No Homo?

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  • SeaRunner26
    SeaRunner26 Posts: 5,143 Member
    I find it offensive that it bothers you so much you Need to know, for if you didn't you wouldn't have created the thread.

    To each their own on their mindsets.

    If we never complain, how do we expect change to come?
  • 2muchsauce
    2muchsauce Posts: 1,078
    I've never felt the need to use it. Maybe I'm just secure enough in my manhood to not need to. But that being said, some people will find just about anything to be offended at no matter how trivial it is.
  • SmartAlec03211988
    SmartAlec03211988 Posts: 1,896 Member
    Ugh, I hate "No Homo."

    Do women say "No Les" after complimenting each other? No? Men are so insecure.
  • RunDoozer
    RunDoozer Posts: 1,699 Member
    Someone is always going to be butthurt.

    I see what you did there
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    It's one of those things that depends on the context in which it was said. Sometimes, it comes off as being extremely homophobic, and in that instances, the use of the term enrages me.

    However, in other instances, it's actually humorous. For example, my husband will say something to one of his friends, who happens to be gay, that's completely homo-erotic, and then add, "No homo." at the end. It's a joke, and in no way meant to be homophobic, at all. I've said the phrase from time to time, normally as a mockery of those who use the phrase regularly, and almost always when I'm speaking to male friends (some of which are gay).

    I get why you would be offended by it, but try to understand that not everyone uses it in a way that's meant to construe homophobia.
  • Barbellerella
    Barbellerella Posts: 1,838 Member
    Coming from the guy who said fake boobs are a bait and switch?! REALLY?! :tongue:

    Believe it! I can still flirt with the ladies, just don't expect to come home with me.
    I'm not referring to your so called "flirting" with women.

    I am asking why its ok for you to say something rude about women who've had cosmetic surgery, yet guys should tiptoe around something that is offensive to you?!
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    I think it's just because, at least in this era, men sort of get uncomfortable around gays (or at least that's what I've noticed). So just to clarify, they say "no homo" to make the other one know that they aren't homosexual. Meh, personally when people say something like "I love you no homo" to me, I say "I love you too lots of homo" back even though I'm straight.

    But why is it necessary? Isn't is assumed that most men are straight? I don't know the exact figures, but I think the general estimate is that only about 5% of men are gay.

    Lol I think that should be 45%.

    Of course 99% of my guy friends are gay
  • SeaRunner26
    SeaRunner26 Posts: 5,143 Member
    Are the majority of guys on this site so insecure with their sexuality that if they compliment another guy, they have to end the comment with "no homo"? As a gay guy, I find this kind of insulting. As if being gay is something I should be ashamed of and requires a disclaimer. Yes homo.

    I'm glad to have you as a friend. :drinker:

    Ditto. Glad to have you aboard too!
  • The_Enginerd
    The_Enginerd Posts: 3,982 Member
    I think it's just because, at least in this era, men sort of get uncomfortable around gays (or at least that's what I've noticed). So just to clarify, they say "no homo" to make the other one know that they aren't homosexual. Meh, personally when people say something like "I love you no homo" to me, I say "I love you too lots of homo" back even though I'm straight.
    I've heard it used a couple of times. (edit: It was part of a running joke being used in jest during a bachelor party)

    I think it's come about because there is still a bit of a social taboo about a male complimenting another male, not necessarily comfort around gays. At least with the people I know. I've been to a party where I was one of 3 straight people, and I did not feel uncomfortable. Honestly, I take it as a huge compliment to receive a compliment from gay man.
    Yet I can get away with saying to a gal "nice rack" without ending the comment with "no hetero".
    But I'm sure you can get away with it without it being as creepy as well :wink:
  • wikitbikit
    wikitbikit Posts: 518 Member
    I haven't seen it here and I haven't even heard it in like 10 years (but I am like, super hermit girl these days). Pretty sad it's still around.
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    Coming from the guy who said fake boobs are a bait and switch?! REALLY?! :tongue:

    Believe it! I can still flirt with the ladies, just don't expect to come home with me.

    Tease.
    I agree. That's unfair.


    I'm still upset that the gay community STOLE Matt Bomer from us. YES, THAT'S RIGHT. YOU STOLE HIM.
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    No one has ever said that to me, but.........
    Don't assume these salutations are used out of ignorance or lack of experience.
    What salutation would prefer be used to convey that a compliment does not have any innuendo or sexual motives ?
  • SeaRunner26
    SeaRunner26 Posts: 5,143 Member
    Nice work man. You could be on the cover of the L.L. Bean catalog.

    29225513_1450.jpg


    // No Homo

    Well really, it should be for Target (the jacket) or Safeway (the building). I'll take either since I'm unemployed and need cash.
  • CaliforniaSweetheart
    CaliforniaSweetheart Posts: 989
    Someone is always going to be butthurt.
    Yup! I feel upset when someone posts or uses the "R" word since I work with special needs children, but I don't go making posts over it. Just ignore it and move on. Problem solved :)
  • VorJoshigan
    VorJoshigan Posts: 1,106 Member
    I only use when I'm joking around. It amuses me because of its absurdity. I'm sorry it offends you, because you seem like a really nice guy. No homo. (maybe just a teeny tiny bit)
  • Lil14U
    Lil14U Posts: 40 Member
    I hate it when people say that!
    Me too
  • SeaRunner26
    SeaRunner26 Posts: 5,143 Member
    Coming from the guy who said fake boobs are a bait and switch?! REALLY?! :tongue:

    Believe it! I can still flirt with the ladies, just don't expect to come home with me.
    I'm not referring to your so called "flirting" with women.

    I am asking why its ok for you to say something rude about women who've had cosmetic surgery, yet guys should tiptoe around something that is offensive to you?!

    Honestly, I never thought I was being offensive. If that's the case, I apologize.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    Coming from the guy who said fake boobs are a bait and switch?! REALLY?! :tongue:

    Believe it! I can still flirt with the ladies, just don't expect to come home with me.

    Tease.
    I agree. That's unfair.


    I'm still upset that the gay community STOLE Matt Bomer from us. YES, THAT'S RIGHT. YOU STOLE HIM.

    And Neil Patrick Harris.
  • icandowhateveriputmymindto
    icandowhateveriputmymindto Posts: 602 Member
    I think it's just because, at least in this era, men sort of get uncomfortable around gays (or at least that's what I've noticed). So just to clarify, they say "no homo" to make the other one know that they aren't homosexual. Meh, personally when people say something like "I love you no homo" to me, I say "I love you too lots of homo" back even though I'm straight.

    But why is it necessary? Isn't is assumed that most men are straight? I don't know the exact figures, but I think the general estimate is that only about 5% of men are gay.

    Just society I guess. But personally, I feel like more and more gays are coming out of their shells recently, so those statistics may not entirely be correct.
  • RunDoozer
    RunDoozer Posts: 1,699 Member
    This seems like something that calls for a parade.
  • HerBravado
    HerBravado Posts: 392 Member
    People still say no homo??
  • olDave
    olDave Posts: 557 Member
    I really don't care who you like to have sex with.
  • Shabadu
    Shabadu Posts: 211
    If they say no homo, just reply with
    "No, Homo."
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    I didn't know people said that. I need to hangout with more than just toddlers.
  • Rhonnie
    Rhonnie Posts: 506 Member
    I've actually never seen this, but that makes my heart sink that people do that :(

    ditto. :(

    Although, thinking like the forever "glass half full" sort that I am, maybe it is a sign that society is at least aware that there is a decent percent of the population that is gay, and one step further that some of the straight people that in the past would have not commented out of fear, or worse made and insult, are getting more comfortable with the idea (even if they still need a childish disclaimer)... maybe it is in a way a back-handed form of progress?
  • ohhiitsme
    ohhiitsme Posts: 9
    I hear it a lot too, and it bothers me too. :indifferent:
  • efirkey
    efirkey Posts: 298 Member
    I have never ended a post with No Homo
  • EatClean_WashUrNuts
    EatClean_WashUrNuts Posts: 1,590 Member
    I find it offensive that it bothers you so much you Need to know, for if you didn't you wouldn't have created the thread.

    To each their own on their mindsets.

    If we never complain, how do we expect change to come?

    Change comes from how you interpret the present and teach future generations through example. Not by complaining.
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    This seems like something that calls for a parade.

    I've seen about 40 parades this week. I'm over that
  • RaeLB
    RaeLB Posts: 1,216 Member
    "No Homo" and "That's so Gay" are insulting to me as an LGBTQ Ally.

    Really, any terms that reference particular people as an insult are offensive (calling someone a pu$$y, retard, etc).

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