My husband won't diet with me

there really isn't an easy answer for that. lead by example once he sees the results of your weight loss and feeling really good and energetic he might decide to jump into eating less with you. a lot of times that is the only thing that can make him see and not nag.

well its easy just make less food that way he will eat less

One way to help would be to cook less, check and cook enough for the family without the large or left over portion... I do this and works well.

as to the ice cream etc, I only keep in one topping at a time and will not buy more when it is gone until a set time... other items I too buy set amounts for the week. and when gone that is it..

suppose this will only really work if you do the food shopping each week... works for me, he is losing now too, slowly,,, as I am eating less of the items he is too, but does ask for some items which I buy in moderation.

Divorce the *kitten*. You deserve better.

Cook less since you're eating less, then you're all still getting a propery sized portion. And who does the grocery shopping? If you're doing it, don't buy the hot fudge, then he can't eat it.

Have you told him that you're worried about his health? Maybe sit down and talk to him about it, but in the end he has to make the choice. You can't force him to lose weight.

Ok so I get that you are worried about his health but you can't care more about his health than he does it doesn't work that way. You have to focus on your health and just encourage him to go get a physical. Have the doctor tell him he needs to lose weight and then you can tell him you are not ready to live without him! And wifely submission WTF!!!!! I'm just saying there is only submission if that's what I am in the mood for that night!

Simple solution to the point where you mentioned he finishes everyone else's plates...

COOK FRICKING LESS FOR EVERYONE! That way there's no real excuse there :devil:

there really isn't an easy answer for that. lead by example once he sees the results of your weight loss and feeling really good and energetic he might decide to jump into eating less with you. a lot of times that is the only thing that can make him see and not nag.

I agree with this! My husband supports my weight loss, but isnt all that serious about his own. All I can do is cook healthy meals (for the most part) so at least what he eats extra of won't hurt him much. Good luck!

For the longest time my husband wouldn't eat healthier and exercise with me. I told him that his health concerned me and that I wanted him to be healthy and around for a long time but he still wouldn't make the change. As hard as it was, I had to accept the fact that I cannot make him do anything he doesn't want to do. I do all the shopping and cooking because it is just easier that way with his job so I have control over what is coming into the house. I only cook enough for the two of us, I dish up mine and whatever is left is his. Now that I have lost some weight, he is starting to see my results and wanting the same things. He has since asked me to set him up with a MFP account that he uses solely for tracking, and is constantly asking for help with what things he can eat and how much. He has even started to workout with me. We go for a walk every night regardless of the weather outside. He hasn't seen big results yet as he just started but he is looking forward to them.

Maybe try talking to him about your concerns? Make it clear that you aren't trying to force anything on him, you just want to tell him how you feel.

That sounds like a really whiny topic title, doesn't it?
Let me explain, I don't want to force my husband to diet with me. I believe in wifely submission, it's not my job to tell him what to do, or make him feel guilty. But it seems like since I've been eating less he's started eating more. He's gotten in the habit of just eating whatever's left after I dish out mine and the kid's plates. But with me eating less there's more left, but he still just piles it all on to his plate. The other night I had a scoop of ice cream and I asked him what he wanted and he say asked for 2 scoops with cool whip and hot fudge, he would normally just have the 2 scoops. It's like he's going out of his way to fatten himself up. He already weighs 370 and I'm pretty worried about his health. How do I get him to see how bad his choices are without nagging?

How about brutal honesty? If that doesnt work call your lawyer and make sure you have up to date life insurance and will signed and ready. Obviously he doesnt care he is fat and by what you said he isnt interested in changing it. Submission is archaic, you are an individual (atleast you were before you married him and gave up those rights) start acting like one. No one has the right to take that away from you and you shouldnt so willingly hand it over. Tell his fat *kitten* to get his own damn ice cream and quit contributing to his issues. Maybe he will get the hint and if not at least you will be an individual again (divorce)