23 years old and never been in love..

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  • 37434958
    37434958 Posts: 457 Member
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    I've been in love only once in my life, and the loyalty and love feelings were from both sides, totally, and they never changed! ... We love each other tons


    ^_^

    Wish u the best luck! And hey, God is waiting for the perfect time, perfect day, perfect everything to show you your man.
  • Admiral_Derp
    Admiral_Derp Posts: 866 Member
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    Love as depicted in popular media is very similar to pizza delivery in a porno...it doesn't happen exactly that way.

    Your definition of love will likely change before it actually hits you. Before I met my wife I was convinced the whole idea of marriage was a joke. Love meant something completely different to me. Meeting her completely changed that. Just live your life...if you meet enough people, you might meet one that will help it all make sense. That will be love.
  • MyM0wM0w
    MyM0wM0w Posts: 2,008 Member
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    When you watch romantic comedies you get an idea of what love is like but I'm still amazed.
    Is it really like you're walking on clouds, can't sleep or eat, your heart aches etc.?

    That isn't love

    This.
  • Ghkffb56
    Ghkffb56 Posts: 263 Member
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    I fell in love at 13.. the age that parents say you cant and blah blah.. w/e anyway He is My bff. we have broken up made up . Moved to different states... all that good **** and cupcakes!.. but at the end of the day.. i cant live with out him! he is meh world.. yea yea sap ****.. i know. going on 24 years old here and i have never been with anyone but him..


    So you will know when you do fall in love :).. and you wont see it coming at all ~.^"
  • lease1981
    lease1981 Posts: 57
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    When I was younger i had the whole " i can't live without you" kind of love thing,I feel like i gave my heart to too many different guys;/ but when it came to getting married i found my best friend, my feelings are stable no rollercoaster no up one day down the next, I'm secure and trust him. I know he will always be there for me and he respects me. He loves me regardless. I don't have to hide my feelings and can be myself, same with him. Love seems to be a feeling everyone experiences differently and it always happens when you don't expect it or in some cases don't want it.
  • lenniebus
    lenniebus Posts: 321 Member
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    Oh man, all these people saying, "Don't give up, I didn't meet my SO until I was..." and they're all younger than me! Yikes. I'm starting to feel behind the curve and I'm only 27...

    LOL...I was 35 before I fell in love fer real. I thought I was in love at least twice before that (married one of them even) but I was definitely in love with the idea of love, which to me means I loved who I wanted them to be not who they really were. The difference between them and my husband is night and day. What we have started off as me smiling all the time, butterflies, skyrockets, etc., and eight years later is EVEN BETTER...he makes me smile :)...not ALL the time...but a whole lot of the time :).

    Hang in there...
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
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    Haha but Nicholas Sparks seems to know a thing or two about fairytales.. I bet he's a good husband xD

    Fixed it for ya.
  • PilotX
    PilotX Posts: 233 Member
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    My parents are madly in love with each other, I dont know how they do it because I suck at relationships.

    Most women these days don't like to bonked over the head with a club and drug back to the cave. Just a thought.



    outstanding sir
  • kaylaandthestarcatcher
    kaylaandthestarcatcher Posts: 836
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    I'm 23 and have never even been in a real relationship. And I don't really care. If it happens, it happens, but I'm not going to go looking for it. I'd rather focus on myself and achieving my goals.
  • MissJanet55
    MissJanet55 Posts: 457 Member
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    Someone, possibly Oscar Wilde, said that everyone should be in love twice. Once we should love the other person more than they love us, and once we should be loved more. Not only does this seem right to me, it's also a good reminder that love is different every time. There are no defining elements.

    I am no expert on relationships, although I know a lot about failed ones. But I do know that love is nothing like you see in romantic comedies. For me, it's all about liking someone all the way through, and that doesn't happen very often. And it's about finding someone whose neuroses fit neatly with mine.

    I would say "you'll know it when you experience it" but that might not actually be true. I would just encourage you to keep your heart open and not spend too much time wondering if "this is it."
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
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    At 24 you barely know yourself and who you will become, let alone trying to figure out someone else.

    Don't worry and don't rush.
  • Ed98043
    Ed98043 Posts: 1,333 Member
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    I first fell in love at age 28. I'd had several boyfriends before that, even a live-in one and thought I loved him, but it wasn't until the real thing came along that I knew how blind I'd been. I think love is like an orgasm...if you're not sure you've had one, trust me - you haven't. You'll know.
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
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    OP said "I thought I was in love, but I was really in love with the idea of being in love."

    OP, if you still think romantic comedies are a good way to tell what love is, you are still in love with the idea of love.
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
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    At 24 you barely know yourself and who you will become, let alone trying to figure out someone else.

    Don't worry and don't rush.


    ^^^This Love is about being really patient, in all aspects of life
  • metaphoria
    metaphoria Posts: 1,432 Member
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    Real love doesn't come with a script.
  • Maribel_1986
    Maribel_1986 Posts: 457 Member
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    At 24 you barely know yourself and who you will become, let alone trying to figure out someone else.

    Don't worry and don't rush.

    ^^^ This :smile:
  • AhlaWahda
    AhlaWahda Posts: 189 Member
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    Some of your replies are really sweet and helpful and some are just inessential and patronizing.

    I think that before you respond and quote me, you should read all that I wrote.
    And just because you haven't lost sleep or appetite over someone, that doesn't mean it's not love for someone else.
    Some of you say to me that I'm in for a surprise and that I know nothing of love, only what I've seen in movies.
    Well, you're the narrow minded ones who can't realize that people love differently. There isn't a right or wrong way to do it.

    I don't have any expectations or hopes anymore when it comes to love. I thought I made that clear as well.
    I'm definitely not a stupid blue-eyed girl who sits at home watching romantic movies and dreaming of my chivalrous prince bursting through the door. You don't know anything about me. So now I've cleared that out.

    Thank you to those who contributed with your love stories and ideas of love without being patronizing or rude.
    I started this topic to have inputs and see if there were others like me out there. It wasn't a desperate cry for help. :-)
  • icandowhateveriputmymindto
    icandowhateveriputmymindto Posts: 602 Member
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    I've also fallen in love with the idea of being in love MULTIPLE times. *sigh*
  • Micahroni84
    Micahroni84 Posts: 452 Member
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    Love is what comes after infatuation. After the butterflies arent a constant feeling and their bad or annoying habits you previously overlooked or thought were so cute are now irritating but you don't bail over it. You stay because they are your best friend, because you want to be a better person because of them. You know you really love some one when you are willing to put in the work that every relationship needs to stay nourished and strong.
  • sd_dilligaf
    sd_dilligaf Posts: 146 Member
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    After many early loves and relationships, and now after 25 years of marriage to a wonderful woman, this is what I have learned, and really only in the context of my life:

    Love is not a feeling. Love is the minute by minute actions you take in response to another person with whom you have a relationship, partner or stranger.

    Attraction is the chemical/visual/pheromone stimulation that drives our desire for affectoin and contact.

    I know this because I have screwed it up and learned the hard way.

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