What makes a girl intimidating?

Lack of Liquor....

Hit the nail on the head! I think it has to do more with the guy than the girl ...

Also, what ACepero said.

If she can drop a bigger duece than I can....I'm intimidated.

Or possibly in love, not quite sure.

From what I understand about the basics of flirting, it's not the guy who's making the first move but the girl, who has to display her receptiveness to the guy. This is done by glancing over a few times and smiling. Once this is done the guy has the a-okay to move in.
However if that signal is not sent I can see where there might be some 'intimidation' factored in. Likewise if it's sent too over zealously. That's my guess anyways.

vascularity

Haha. I'm socially awkward and quite tall. I've definitely heard men tell me "Oh, well I thought you were a b1tch and you scared me". I think being shy, I might give off the "don't you dare talk to me" vibe and I also tend to just enjoy talking to my friends when I'm in bars. Height is also definitely a factor too. I don't think it's that dudes don't want to date me because I'm tall (if you correct me on that, I will throat punch you!). They usually think I only date taller guys, when in reality it doesn't matter.

Is it that dudes don't want to date you or they think you don't want to date them? Do you actually get turned down, and you think that's why?

I've heard the latter from guys, but the former could be true. OKC has these horrid statistics about how taller women get much fewer messages on their site. I don't get turned down because I don't ask. But I think it makes for being approached much less often. I think women dating shorter men is looked down upon (hehe), even though the majority of my longer-term relationships have been with men 3 - 4 inches shorter than me.

It's not fear or intimidation, unless you are swinging a machete with blood-crazed eyes.

It's a risk calculation.

- Does she have a stone face on? Bah, I'll go talk to someone else that wants to talk.
- Is she all dressed up in tight clothes, and I'm just a regular dude? She has no interest. I'll go talk to the girl next door.
- Tall girl? Women generally dslike shorter men, and while there may be exceptions, it's a bad risk for *me*.

Of course, the smart guys aren't afraid of a "no", will just say "screw it" and approach anyway.

I tend to not approach one that is screaming and holding a loaded gun.

JM

I think a womans Intimidation factor to a guy is very dependant on his own insecurity.

if a woman appears to be intimidating to the man, It usualy means that HE BELIEVES that the woman is above and possibly out of his league... too good for him, and his chances are slim to none of getting your attention. Even if this may not be the real case.

Alot of it has to do with the apearance, attitude, sucessfullness, ambition... if its all really good then it places a high value on her, making her seem possibly "out of reach."

I think a womans Intimidation factor to a guy is very dependant on his own insecurity.

if a woman appears to be intimidating to the man, It usualy means that HE BELIEVES that the woman is above and possibly out of his league... too good for him, and his chances are slim to none of getting your attention. Even if this may not be the real case.

Alot of it has to do with the apearance, attitude, sucessfullness, ambition... if its all really good then it places a high value on her, making her seem possibly "out of reach."

^^This!

A battle axe.

No! An electrified battle axe!

With 'go-faster stripes'.

If she can drop a bigger duece than I can....I'm intimidated.

Or possibly in love, not quite sure.

Women don't poop. Sheesh....what is this?

You're not intimidating, we're just nervous. Yes, there is a difference. We are nervous because we actually happen to like you enough to think things through, plan ahead and then make a calculated approach. We're nervous that the only chance we got with you might be wasted and so we fear rejection. I personally don't feel nervous anymore because frankly, I just don't find girls that I care for. I just walk up to them now and start talking.

Ladies, you want the guy to be nervous. This shows that he cares about you enough to feel nervous about possible rejection.

This is sort of what my issue is, but my nerves actually don't come from the women so much as my own situation.

I'll talk to just about anybody, but it's a different matter of talking to them with the hopes of it becoming something more than pleasant conversation to pass the time while I'm out in public, tonight.

I'm attracted to women who have a lot going for them and have that ability to be independent. However, that's also what can give me cold feet, especially now that most women my age are fairly established in their careers and lives.

Since I went onto Active Duty in the military back in 2006, there has never been a point in my career where I didn't have orders deploying me, transferring me to a base across the country, or even transferring me to a base in another conuntry, altogether- usually within a few months. Knowing that there's always caveat that I'm disappearing in a few months makes it hard for me to bite the bullet and take the chance and I usually get into the mindset of "why bother". It's hard to break that mindset when part of my mind is on an impending deployment or transfer (or my current situation- an upcoming transfer followed by a nearly immediate deployment). When Uncle Sam makes you a rolling stone, it can be hard to find another stone rolling in the same direction.

Well I have multiple strikes against me, according to this thread! People (male, female, friends, romantic partners) have told me my whole life that I'm intimidating. I went on a first date with a guy and he honestly said to me "Man, you're tough". (He was shorter and smaller than me. ha!)

I think it is because of lots of reasons, and those reasons have changed over the years. First off, I am tall and have a large frame. I never used to smile and I had super short wacky colored hair and lots of face piercings (everyone thought I was a lesbian, idiots). Now, I have muscles, and I am kinda hot, thanks to cycling. I love outdoor activities and trying any sport. I don't have a PhD, but I do have a master's degree, in science. I drink beer, especially IPAs. I am confident. I am independent.

So I went from being overweight, out of shape, angry, all the time and never smiling to being athletic and toned, confident, happy, well educated, and constantly smiling. Still intimidating, but hopefully more approachable! lol

Look......I hate the term as well. It was reserved for bi and lesbian community for a while to know who was gay or not. Apparently i give off a vibe. Honestly several men/women say that i'm intimidating simply because I do martial arts and look confident. Then if you talk to me for about 2 minutes. I'll dork out on something and then all intimidation is lost.

Yes, I would love to know...........I'm a teddy bear i swear. I apparently have "swag" and guys/girls get intimidated. I'm really just a dork.....merp.

youre lucky youre young.

else i would have reported you to the authorities for using the term "swag"

I've been told that my height is intimidating.