Help! my husband wont let me lift heavy weights

I didn't read the comments. I also don't understand why you need your husband's permission. Do you go to the gym? You kind of need to, if you've never lifted heavy (it's a process to get there). Do you have a gym membership? Do you need his permission for that? Entice him with cardio kitten gym results, to get the membership. Then, when you are there, do what you want, try what you want. Get fit, and slim (from the weights)...he will change his tune when he sees your rock'n slim and defined bod!!!

This is the get-stuff-done answer, and I kind of agree, no reason he has to know what you're doing anywhere. However, that means you're going to have to hide your logs in your locker, & read & watch instructional vids when he's not around. That kind of hiding would not be something I could live with, in any case, but especially if I were excited about something new.

Convincing him might take a long time, though, takes people ages before the switch gets flipped even when they want to believe it.

Wth, I guess hide your logs in the laundry room or something, where I guess he probably won't be :grumble:

edit: no that is crappy, I hate the idea of that, just work on him constantly and do what you want.

Well, I see the point. I get excited. I talk about stuff, I watch the vids. But, I keep my logs in a notebook, in my purse. After a while it gets pretty mundane. I tell my husband all my plans and he listens and encourages and supports. But, I do all the work on my own. He would have no clue what I do, if I was not so excited that I call him on the phone when I'm walking home to tell him about a great day at the gym (that only happens when he is home on a weekend day).

What videos did the OP show her husband? Those are professionals!! It's not that easy!

Why is he voicing his displeasure in ANY way if you're doing something to better yourself! Obviously he isn't educated in the ways of females vs male bodies and doesn't understand that there's no chance of BULKING UP because we're simply not built for it.

I'd just start doing it and when you DON'T start bulking up, say you told him so and carry on!

I didn't read the comments. I also don't understand why you need your husband's permission. Do you go to the gym? You kind of need to, if you've never lifted heavy (it's a process to get there). Do you have a gym membership? Do you need his permission for that? Entice him with cardio kitten gym results, to get the membership. Then, when you are there, do what you want, try what you want. Get fit, and slim (from the weights)...he will change his tune when he sees your rock'n slim and defined bod!!!

This is the get-stuff-done answer, and I kind of agree, no reason he has to know what you're doing anywhere. However, that means you're going to have to hide your logs in your locker, & read & watch instructional vids when he's not around. That kind of hiding would not be something I could live with, in any case, but especially if I were excited about something new.

Convincing him might take a long time, though, takes people ages before the switch gets flipped even when they want to believe it.

Wth, I guess hide your logs in the laundry room or something, where I guess he probably won't be :grumble:

edit: no that is crappy, I hate the idea of that, just work on him constantly and do what you want.

Well, I see the point. I get excited. I talk about stuff, I watch the vids. But, I keep my logs in a notebook, in my purse. After a while it gets pretty mundane. I tell my husband all my plans and he listens and encourages and supports. But, I do all the work on my own. He would have no clue what I do, if I was not so excited that I call him on the phone when I'm walking home to tell him about a great day at the gym (that only happens when he is home on a weekend day).

What videos did the OP show her husband? Those are professionals!! It's not that easy!

Lol! It's not, it's true

Sure, it can get to be mundane after a while, or at least integrated enough into a routine that it ceases to be special and exciting. (Though I've got a perpetual case of that f-around-itis problem where you redesign your program a million times, and each time is game-changing, lol.)

I just feel like it's often a weirdly profound conversion experience, especially for women, you know? I think it really does something to change people's self-perceptions in amazing ways. There's the shift in self-image, for sure, as well as the goal-setting stuff, changing focus from aesthetics (sometimes) to performance - it makes people aware of their power, beyond the gym. Even though you're talking about reps, or split squats, running through all through that talk is a theme of becoming an agent of change. And for me anyway it would be hard to split that off or blunt my excitement because someone didn't like the idea.

Though, your suggestion is definitely in the catalogue of smart-wife approaches, I grant you.

It's a ridiculous discussion to have to have, and I'm sorry that you must.

If he refuses to believe the science behind lifting, specifically the fact that no one bulks without years of intensive work, and/or juice, not to mention that women bulk differently than men because of hormone level variance, then explain to him (slowly so he'll understand) that bulk won't sneak up on you. You're not going to lift one day and wake up the next looking like a cloud. Tell him that you are just going to lift until you start seeing the kind of body you want, and then you'll change your routine to accommodate. Then when the time comes, either change it, or don't. I suspect that when he sees the kind of results you're actually going to get, he'll change his mind.

He won't LET you?

Tell him to stop nagging and that it is your body to do with whatever you wish. If he persists, tell him he can literally go **** himself until he learns to keep his misguided opinions to himself.

Are his knuckles all bloody from dragging them across the ground when he walks?

Uh, I'm sorry but you lost me at "my husband won't let me."

He has got it in his head that if i do i will bulk up. I know thats not true I showed him youtube videos to prove it but he hated how the girl looked in it and now thinks if I lift too much I will look like her. One she had to work to look like that and I wont. Two there is no way I could get like her without years of work how can i help him put this to bed

Personally, I don't let too many people tell me what I can and can't do. You are your own person and shouldn't be controlled by another human being. Do what you want and let him pout and nag. It's not your blood pressure going up.

I didn't read the comments. I also don't understand why you need your husband's permission. Do you go to the gym? You kind of need to, if you've never lifted heavy (it's a process to get there). Do you have a gym membership? Do you need his permission for that? Entice him with cardio kitten gym results, to get the membership. Then, when you are there, do what you want, try what you want. Get fit, and slim (from the weights)...he will change his tune when he sees your rock'n slim and defined bod!!!

'Cardio Kitten' love that :laugh: I still say take a video of you squatting with the barbell or dumb bells if you're not ready for that yet.
there aren't many guys who think that isn't hot, and don't want their girl to have 'squat booty'

I totally understand your issue. My ex boyfriend tried to keep me from seeing other guys once. Well that fool is an EX boyfriend now, because I do wut I want!

I'm pretty sure slavery is over. Take a cue from Nike and just do it.

I love this! LOL! Just, tell him, that you're sorry he feels that way. Then go pump iron.

Tell him you'll stop when you start getting bulky.

It will never happen - he'll be happy and so will you.

Your body, your decision. Do it anyway and once he sees that you were right, he may change his opinion. Either way, it's your decision, not his.

I hate this misconception so much. The bodybuilder ladies are on ridiculously strict diets and probably some "supplements".

There is only one thing you will ever have in your life that is truly yours and yours alone. That is your body. Regardless of marriage, regardless of kids, regardless of ANYONE else, you should never allow someone else dominion over that. Once you do, you have given up your very freedom, your essence.

Your husband is out of line if he thinks he has any say in what you can and can't do with your body. If he loves you he will accept it.