Being noticed (attractiveness)

Chiefsinner95

I have had my share!!!

MyChocolateDiet

It's pretty wheird that while you were writing this... THIS was happening: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/969554-nsv-barista-style

Are you psychic? Were you channeling my cougar or attractiveness mojo? Wow we must be getting tight. Pretty soon our cycles are gonna sync up.

ETA: clarity, and a shout out to someone on my FL.

Timshel_

yeahhhh... I'm noticed. Oblivious to it. I think it's my secret cat smile...

Vertical or horizontal? I mean, that makes a difference.

MyChocolateDiet

^ this guy should be voted MFP's king of the one-liners.

Oishii

Have you always or often been noticed? Sometimes? Rarely? Do people sometimes look at you after knowing you awhile and suddenly find you very attractive? What has been your particular experience with being seen and noticed?

I sometimes see people that I find very attractive that seem to slip under most people's radar, and also the opposite, where people who don't seem that physically attractive still get a lot of attention. I find it curious.

@OP - after reading many of the responses posted, I am not sure if people understand you questions. My interpretation of your statement and question about attractive people that fly under the radar, compared with less attractive people that get a lot of attention is related to personality of the individual.

For me, I am an introvert, and prefer to be out of the spotlight and be in the background. Some may think that a person like this lacks confidence, but I would clarify that it is a preference rather than an insecurity.

On the other hand, I know many people that are simply "the life of the party", extroverted, outgoing and capture attention. As you mentioned, many of these people aren't the best looking, but they attain more attention than other people.

There people that lack the confidence and have insecurities about their appearance, and think that losing weight, having plastic surgery will change all of the that... I assure you that they will be the same person (inside) after the transformation.

First and foremost, feel good about yourself!

Thank you Mavrick. Yes, this is more along the lines of what I was getting at. I have known several of those people who are not considered typically attractive, in fact are sometimes quite large, obese, or average looking, who seem to get a disproportionate amount of attention from the opposite sex (referring to hetero). It just makes me think that attractiveness isn't necessarily correlated to the obvious, and I really do think that attitude and our own mind set has A LOT to do with how we're perceived. It's like the world just mirrors back to us what we already believe.

There's also another phenomenon that I find puzzling. I've had it happen several times where someone I knew looked at me suddenly, as if for the first time, and found me very beautiful. Their reaction is what gave it away, because they literally said "Woah..you're really beautiful!" with this rather amazed look on their face. Lol! And it just struck me so weird because they've known me for awhile, and found me attractive before to some extent, but not like this. This was a definite shift.

I've had it happen enough times to stand out as an odd experience. Wondering how it is I was suddenly seen in a new way.

That happened to me a few times as a child too, from other girls, but I remember it from a boy too when I wore a dress for a school play.

I suddenly noticed getting noticed when I came back from Japan. I was too big, too outside of cultural norms, to be noticed by all but a few (my future husband included ). When I got back, on the tube in London, I noticed so many more eyes on me. It was like suddenly becoming a sexualised being again!

mrdexter1

i always thought it a curse simply ,because when subsequently approached, no matter how polite i never found a way to reject an advance that prevented anger in women that brought all sorts of trouble my way...

fitfreakymom

I have never been "checked out" in my life.

My girlfriend insists this is not true, but 1. it's in her best interest to delude herself into thinking she has good taste, and 2. there is absolutely zero corroborating evidence.

hhhmmm you have a gf so yeah you have been checked out lol.

MyChocolateDiet

I do notice that people notice me more now. And I find it flattering and a great confidence booster! :happy: My latest one was when I was at a grocery store and I was looking through stuff in an aisle and I notice a guy coming up near me but didn't really say anything at first and I just went on with my day. But then he passed through another aisle I was in, and now he was with a guy friend also, and then i just heard his friend say 'Okay, let's pass through the aisle again so you cna see her again.' And I just started grinning inwardly like an idiot and started blushing. Thankfully he didn't see that, but safe to say that my mood improved a lot for the rest of the day.

awwwwwwwwwwwww:flowerforyou:

MyChocolateDiet

I'm pretty innocuous and don't get noticed. I do like when I do occasionaly though.

Opposite, I get noticed, but sometimes want to be a "fly on the wall" and get a better view of the group dynamics WITHOUT me in it.

dognamedpig

Confidence is key, internally generated, whatever the reason. I may look physically the same but when my mood swings, I go from 'don't notice me and I think you're a creeper if you look at me, let alone talk to me, I just want to be alone' to 'inside I think I AM awesome! I'm going to laugh and joke and check you out and if I'm feeling forward, I'm going to ask you out'. I may wear something slightly different and put on minimal make-up but that's the end of the external change.

StabR80

Um I use to get noticed a lot. Now that I am fat that's what they see. Of course my hubby thinks I am beautiful and always worries I will meet someone new and leave him. I laugh in his face lol

fitfreakymom

I am fairly confident and can easily get noticed because of it but at the same time I can blend in with the surroundings and not be noticed when I choose.

luckyshilling

Much to my husband's amusement the last time we went out 2 see a band (a cheesy 80's hair metal cover band) at a bar 2 different women asked me if they could buy me a drink.
I flashed my left hand and politely declined.

I felt so pretty:blushing:

karen19711

All the time....Smile K

2stepscloser

Other than by my husband, I don't get noticed by men and if I do, I'm clueless to it .

I have a lot of women pay me compliments but there is something more appealing about receiving them from the opposite sex.

fishgutzy

i got noticed by guys when I drove my heavily modified 4 door Jeep :bigsmile:

CheriLMT

I pray that people aren't looking at me because if they are all I feel is judgement about my weight...I just wish to blend in but I have let myself get heavy enough to where that is hard

aprmay

I get noticed. It's funny though because I usually don't pay attention or oblivious and my friends would have to tell me. It's a nice feeling but not taking it too seriously.

danholden4006

I'm pretty oblivious to seeing people check me out. Probably because I don't hold my self in high regards in my own mind so I feel that others shouldn't either. (Yes, I have self esteem issues.)

On the other side of the coin I do like to point out to my friends when someone is checking them out.

bethanyrees4

Short answer: yes, I seem to get noticed pretty often. I think it's the hair.

But it can get really annoying as it makes me super uncomfortable when guys 'notice' me (with saying things, stares, whistles, honks, etc) because of how self-conscious I am. I always assume they are doing it in a mocking way.

servilia

Yes I do I guess. Not as much now as before as I just had a baby so I'm still carrying around some extra weight. Funniest was when. I was heavily pregnant and some dude would be checking me out until they noticed my bump lol

MbiggsHFD319

I get noticed everywhere I go and I love it....I mean who wouldn't notice a gal in an orange dodge challenger SRT that steps out wearing a tank top, big blingy belt, Daisy Dukes and western dress boots? Lol. Yep I was the only daughter and the baby of the family; I like to be the center of attention. Lol

bjemar5

I don't at least not that I've noticed

IamSheaMc

I never get noticed lol
Never get hit on either.

skcardiog

Bill Murray said it best . . . and I quote -

" Chicks dig me because I rarely wear underwear and when I do, it's usually something unusual."

Mutant13

My partner says I get hit on a lot, but I think that's a matter of perception. I grew up a tomboy and just gravitate to having more male friends than women, and tend to share more hobbies/interests with dudes. So to me it's just casual/platonic conversation.

As to being physically noticed, not much. I slouch around too much

Mutant13

i got noticed by guys when I drove my heavily modified 4 door Jeep :bigsmile:

That's beautiful

iggylove123

When I was younger creepy 20 30 year old men would stare at me. Now I'm a freshman in college and I still get some of that but also bold 19-24 year olds. Like a guy from McDonalds came up to me and said "you're very beautiful. Too bad I have a girlfriend"...wow. I get stares and checked out. Then by other guys I don't even get noticed. Everyone has their preference. I've noticed that now that I weigh a lot less I've been getting checked out more

gerard54

nobody ever pays me in gum...

crawford4398

Weird twist of fate, Where being unique gets you noticed everywhere.