Online Dating, Yay or Nay

I still have no idea how someone could possibly gleam any sort of attitude from 30s worth of conversation but if you want to swear to it fine. I'm sure tons can be read in to, "Hi my name is Will." Speaks volumes. Pretty much sums up my entire being. Seriously. It doesn't get past that. There has to be a looks based reason. Especially when all around women are talking to more fit guys. Seriously, was their approach different? Did they say "hello" different? You people have no clue what you're talking about.

Dude, you seriously need to stop talking. Looks are purely subjective. What one finds attractive, another does not. It is very easy to take what you don't like about yourself and assign that as the reason for all of your woes. Hell, I have zero luck with women. I'm not great looking, so it would be easy to blame it on that. But I'm not really bad looking either, so that's prolly not the case. I have a great job, own my home, my car, my truck, my motorcycle, all that jazz. I could easily blame it on my having two kids, but the fact that my I am actually raising my kids as a single dad generally turns that into a plus in more womens book that you would imagine.

Nope, what it all boils down to is personality. The fact is that I am just so shy that I can't have a conversation with someone I don't really know. And that keeps me from meeting people. Now I have never seen you anywhere but this thread. But to be honest, your personality sucks. You believe you will be rejected based on your looks. I can promise you that comes across in your body language, and not many women are going to find that attractive.

Both of my parents (after they divorced) signed up for pof.com (plenty of fish). Both of them found nice people, my dad is still with the first woman he found, but it took my mom quite a few dates to find a nice guy and this one she has now seems very nice! *Beware my mom received quite a few "gross" messages*

No luck with online dating yet... most people vanish when they find out I'm in a wheelchair. As in, conversation is going well, everything seems cool, then I casually mention this, and... no more responses. Yikes. And those who aren't scared by it don't end up being a match in the long term.

Still waiting for the one...

Ouch, yep that's a fail when people drop off the face of the earth because of the minor details. I've met so many folks from all sorts of backgrounds, personal issues, health and physical disabilities, but that should never make them that less of an attraction or less of a person to know, converse with, etc.

BTW, what's caused you to be in a wheelchair if you don't mind me asking. I hope you have a great bunch of love ones and unconditional support.

So I recently received some very sound advice from a friend of mine. They suggested that I should start looking at dating NOW during this process that way I can weed out the ones who like me for me and not for my being skinny when I reach my goal.

there are so many things wrong with this that I don't even know where to start. :noway:

as far as the online dating . . . I've never done it . . . intentionally. I met my boyfriend here. We have common interests and similar personalities. Neither of us was looking to meet someone. That's usually the best approach IMO.

Love this girl!...and no, I'm not her boyfriend, though I live about ten miles from him. Two more absolutely incredible people you'll not likely find.

To the OP...when it comes to online dating...here are my ONLY real experiences...over the last two years.

First girl, lived 158 miles from my front door. I spent three months driving there and back at minimum one, but usually two or more times a week. Then I found out she was a prostitute.

Second girl, almost a year later. Literally perfect for three weeks. I guess the moon phase changed or something though, because then she went psycho bipolar (still doesn't seem to have recovered from that), dumped me, slept with some guy two days later, and spent the next three months trying to get me back (including the month she was dating him).

Third girl, we met...seemed incredibly sweet, went over to her house to watch movies, went home. Nothing else happened. A couple days later I was attacked via myspace message by her ex GIRLFRIEND who'd found out about me by hacking her email...for 'f*cking the love of her life'. Apparently, the girl was a lesbian who'd invited me over specifically for sex (that didn't work out so well)...just so she could be absolutely sure whether she was gay or not. We're actually pretty good friends now though.

Other than that, I've been literally pretty much ignored. I got messages once in awhile...usually from women I had no real attraction to (and before you call me shallow, there's a HOST of reasons for no attraction...appearance is just one of them). On occasion I got a message from a girl I WOULD be attracted to, but she invariably ended up a flake (as in...I'm not even sure why she was on the site...no interest in meeting, no interest in really talking...uhh...why the eff did you send the initial message?!). The messages I've sent out, were almost universally deleted without being read. I've never learned why. I'm not boring, I'm pretty good at holding a conversation as a matter of fact. I don't think I'm ugly...though only Jac might call me pretty. I never have figured it out. Now understand...I doubt there's anyone on this message board (except a young lady named Shiboshi), who would accuse me of having a negative, or poor attitude...so that's certainly not going to be it. In the end I've started to feel that it absolutely does comes down to attraction as well, but not just based on looks. Most (sane) women just don't seem to be interested in what I'm wanting to give.

Such is life.

But don't let my experiences dissuade you. Eventually I'll find the right kind of psycho (that seems to be all my pond is stocked with...you make do with what you're given lol) for me, I'm sure of it...and I'm sure you will too .

So I recently received some very sound advice from a friend of mine. They suggested that I should start looking at dating NOW during this process that way I can weed out the ones who like me for me and not for my being skinny when I reach my goal.

there are so many things wrong with this that I don't even know where to start. :noway:

as far as the online dating . . . I've never done it . . . intentionally. I met my boyfriend here. We have common interests and similar personalities. Neither of us was looking to meet someone. That's usually the best approach IMO.

Love this girl!...and no, I'm not her boyfriend, though I live about ten miles from him. Two more absolutely incredible people you'll not likely find.

To the OP...when it comes to online dating...here are my ONLY real experiences...over the last two years.

First girl, lived 158 miles from my front door. I spent three months driving there and back at minimum one, but usually two or more times a week. Then I found out she was a prostitute.

Second girl, almost a year later. Literally perfect for three weeks. I guess the moon phase changed or something though, because then she went psycho bipolar (still doesn't seem to have recovered from that), dumped me, slept with some guy two days later, and spent the next three months trying to get me back (including the month she was dating him).

Third girl, we met...seemed incredibly sweet, went over to her house to watch movies, went home. Nothing else happened. A couple days later I was attacked via myspace message by her ex GIRLFRIEND who'd found out about me by hacking her email...for 'f*cking the love of her life'. Apparently, the girl was a lesbian who'd invited me over specifically for sex (that didn't work out so well)...just so she could be absolutely sure whether she was gay or not.

Other than that, I've been literally pretty much ignored. I got messages once in awhile...usually from women I had no real attraction to (and before you call me shallow, there's a HOST of reasons for no attraction...appearance is just one of them). On occasion I got a message from a girl I WOULD be attracted to, but she invariably ended up a flake (as in...I'm not even sure why she was on the site...no interest in meeting, no interest in really talking...uhh...why the eff did you send the initial message?!). The messages I've sent out, were almost universally deleted without being read. I've never learned why. I'm not boring, I'm pretty good at holding a conversation as a matter of fact. I don't think I'm ugly...though only Jac might call me pretty. I never have figured it out. Now understand...I doubt there's anyone on this message board (except a young lady named Shiboshi), who would accuse me of having a negative, or poor attitude...so that's certainly not going to be it. In the end I've started to feel that it absolutely does comes down to attraction as well, but not just based on looks. Most (sane) women just don't seem to be interested in what I'm wanting to give.

Such is life.

But don't let my experiences dissuade you. Eventually I'll find the right kind of psycho (that seems to be all my pond is stocked with...you make do with what you're given lol) for me, I'm sure of it...and I'm sure you will too .

Dude...i'd totally date you....for realz....there's just the really really itchy issue of distance.....so I shelved that thought....

but I thought it....do I get points?

Online dating for men: Send out 10,000 letters. Get one response.

Online dating for women: Receive 10,000 letters. Respond to only hottest guys.

There's definitely a huge exaggeration here, but I can sense where you are going with this. There's some truth here, but you should learn from it and not complain about it.

Any halfway decent looking female is going to get inundated with tons of emails, that's a fact. Knowing this, why even play the game? Focus on meeting women where the odds are in your favor, this can mean the dog park, grocery store, upscale bar, etc. Go to a dog park, introduce yourself, and talk about your dogs. It takes some balls, but your odds are MUCH better than online dating.

I'm not going to "poo poo" online dating because I've met some pretty awesome people (some even turned out to be good friends) off of there. But, online dating is like going to a sports bar. There's a ton of males all competing for a few decent looking women who happen to be at the bar that night.

Get offline and get a dog.

just discovered this gem online

Title: How To Win at Online Dating

In the spirit of these blogs, I present to you a .Gif post of my successful, patent pending approach to dating.

First, sign up for an online dating site because you have trouble meeting people sober and you LOVE the internet.



Mostly because your social graces aren’t exactly polished



So you try to write yourself a profile that highlights how awesome you are



Then you show it to your friends for a second opinion (or, let’s be honest, to tell you how great your profile is, you witty genius you)



Start looking up matches, overwhelmed by cute guys



Find one that’s really cute



Send him a ‘Flirt’ and feel really awesome about how confident you are making the first move



Wait for his message



Fight the desire to e-stalk him based on his profile info



Finally get a message back



It’s one sentence and he misspells 50% of the words in it



Decide you’re too cool for him anyway



Keep’ looking till you find someone better. Someone like



the end

CLASSIC ... LOL

No luck with online dating yet... most people vanish when they find out I'm in a wheelchair. As in, conversation is going well, everything seems cool, then I casually mention this, and... no more responses. Yikes. And those who aren't scared by it don't end up being a match in the long term.

Still waiting for the one...

Ouch, yep that's a fail when people drop off the face of the earth because of the minor details. I've met so many folks from all sorts of backgrounds, personal issues, health and physical disabilities, but that should never make them that less of an attraction or less of a person to know, converse with, etc.

BTW, what's caused you to be in a wheelchair if you don't mind me asking. I hope you have a great bunch of love ones and unconditional support.

I was born with Spina Bifida. The way I was raised I was not consciously aware of being handicapped because I was not treated in such a way, or told I couldn't do something because of it - to this day I rarely, if ever, think about it and just roll (no pun intended) with it.

So when I'm writing these online dating profiles, since my handicap doesn't define me, and doesn't effect my life in any major way, I don't really feel it's necessary to delve so deep into it, thinking that people would not be so weird about it, since I myself don't make it a big deal. I don't view my wheelchair as a tool - to me it is a physical part of me, so I don't think about it much.

I'm fat.

All the ladies on my friends list want me...it's ridic how much I have to fend them off...

But, my attitude for the most part is awesome...

it's the truth....

we FALL over ourselves to get to Tyler.....(sorry Dani...just.....sorry...)

Back the FCK up bishes!!!!

MINE.