DEAL BREAKERS for dating

j4nash
j4nash Posts: 1,719 Member
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What are your deal breakers for dating?

For me:

1) Career - if you don't have one, not interested.
2) Entitled - if you're looking for nothing more than someone to take care of you, not interested.
3) Selfish
4) Party girl
5) Lack of Intelligence

Beyond that is comes down to chemistry. Interested to hear yours.
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  • RGv2
    RGv2 Posts: 5,789 Member
    Hobbies. I'm active. I love to Ski and love outdoor hockey. Need someone that can keep up.
  • mrphil86
    mrphil86 Posts: 2,382 Member
    A constant rabble then laughing after everything you say.

    This annoys me.
  • Lift_This_
    Lift_This_ Posts: 2,756 Member
    at first i could look past these issues...but now they are total deal breakers for me:

    1. no job. i work hard, but not hard enough to support your broke *kitten*
    2. no car. thats self explanatory
    3. Drinks way too much. a drink here or there is fine...a 12 pack in one sitting...not my cup of tea
    4. no ambition. goes along with #1.
  • foxro
    foxro Posts: 793 Member
    Some of these qualify for marriage deal breakers too.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    nothing was a "deal breaker" for me. why eliminate someone based solely on a trait, or situation?


    if the chemistry was great, then i think was more likely to overlook things that would normally annoy me.

    ETA: major things like murderer, thief, etc. are obviously "deal breakers" I meant I was less discerning when i was dating
  • __RANDY__
    __RANDY__ Posts: 1,036 Member
    nail biting
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    Career - if you don't have one, not interested.
    Baby mama drama
    Bad credit
    Prison time
    Politically extreme on any end
    failure to worship me
    bad breath
    greasy
    use the phrase "Do what"
    ask to "Cyber"
  • KML617
    KML617 Posts: 220 Member
    I think mine are pretty standard. But there was a time I let a lot of these slide.. no more!

    1. Ambition / Goals... I need someone who is going somewhere in life not just sitting around watching it go by

    2. Ability to support yourself... This may be as simple as a job! I can support myself, I don't need to support you too (should be a mutal thing

    3. Warmth / Compassion... I need someone who is not afraid to show they care.

    4. Respect... Respect me and treat me right, Don't expect me to be sitting around waiting for you at your beck and call. I will return the favor

    5. Takes Care of Youself... This could mean a lot of things but basically I don't want a slob who eats crap and sits around all day long doing nothing.
  • LoveCR22
    LoveCR22 Posts: 75 Member
    1 - Drug users.
    2 - Has kids.
    3 - Over 30 and still living with parents.
    4 - Not knowing the difference between "There, Their & They're"
  • _DaniD_
    _DaniD_ Posts: 2,186 Member
    pot head women

    I'm out
  • Brownsbacker4evr
    Brownsbacker4evr Posts: 365 Member
    My only deal breaker is not having a pulse.
  • Kelley528
    Kelley528 Posts: 319 Member
    My deal breakers:

    No career.
    Financially irresponsible.
    Drugs of any kind.
    Wants to hang out in bars.
    At this point in my life I dont want anyone divorced or with children. In 15 yrs I wouldnt care.
  • amanda1266
    amanda1266 Posts: 17
    My deal breaker is and always has been, a smoker. That is something I definitely could never get past.
  • mrphil86
    mrphil86 Posts: 2,382 Member
    pot head women

    I'm out

    How YOU doin?
  • Kerilynnda
    Kerilynnda Posts: 129 Member
    Definitely have some: (I think most people have deal breakers... of course there are always exceptions to the dealbreaker)

    1. No job
    2. Horrible money spending habits (if you decide to marry the person it will in the end affect you)
    3. Bad kisser
    4. If a man has children and isn't an involved father
    5. Lacks ambition
  • RedHotHunter
    RedHotHunter Posts: 560 Member
    Bad teeth
    No job
    Drugs
    And strangely... a workaholic or someone that only thinks about money (balance is important)

    Heart, eyes, chemistry is what will either make it or break IMHO
  • patrickblo13
    patrickblo13 Posts: 831 Member
    pot head women

    That's a must have for me!
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Prison record mostly.

    What can I say, low standards.
  • kaylaandthestarcatcher
    kaylaandthestarcatcher Posts: 836
    Not liking cats is a huge deal breaker for me.
  • cwanek726
    cwanek726 Posts: 98 Member
    Only one - asking me out via text.
  • Im_NotPerfect
    Im_NotPerfect Posts: 2,181 Member
    1) Self Reliance (must have it). Don't expect ME to support you and pick out your clothes!
    2) Tobacco Chewing :sick:
    3) Crudeness. I was taught to act like a lady, therefore I expect to be treated like one.
    4) Height....has to be at least as tall as I am (I'm 5'9")
  • SlickFootAnna
    SlickFootAnna Posts: 611 Member
    - Lack of a sense of humor
    - Drugs
    - Lack of intelligence
    - No career
    - Doesn't like to travel
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    Self-entitled.
    No decent career.
    Lack of intelligence.
    Low sex drive.
    Hypocritical.
    Shorter than 5"8'.
  • Grumpy2208
    Grumpy2208 Posts: 63
    I stopped dating married men as being married myself, it was taking too much out of my time organising meets etc etc
    Now I stick with the single guys - less hassle.













    Only kidding ;-)
  • LauraJo08
    LauraJo08 Posts: 219 Member
    My friends say that I am extremely picky, so other than essential ones like no prison time, no kids, and a job/car, here are my slightly silly ones:

    1. At least 6 ft tall...anything shorter and I can't wear my favorite boots.
    2. If I can run a mile faster than you. That means less than 6:45, which I don't think is TOO difficult for a man.
    3. Smoking. Yuck. #sorryI'mnotsorry
    4. Misogyny/rape jokes/shallowness/etc. Anything that promotes gender inequality or rape culture, and a perfect 10 on my scale becomes a no go.
    5. Social conservatives.
    6. And for long term dating, I always make sure that a guy has a similar lifestyle idea to mine ie careers for both of us, kids, equal parenting, traveling, etc.
  • MidwestAngel
    MidwestAngel Posts: 1,897 Member
    Must NOT be a liar

    There are others, I just don't feel like typing them right now.
  • j4zepedajj
    j4zepedajj Posts: 70
    I agree with J4Nash... I have had too many GF's who didn't elevate my life.. Not to say that its her responsibility to.. BUT I also dont want someone to be a boat anchor and not let me be me... Its should be a give and take.. 50-50... Unfortunately I havent found that
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    1. Ambition - you have to have some. your career doesn't have to be perfect, but you have to have an idea of where you want to be/go and how you think you will achieve it.

    2. Hygiene - you have to have an understanding of cleanliness.

    3. General idea about life/goals/plans - you have to have a subscribed theory, it doesn't have to match mine, but it has to be compatible at main points. You have to have your own ideas about life and where you fit/purpose. I don't want someone that constantly says "what do you think, whatever you think is what I'll go with." I'm sorry, i don't want to do your thinking for you.

    4. Social awareness - being awkward, quirky or cute is fun, but I do need you to be socially aware. At least enough that we can go out to social functions (which I often have to attend) and I don't have to worry about you or leaving you alone for five minutes.

    if you don't have those...i'm sorry you are out.
  • MM_1982
    MM_1982 Posts: 374
    Pretty awkward feeling when a lot of people's 'deal breakers' are my 'must haves'
  • alychil820
    alychil820 Posts: 219 Member
    1) Smokers. I'm so against smoking, and I couldn't date someone who smoked cigarettes.
    2) Lack of ambition
    3) Homophobic/Misogynistic/Racist/Classist/Narrow minded
    4) Homebody. I'm adventurous, and I want to be with someone who wants to travel, hike, camp, and doesn't mind leaving their creature comforts for a while
    5) Anyone who doesn't treat their mom with respect. That says a lot about a man, because if you don't treat your mom well, how are you going to treat someone who DIDN'T give birth and raise you?

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