that "skinny b*tch" moment

FANTASTIC.

I have posted my before and after pictures before but i want to tell you a story of absolute success. i was very fat in high school actually my whole school career. i was bullied ALOT because of it. the "popular" kids would often say things like "maybe if you give her a twinkie she will let you copy her homework" among other things. (i was smart almost all advanced classes). this is what i looked like


i work about 3 blocks from my old high school so everyone i went to school with lives close. so 2 nights ago one of the boys who bullied me relentlessly came into my work. i knew who he was instantly he doesn't have a face i would likely forget. He came to the counter and did a double take and
said "you're Chelsea (insert last name here) right?"
so i said "yes"
he said "damn you got hot! i gotta say i wouldnt have recognized you. Sorry for.....ya know everything in school. we were young ya know?" he was staring at my chest the whole time he said this
so i could either be a b*tch or say its okay. So what did i do?
i said "You are only sorry because you think im...what did you say? 'hot?' if i still was fat you would have come in here and said some smart alack remark about how im still fat and although i have changed for the better you are still the same. i thought maybe college would have changed you but i guess not. so no i do not accept you're apology because your not truly sorry."
needless to say he was stunned and quietly left the store. my coworker Phil was in the back room and came out clapping. i have never been more proud of myself, i stood up to my bully! this guy harrassed me throughout the 6 years i knew him.
This is what i look like now

You have done a wonderful job losing all the weight. You look wonderful and I'm sure you feel wonderful. I'm so sorry you were bullied in school. It sounds absolutely horrible.
That being said, I think it would have been a better ending for you to have let him know that he really hurt you, and then forgive him. I think he probably went out on a limb to apologize to you, even if it was awkward and not well-worded. He could have just pretended he didn't recognize you, right? Like another poster said, I wasn't there, so I can't really picture exactly the circumstances or the attitudes involved, so I may be off base, but I truly think a kinder and higher road to take would have been to graciously accept his apology.

I never get mentalities like this. Why, after enduring years of teasing, casual cruelty, and torment, is one supposed to take the 'high' road? Why is the burden on the bullied person to be the 'better man'? So the Bully can have the satisfaction of being a good person now and go to sleep at night content in the knowledge that they've been forgiven and the years they spent causing someone else pain are just wiped clean? Forget that.

I was viciously bullied in high school, to a point that I had to have my entire class schedule rearranged (Funny how I was the one who had to change and not the bullies) and I can honestly say there are some people out in the world who I wish live long lives, full of pain and suffering and not a single shred of happiness.

OT: Good for you OP, and you were beautiful before and beautiful now.

Because, ultimately, forgiveness isn't about the bully. It's about learning to let go of the rage, anger, sadness, or bitterness that exists when you "don't get" that mentality. Whether you realize it's there or not, that sort of resentment can be very toxic to oneself.

You have done a wonderful job losing all the weight. You look wonderful and I'm sure you feel wonderful. I'm so sorry you were bullied in school. It sounds absolutely horrible.
That being said, I think it would have been a better ending for you to have let him know that he really hurt you, and then forgive him. I think he probably went out on a limb to apologize to you, even if it was awkward and not well-worded. He could have just pretended he didn't recognize you, right? Like another poster said, I wasn't there, so I can't really picture exactly the circumstances or the attitudes involved, so I may be off base, but I truly think a kinder and higher road to take would have been to graciously accept his apology.

I never get mentalities like this. Why, after enduring years of teasing, casual cruelty, and torment, is one supposed to take the 'high' road? Why is the burden on the bullied person to be the 'better man'? So the Bully can have the satisfaction of being a good person now and go to sleep at night content in the knowledge that they've been forgiven and the years they spent causing someone else pain are just wiped clean? Forget that.

I was viciously bullied in high school, to a point that I had to have my entire class schedule rearranged (Funny how I was the one who had to change and not the bullies) and I can honestly say there are some people out in the world who I wish live long lives, full of pain and suffering and not a single shred of happiness.

OT: Good for you OP, and you were beautiful before and beautiful now.

Because, ultimately, forgiveness isn't about the bully. It's about learning to let go of the rage, anger, sadness, or bitterness that exists when you "don't get" that mentality. Whether you realize it's there or not, that sort of resentment can be very toxic to oneself.