
  • OkieTink
    OkieTink Posts: 285 Member
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    My ex wife told me to quit mothering her...at least, that's what it sounded like from under the pillow.

    LOL!
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
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    I don't know what "women" you are talking about as I didn't read this entire thread.... yet.... but uh... I don't cook multiple meals... I don't have time for that.
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
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    Not a cool story.
  • darkguardian419
    darkguardian419 Posts: 1,302 Member
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    He pays the bills, you do everything else. Deal with it. ;)
  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
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    My husband can not cook at all and I can guarantee you that he has no desire to ever learn how! If I don't feel like cooking, he grabs the jar of peanut butter and a spoon. Or a bowl of cereal. Or a microwaveable. Whatever, it doesn't bother me so I'm not sure why it bothers you. :shrug:


    This, plus I LOVE to cook. Mine doesn't expect it, but I like doing it. And if I don't, it's PB for him and that's ok with both of us.
  • pebbs80
    pebbs80 Posts: 102
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    My husband eats what ever I make. If he wants something more he's a big dude he can make it.
    He LOVES my cooking and has been learning to cook from me. We now make 1-2 meals a week together and then he makes atleast 1-2 meals a week on his own for us. I'm blessed that he is so willing to learn.
  • DawnieB1977
    DawnieB1977 Posts: 4,248 Member
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    I cook most days as I work part time, we have 2 young kids, and my husband does shift work. When my husband's on late shift he gets something at work, or he makes himself a sandwich or something when he gets home (about 10pm). Sometimes I save him something if it's worth saving!

    He's excellent at cooking, better than I am, but I am more organised, and I do most of the shopping so plan the meals. If we're having curry or stir fry, it's his job to make it!

    Our kids eat what we do, unless we're having a really spicy thai curry, then i'll make them a jacket potato and tuna instead.
  • runwmeNC
    runwmeNC Posts: 612 Member
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    Who are you even directing this toward?

    My husband does all the cooking in our house. He loves to cook and I hate it.
    Every day there is at least a couple threads of women saying their husbands can't cook....

    I love cooking!!! Now I just need to find a woman who can stomach eating it ! :D