What makes a girl intimidating?

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  • funforsports
    funforsports Posts: 2,656 Member
    The difference between confidence & cocky. Co dependent screams "RUN", but when a girl is overly self absorbed you have to ask yourself "is this really worth the drama?"

    But if you find a woman who is approachable, yet confident. The fear of rejection is immediately outweighed by the want to be in her company.

    that was sweet :flowerforyou:


    I'm not a guy but I heard girls who travel in "packs" are much less likely to be approached.. I mean, they do want to speak to you, just not your entourage.

    Very true, it is hard to approach a girl when there is 4 or more girls standing in a circle. So much easier when there is 2 or 3 girls relaxing and having fun. Guys fear rejection but guys fear rejection in front of 4 other girls a lot more.
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member
    I think a common trend here is that shy and/or tall girls come off as intimidating. I have been told many times by guys that I am intimidating and that is why they don't approach me. But they can never tell me WHY they thought I was intimidating. At my age it is hard for most to believe that I have only had drinks bought for me a few times in my life. I don't purposely attempt to appear intimidating so I think it is just my shyness and being a bit tall for a woman. To counteract this I hardly ever wear heels, but it doesn't seem to matter. I can't change my inherent shyness in social situations.

    Guys, what is the worst that can happen? A woman says she is involved with someone? Or not interested? Some men act like that is the worst thing in the world but what if that girl you are afraid to approach is the perfect match for you? Now you've lost the opportunity to meet by not talking to her. I bet most of the women you think are unapproachable or intimidating are just waiting for someone to talk to them.

    personally the worse thing a woman can do when i approach her is to for her to be strong enough to break the rope i tie her up with and escape from the trunk

    other than that i agree with you
  • kwilliams386
    kwilliams386 Posts: 156 Member
    So, its normal for guys to be afraid to approach a girl. Guys, just curious, what makes some girls more intimidating than others?

    I have never been afraid. I will talk to anyone anywhere anytime. Its what I am striving to teach my son. Am I a flirt? Probably, but its harmless. I like to make people smile. I go out of my way to make women in general smile. In my life (35 years so far) I find that if you make them smile, even if for a minute, they will be more likely to respond. Beauty can be intimidating, but I have found that the more attractive someone is, the lonelier they are. Sure, they get a lot of attention, but how much of that is someone trying to get them in bed? Or just trying to make them smile?

    THIS! I love that! I get told I am intimadating a lot! I don't get it. I guess I must look like a cocky crazy *****. If someone does talk to me they start with " you are so pretty." or something to that effect. I hate that! I don't respond well to that at all. That to me IS saying you just want to sleep with me. I have been single for 3 years. I have been trying to date but I HATE it. I ride and it bugs me when guys say " wow,cool. I am too scared to ride." I also like to go shooting and own my own firearms but if a guy says " I am scared of guns." It's such a turn off. As someone said before, having things in common makes it easier. I don't expect every guy to ride, but don't sound like a ***** and say you're scared!

    *note to guys* The BIGGEST reason I turn guys down "due to looks." I like a clean shaven guy, or neatly trimmed. I do not like the wild man face! Also, BAD BREATH! So many guys have nasty yellow teeth and bad breath. YUCK! I take care of myself, you should too. It comes down to the small things..
  • AltaicaTigre
    AltaicaTigre Posts: 1,597 Member
    kneesocks.......just sayin........

    Well I wasn't intimdated by you before... now..

    Is it cause I kicked you in the other thread? :devil:

    Yeah, pretty much, getting kicked with B**** socks will do that lol
  • milf_n_cookies
    milf_n_cookies Posts: 2,244 Member
    kneesocks.......just sayin........

    Well I wasn't intimdated by you before... now..

    Is it cause I kicked you in the other thread? :devil:

    Yeah, pretty much, getting kicked with B**** socks will do that lol

    awwww :smooched: todays socks have Hello Kitty on them, less scary? LOL :flowerforyou:
  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    caulk
  • AltaicaTigre
    AltaicaTigre Posts: 1,597 Member
    kneesocks.......just sayin........

    Well I wasn't intimdated by you before... now..

    Is it cause I kicked you in the other thread? :devil:

    awwww :smooched: todays socks have Hello Kitty on them, less scary? LOL :flowerforyou:
    Yeah, pretty much, getting kicked with B**** socks will do that lol

    Much better, take a pic of those and I'll lick... err I mean like all day long (tee hee)
  • kahdxoom
    kahdxoom Posts: 129
    confidence
  • kwilliams386
    kwilliams386 Posts: 156 Member
    Confidence~Men seem too have too much or too little. Woman want too know if they need you they will be protected at any cost and most men cant find an even ground with it. Theres no black and white. I need too know your going too be there and if your meek, keep it moving

    Independence~We have more than most men. We generally move away from home and lots of men stay at home with ther momies for far too long

    Respect~We whoo men, Lots of times they want us too whoo them. Errrrt sorry, Wine and dine us boys

    This is definitely my issue in dating!
  • migueltavares
    migueltavares Posts: 122
    Eyes.
  • phoenix_59
    phoenix_59 Posts: 1,123
    to me......not a thing!
  • rockangel8907
    rockangel8907 Posts: 429 Member
    I think a common trend here is that shy and/or tall girls come off as intimidating. I have been told many times by guys that I am intimidating and that is why they don't approach me. But they can never tell me WHY they thought I was intimidating. At my age it is hard for most to believe that I have only had drinks bought for me a few times in my life. I don't purposely attempt to appear intimidating so I think it is just my shyness and being a bit tall for a woman. To counteract this I hardly ever wear heels, but it doesn't seem to matter. I can't change my inherent shyness in social situations.

    Guys, what is the worst that can happen? A woman says she is involved with someone? Or not interested? Some men act like that is the worst thing in the world but what if that girl you are afraid to approach is the perfect match for you? Now you've lost the opportunity to meet by not talking to her. I bet most of the women you think are unapproachable or intimidating are just waiting for someone to talk to them.
    I get the same excuse....I'm tired of it, I'm not intimidating...I am shy I rarely do the approaching, I'm too afraid to be rejected.
  • bunbunzee44
    bunbunzee44 Posts: 592 Member
    whatever I do or look like must be, since not many men have approached me in my life time :bigsmile:
    I don't think my hubs would have approached me either if it wasn't for a mutual friend that got us talking :P
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Instead of worrying if and why a guy thinks you are intimidating try stepping up and be willing to reach out yourself.
    I thought we were supposed to be beyond all this "he has to chase me" stuff.
  • LauraJo08
    LauraJo08 Posts: 219 Member
    From my experience, I am intimidating for three main reasons, some of which have been echoed here:

    1. I am tall. Yes, I am 5'10, yes that is 1 inch taller than the average american male. I also don't date guys shorter than 6 ft, so whatever. I think that it works to me advantage in terms of the type of guys that approach me because I have found from talking to male friends that guys who only date really shorter girls most likely find physical domination necessary in a relationship, and I have no interest in being with a guy who finds it essential to be able to overpower a woman.

    2. I can run farther/lift more that many guys. Yup, I'm an athlete, and I can keep up with the football players training for their pro days at my bootcamp gym. I refuse to lower myself to boost the egos of men. If that intimidates them, fine.

    3. Intelligence. However, just like #1, it weeds out the ****ty matches. I start med school in the fall, and at bars I quickly learned to say "grad school," My friends in law school have the same experience. Women entering fields with positions of power are intimidating, but if a guy doesn't care for that, then I would never consider him anyway.
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member
    what about an even 6ft tall gent?
  • buffybabe
    buffybabe Posts: 180 Member
    I want to know as well. I have been told more than once that I was intimidating...
  • admanMike
    admanMike Posts: 371 Member
    A girl who does not smile or make eye contact.
  • phoenix_59
    phoenix_59 Posts: 1,123
    a man should never be intimidated by a woman....better check your testosterone levels fellas
  • DebRHCP
    DebRHCP Posts: 8 Member
    Not typically intimated approaching a female. I actually find it a challenge to approach one that gives off the "I'm too good to talk to you vibe"

    Shouldn't be such of a game, but at times it is.


    Why would you even want to approach a girl that gives off that vibe?!!?!?
    Im the queen of giving off that vibe. Im really shy and dont like embarrassing myself in public. If someone can break through my wall Im very friendly. Just because someone looks stuck up, doesnt mean they are.

    omg same thing with me soul sister

    Me too. People think I don't like them because I tend to be quiet around new people and it is hard to get to know people if they think you don't like them. :(
  • CrazyTrackLady
    CrazyTrackLady Posts: 1,337 Member
    My profile says it all.
  • ThisGirl2013
    ThisGirl2013 Posts: 220 Member
    I find that covering myself with spikes and leather is a good way to keep the boys at bay. And the ones that aren't intimidated by that are exactly the kind of guy I'd like to get to know.

    *YES*!!!
  • pawnstarNate
    pawnstarNate Posts: 1,728 Member
    I'm really just too scared to say
  • icmuse
    icmuse Posts: 263 Member
    a girl that is a badass with an awesome sense of humor and lots of smarts

    ^^^ exactly!:wink:
  • amazon35
    amazon35 Posts: 98 Member
    One of my favorite quotes:

    "There's something about a woman who wants you but doesn't need you" :heart:

    THATS THE ANSWER!!!! And for me i'm 6ft! HA but the funny thing is short men LOVE ME have no issue what so ever! Go figure
  • csuhar
    csuhar Posts: 779 Member
    Guys, what is the worst that can happen? A woman says she is involved with someone? Or not interested? Some men act like that is the worst thing in the world but what if that girl you are afraid to approach is the perfect match for you? Now you've lost the opportunity to meet by not talking to her. I bet most of the women you think are unapproachable or intimidating are just waiting for someone to talk to them.

    Well, now I’ve got two voices going on in my head. One of them agrees with you. After all, the worst that can happen is you just end up in the relationship status you were already in.


    However, on multiple occasions during in my younger years, I was actually the one being approached (I can’t believe I found it annoying back then). So the other voice is screaming out “Well that’s easy for you to say! By this paradigm, you’re just fielding the men make an approach, just like the information kiosk in a mall. There isn't as much invested on your part. HE is the one who has to build himself up, develop the initiative, make the approach and then, after already making all that effort on behalf of one specific girl, risk getting turned away.”

    That’s where the matter of “what the last girl said” comes into play. If a guy keeps building up his energy, only to be shot down time and again, it gets tiring, just like any other failed endeavors in life. Sure, you can pick yourself up and try again, but sometimes you get to the "that's enough for now" point and take a break. The annoyance of dealing with unwanted approaches was much more fleeting than the ego beating of approaching a woman and knowing that, to paraphrase a movie, I had been weighed, I had been measured, and I had been found wanting.


    That’s why I think many of us go to the “just talk to them” approach. Back in college, I was frequently thwarted by the “boyfriend back home” situation, so I used the “just casually talk” method as a way to sniff out long-distance boyfriends. If they had one, I would continue to be my awesome self, but she had to dump him before I would apply for the position. But the issue remains that, if you look like you don’t want to talk, I’m more likely to approach someone who does.


    I have a similar issue of being intimidating. On my first day of High School back in 1998, my lab partner was worried that I was a big bruiser. I was over 6’ tall, probably near 200lbs, and I’m not always the most talkative person. But pre- and post-class talks, plus a few other shared classes turned into playing chess at lunch, and we’ve been friends ever since. What I learned is that, now I’m 6’2”, 230 lbs, and have probably a gruffer image courtesy of the military (I’ll stare down just about anybody), it is important for me to send out occasional “sonar pings”, if you will. I’ll make a passing comment about something on the television or something happening nearby and see if anyone responds. When I greet people, I’ll ask “how are you doing today” and actually respond to their answer. All of this is a great way to start small talk, but I recognized I needed to take that action so people could understand “hey, this guy’s open to talking, and he’s not going to bite my head off.”
  • Maryaly40
    Maryaly40 Posts: 551 Member
    bump
  • nyssalynne
    nyssalynne Posts: 22
    Guys, what is the worst that can happen? A woman says she is involved with someone? Or not interested? Some men act like that is the worst thing in the world but what if that girl you are afraid to approach is the perfect match for you? Now you've lost the opportunity to meet by not talking to her. I bet most of the women you think are unapproachable or intimidating are just waiting for someone to talk to them.


    That’s where the matter of “what the last girl said” comes into play. If a guy keeps building up his energy, only to be shot down time and again, it gets tiring, just like any other failed endeavors in life. Sure, you can pick yourself up and try again, but sometimes you get to the "that's enough for now" point and take a break. The annoyance of dealing with unwanted approaches was much more fleeting than the ego beating of approaching a woman and knowing that, to paraphrase a movie, I had been weighed, I had been measured, and I had been found wanting.


    Points well taken and appreciated.

    Something to consider...if a man keeps getting shot down when approaching women could it be the type of woman he is choosing to approach or maybe his method of communication?

    Opinions? Thoughts?
  • RECowgill
    RECowgill Posts: 881 Member
    She is beautiful when I am not. :ohwell:
  • nitrogen_widget
    nitrogen_widget Posts: 92 Member
    Women with big bulky purses intimidate me.
    Those things can hold tazers. :)

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