Some of you are just plain RUDE

All forums you find online are going to have their share of people who come off as rude. This may not be their intentions and yet for some it may be. Online it's impossible to understand the tone and manner of the person. Just how it is.

I agree with you! People have different circumstances that affect their actions. Don't judge and I thought we were here to "give support?"

I must be wrong.

OMG I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH YOU 150%!!!!!! PEOPLE ARE RUDE AND ALOT OF US DONT UNDERSTAND WHAT ALL OF THESE FANCY TERMS MEANS AND HOW MANY CALORIES WE SHOULD BE USING! I HAD TO DELETE A LADY WHO WAS VERY RUDE TO ME BECAUSE SHE COULDNT UNDERSTAND WHY I WAS VENTING. I DONT LIKE IGNORANCE

YES
4'11 girl: Is it ok if I eat 1,200 calories a day?
People: NO UR GONNA STARVE UR GONNA SHRIVEL UP AND DIE EVERYONE NEEDS WAY MORE THAN 1,200 CALORIES UR GONNA STARVE AND DIE LOLZ UR DUMB EAT A SANDWICH

^ The issue is that MFP has been set up 1200 as a base line but suggests it to way too many women. There are some rather petite women like yourself for which 1200 is probably appropriate. Shake it off as many people on here are trying to draw from their personal experiences to provide help. There are certainly some that are overzealous.

People have legitimate questions that need thoughtful answers. You may have lost 50 pounds and be in the best shape of your life but that does not give you the right to talk down to someone. Where are you manners?? I don't care if this is your 50th time answering the same question. Don't be a prick about it. Some are new to this site and don't want to go through the million pages of topics that are posted.

Everyone was new here once, except for the tiny handful of people who somehow joined when they had no members yet. Which must have been REALLY weird. But for everyone else, there's always been people who have been here longer and have known more.

MAYBE the people who you think are being rude are repeating what worked for THEM when they were the noobs.

I've been here almost 2.5 years. When I first joined, I spent a lot more time reading than I did posting. I still spend a lot more time reading than I do posting, and with a post count as high as mine, that's a LOT of reading. I can probably count on one hand the number of times I've actually asked for advice, because I usually found the answer while... you guessed it: reading.

I try to be considerate. I try to think "this could be someone's first day here," not only when considering the OP, but lurkers who might be like me and read more than post. I don't go out of my way to be rude, but I've still been accused of it, because someone didn't like my answer.

Personally, I grew up with four older brothers, and as a very unpopular nerdgirl in school. I've taken a lot of ribbing in my life. A few words on an internet forum aren't going to send me into hysterics. And I attribute 95% of the success I've had on this site to keeping an open mind and realizing that I can learn most from those who are saying things that don't make sense. (like eating more for better weight loss, and lifting weights to look more feminine)

If someone is being genuinely rude, ignore them or report them if you think it's bad enough. But if you just don't like their "delivery," realize that not everyone responds the same way to the same stimuli. What you might think is rude might be the kick in the pants someone else truly NEEDS.

I agree people should at least make an effort to be polite to one another, but on the other hand . . . I think FAR too many people on this forum (and in the world, in general) have thin skin.

So, I'm a bit torn on how to feel.:indifferent:

I didn't read the responses, but I'm going to go with my gut and say "Uh oh."

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People get "brave" on the internet. They find they can say what they want without consequence. No worries. Hopefully one day their attitudes from the internet come out in real life and they use it to the wrong person and get punched in the face.

This excuse of "we aren't rude - we're just HONEST" is a cop out. You do not have to be snide to be honest. It's a little thing called TACT. Some people just don't have any, unfortunately.

tact noun \ˈtakt\

Definition of TACT

1
: sensitive mental or aesthetic perception <converted the novel into a play with remarkable skill and tact>
2
: a keen sense of what to do or say in order to maintain good relations with others or avoid offense

One who hopes someone gets punched in the face should not be attempting to instruct people on "tact"

You totally win. :flowerforyou: