Being noticed (attractiveness)

I get noticed sometimes. At work, supermarkets etc. Which is good, I can only say I am flattered. But the good always comes with the bad. Teenage girls in groups always seem to think they can have their way with me and can be quite full on, only really in the summer months. Everyone says I look younger than my age, I still get ID'ed for certain things.

He didn't know I had a loaded gun in my purse, and fortunately I didn't have to show it to him. But yeah, that is definitely the sort of thing I never had to worry about before.

I am not defending verbal harassment by any means, but brandishing a loaded weapon over some butt comments might be a little bit of an overreaction. Certainly if he got out of his truck you would have a reason to potentially discharge said firearm, but what does a gun do that pepper spray doesn't [except for create a ton of blood and paperwork?]

This may be an unpopular opinion as it might come across as 'a woman should not defend herself' [and that is not at all what I am saying]. But I think that even mentioning the gun on a website suggests that you might not ever be far from using it. I sincerely hope that isn't the case.

I'm pretty sure I indicated that I did not "brandish a loaded weapon" over his comments. My point was, if he had known I had it, he likely would've minded his own damn business. I am lamenting the fact that I cannot carry openly.

And I don't owe you or anyone else an explanation as to why I carry, any more than you owe me an explanation as to why you choose to exercise your freedom of speech, but if you think the mere indication that I own and carry a gun means I am never far from recklessly and needlessly using it, YOU are the one who is overreacting.

If you don't like guns, don't buy any, and leave people the hell alone. You should be good to go.

For the most part, I do feel noticed when I'm running in the neighborhood because my neighbors know that I like to run during my spare time.

I only get noticed when I pull my pants down to my ankles.

How you doin!? *flower for you*

If they are noticing me, then I must be pretty oblivious because I haven't noticed

Of course, I've been told that I seem to be naive to men hitting on me.

Haha crabby.....well, I guess there's no being oblivious here! :laugh: Of course, I do notice it online, everybody is SO much more forward on the interwebz :P

Have you always or often been noticed? Sometimes? Rarely? Do people sometimes look at you after knowing you awhile and suddenly find you very attractive? What has been your particular experience with being seen and noticed?

I sometimes see people that I find very attractive that seem to slip under most people's radar, and also the opposite, where people who don't seem that physically attractive still get a lot of attention. I find it curious.

I get noticed too often, and usually people say the most mundane and repetitive things.

I remember seeing an ex after 4 years ( In which I'd grown 5 inches in this time and was about 100lbs heavier) and her reaction was quite funny.

If they are noticing me, then I must be pretty oblivious because I haven't noticed

Of course, I've been told that I seem to be naive to men hitting on me.

Haha crabby.....well, I guess there's no being oblivious here! :laugh: Of course, I do notice it online, everybody is SO much more forward on the interwebz :P

Sadly, I feel like I got noticed more often when I was 300+ lbs.

But then again, I have been getting more attention again recently. So maybe I just didn't notice being noticed because, after finally becoming aware of my own distaste in my body, I was self-concious and did not acknowledge that anyone noticed me.


Wait... did that make sense? :huh:

No, never have anyone notice me...It's not a big deal. Just being honest.

Couldn't tell ya. Wife claims it happens when we're out, but I guess I haven't been looking.

I don't get noticed, my chest does

He didn't know I had a loaded gun in my purse, and fortunately I didn't have to show it to him. But yeah, that is definitely the sort of thing I never had to worry about before.

I am not defending verbal harassment by any means, but brandishing a loaded weapon over some butt comments might be a little bit of an overreaction. Certainly if he got out of his truck you would have a reason to potentially discharge said firearm, but what does a gun do that pepper spray doesn't [except for create a ton of blood and paperwork?]

This may be an unpopular opinion as it might come across as 'a woman should not defend herself' [and that is not at all what I am saying]. But I think that even mentioning the gun on a website suggests that you might not ever be far from using it. I sincerely hope that isn't the case.

I'm pretty sure I indicated that I did not "brandish a loaded weapon" over his comments. My point was, if he had known I had it, he likely would've minded his own damn business. I am lamenting the fact that I cannot carry openly.

And I don't owe you or anyone else an explanation as to why I carry, any more than you owe me an explanation as to why you choose to exercise your freedom of speech, but if you think the mere indication that I own and carry a gun means I am never far from recklessly and needlessly using it, YOU are the one who is overreacting.

If you don't like guns, don't buy any, and leave people the hell alone. You should be good to go.

I appreciate the response [and do not mean to force this thread into further digression], but your logic is absolutely specious. It would make sense, of course, if people with guns only shot people with guns [and, I suppose, in season animals]. But it turns out, that is not how it works at all.

In fact, after a good bit of searching, I was able to come up with the following news articles that show the positive results of owning and carrying guns into the general public:
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Interesting stuff.

But let's be honest. Guns are a pretty easy target right now. Gun violence has been particularly rampant recently, and despite a reasonable effort to increase regulations on purchasing guns for former convicts, etc. being introduced to Congress, lobbyists [i.e., the NRA] have thrown around enough money for things like this to fail. I am all for the protection of Second Amendment rights, but keep in mind that in the past 220+ years, guns have gotten a little bit more advanced. There was a time when the same people who ratified the Second Amendment thought that black people made great farm equipment; finally, common sense prevailed and we thought to revisit some of the more archaic [and frankly, embarrassing] ideals of the past.

You are right; I do not know the circumstances of your decision. As I live in a major metropolitan area, parking lots are associated with grocery stores, places of business, and apartment complexes.

But as 'live and let live' is your political stance, I certainly hope you have not been an inhibitor of gay marriage, a woman's right to choose, euthanasia, or rampant drug culture.

i get noticed.
i'd prefer it if i didn't.

My boobs seem to have been the center of attention more times than I would like to admit......uuuugggghhhh boobs.

Sadly, I feel like I got noticed more often when I was 300+ lbs.

But then again, I have been getting more attention again recently. So maybe I just didn't notice being noticed because, after finally becoming aware of my own distaste in my body, I was self-concious and did not acknowledge that anyone noticed me.


Wait... did that make sense? :huh:

yes...just yes. ((hugs))

and you are BEAUTIFUL