Fishing for compliments?
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I agree. Anyone without a real picture of themselves I'm just going to assume must be ugly.
MEOW!
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Do some people equate superficial compliments with genuine compliments? To me, there's a difference.
I don't even care. I'm easier to butter up than bread.0 -
When I want an ego boost I just go look in the mirror.0
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I don't need anyone to tell me I'm fabulous. I'm the King of the Jungle! :laugh:0
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I see a lot of posts on here that I suspect--and I am a highly trained investigator-- are people fishing for compliments. I also see a bunch of profile photos that I suspect may be fake. Seriously, what's up with all that? The topics of "give me a compliment", "would you date the person above you" , "my best feature", "hot affair, flirt or run like hell" and so forth.... what is the deal with all that? No?
PREACH ON SISTER! if I get one more perv trying to add me I will explode...and as far as post that are not finess/nutrition related I think they should be BANNED
Hey look, it's the OP! I don't necessarily think they should be..... banned. I am just unable to comprehend why someone would want to get fake compliments from strangers. Most of you know that if you were put in a room with 75 others from this site, you wouldn't prance up to them and say 98% of the stuff you say here, in the cover of anonymous websites. As for the "fake" profile photos, I wasn't referring to the ones of cats, or giraffes, or pyramids, snakes, and so on, but of ripped bodies and fake boobs or long legs or whatever, that may or may not really belong to the posting person. If we could actually see the real person behind the profile, would your comments be the same? Are you posting to the person in the photo or the man behind the curtain? I mean, the photo of the person holding the "wicked" sign...that's not ME, that is a picture of a woman I found online. So, when you say "ya I'd hit that" are you saying to ME or her? If you saw the real me, would you say the same? I don't thinks so.0 -
I see a lot of posts on here that I suspect--and I am a highly trained investigator-- are people fishing for compliments. I also see a bunch of profile photos that I suspect may be fake. Seriously, what's up with all that? The topics of "give me a compliment", "would you date the person above you" , "my best feature", "hot affair, flirt or run like hell" and so forth.... what is the deal with all that? No?
PREACH ON SISTER! if I get one more perv trying to add me I will explode...and as far as post that are not finess/nutrition related I think they should be BANNED
Hey look, it's the OP! I don't necessarily think they should be..... banned. I am just unable to comprehend why someone would want to get fake compliments from strangers. Most of you know that if you were put in a room with 75 others from this site, you wouldn't prance up to them and say 98% of the stuff you say here, in the cover of anonymous websites. As for the "fake" profile photos, I wasn't referring to the ones of cats, or giraffes, or pyramids, snakes, and so on, but of ripped bodies and fake boobs or long legs or whatever, that may or may not really belong to the posting person. If we could actually see the real person behind the profile, would your comments be the same? Are you posting to the person in the photo or the man behind the curtain? I mean, the photo of the person holding the "wicked" sign...that's not ME, that is a picture of a woman I found online. So, when you say "ya I'd hit that" are you saying to ME or her? If you saw the real me, would you say the same? I don't thinks so.
It's a community of people helping each other feel better about themselves. I understand that this kind of ego-supplementation doesn't appeal to you- it's not my style either. But I try to be understanding about the motivations people have to do so. Participating in those "rate me!" threads may just make enough of a difference to someone so they walk in to a party IRL with swagger instead of feeling self-conscious.0 -
But nobody told me how awesome I am in the last 2 hours:sad: :sad: :sad:
Your Awesome(singing it) :flowerforyou:
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Yeah, I honestly don't think I've said anything in the MFP forums that I wouldn't say IRL...but accept that may not be the norm.0
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I see a lot of posts on here that I suspect--and I am a highly trained investigator-- are people fishing for compliments. I also see a bunch of profile photos that I suspect may be fake. Seriously, what's up with all that? The topics of "give me a compliment", "would you date the person above you" , "my best feature", "hot affair, flirt or run like hell" and so forth.... what is the deal with all that? No?
PREACH ON SISTER! if I get one more perv trying to add me I will explode...and as far as post that are not finess/nutrition related I think they should be BANNED
Hey look, it's the OP! I don't necessarily think they should be..... banned. I am just unable to comprehend why someone would want to get fake compliments from strangers. Most of you know that if you were put in a room with 75 others from this site, you wouldn't prance up to them and say 98% of the stuff you say here, in the cover of anonymous websites. As for the "fake" profile photos, I wasn't referring to the ones of cats, or giraffes, or pyramids, snakes, and so on, but of ripped bodies and fake boobs or long legs or whatever, that may or may not really belong to the posting person. If we could actually see the real person behind the profile, would your comments be the same? Are you posting to the person in the photo or the man behind the curtain? I mean, the photo of the person holding the "wicked" sign...that's not ME, that is a picture of a woman I found online. So, when you say "ya I'd hit that" are you saying to ME or her? If you saw the real me, would you say the same? I don't thinks so.
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How do you know they're fake compliments....anymore fake than ones from people in RL?
I have no idea why you seem so bothered about it.
ETA: Oh I hate it when I post in the quote box0 -
It's the internet. It's quasi-fiction. It's like a role-playing game for many people. For many who take the internet that way, you aren't being "yourself" and you aren't talking to real people... your character is talking to someone else's character. Its not just that people will say things they wouldn't normally say, they also accepted having things said to them that they normally wouldn't accept, too.I see a lot of posts on here that I suspect--and I am a highly trained investigator-- are people fishing for compliments. I also see a bunch of profile photos that I suspect may be fake. Seriously, what's up with all that? The topics of "give me a compliment", "would you date the person above you" , "my best feature", "hot affair, flirt or run like hell" and so forth.... what is the deal with all that? No?
PREACH ON SISTER! if I get one more perv trying to add me I will explode...and as far as post that are not finess/nutrition related I think they should be BANNED
Hey look, it's the OP! I don't necessarily think they should be..... banned. I am just unable to comprehend why someone would want to get fake compliments from strangers. Most of you know that if you were put in a room with 75 others from this site, you wouldn't prance up to them and say 98% of the stuff you say here, in the cover of anonymous websites. As for the "fake" profile photos, I wasn't referring to the ones of cats, or giraffes, or pyramids, snakes, and so on, but of ripped bodies and fake boobs or long legs or whatever, that may or may not really belong to the posting person. If we could actually see the real person behind the profile, would your comments be the same? Are you posting to the person in the photo or the man behind the curtain? I mean, the photo of the person holding the "wicked" sign...that's not ME, that is a picture of a woman I found online. So, when you say "ya I'd hit that" are you saying to ME or her? If you saw the real me, would you say the same? I don't thinks so.
As for avatars, people will choose avatars that represent their own character instead of their real self, because doing so wouldn't make any sense... that isn't who you're talking with, or who is reading your comments.
There are some sites and forums where the members actually do know each other in real life and see each other in real life. On those forums people tend act a bit differently, at least with the people who they have 'real' non-internet relationships /interactions with.
The funniest part of the internet is the people who think it's exactly the same as real life and are totally serious all the time and expect everyone else to be. I have to wonder if those people are even capable of role-playing... it seems to be a function of higher intelligence to be able to create multiple internal characters/minds, and different realities, and interact those minds with their realities within the relevant contexts.0 -
nobody has told me I am hot today or tried to perv me up in PM all day :frown: somebody tell me how hot I am!!...please while you are at it be a good lil B and bring me a beer!!! :bigsmile:0
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ummmmm...you forgot my beer....:grumble:0 -
It's all good girl...second time is a charm.0
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ah hell if you are handing out free beer I drink keiths or moose hear lol0
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The reasons for non-self pictures are many.....job, privacy, previous stalkers, current stalkers, husband or wife has requested no pictures, etc. I don't want everyone on the internet having access to my picture....which, once you put it up as an AV, anyome can use it. Try googling your username and images.....that's what I'm saying...sometimes discretion is necessary. The pictures you use as AV pictures cannot be made private...and anyone can see them.
this is basically what i assume when i see that people don't have their pic up. i'm from an internet world that values anonymity. i don't assume ugly at all.0 -
If I were going to fake a profile picture I would pick someone much better looking.
I had a hot chick as my fake profile picture. It started getting really annoying with all the friend requests and pm's hitting on me or telling me I was beautiful. I got tired of thinking that nobody has any common sense around here and people are just so shallow. So I just switched to a real picture instead. Now I don't have to get annoyed with friend requests anymore.0 -
Could be worse. The interwebs is riddled with chicks posting very obviously staged and heavily made-up photos with captions that read "No makeup" and "Ugh, I'm so ugly!" Those people are so pathetic.
Except for me. My picture really is SOOO UGLY. Like, OMG.0 -
It takes all kinds to make up the world. Some might need a little encouragement or some might be just what you say they are. No two people think, feel, or are exactly the same. Maybe someone doesn't like the things you post. In the end... if it bothers you then you don't have to look at it. I don't worry too much about what other people do unless it directly affects me and my goals.0
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It takes all kinds to make up the world. Some might need a little encouragement or some might be just what you say they are. No two people think, feel, or are exactly the same. Maybe someone doesn't like the things you post. In the end... if it bothers you then you don't have to look at it. I don't worry too much about what other people do unless it directly affects me and my goals.
As soon as MFP adds the ability to filter threads from the RFT list, it will be a lot easier to do this.
I'll be over here holding my breath for that update...and the ability to follow posts...and notifications for posts on other walls...and a half dozen other features we're all waiting for.0 -
The stress of letting something bother you that you have no control over doesn't seem healthy to me. I would focus my energies on something that I find useful and positive.0
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It takes all kinds to make up the world. Some might need a little encouragement or some might be just what you say they are. No two people think, feel, or are exactly the same. Maybe someone doesn't like the things you post. In the end... if it bothers you then you don't have to look at it. I don't worry too much about what other people do unless it directly affects me and my goals.
As soon as MFP adds the ability to filter threads from the RFT list, it will be a lot easier to do this.
I'll be over here holding my breath for that update...and the ability to follow posts...and notifications for posts on other walls...and a half dozen other features we're all waiting for.
You and I both.0 -
I'm a professional compliment fisher do you think I'm pretty? Lol 0
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My profile pic is a body I aspire to have. My desktop image is a before/after pic of a woman who had my current body type and now has the body I did when I was healthy.
Joining in these silly games provides me an opportunity to make someone else feel good about themselves. I don't generally go back into the thread to see what got posted back at me. When I need a confidence boost, though, I might. I imagine some will compliment the art. (Todd Lockwood, if anyone is curious.)
Some may go to my profile page and either be offended or amused by my text. Some will go further still and look at my actual photographs, and think "oh, what a cow. At least I'm not that big!" Which, in turn, allows them to feel better about themselves.
It's all fun and games. It's also capable of being more, if you let it.0 -
Seriously, coming from a guy who has only recently been getting compliments after more than a few years of thinking he was the ugliest creature in existence, they can make a massive difference when trying to battle a lifetime of bad habits.
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Now that I have a body that I am somewhat proud of, getting complimented every now and then keeps me motivated to keep kicking my own *kitten* in the gym on a daily basis. Otherwise, I'd just sit at home and let myself get obese again, because if nobody's going to notice me, then why would I work hard anyway?0 -
I'm a professional compliment fisher do you think I'm pretty? Lol
Gorgeous!!!!
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<====this might be an example of what OP is talking about and my ticker below.
both my profile and ticker pics are "fake" by your definition. they are used for inspiration/visualization. they resemble the real me at my goal weight and that's why i use them. I prefer to use my pics like that to get more out of the site. i personally would dwell on my current "look" and get downtrodden. it does nothing for me to include my pic because i'm not on this site looking for anyone to date or marry or meet in person for any other reason like friendship, workout buddy, or WORKOUT buddy, if you catch my drift . (not to imply that those who do have pic's are looking for someone as i know most are probably not, maybe they are used to posting pictures on websites, or proud of how they look after successful weight loss, or interested in showing their transformation via their profile pic, or any number of reasons... not my business). I try to correct anyone who mistakenly beleives that's me. some may fall through the cracks. I also try to accept anyone no matter how they choose to use their profile pics and tickers etc.
everyone is free to use this site as they please. some people are more comfortable using their real pics than others. some people (OP) aren't comfortable using any pic's at all I guess. but I won't assume you're ugly or too dumb to know how to upload a pic. only that you have chosen not to upload one for whatever reason.
in life it's usually best not to jump to the worst conclusions. for your sake and others. and it's even better not to advertise when you are doing that. just for your own sake.
oh and i think all those topics are fun and games which is probably why they are under that title not to be taken too seriously. try it lighten up a little...see how you feel. :drinker: :bigsmile::flowerforyou: :glasses:0 -
yeah wheird, just yeah. you always know just what to say.People show up here with broken self esteem. Those threads help them put it back together. Don't hate.
But what about the people who mend their own self-esteem by dragging others down?0 -
It's because I'm witty.0
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