Being noticed (attractiveness)

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  • buffty
    buffty Posts: 83
    I've had two guys notice me this year!! I live above a bar and there are always drunks around my apartment at night. On two separate occasions, I've been walking along minding my own business and guys shouted 'fatty' the first time and 'fat cow' the second. Why do drunk people feel the need to do that?
  • smartin0181
    smartin0181 Posts: 45 Member
    On a run-of-the-mill day. . . no. No one overtly "notices" me. When I'm all dolled up for date night, I will occassionally get a glance. But nothing to write home about. I do see men & women notice me when I'm out for a run. Sometimes the glances are reasonably positive. . .like "way to go". . .sometimes they're nasty. . . I figure the ladies don't think I should be wearing running tights ???.. . and a few times the looks have been uber creepy. But all in all, I just am not someone who has a dynamic appearance. And I'm quite alright with that. My hubby thinks I'm hot and that's all that matters!


    When I see people running outside I always look at them and think, Way to go; or I should go do that! Then I think to myself, I hope I don't look weird or creepy looking at them run. Then OH CRAP they saw me looking. Haha : )
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
    The laws of attraction are curious, curious indeed.
  • meggyshae
    meggyshae Posts: 357 Member
    For me...I still have that fat person's mentality...so if I ever get stared at it's extremely awkward! lol...
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    I'm pretty sure that I am actually the invisible woman. But, it has been said to me that I am really bad at noticing when I am being noticed. IDK.
  • maddiey
    maddiey Posts: 231 Member
    For me...I still have that fat person's mentality...so if I ever get stared at it's extremely awkward! lol...

    This right here! lol.
    I don't think I get noticed very much, and when I do I don't even know how to handle it!
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
    I've had two guys notice me this year!! I live above a bar and there are always drunks around my apartment at night. On two separate occasions, I've been walking along minding my own business and guys shouted 'fatty' the first time and 'fat cow' the second. Why do drunk people feel the need to do that?

    It is the alcohol talking... they cast off restraint ... In this case, I would only be offended if it were somebody's opinion that really mattered... These are a couple of low-life drunks that probably don't even remember what they said the next day. I don't say that it does not hurt when people are insensitive... just realize you are a person of value, a priceless jewel, and they are too intoxicated to realize it... their loss... not yours.
  • meggyshae
    meggyshae Posts: 357 Member
    For me...I still have that fat person's mentality...so if I ever get stared at it's extremely awkward! lol...

    This right here! lol.
    I don't think I get noticed very much, and when I do I don't even know how to handle it!

    It's very scary sweetie, isn't it??? We just gotta remember we are determined young women and unstoppable!!!! YOU are beautiful!!!!
  • maddiey
    maddiey Posts: 231 Member
    For me...I still have that fat person's mentality...so if I ever get stared at it's extremely awkward! lol...

    This right here! lol.
    I don't think I get noticed very much, and when I do I don't even know how to handle it!

    It's very scary sweetie, isn't it??? We just gotta remember we are determined young women and unstoppable!!!! YOU are beautiful!!!!

    Thank you! You are too!! You probably get noticed WAY more than you think!
  • tennileb
    tennileb Posts: 265 Member
    I used to get noticed. now it's rare, when I do it is often "the wallflower effect " guys will hit on me because I'm average and the hot chicks will shoot them down, so they figure their odds are better with the plain chick :)
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    Rarely. Perhaps somewhat more when I was younger.
  • rjwriter78
    rjwriter78 Posts: 205 Member
    Getting noticed use to be important to me but then i woke up and realized that i have to just be myself. People notice you more when your not noticing them. Attention comes with maturity and realizing that things will happen on its own, then will it be your time.
  • meggyshae
    meggyshae Posts: 357 Member
    Getting noticed use to be important to me but then i woke up and realized that i have to just be myself. People notice you more when your not noticing them. Attention comes with maturity and realizing that things will happen on its own, then will it be your time.

    PERFECTLY SAID!!!!
  • I think if you are noticed a lot or care too much, you can become too focused on it. It's better to just be you and live like "if you like me raise your glass, if you don't kiss my...booty." You want people to like you for who you are and how you enrich their lives. And attraction has nothing to do with how one looks. I find myself "noticing" people after I know them for a while and I know it's because of attitude. Ugly people can open their minds and mouths and become sexy. And stereotypically sexy people can do the same and become ugly pretty quickly. The human mind and hormones are interesting and unpredictable things.
  • marieskee
    marieskee Posts: 120 Member
    Everyday! I look like a celebrity and people feel the need to remind daily!

    Edit" a famous singer. I hate when people say that to me!
  • Raezor1207
    Raezor1207 Posts: 80 Member
    nobody ever pays me in gum...
    I LOVE THIS!!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • ViviLane
    ViviLane Posts: 28 Member
    I get noticed, usually for my hair or makeup, which is cool since I put a bit of effort into both things!

    The one time that being noticed is odd and confusing is when you are working out and the gym, you look up, and someone across the gym has their eyes fixated on you. Is it just a mindless stare? Or are they actually staring with purpose? Weirds me out!! Yikes!
  • Justjamie0418
    Justjamie0418 Posts: 1,065 Member
    For me...I still have that fat person's mentality...so if I ever get stared at it's extremely awkward! lol...


    This happens to me too. Like the other day, a guy came up to me while I was working out and actually was like' do you go here often?' HAHA and I really didnt think he could be hitting on ME, because he was a hottie gym body. But he later that day told me I had great legs.. soo... I guess he wasnt eyeballing and criticising my deadlift form like I had first thought...

    Other times I know I am noticed ( In a positive way) and its normally on my feel -good- about- myself -full of confidence- days.
  • greeneyes0809
    greeneyes0809 Posts: 422 Member
    I go to school with thousands of thin, beautiful girls so I never really think I get noticed. However, I really think it all just comes down to confidence, when you are confident and comfortable, people notice and are drawn to that. I'm still working on that though haha!
  • 5erious
    5erious Posts: 469
    I go to school with thousands of thin, beautiful girls so I never really think I get noticed. However, I really thing it all just comes down to confidence, when you are confident and comfortable, people notice and are drawn to that. I'm still working on that though haha!

    no worries i definately noticed those fun bags on ur profile ;)
  • 89nunu
    89nunu Posts: 1,082 Member
    I got crazy hair that changes in colour and shape every couple of months, so I get noticed for my hair a lot and get comments (mainly from weird much older men and no one my own age) apart from that I don't really notice, and if I do get noticed I think it's because of the hair...
  • Nobody notices me..that's fine. The one important one did.
  • Viva81Diva
    Viva81Diva Posts: 148
    I've always been noticed, whether it was negatively or for being attractive. When I was "frumpy" as a pre-teen/early teen, no boys really noticed me, but would notice all of my friends and pick on me for the way I looked. I had frizzy hair, was shy, and didn't know much about style. I learned how to fix my hair and wear cuter outfits. After becoming popular in school, everyone noticed me. That's how I met my 1st husband at 16, and dated him until I was 21 when we got married. He always said men noticed me when we would go out, but I never paid it any mind because I was in love with my hubby.

    After I gained more weight, men just didn't seem to look at me like they did when I was slimmer. I noticed that! It never bothered me unless they started making mean comments or laughing at me. I would get pissed off. People can be completely shallow at times!

    I could care less if they find me attractive or not, but don't treat others bad because they are overweight.
  • kschoono
    kschoono Posts: 344 Member
    One of my guy friends insists that girls notice me. I've never caught anyone looking though.

    Matt Damon?!

    I agree he does look like Matt Damon. :)

    My sister says the guy is checking me out but I don't noticed it. :) Sometimes I do noticed when someone is looking at me, but I wonder if they are noticing my blue eyes, hair or maybe my cochlear implants. :)
  • gettinfitaus
    gettinfitaus Posts: 161 Member
    Nope, completely invisible. Always have been even before kids when I was a total gym bunny.

    I would watch people hook up in the gym, make friends, chat etc and just feel invisible. Then after I had my first child it just got worse because I just stopped participating.

    Even now I stand on the edges of the group, whether that group be the playground or the school pickup.

    I must admit though I would like to be whistled at just once. Or bought a drink, one of our friends was laughing the other night about his wife being bought drinks at a bar while he was in the toilet, which he thought was hilarious because she ordered another beer for him... I just felt a little bit green because I would like to do that... just once.
  • sometimes, but for me this is no matter....
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    I'm the most attractive to drunk guys at the club at 2 am who are desperate to get laid.
  • I don't think I'm very noticed to be fair :-( But then again, we might just not notice being noticed cos we aren't taking any notice. (think I said notice too many times)

    I think it comes down to not having confidence saying you are not being noticed though, I notice pretty much everybody..

    I walked into a pub the other day with my boyfriend and said "have you ever noticed that? When you walk into a pub, everyone stares." and he said "they are staring at you, you stand out" - should I take that as a compliment or think he's saying that because of my huge *kitten* hitting everyone as I walk in :laugh:
  • ladytinkerbell99
    ladytinkerbell99 Posts: 970 Member
    No, I don't think I am noticed. My husband tries to tell me that some of the men at the gym look at me, but if they have, I've never noticed it.

    I think those that you see that aren't all that attractive but still get a lot of attention are people who have a lot of confidence in themselves. People are drawn to people who are confident.

    ^ I agree with this comment 100%. :flowerforyou:
  • ZealousMissJJ
    ZealousMissJJ Posts: 454 Member
    The funny thing is I feel I never got noticed except on MFP. Men are A LOT more straight forward here than in real life. Or maybe in real life I'm not as attractive :tongue:.

    It's nice to be noticed and I admit I enjoy when it happens. :blushing: