Why do people say men and women can't be platonic friends?

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  • andrederosier
    andrederosier Posts: 121 Member
    It is possible to some degree. Made some female friends in past when 1 of us were in a relationship. Some how you chat and they get dirt on you. Then later when you are both available and think about a relationship (sexual), you realize what they know about you and debate screwing up that relationship and them unloading all that ammo.
  • Lazygal53
    Lazygal53 Posts: 294 Member
    This is a very common delusion. Women simply don't understand the male mind. We do nothing for women without at least a 0.5% hope that sex will come of it.

    so you're saying that when i was in high school and i went over to my grandmother's home every week during the summer to mow her lawn for her, i was secretly hoping to have sex with her?

    :noway:

    you are sick in your head.

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
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    Her

    :shrug:

    Don't know her.

    I guess I can still say Happy B-day.
    Me.

    ya know, the one who asked for the meme in the first place.


    The one with Lea...in her name.


    Mind=Blown.

    Wait. People look at the names of the posters? Meh. I just read the posts unless I see something interesting, Also, I still don't know you. I know who you are, I just don't know you. See the difference? :shrug: I'll follow whichever tack a discussion goes
  • underwater77
    underwater77 Posts: 331 Member
    I have a lot of guy friends. Actually, most of them are all married by now, but we've all been friends for 20 years. They have amazing wives who are completely understanding of our friendships. Never hooked up with any of them. Some of the guy friends I have met later in life didn't work out so much as friends, some have. Either way, I certainly think it is possible, but I also see how lines can get a little skewed. If there is any physical attraction, it is difficult, IMO.
  • strippedandvital
    strippedandvital Posts: 32 Member
    Platonic: of, relating to, or being a relationship marked by the absence of romance or sex.

    Everyone saying they are platonic friends with people they are sexually attracted to is kind of missing the point. Once one of you wants to bang the other, it's no longer platonic.
  • angmarie28
    angmarie28 Posts: 2,895 Member
    I think men and women can be just friends, I have plenty of male friends, I get along better with guys, and hubbys best friend is a chick, and has a couple other female friends.
  • OneEyeUp
    OneEyeUp Posts: 373 Member
    What a paragon of virtue you are.


    You've been playing too much Mass Effect. Lovely game btw.
  • OneEyeUp
    OneEyeUp Posts: 373 Member
    Platonic: of, relating to, or being a relationship marked by the absence of romance or sex.

    Everyone saying they are platonic friends with people they are sexually attracted to is kind of missing the point. Once one of you wants to bang the other, it's no longer platonic.

    Love it. A logical mind.
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    pp2Bitd.jpg?2
    Her

    :shrug:

    Don't know her.

    I guess I can still say Happy B-day.
    Me.

    ya know, the one who asked for the meme in the first place.


    The one with Lea...in her name.


    Mind=Blown.

    If we were friends, I would know. But that can't be possible because apparently, I would just want to bang you and would shower you with false praise and gifts to get you to succumb and discover my many charms or some such nonsense.
  • Iron_Feline
    Iron_Feline Posts: 10,750 Member
    Platonic: of, relating to, or being a relationship marked by the absence of romance or sex.

    Everyone saying they are platonic friends with people they are sexually attracted to is kind of missing the point. Once one of you wants to bang the other, it's no longer platonic.

    Wanting to is not the same as doing - there is still the absence of romance or sex.
  • strippedandvital
    strippedandvital Posts: 32 Member
    Platonic: of, relating to, or being a relationship marked by the absence of romance or sex.

    Everyone saying they are platonic friends with people they are sexually attracted to is kind of missing the point. Once one of you wants to bang the other, it's no longer platonic.

    Wanting to is not the same as doing - there is still the absence of romance or sex.

    Riiight... so the person who goes home & masturbates thinking about their "totally platonic friend" who they aren't actually having sex with is just a platonic friend?? Sure.
  • foxro
    foxro Posts: 793 Member
    We are surrounded in a natural eco-system that breathes sex. As the creator said, go forth and multiply. This notion pexplexes the athiests. Men and women are meant to be together, but once together, true to each other. Sex is the bond, the love, the trust. Sure men and women can be friends, but we are driven to love, go on, and have kids. Nothing wrong with that at all. Gay folks the same, the need for trust and bonding. So who wants to fight me on this...putim up :laugh:

    I don't want kids - where does that put me on your "we are driven" theory?

    So you don't want sex then ? Do you say you are above the animals and your biology does not drive you to have sex ?
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    Platonic: of, relating to, or being a relationship marked by the absence of romance or sex.

    Everyone saying they are platonic friends with people they are sexually attracted to is kind of missing the point. Once one of you wants to bang the other, it's no longer platonic.

    Wanting to is not the same as doing - there is still the absence of romance or sex.

    ^ This. Want =/= Doing.
  • Sarauk2sf
    Sarauk2sf Posts: 28,072 Member
    Platonic: of, relating to, or being a relationship marked by the absence of romance or sex.

    Everyone saying they are platonic friends with people they are sexually attracted to is kind of missing the point. Once one of you wants to bang the other, it's no longer platonic.

    Wanting to is not the same as doing - there is still the absence of romance or sex.

    Mens rea, actus reus.
  • amandapye78
    amandapye78 Posts: 820 Member
    I have had a hard time keeping male friends, because they always seem to want something more. I think ( may be wrong) that women can be friends with a man but not vice versa, at least that has been my experience.
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    Yeah. I'm betting this will be locked down by the time I get home. I can hear the "Ride of the Valkyries" building to a crescendo already. I LOVE THE SMELL OF NAPALM IN THE MORNING. IT SMELLS LIKE VICTORY!

    Puff the Magic Dragon must be coming soon.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member

    So, you're violating your own logic.

    Direct quote from you:
    Why would you want a male friend who's behavior is OBVIOUSLY modified, because he is hiding his true intentions? That mans intentions will never be pure.

    Why would those girls want you as a friend? You'd obviously never be a good friend to them since you're too busy with your "true intentions" of sleeping with them..

    Again astute. Perhaps you finally understand, that I do not exclude myself from my statements. Perhaps a small difference is that, I freely admit and acknowledge this. Also most of my female friends I met from either them hitting on me, or me hitting on them.

    So there is no pretense or "fakeness" to speak of. We met on terms of attraction so there is no secret.

    I was more referring to those people(like yourself) who DENY that men can't be friends with women without desiring them. The denial is what creates the facade. The facade is what destroys the reality.

    Yes?

    Please quote where I ever said the bolded part, please. You won't be able to, because I never said that.

    I said that men and women can be attracted but I didn't care as long as they didn't act on it. To me, that means the relationship is platonic.

    Just quoting again to see if I get a response showing me where I supposedly said something...
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
    Platonic: of, relating to, or being a relationship marked by the absence of romance or sex.

    Everyone saying they are platonic friends with people they are sexually attracted to is kind of missing the point. Once one of you wants to bang the other, it's no longer platonic.

    Wanting to is not the same as doing - there is still the absence of romance or sex.

    Mens rea, actus reus.

    Translation: Bingo, bang-o or did not go do the big O.
  • PrettyPearl88
    PrettyPearl88 Posts: 368 Member
    Platonic: of, relating to, or being a relationship marked by the absence of romance or sex.

    Everyone saying they are platonic friends with people they are sexually attracted to is kind of missing the point. Once one of you wants to bang the other, it's no longer platonic.

    Agreed! Platonic = absolutely NO desire to be more than friends by either party.

    I personally think that men and women can be platonic friends, but only when the friendship is not a super close one. But a BFF-type of friendship? No. Whenever men and women are THAT close of friends, there's ALWAYS at least one side wanting more.
  • OneEyeUp
    OneEyeUp Posts: 373 Member

    I was more referring to those people(like yourself) who DENY that men can't be friends with women without desiring them. The denial is what creates the facade. The facade is what destroys the reality.

    Yes?
    Please quote where I ever said the bolded part, please. You won't be able to, because I never said that.

    I said that men and women can be attracted but I didn't care as long as they didn't act on it. To me, that means the relationship is platonic.
    Just quoting again to see if I get a response showing me where I supposedly said something...

    If you don't understand how those statements answer each other, I don't know how else to explain it.
  • Iron_Feline
    Iron_Feline Posts: 10,750 Member
    We are surrounded in a natural eco-system that breathes sex. As the creator said, go forth and multiply. This notion pexplexes the athiests. Men and women are meant to be together, but once together, true to each other. Sex is the bond, the love, the trust. Sure men and women can be friends, but we are driven to love, go on, and have kids. Nothing wrong with that at all. Gay folks the same, the need for trust and bonding. So who wants to fight me on this...putim up :laugh:

    I don't want kids - where does that put me on your "we are driven" theory?

    So you don't want sex then ? Do you say you are above the animals and your biology does not drive you to have sex ?

    sex =/= children if you use protection. And I didn't say any of that. I like sex - but I am not driven to have it - if you are you may want to talk to someone about that :laugh:
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    To escape the grip of a crocodile’s jaw, push your thumb into its eyeball – It will let you go instantly.

    Now this thread is useful. :smile:
  • OneEyeUp
    OneEyeUp Posts: 373 Member
    To escape the grip of a crocodile’s jaw, push your thumb into its eyeball – It will let you go instantly.

    Now this thread is useful. :smile:

    I'm starting to feel like one. Perhaps I shall leave this thread also. I've already said what needs to be said.
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    platonic does not mean the absence of occasional or unrequited attraction. it simply means that nothing has happened between friends.

    http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/platonic love

    definition #2.
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    To escape the grip of a crocodile’s jaw, push your thumb into its eyeball – It will let you go instantly.

    Now this thread is useful. :smile:

    I'm starting to feel like one. Perhaps I shall leave this thread also. I've already said what needs to be said.

    ...and provide countless laughs and headscratches in the process.
  • Iron_Feline
    Iron_Feline Posts: 10,750 Member
    To escape the grip of a crocodile’s jaw, push your thumb into its eyeball – It will let you go instantly.

    Now this thread is useful. :smile:

    I'm starting to feel like one. Perhaps I shall leave this thread also. I've already said what needs to be said.

    Yes, this thread has had it's quota of new age babble. Thanks for playing. :flowerforyou:
  • foxro
    foxro Posts: 793 Member
    We are surrounded in a natural eco-system that breathes sex. As the creator said, go forth and multiply. This notion pexplexes the athiests. Men and women are meant to be together, but once together, true to each other. Sex is the bond, the love, the trust. Sure men and women can be friends, but we are driven to love, go on, and have kids. Nothing wrong with that at all. Gay folks the same, the need for trust and bonding. So who wants to fight me on this...putim up :laugh:

    I don't want kids - where does that put me on your "we are driven" theory?

    So you don't want sex then ? Do you say you are above the animals and your biology does not drive you to have sex ?

    sex =/= children if you use protection. And I didn't say any of that. I like sex - but I am not driven to have it - if you are you may want to talk to someone about that :laugh:

    You've missed the point...like the animals on this planet and even trees etc, sex is a natural thing and we being biological animals also have a built in sex drive. One of the reasons and one of the reasons for that sex drive is to reproduce. It's built into us just like any other mammel, bird etc.
  • janegalt37
    janegalt37 Posts: 270 Member
    Again....this is a rabbit trail. The OP wasn't about what people believe. It wasn't about superstition. It wasn't about whether or not they "think" about sex. It wasn't about whether or not they believe that thinking about sex is sinful.
    You're the one who brought up superstition. It was you I quoted. And I believe the other poster has a point. He doesn't want his wife around a guy who wants to sleep with her even if they don't. It's the thoughts the man has that bother him. Valid point.

    It's this mentality, insecurity and lack of self control that created burkas.
  • lydia_the_tattooed_lady
    lydia_the_tattooed_lady Posts: 324 Member
    We are surrounded in a natural eco-system that breathes sex. As the creator said, go forth and multiply. This notion pexplexes the athiests. Men and women are meant to be together, but once together, true to each other. Sex is the bond, the love, the trust. Sure men and women can be friends, but we are driven to love, go on, and have kids. Nothing wrong with that at all. Gay folks the same, the need for trust and bonding. So who wants to fight me on this...putim up :laugh:



    :noway: :noway: :noway: :noway: :noway: :noway: :noway: Some of my guy friends are like brothers. It would be incestuous. Your narrowminded view disgusts me.
  • OneEyeUp
    OneEyeUp Posts: 373 Member
    To escape the grip of a crocodile’s jaw, push your thumb into its eyeball – It will let you go instantly.

    Now this thread is useful. :smile:

    I'm starting to feel like one. Perhaps I shall leave this thread also. I've already said what needs to be said.


    Yes, this thread has had it's quota of new age babble. Thanks for playing. :flowerforyou:

    Rude. I thought my theories were more archaic and traditional than New Age. Learn something everyday I suppose. Bye :)

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