My Online BF Dumped Me Because I'm Fat :( :( :(
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Wait - he's a soldier and he weighs 250+ at 5'5"? did anyone else stop there knowing this was all a BS story?
YES! THANK YOU. and the fact that he asked for wet wipes... What man asks for wet wipes?
like i said my brother in law is in the army...he is a lifer and there is no way this story is true and people are gulliable
Actually, I gotta jump in and say that that's the only part of this story that's remotely believable! My husband is Canadian Infantry and they use baby wipes all the time when they're out in the field. Gotta keep your parts clean some how when there's no water!
Ok for starters... i am active duty and i see over weight people alllll day long... i dont know people assume that just because your active duty means your in the best shape of your life and you are a stick bug, people really need to get that thought out of their heads! **** happens, military members get hurt and cant work out and PT. Just b/c your active duty doesnt mean you arent human! please people get your facts straight!
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The problem I have is with the word "Online".
Stick to REAL men in the REAL world.
People are real online, too. I was with my ex for three years, and only a few months of that was "in real life". That doesn't mean our relationship was invalid, nor is anyone else's.
Just because you jumped out of an airplane sans chute and lived to tell the tale doesn't make it a great idea for everyone else to try. I'm happy it worked out for you, but really in most cases, more trouble than good comes from internet dating.
Uh huh. Riiiiight. Because dating a person online is akin to an experience that should result in death?
Yes, you're right, you must be totally 100% the authority on this! :noway:
People are people. The only thing that changes online is the method of communication. You are JUST as likely to meet a serial killer out at the bar, or some other random "real" place, than online. So please take your ignorant cynicism elsewhere.
My brother married a girl off the internet. She tried to attack him, got arrested for assault and their divorce is pending.
My dad married a girl off the internet. She emptied our house and bank accounts 1 year in.
My dad got married again off the internet, she and a cop tried to frame him in an attempt to get him arrested and take over all his assets. Cop was fired and they are now divorced.
Internet dating IS akin to death.
Not all of them. Just because you know a few people out of the thoasands (?) who have had successful internet relationships.
I myself met my husband here on myfitnesspal while I was going through a painful divorce, moved across the country to be with him and we've been happily married for 13 months. Not a long time, but we appreciate what we have and HAVE a great relationship/marriage...nor are we crazy.
When you go internet relationship crazy, kill your husband, chop him up and serve him in a stew to the volunteers in the search party combing the forest for your "missing" husband, his ghost will go "I should have listened to that wise cat..."
Edit: You realize that this entire argument you're making? Is not only implying that EVERYONE online is a psychopath (which means you and me, by the by), but also means that everyone who uses the internet has intent to deceive. Got something you'd like to share with the class?
YES THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT I'M SAYING!
How long have you been using the internet? I THOUGHT EVERYONE KNEW THIS ALREADY!0 -
I'd freak out and cry too if my SO chose a Metalica song for us. Not very romantic!! Unless you like old 80s metal songs to "cuddle" too. LMAO still7 pages later, the OP only came back to state that it was a Metallica song.
LMFAO
What bar/lounge singer would be singing metallica? If the story didn't convince you of a troll, the song choice should0 -
The problem I have is with the word "Online".
Stick to REAL men in the REAL world.
People are real online, too. I was with my ex for three years, and only a few months of that was "in real life". That doesn't mean our relationship was invalid, nor is anyone else's.
Just because you jumped out of an airplane sans chute and lived to tell the tale doesn't make it a great idea for everyone else to try. I'm happy it worked out for you, but really in most cases, more trouble than good comes from internet dating.
Uh huh. Riiiiight. Because dating a person online is akin to an experience that should result in death?
Yes, you're right, you must be totally 100% the authority on this! :noway:
People are people. The only thing that changes online is the method of communication. You are JUST as likely to meet a serial killer out at the bar, or some other random "real" place, than online. So please take your ignorant cynicism elsewhere.
My brother married a girl off the internet. She tried to attack him, got arrested for assault and their divorce is pending.
My dad married a girl off the internet. She emptied our house and bank accounts 1 year in.
My dad got married again off the internet, she and a cop tried to frame him in an attempt to get him arrested and take over all his assets. Cop was fired and they are now divorced.
Internet dating IS akin to death.
Edited to add: I hate cops.
My dad married a woman from the internet, and while I think she is a conniving, gold-digging beyotch, my dad likes her well enough. She certainly isn't a criminal.
I have gone on many, many dates with people whom I have met online, and I was engaged to my ex who lived her entire life in California. I am still alive, healthy, assault-free, and have not had anything stolen from me.
Actually, the ONE time I hooked up with a guy who approached me at a hotel pool, he tried to put it in my butt. And was far more of a creep than anyone I've met online.
Your dad and brother got unlucky, plain and simple. (And no offense but your dad is kind of thick for marrying a person from the web AGAIN when that didn't work out for him the first time around...)
Because see... the thing is... like I said... you are just as likely to meet the crazies "irl" as online.
You mean there are people who DON'T put it in the butt?
Yep. My boyfriend tried to rim me once while I was drunk and I hated it. I do not judge the actions of others, and I have heard it can be quite pleasurable for men, but my personal butt is exit-only.
Well rimming is just unsanitary. Ever hear of Hepatitis?0 -
The problem I have is with the word "Online".
Stick to REAL men in the REAL world.
People are real online, too. I was with my ex for three years, and only a few months of that was "in real life". That doesn't mean our relationship was invalid, nor is anyone else's.
Just because you jumped out of an airplane sans chute and lived to tell the tale doesn't make it a great idea for everyone else to try. I'm happy it worked out for you, but really in most cases, more trouble than good comes from internet dating.
Uh huh. Riiiiight. Because dating a person online is akin to an experience that should result in death?
Yes, you're right, you must be totally 100% the authority on this! :noway:
People are people. The only thing that changes online is the method of communication. You are JUST as likely to meet a serial killer out at the bar, or some other random "real" place, than online. So please take your ignorant cynicism elsewhere.
My brother married a girl off the internet. She tried to attack him, got arrested for assault and their divorce is pending.
My dad married a girl off the internet. She emptied our house and bank accounts 1 year in.
My dad got married again off the internet, she and a cop tried to frame him in an attempt to get him arrested and take over all his assets. Cop was fired and they are now divorced.
Internet dating IS akin to death.
Not all of them. Just because you know a few people out of the thoasands (?) who have had successful internet relationships.
I myself met my husband here on myfitnesspal while I was going through a painful divorce, moved across the country to be with him and we've been happily married for 13 months. Not a long time, but we appreciate what we have and HAVE a great relationship/marriage...nor are we crazy.
When you go internet relationship crazy, kill your husband, chop him up and serve him in a stew to the volunteers in the search party combing the forest for your "missing" husband, his ghost will go "I should have listened to that wise cat..."
Edit: You realize that this entire argument you're making? Is not only implying that EVERYONE online is a psychopath (which means you and me, by the by), but also means that everyone who uses the internet has intent to deceive. Got something you'd like to share with the class?
YES THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT I'M SAYING!
How long have you been using the internet? I THOUGHT EVERYONE KNEW THIS ALREADY!
Well... if that's how you feel...
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I don't have really anything different to say. Did at any point he tell you the weight was his problem? I'm not making excuses for him but it sounds like to me he may have some deep issues that he needs to work on. My best friend's husband came home from Iraq a completely different person and it nearly caused a divorce. Hugs! Hope it's all better soon for you.0
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The problem I have is with the word "Online".
Stick to REAL men in the REAL world.
People are real online, too. I was with my ex for three years, and only a few months of that was "in real life". That doesn't mean our relationship was invalid, nor is anyone else's.
Just because you jumped out of an airplane sans chute and lived to tell the tale doesn't make it a great idea for everyone else to try. I'm happy it worked out for you, but really in most cases, more trouble than good comes from internet dating.
Uh huh. Riiiiight. Because dating a person online is akin to an experience that should result in death?
Yes, you're right, you must be totally 100% the authority on this! :noway:
People are people. The only thing that changes online is the method of communication. You are JUST as likely to meet a serial killer out at the bar, or some other random "real" place, than online. So please take your ignorant cynicism elsewhere.
My brother married a girl off the internet. She tried to attack him, got arrested for assault and their divorce is pending.
My dad married a girl off the internet. She emptied our house and bank accounts 1 year in.
My dad got married again off the internet, she and a cop tried to frame him in an attempt to get him arrested and take over all his assets. Cop was fired and they are now divorced.
Internet dating IS akin to death.
Edited to add: I hate cops.
My dad married a woman from the internet, and while I think she is a conniving, gold-digging beyotch, my dad likes her well enough. She certainly isn't a criminal.
I have gone on many, many dates with people whom I have met online, and I was engaged to my ex who lived her entire life in California. I am still alive, healthy, assault-free, and have not had anything stolen from me.
Actually, the ONE time I hooked up with a guy who approached me at a hotel pool, he tried to put it in my butt. And was far more of a creep than anyone I've met online.
Your dad and brother got unlucky, plain and simple. (And no offense but your dad is kind of thick for marrying a person from the web AGAIN when that didn't work out for him the first time around...)
Because see... the thing is... like I said... you are just as likely to meet the crazies "irl" as online.
You mean there are people who DON'T put it in the butt?
Yep. My boyfriend tried to rim me once while I was drunk and I hated it. I do not judge the actions of others, and I have heard it can be quite pleasurable for men, but my personal butt is exit-only.
Well rimming is just unsanitary. Ever hear of Hepatitis?
Using a public bathroom is also unsanitary, and yet somehow people seem to survive it. That being said, I do personally find rimming disgusting and do not see how anyone could enjoy it, as well as all sex acts involving the butt. But we'd better stop talking about this particular subject before someone flags my posts as sexually vulgar or something.0 -
I think you were very fortunate to end the night with only your heart broken. He sounds like a very unstable and potentially dangerous person. I'm sorry this happened to you.0
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I'm sorry....if no one else has the most hilarious visual of a Michael buble-esque person rocking out to enter sandman at a local bar then I don't think you are human0
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rebelate has the best ticker ever! haha
Grumpy cat sums up my feelings! Hahaha. Thank you. :blushing:
I love cats, but I'm sorry. My ticker is definitely better.
Add a cat chasing the donut, and I think yours will be the best of them all.0 -
I'm sorry....if no one else has the most hilarious visual of a Michael buble-esque person rocking out to enter sandman at a local bar then I don't think you are human
If this can happen, so can your mental image.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=edsbS_SCADE 0 -
OK, a few home truths.
- You can be overweight and in the Army, in the same way you can be overweight and in the police force. Not all jobs require the same skills.
- Online relationships ARE dangerous, but so is sleeping with a random in a club you've just met. Online, offline - you get bizarre people in all situations. Yes, online can be a breeding ground for those with "issues" - but it can also be a lifeline to a lot of people who either suffer from social anxiety, or just are lacking in confidence. Online dating is NOT a bad thing, providing you do it safely, responsibly and don't throw yourself in too far, too soon. It's also knowing about what you want.
I do agree with the poster who said that you need to work on YOU. This guy - for whatever reason, sounds like he has issues; serious issues, and it's easy for us to sit here as armchair psychologists and diagnose his problem(s), but we don't know him, and I guess neither did you. It's a horrible situation because you've invested so much in him and he's thrown it back in your face, but please use this as a learning experience. I'm not saying "don't online date" - I'm saying be aware, be careful, be safe. Don't commit to someone without knowing them - and when I say knowing them, I mean meeting them and spending time with them and getting to know their environment.0 -
I'm sorry....if no one else has the most hilarious visual of a Michael buble-esque person rocking out to enter sandman at a local bar then I don't think you are human
If this can happen, so can your mental image.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=edsbS_SCADE
omg I actually really like this cover lol....but I was thinking of a man in a suit with a piano and head banging lol0 -
I'd freak out and cry too if my SO chose a Metalica song for us. Not very romantic!! Unless you like old 80s metal songs to "cuddle" too. LMAO still7 pages later, the OP only came back to state that it was a Metallica song.
LMFAO
What bar/lounge singer would be singing metallica? If the story didn't convince you of a troll, the song choice should
Um, there are Metallica songs covered on the xylophone for babies. Also, I've heard lizard-lounge covers of Metallica songs, so it is possible.........so a song choice automatically equals lying now?
Wow.....0 -
rebelate has the best ticker ever! haha
Grumpy cat sums up my feelings! Hahaha. Thank you. :blushing:
I love cats, but I'm sorry. My ticker is definitely better.
Add a cat chasing the donut, and I think yours will be the best of them all.
THAT'S WHAT I WANTED TO DO! MFP WON'T LET ME!
Stupid preset ticker icons...
...or wait... give me 5 minutes0 -
rebelate has the best ticker ever! haha
Grumpy cat sums up my feelings! Hahaha. Thank you. :blushing:
I love cats, but I'm sorry. My ticker is definitely better.
hahaha that is awesome too! I need to update mine!0 -
I'm sorry....if no one else has the most hilarious visual of a Michael buble-esque person rocking out to enter sandman at a local bar then I don't think you are human
If this can happen, so can your mental image.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=edsbS_SCADE
omg I actually really like this cover lol....but I was thinking of a man in a suit with a piano and head banging lol
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gY6pmLP9olc 0 -
I can't look away from this thread...... I haven't blinked in 7 minutes.0
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I'd freak out and cry too if my SO chose a Metalica song for us. Not very romantic!! Unless you like old 80s metal songs to "cuddle" too. LMAO still7 pages later, the OP only came back to state that it was a Metallica song.
LMFAO
What bar/lounge singer would be singing metallica? If the story didn't convince you of a troll, the song choice should
Um, there are Metallica songs covered on the xylophone for babies. Also, I've heard lizard-lounge covers of Metallica songs, so it is possible.........so a song choice automatically equals lying now?
Wow.....
ok....jeez louise.....I think there should be a physician on mfp to hand out chill pills to the intense ones0 -
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jb6W-h5j3jM
system of a down, not metallica....same hilarious concept0 -
rebelate has the best ticker ever! haha
Grumpy cat sums up my feelings! Hahaha. Thank you. :blushing:
I love cats, but I'm sorry. My ticker is definitely better.
Add a cat chasing the donut, and I think yours will be the best of them all.
genius0 -
I'd freak out and cry too if my SO chose a Metalica song for us. Not very romantic!! Unless you like old 80s metal songs to "cuddle" too. LMAO still7 pages later, the OP only came back to state that it was a Metallica song.
LMFAO
What bar/lounge singer would be singing metallica? If the story didn't convince you of a troll, the song choice should
Um, there are Metallica songs covered on the xylophone for babies. Also, I've heard lizard-lounge covers of Metallica songs, so it is possible.........so a song choice automatically equals lying now?
Wow.....
ok....jeez louise.....I think there should be a physician on mfp to hand out chill pills to the intense ones
I'm chilled. Actually quite chilled because I have the AC on. But yea, you would be surprised how many heavy metal songs are covered by non-heavy metal people. I'm tempted to learn the ukulele and cover some thrash metal. lol0 -
he sounds disturbed so I would move on from that situation..... :flowerforyou:0
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lol love it, im jamming with the finger snapping right nowhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jb6W-h5j3jM
system of a down, not metallica....same hilarious concept0 -
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jb6W-h5j3jM
system of a down, not metallica....same hilarious concept
aaaaaah Richard Cheese, haven't heard him in forever! :laugh:0 -
rebelate has the best ticker ever! haha
Grumpy cat sums up my feelings! Hahaha. Thank you. :blushing:
I love cats, but I'm sorry. My ticker is definitely better.
Add a cat chasing the donut, and I think yours will be the best of them all.
THAT'S WHAT I WANTED TO DO! MFP WON'T LET ME!
Stupid preset ticker icons...
...or wait... give me 5 minutes
OOOOOH, I'll be waiting. :devil:0 -
Long distance relationships - sometimes the other person is living a fantasy and then when it comes time to meet they realize reality doesn't mesh with what they thought. He sounds like he has some other things going on and might have been using you. Or he might have deep psychological issues.
Did he say it was because of your weight? Or did he just have a mental breakdown that has nothing to do with your weight? I think if he was that strongly opposed to your size he would have bolted right away and stayed in his hotel room once you dropped him off, instead of after dinner and drinks.0 -
I'd freak out and cry too if my SO chose a Metalica song for us. Not very romantic!! Unless you like old 80s metal songs to "cuddle" too. LMAO still7 pages later, the OP only came back to state that it was a Metallica song.
LMFAO
What bar/lounge singer would be singing metallica? If the story didn't convince you of a troll, the song choice should
Um, there are Metallica songs covered on the xylophone for babies. Also, I've heard lizard-lounge covers of Metallica songs, so it is possible.........so a song choice automatically equals lying now?
Wow.....
ok....jeez louise.....I think there should be a physician on mfp to hand out chill pills to the intense ones
I'm chilled. Actually quite chilled because I have the AC on. But yea, you would be surprised how many heavy metal songs are covered by non-heavy metal people. I'm tempted to learn the ukulele and cover some thrash metal. lol
Maybe you weren't understanding my visual, because I actually like when people take rock songs and transform them into something else, but im talking about like a **** Cheese (gross name, look him up online) version of the song and it just made my laugh out loud literally. And I could just see this weirdo crying at the bar while this guy was singing enter sandman and running away with her chasing after him, weaving in and out of the tables0 -
Maybe the song was Enter Sandman, and he freaked out and started crying because that song is scary.0
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He keeps saying I have a good heart and he hopes I find the happiness I deserve. But if he really thinks that, then why did he end things with me?
Because he is sure (for whatever reason) that he can't provide the happiness that you deserve. This is not about you, it's about him- and he has issues. Big ones. Don't carry his issues forward with you, because you have plenty of your own stuff to work out. Worry about you, take care of you, make YOURSELF your priority. You'll be just fine, and he'll still be a crazy person and a terrible drunk.
This .. I agree with this...0
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