Help! my husband wont let me lift heavy weights

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meeper123
meeper123 Posts: 3,347 Member
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He has got it in his head that if i do i will bulk up. I know thats not true I showed him youtube videos to prove it but he hated how the girl looked in it and now thinks if I lift too much I will look like her. One she had to work to look like that and I wont. Two there is no way I could get like her without years of work how can i help him put this to bed
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  • meeper123
    meeper123 Posts: 3,347 Member
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    Let might be the wrong word but he gripes and nags if i do
  • JessHealthKick
    JessHealthKick Posts: 800 Member
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    Just talk to him? He's your hubby so you will have ton convince him.

    Wait a second, he isn't allowing you? Do you live on a chain or something? Just tell he you wanna lift a bit and ignore him. If he's rude and doesn't understand, that should be his problem not yours.

    edit: eh OK. Lemme guess, he is overweight too then? And is seeing you progress and feeling insecure about the fact he has done nothing about his body and HE should be lifting too? I don't know, hard reading between lines.
  • meeper123
    meeper123 Posts: 3,347 Member
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    Yeah I suppose. Just trying to think of a clever way to avoid a fight
  • JJordon
    JJordon Posts: 857 Member
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    I love it when people fell asleep in biology. Even I didn't fall asleep that much in the weight lifting class. So many things have to happen in sequence for that to happen, IIRC. You need to be eating at caloric surplus, you'd need to lift for months to years, if not up to a decade. You'd basically have to be a bodybuilder for that to happen.

    A mind full of broscience... can be a terrible thing indeed.
  • thatjulesgirl
    thatjulesgirl Posts: 200 Member
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    Your husband won't LET you??


    Think about that for a while.... then go lift something heavy.
  • Textmessage
    Textmessage Posts: 387 Member
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    I'm pretty sure slavery is over. Take a cue from Nike and just do it. ;)
  • halexandra
    halexandra Posts: 24 Member
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    Honestly, just do it and he'll see you know what you're doing! He may be nagging a lot but it seems like you know your facts. Strength training is highly beneficial, just go for it and be safe!
  • treagal
    treagal Posts: 264 Member
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    does he watch what you are doing at the gym? just do it, prove him wrong.
  • Rgtjax85
    Rgtjax85 Posts: 99 Member
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    Remind him that the purpose of your goal is to live a healthier and stronger life. If I were married I would support anything that could add years to her life. The healthier you are the better for both of you. Be blessed.
  • Linkdapink
    Linkdapink Posts: 128 Member
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    There's a few success stories on here doing New Rules of Lifting for Women - some stunning girls with amazing bodies. Show him those - they're not bulked up... e.g:

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/733029-no-weight-loss-or-body-fat-loss-after-2-weeks-on-insanity
  • morielia
    morielia Posts: 169 Member
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    My husband doesn't "let" me do anything. I'm a grown woman, and I do whatever I want. If you want to lift heavy, lift heavy. This is one of those instances where his opinion doesn't matter. I'd think he would have more important things to worry about than how much weight you're lifting. Would he rather you be out of shape? Working out is supposed to make YOU happy, not him.
  • ashlinmarie
    ashlinmarie Posts: 1,263 Member
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    My husband doesn't WANT me to start lifting...he has the same thought in his head and he likes my soft curves...but I want to wear a tank top and not worry about arm flab or thigh jiggle in my shorts or tummy bulge in a bikini! I'm doing it anyway because how else will he learn that I'm not going to bulk up?
  • AmandaBiggs09
    AmandaBiggs09 Posts: 42 Member
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    Go to this link (http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2011/07/21/meet-staci-your-new-powerlifting-super-hero/). Scroll down to "Staci Now" where she is 142 lbs. She looks amazing and no bulky muscles.
  • angelams1019
    angelams1019 Posts: 1,102 Member
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    I can think of a clever way to avoid a fight...And it works every time! :drinker:
  • michellekicks
    michellekicks Posts: 3,624 Member
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    lol wait for his next deployment and lift like a fiend. When he comes home he'll be so glad you did it.
  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
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    won't let you?

    you're an adult, it's your body.
  • nz_deevaa
    nz_deevaa Posts: 12,209 Member
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    Ignore him, go lift some weights and deal with it when he starts thinking you look too bulky.
  • Vansy
    Vansy Posts: 419 Member
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    I don't get it....he won't let you?

    ...I mean -- shouldn't that be YOUR choice about how you wish to workout. I mean you could always say "listen, I'm going to lift weights; and if I bulk up I'll stop or back off lifting weights" ---- since you know you won't bulk you should be good to go, and able to lift weights for as long as you want.
  • JessiBelleW
    JessiBelleW Posts: 821 Member
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    If its going to become this huge fight/ deal why bother to tell him at all? Why not just go do it and enjoy the results?

    I am all for honestly in relationships but I think with health and weight loss it is too easy to get side tracked and put off by non supportive friends and Significant others. It is your body and you have the right to do to it whatever you like! Good luck you can do it!
  • katy_trail
    katy_trail Posts: 1,992 Member
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    does he watch what you are doing at the gym? just do it, prove him wrong.

    let him watch and he'll want you doing the lifts all the time....ever seen a she squats page?

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