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  • KimL122
    KimL122 Posts: 148 Member
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    I hate it when people say that!

    DITTO....the first time I saw it on here, I was like WTH
  • jessamynwest
    jessamynwest Posts: 14 Member
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    As a queer woman, i too find "no homo" to be very homophobic and insulting.

    Yep. As a straight woman I also find it homophobic and insulting. Folks who enjoy Jay Smooth might appreciate his Beginner's Guide to No Homo.

    http://www.illdoctrine.com/2008/08/a_beginners_guide_to_no_homo.html
  • Umeboshi
    Umeboshi Posts: 1,637 Member
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    Coming from the guy who said fake boobs are a bait and switch?! REALLY?! :tongue:

    Believe it! I can still flirt with the ladies, just don't expect to come home with me.
    I'm not referring to your so called "flirting" with women.

    I am asking why its ok for you to say something rude about women who've had cosmetic surgery, yet guys should tiptoe around something that is offensive to you?!

    His comment on cosmetic surgery was obviously sexist and problematic. However, that doesn't negate the fact that he is correct in pointing out the homophobia of "no homo".
  • moustache_flavored_lube
    moustache_flavored_lube Posts: 849 Member
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    I see it used mostly in a tongue and cheek way. Actual homophobs wouldn't be comfortable enough to even joke about it.

    I like the gays (NOHOMO), really my only issue with the community is a lot of them are way to easily offended. Ya gotta be able to take a joke especially if it is from a friend who legitimately supports gay rights.

    This week George Takei said something to this effect.

    Let us not lose our good humor in the quest for political sensitivity....We mustn't descend to the lowest common denominator of butthurt
  • SeaRunner26
    SeaRunner26 Posts: 5,143 Member
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    I find it offensive that it bothers you so much you Need to know, for if you didn't you wouldn't have created the thread.

    To each their own on their mindsets.

    If we never complain, how do we expect change to come?

    Change comes from how you interpret the present and teach future generations through example. Not by complaining.

    I don't think you understand what I mean. If people don't like the way they are treated and never say anything, how would anyone else know it bothered them?
  • MacInCali
    MacInCali Posts: 1,042 Member
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    I have seen some of my male frieds use the term after complimenting another male friend (of theirs) and it is said jokingly among friends ... I don't know that they have said it to men they are NOT friends with who might take offense though.

    With that being said, I'm not crazy about the term myself and agree that women are put to a different standard when it comes to giving other women compliments.

    Being a bisexual female myself, I compliment my girlfriends all the time, but leave no disclaimer at the end. To my knowledge, my girlfriends don't wonder if my compliment means anything more than what it actually ~says~ and, therefore, do not take it as an invitation for sex ... except, of course, for those who I ~have~ extended the invitation, lol :wink:
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
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    I prefer "So Homo".
  • trojanbb
    trojanbb Posts: 1,297 Member
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    Are the majority of guys on this site so insecure with their sexuality that if they compliment another guy, they have to end the comment with "no homo"? As a gay guy, I find this kind of insulting. As if being gay is something I should be ashamed of and requires a disclaimer. Yes homo.

    it's more of a joke/meme from some other forums, namely bb.com and 4chan etc
  • SeaRunner26
    SeaRunner26 Posts: 5,143 Member
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    This seems like something that calls for a parade.

    I've seen about 40 parades this week. I'm over that

    No parade is needed. A small dinner party will suffice.
  • amandapye78
    amandapye78 Posts: 820 Member
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    I agree with you. I dont understand it. We girls are always complimenting each other all of the time and we are not afraid of being thought as lesbians ( at least not me or anyone I know).
  • wikitbikit
    wikitbikit Posts: 518 Member
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    Change comes from how you interpret the present and teach future generations through example. Not by complaining.
    Not entirely true. Sometimes people don't realize that what they're saying or doing is offensive. Granted, they also may not care, and whatever, that's them... But some people DO care and maybe don't want to be ignorantly offensive.

    Perhaps "speaking up" would be a better term than "complaining."
  • RaeLB
    RaeLB Posts: 1,216 Member
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    I think it's just because, at least in this era, men sort of get uncomfortable around gays (or at least that's what I've noticed). So just to clarify, they say "no homo" to make the other one know that they aren't homosexual. Meh, personally when people say something like "I love you no homo" to me, I say "I love you too lots of homo" back even though I'm straight.

    The point is that having to clarify their sexuality so they are not perceived to be homosexual reflects the perception that there is something wrong with being homosexual.
  • Rage_Phish
    Rage_Phish Posts: 1,508 Member
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    Are the majority of guys on this site so insecure with their sexuality that if they compliment another guy, they have to end the comment with "no homo"? As a gay guy, I find this kind of insulting. As if being gay is something I should be ashamed of and requires a disclaimer. Yes homo.

    Offensive for sure, but I have been on this site for over a year and spend lots of time on the forums and can only remember seeing this once (it stands out because i was surprised to see it here)
  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
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    I find it offensive that it bothers you so much you Need to know, for if you didn't you wouldn't have created the thread.

    To each their own on their mindsets.

    If we never complain, how do we expect change to come?

    Change comes from how you interpret the present and teach future generations through example. Not by complaining.

    ^ I lean towards this. I find that half of me wants to say, get over it as I don't think most guys mean to offend (although some do) and i've certainly said something similar a few times over the years, and I think we, as a society, have become way to sensitive and easy to offend.

    Then again, I want to say grow the **** up to the guys that say it regularly, as it's not like a swarm of gay dudes are going to attack you if you compliment another guy.

    So yea OP, you're a good looking dude.
  • Shabadu
    Shabadu Posts: 211
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    I have never ended a post with No Homo

    UNTIL NOW!!!!!! DUN DUN DUN!!!!!
  • logicman69
    logicman69 Posts: 1,034 Member
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    Blame stupid frat boy college humor...... One joke video that goes viral and everybody thinks its cool. :noway:
  • icandowhateveriputmymindto
    icandowhateveriputmymindto Posts: 602 Member
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    I think it's just because, at least in this era, men sort of get uncomfortable around gays (or at least that's what I've noticed). So just to clarify, they say "no homo" to make the other one know that they aren't homosexual. Meh, personally when people say something like "I love you no homo" to me, I say "I love you too lots of homo" back even though I'm straight.

    The point is that having to clarify their sexuality so they are not perceived to be homosexual reflects the perception that there is something wrong with being homosexual.

    Not necessarily - people don't like to be mistaken for what they are not. I'm like that too and so are you and everyone else.
  • Umeboshi
    Umeboshi Posts: 1,637 Member
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    I find it offensive that it bothers you so much you Need to know, for if you didn't you wouldn't have created the thread.

    To each their own on their mindsets.

    If we never complain, how do we expect change to come?

    Change comes from how you interpret the present and teach future generations through example. Not by complaining.

    Right... oppressed groups gain equality by....shutting up?
  • freshvl
    freshvl Posts: 422 Member
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    I couldn't be stuffed reading through it all, i am very supportive of equal rights and society being more accepting of gays, but i also think (as already pointed out) the "no homo" joke comes from the lonely island song no homo, it is not said with the intend to offend as such but is said as a joke without malice, and now, some lines from the song if your unfamiliar with it :)

    Yo we should watch this gay porno tape (no homo)
    But as a joke cause we're all straight (no homo)
    Man you could wash laundry on those abs (no homo)
    Yo I think girls look good in drag (no homo)
    Hey I've been thinking about posing nude (no homo)
    Yo I've been thinking about ****ing a dude (no homo)
  • jbutterflye
    jbutterflye Posts: 1,914 Member
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    I agree with you. I dont understand it. We girls are always complimenting each other all of the time and we are not afraid of being thought as lesbians ( at least not me or anyone I know).

    That's cause we're all bisexual. "I kissed a girl & I liked it" & all that. Didn't you get the memo?

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