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    My husband won't diet with me

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    • Posts: 2,186 Member
      wifely submission means honoring that your spouse is the head of house and the leader of the home. He is her covering. it means that she respects and loves her husband.

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      Are you the one buying groceries? If so, just buy healthier stuff and don't make as much food. If you both buy groceries, then . . . I don't know. Lead by example, I guess. If he follows, great. If not, then I still don't know.
    • Posts: 1,837 Member
      Mine either.

      When I'm cooking, I prepare less. It doesn't help much, though. If he wants more food, he fends for himself through the kitchen. I'm becoming rather dismayed by that big old belly of his! He considers it perfectly normal, even to be expected that he put on a lot of weight at his age (60).

      The upside is that I get no pressure from him at all. I don't have to lose weight to please him.
    • Posts: 2,736 Member
      Withhold sex.
    • Posts: 3,783 Member
      I figure if my husband doesn't get with the program to lose weight and get healthy, one day I will be the hottest widow in town.
    • Posts: 454 Member
      You lost me at wifely submission. Of course, I'm a divorcee. :laugh:
    • Posts: 3,614 Member
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      I agree.

      Why?

      It's him who can't control himself.

      Apparently OP is more than capable of having a bowl of ice cream and not over indulging.
    • Posts: 810 Member
      :laugh: If you cant find the gumption to change things set his hefty *kitten* in front of this thread......let him read it page by page. If that doesnt work and he bucks he will NEVER change :laugh:

      If you are her husband and you are reading this................stop being gross and lazy dont you wanna see your junk in a standing position again? GET WTH THE PROGRAM SIR!!! Be a role model to your children and FFS would it kill you to cook her dinner and rub her feet she had your kids. SMH
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      You should write a diet book

      It would be the shortest diet book ever written and a best seller.
    • Posts: 702 Member
      Honestly and frankly tell him that you're worried about his health. You want to grow old with him, not tend to his hospital bed. *shrug*
    • Posts: 238
      promise him a BJ for every pound he loses.... i bet he'll drop weight like nobody's business.

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      ^^LOL! ;-) Agree 100% and

      'there really isn't an easy answer for that. lead by example once he sees the results of your weight loss and feeling really good and energetic he might decide to jump into eating less with you. a lot of times that is the only thing that can make him see and not nag.'
    • Posts: 163
      Isn't the kitchen your place of reign?

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      Stop buying all the junk food and cook only healthy foods? Or if this is too much trouble go to the basement and sneak your ice cream cravings there.
    • Posts: 922 Member
      I almost stopped reading as soon as I got to "wifely submission" but managed to continue. My two cents.... while it's not your place to try to force him or make him follow your new habits, it's also not neccessary for you to cook so much if you're the one doing the cooking. Cook enough for "normal" portions for your family with no leftovers. If your scooping up icecream, make a bowl with one scoop for yourself, and one scoop for him. If he wants more he can get up and make it himself. Sort of a take on "teach a man to fish" sorta deal.

      I wish you the best of luck. In the end, the best you can do is look after your health first.
    • Posts: 507 Member
      Off topic but hoping someone can tell me ~ is there a way to set it so when I open a thread that I've already read some of, that it will automatically take me to the last post I read? It's a PITA to come back later and start all over again.

      TIA if anyone can help me! :)
    • Posts: 12,344 Member
      Pray for him. Only God can change his heart. And, whatever you do, don't nag! Keep a good attitude and let the changes in you speak for themselves. Easy? No. Worth it? Absolutely.
    • Posts: 680 Member
      well its easy just make less food that way he will eat less

      I was thinking the same thing and if you are the type of wife that does everything around the house including shopping then buy things that are healthy......he cannot eat what is not there unless he goes to get it himself if you want to stand your ground. Edy's Slow Churned is really good and there are numerous alternatives out there that are healthy yet still satisfying.

      He will probably resent you if you push the subject when he is not ready though so think it through.
    • Posts: 642 Member
      promise him a BJ for every pound he loses.... i bet he'll drop weight like nobody's business.

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      LOL. :laugh:
    • Posts: 1,111 Member
      My first reaction was "I don't blame him. I wouldn't want to go on a diet either." Just start cooking whole healthy food, stop buying things he likes to binge on, and concentrate on your own health. Don't concentrate on all the stuff you have to stop eating. Start adding whole healthy food. When somebody says you can't have something the first thing that happens is you rebel and go straight for the thing you can't have. For me, nothing is off limits. I choose to eat things that fuel my body. However, if I want a cupcake, I have a cupcake. No binging, and no guilt.
    • Posts: 524 Member
      Tell him he will not live to see his children grow old... and that you will be left to pick up the pieces....

      I'm sure he's pre-diabetic if not already suffering from Type II and just doesn't know it yet. Ask yourself why he doesn't care about himself. And forget wifely submission... if my husband was eathing himself to DEATH I would speak up....
    • Posts: 810 Member
      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^:laugh:
    • Posts: 17,299 Member
      Only prepare enough for one serving each. He can' tdish more out if there is no more.
    • Posts: 253 Member
      It was fun reading the replies to this thread.

      The submission is not something my husband expects or asks of me. I believe it's how God has called me to live, it simply means I'm here to support him as the head of our family and he's here to lead. I feel blessed to be able to serve in this way.

      Of course I could just cook less. But I cook simply, I buy a pound of meat and cook it, or make a batch of biscuits or one recipe of whatever. We eat a relatively balanced diet, and not an abundance of processed food. The weight is from home-made biscuits, and beef stew, and macaroni and cheese.

      I asked him last night if he was trying to fatten himself up, and he says "well someone's gotta make up for it."

      I do believe he'll come around in time.
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    • Posts: 777 Member
      I too believe, but fail daily, with wifely submission. I don't believe this makes us unequal, just different in our roles. So just ignore the people blasting away at that concept and look for helpful advice.

      1) repeated numerous time: cook and buy less. you can tell him you don't want the kids learning unhealthy habbits.

      2)) You've seen many many stories of men coming around eventually to their wives changes in lifestyle. I find men, in general, take more time to adjust to life changes. Emotionally, when it came to a grief instance in our lives, he was generally 6 months to 2 years behind. When it came to weight loss he was about a year behind. It took the cardiologist telling my husband if he didn't change he was "going down". My husband has been able to cut his insulin more than in 1/2 since then (he's a type 1 so it will never totally go away) He's lost about 20 lbs, but its slower for him being older and having the diabetes. He works out 4-5 days a week, and I'm just so glad he is trying. He was verging on obese but never actually hit obese when the doctor said that. Maybe see if you're husband is open to scheduling his yearly physical?

      3) make non condescending sincere praise when he does come around. When I saw him sacrifice for so long, I told him how proud of him I was. How I am so greatful that he wants to stay around for us, and he loves US (more than the burger)

      4) Since he fears for my safety constantly, at first I would say I wanted to go for a walk after dinner (in the dark) he would come to make sure I was safe :)

      5) you're married, so the bj thing is allowed, and may have some merit.
    • Posts: 51 Member
      Tell him you want to start Swinging and if he doesnt get fit he wont get to play. Trust me, that will do it. Hodgie x
    • Posts: 810 Member
      Only prepare enough for one serving each. He can' tdish more out if there is no more.

      What stops him from going to the corner fast food joint because1 serving isnt enough to feed his fat?
    • Posts: 41,865 Member
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      Excuse me while I go get sick. The archaic notion that a wife should be submissive to her husband is inequality at the least, abusive at its worst. I still can't believe that these beliefs in the natural role of a wife still exist in the developed world.

      K....my wife loves me and respects me...but if I told her that she needed to submit to her to really show that, I'd have a high heel up my *kitten*.

      I didn't know that anyone actually still did this wives submit to your husbands stuff...it's like 2013.
    • Posts: 253 Member
      ask him when was the last time he saw his penis....thats what got me motivated to lose weight

      There's no nice way to say that, believe me I've tried :)
    • Posts: 135 Member
      Try to cook less. If he takes what's left, then make sure there is less left for him to take. My fiancé always does the same thing, if there is some pizza left he will eat it rather than packing it away. I just started packing my lunch, and his that way there is two less servings for either of us to eat.
    • Posts: 10,161 Member
      Divorce the *kitten*. You deserve better.

      Seriously? Eating too much food is grounds for divorce now?
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