Being noticed (attractiveness)

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  • harvo
    harvo Posts: 4,676 Member
    I don't feel physically attractive and I don't get noticed. But that's fine by me. =B

    You do get noticed...you just don;t notice people noticing you.
  • 2credneck208
    2credneck208 Posts: 501 Member
    I'm a happy loner and thats fine.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    I'm pretty innocuous and don't get noticed. I do like when I do occasionaly though.
  • missshadowlovely
    missshadowlovely Posts: 50 Member
    I'm told I am quite often.

    In my picture I have a wig on; my real hair is all the way down to my butt and BRIGHT red - so it gets a LOT of attention. ;)
  • DonnaNCgirl
    DonnaNCgirl Posts: 372
    i replied earlier on this thread, but nobody noticed.

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    I walked past you earlier today and you never looked my way! :sad:


    You're a bad boy! :noway:
  • jbutterflye
    jbutterflye Posts: 1,914 Member
    Have you always or often been noticed? Sometimes? Rarely? Do people sometimes look at you after knowing you awhile and suddenly find you very attractive? What has been your particular experience with being seen and noticed?

    I sometimes see people that I find very attractive that seem to slip under most people's radar, and also the opposite, where people who don't seem that physically attractive still get a lot of attention. I find it curious.

    @OP - after reading many of the responses posted, I am not sure if people understand you questions. My interpretation of your statement and question about attractive people that fly under the radar, compared with less attractive people that get a lot of attention is related to personality of the individual.

    For me, I am an introvert, and prefer to be out of the spotlight and be in the background. Some may think that a person like this lacks confidence, but I would clarify that it is a preference rather than an insecurity.

    On the other hand, I know many people that are simply "the life of the party", extroverted, outgoing and capture attention. As you mentioned, many of these people aren't the best looking, but they attain more attention than other people.

    There people that lack the confidence and have insecurities about their appearance, and think that losing weight, having plastic surgery will change all of the that... I assure you that they will be the same person (inside) after the transformation.

    First and foremost, feel good about yourself!

    Thank you Mavrick. Yes, this is more along the lines of what I was getting at. I have known several of those people who are not considered typically attractive, in fact are sometimes quite large, obese, or average looking, who seem to get a disproportionate amount of attention from the opposite sex (referring to hetero). It just makes me think that attractiveness isn't necessarily correlated to the obvious, and I really do think that attitude and our own mind set has A LOT to do with how we're perceived. It's like the world just mirrors back to us what we already believe.

    There's also another phenomenon that I find puzzling. I've had it happen several times where someone I knew looked at me suddenly, as if for the first time, and found me very beautiful. Their reaction is what gave it away, because they literally said "Woah..you're really beautiful!" with this rather amazed look on their face. Lol! And it just struck me so weird because they've known me for awhile, and found me attractive before to some extent, but not like this. This was a definite shift.

    I've had it happen enough times to stand out as an odd experience. Wondering how it is I was suddenly seen in a new way.
  • Sparlingo
    Sparlingo Posts: 938 Member
    I really identify with this one. My younger sister (22 months younger than I) has been perfectly skinny without trying and a knock out blonde. Really did damage on my self - esteem.

    You're kidding me, right?? You're gorgeous!!
  • peopletalk
    peopletalk Posts: 519 Member
    this is gonna sound ridiculous and super full of myself... but when i was skinny (1 year of my life in high school) i got noticed a lot. it was normal to have people come up to me randomly in public or at parties and tell me how pretty i am.

    ever since i gained my weight, i rarely get compliments. needless to say, it kinda made me a little more self conscious.

    sad part is... i lost the weight so fast that i had no clue i lost it. i felt like the same fat girl. then i gained it just as fast.
    not only till i looked at pictures did i realize what i had. but it wasn't done in a healthy way, so i feel like i'm succeeding more this time.
  • laural007
    laural007 Posts: 251 Member
    I don't think a woman has ever approached me

    That has sarcasm written all over...VERY hard to imagine.
  • Mr_Bad_Example
    Mr_Bad_Example Posts: 2,403 Member
    I never seem to notice when or if anyone is noticing me. If someone is noticing me, I either view it as the person eying me with disdain or staring at the toilet paper that I am unaware is stuck to my shoe. Or I just think "What the hell are you staring at?"

    But, it doesn't happen with any great regularity.
  • TwinkieDong
    TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
    oh wow, not that anyone cares what I have to say or input, I find the topic interesting.

    In my younger years up until about 30 I was ALWAYS looked at. Then as I aged I gained weight so it went to sometimes. However this is all strictly based off looks. Now my personality in person (maybe not so much via online, in text) can undress almost any woman.
  • catrinaHwechanged
    catrinaHwechanged Posts: 4,907 Member
    oh wow, not that anyone cares what I have to say or input, I find the topic interesting.

    In my younger years up until about 30 I was ALWAYS looked at. Then as I aged I gained weight so it went to sometimes. However this is all strictly based off looks. Now my personality in person (maybe not so much via online, in text) can undress almost any woman.

    I care! ***hugs***
  • jasmineconley
    jasmineconley Posts: 438 Member
    I get noticed often. I find that most people would rather give off the creepy let me stand and stare at you until you come hither stance. On the other hand there are those that will come up and grab my ars which leads them to get hit. I gained weight in hopes of shaking some of these crazies but it didn't work and now that I'm losing it they are multiplying. At this point I'm trying to figure out which ones are worse the guys that know you're in a relationship and hound you or the group of guys that are on you like white on rice when they hear you are single? WHY CAN'T PEOPLE JUST BE NORMAL AND APPROACH YOU WITH SOME SENSE?
  • PonyTailedLoser
    PonyTailedLoser Posts: 315 Member
    Elderly men notice me hardcore. And occasional druggies/alcoholics/creepers :(
  • bluecrayonz
    bluecrayonz Posts: 459 Member
    I get noticed a lot....most of the time I wonder what they're seeing in me :0
  • Natihilator
    Natihilator Posts: 1,778 Member
    I'm a ghost. But if I'm not, I've gotten used to being a ghost in my head and therefore I'm oblivious to any attention coming my way unless it's right in front of my nose.

    Sometimes I like it, sometimes not.
  • sarahg148
    sarahg148 Posts: 701 Member
    If they are noticing me, then I must be pretty oblivious because I haven't noticed :)

    Of course, I've been told that I seem to be naive to men hitting on me. :tongue:

    Yyyyup! This is me, too!
  • abrandnewme18
    abrandnewme18 Posts: 305
    When I do my hair/makeup and am wearing cute clothes, I am usually more confident, friendlier, and happier and get noticed way more than when my face/hair/clothes look like crap. I also get noticed a lot when I drive my saab convertible and blast some music on! But that's because my car is smoking hot! :wink:
  • skinnytayy
    skinnytayy Posts: 459
    I used to get tons of looks ... Now I don't even really pay attention so I wouldn't know. I have a fiance that thinks I'm the prettiest girl in the world and that's all that matters to me.

    But now I'm curious ... going to start paying attention. Lol. I'm sure once I hit my goal weight & build some muscle, I'll get plenty of looks. I'm sure my fiance will just love that. *insert sarcasm* Lol
  • etoiles_argentees
    etoiles_argentees Posts: 2,827 Member
    yeahhhh... I'm noticed. Oblivious to it. I think it's my secret cat smile...
  • BeckyJayneGJ
    BeckyJayneGJ Posts: 41 Member
    Never been "noticed" in my life. Never been asked out, had a boyfriend or even hit on in a club/bar etc. I thought losing a lot of weight may change that but apparently not!
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I feel sort of silly answering this question. I do get noticed a lot and get a lot of compliments from strangers (men and women) and men that try to pick me up (everywhere I go). I am very flattered by it, but it can also be awkward for me because I am married. I just thought this was what it was like for all women.
  • RitaSantoss
    RitaSantoss Posts: 986 Member
    I do notice that people notice me more now. And I find it flattering and a great confidence booster! :happy: My latest one was when I was at a grocery store and I was looking through stuff in an aisle and I notice a guy coming up near me but didn't really say anything at first and I just went on with my day. But then he passed through another aisle I was in, and now he was with a guy friend also, and then i just heard his friend say 'Okay, let's pass through the aisle again so you cna see her again.' And I just started grinning inwardly like an idiot and started blushing. Thankfully he didn't see that, but safe to say that my mood improved a lot for the rest of the day.
  • mockchoc
    mockchoc Posts: 6,573 Member
    Right now I'm certainly being noticed a lot and getting tons of comments about how stunning my figure is and how I look way younger than I really am. I felt invisible when I was fatter though.
  • kellimr
    kellimr Posts: 69
    Yes I do feel like I get noticed and have felt it since I was about 10 or 11 (early development gets noticed for sure!) I think I enjoy it more when I am at a healthy weight and have more confidence in myself. A lot of people think they "know" me from somewhere or I look like their 'friend' or someone they went to school with. I think I just have a familiar/common face :).
  • etoiles_argentees
    etoiles_argentees Posts: 2,827 Member
    " I just thought this was what it was like for all women."

    Exactly. I'm sort of still oblivious though, I really don't pay attention to those around me.
  • GracefulDancer4Christ
    GracefulDancer4Christ Posts: 419 Member
    I have noticed that since I have lost a lot of weight I am being noticed more. I am guessing its because my confidence is being built up and it shows through.
  • Madmadz77
    Madmadz77 Posts: 129 Member
    I dont get noticed that much... Until I open my mouth. Then, no one can be indifferent. ;-)

    I notice all kinds of women and most of the time it's more about attitude then looks.

    Personality goes a long way...
  • jasmineconley
    jasmineconley Posts: 438 Member
    I dont get noticed that much... Until I open my mouth. Then, no one can be indifferent. ;-)

    I notice all kinds of women and most of the time it's more about attitude then looks.

    Personality goes a long way...

    YES! What happened to all my spunky people?
  • ArchangelMJ
    ArchangelMJ Posts: 308 Member
    I'm pretty shy and I get "noticed" and hit on by a lot of old creepers, and often teenagers and young boys. Not exactly ideal, lol. Throughout most of middle/high school I was quite awkward, and I still am, but I've learned to command my beauty more so than ever before.

    A couple weeks ago a much older guy stopped me and said he'd seen me three times, once while I was jogging, and that it must've been destiny to meet me because special things happen in threes....what a charmer, I tell ya'.

    I also get noticed because I tend to look like Michael Jackson, and being the huge fan that I am, I flaunt it. It's weird, because I swear I can always tell when someone's looking at me or talking about me. But then again, I'm super self-conscious, so I tend to be overly aware of how I'm being perceived.

    What's funny to me, is that if a guy thinks I look like MJ and he's attracted to me, then on some level that means he's attracted to MJ, and I find that hilariously awesome.

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