I think my husband is trying to keep me fat.....

Sorry - that sucks.

At least it's you that's controlling what you eat and not him! Small victories!

Why does he have to stop eating because you are trying to lose weight?
Grow up!

Here is a little story that may help you to see things from a different perspective. About 12 years ago, I partook of the typical American diet. I indulged in sweets, ate lots of salty snacks (mmm... salties), ate a lot of processed foods, had to have meat with every meal. When my wife and I would look at the serving sizes, we would jokingly laugh about how those were not human sized portions. We would make some starchy processed food that was tasty (fried, or made with processed ingredients) and see that it said serves 6 and demolish it between the 2 of us. The only vegetable that rarely graced our dinner table was starchy vegetables (potatoes or corn). It was pretty bad. I knew it wasn't the ideal diet, but it was what was workng for us.

Then one day, she met this lady who was totally into holistic everything. My wife started haging out with her, and the new friend started sharing her ideas with my wife. Next thing I know, I'm sitting down to "meals" of pitas stuffed with avacados, sprouts, onions, broccoli, tomatoes and peppers. I was thinking to myself, "Nice side dish. Where's the meat?" My wife started reading all of these books about good and healthy eating. Her friend was a complete vegan. I kept looking at the whole family, and they and their kids all looked emaciated. I thought, "that can't be healthy." I dug my feet in. I didn't like it at all. I liked the way my starch and meaty meals tasted. I loved deep fat fried foods. I loved my salty snacks. My wife was just coming in and trying all kinds of new stuff that to me was either way too expensive, or way too bland. Whole wheat cookies were gross. Spinach pasta, couldn't take it. I would just make my own food, and let her have that crap.

After a while, we talked. We compromised. We had one meatless meal a day. I soon learned to like some of the things like brown rice. She learned how to jazz it up to be something I might eat. Unfortunately, it didn't last. Budgets being what they were, and hectic growing boys schedules put a hamper on our having home cooked meals, and buying healthy foods. We fell back into our old ways. Worse. We weren't even really having family meals anymore.

Anyway, last year, I was diagnosed with prediabetes. My lifestyle had finally caught up with me. I realized I needed to do something. I tried to talk with her, and failed. So, I went ahead and did it by myself. She complains that it's not fair as I didn't support her when she tried to make our family healthy, and now I am totally into healthy eating. I am not perfect in my healthy eating, but I do what I can. When she comes home from the fast food place with food for her and the kids, I just mke myself a salad, or cook a chicken breast and throw it in some veggies with some ginger, soy, and cornstarch. When she brings home cookies, I just make some popcorn, or go in the bedroom and read.

My whole point with this is that you can't control your partner. You also have to realize that they may not be in the same place you are. You need to accept the fact that the only one you can change and control is you. If he is not ready yet, be strong. If you want him to stop "sabotaging" you, sit down and talk about the changes you want to make together. Work out a resonable compromise that you can both live with. Make the changes gradually, and invite him to come along. Don't just walk in and expect him to change just because you are.

It's funny that you wrote this because I constantly tell people that I think my husband is trying to keep me fat too! He'll want to go out to eat, and at places I find hard to stay on my diet at. Or he'll have a drink waiting for me when I get home, on days I want to go running. Idk if he is intimidated by my weight loss or what the deal is.

I've got to say having a supportive partner can make a HUGE difference. My wife is not only supportive but her diet has become better than mine and has lost loads of weight too!

It was way harder to eat right before she decided to make a change in her diet / lifestyle.

I hope you (and everyone else) finally get him to see the light and give you the support you deserve!

I'm sorry u have a husband who isnt supportive, u should talk too him about it like really sit down tell himk ur feelings on why u wanna loose weight and how much his support would mean too you and ask him why he keeps doing this?.. I hope he smartens up and supports u, I couldnt imagine what that would be like, my husband has been very supportive of me and that helps this journey along, even last weeekend he wanted too order pizza bad from his fave pizza joint and didnt because he was like " it would be unfair too you too have too sit here and watch while i get too eat pizza"... but i do have a friend who comes over with junk food and eats it in my face and says stuff like " mmm this is so good " and will tease me with food and thats more annoying than anything. good luck with ur journey i too have a lot of weight too shed so i hear ya girl

just as a side note - does he know youre discussing this in print in a public online forum with a picture of yourself on a site with about 2 million people? just curious.