Some of you are just plain RUDE
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You need to APPLAUD them for taking the step to be healthy.
I don't need to do anything. I don't ask you to validate my decisions and my actions and my choices. Why the heck would I need to do that with you? Or anyone else for that matter?I've taken ownership of my decisions and choices and as such I get to own my successes and my failures. If you are asking for advice, and I share my advice, you, as the asker, should be prepared to hear something that doesn't jive with your world view. Usually, people like myself who have been here for a long time and learned a lot of hard lessons are willing to share our experiences, only to get shot down, disrespected and told "but that would never work for me!" then disregarded. It's rare that the snarky responses precede the good advice and imminent rebuttal.
Also, your post is exceedingly RUDE and condescending. How about removing the massive tree branch in your own eye before looking for the splinter in mine, k?0 -
WARNING! WARNING WARNING!
Danger Will Robinson!
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There is so much ridiculousness on this thread, and I would love to tell one person in particular who thinks she's coming across as super awesome that she actually sounds like a complete idiot, but...
I'd rather just hug this dog.0 -
looks like your post has attracted a great deal of the rude pr!c*s here, they will follow wherever you go.0
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I have gotten to the point where I don't want to read the forum's anymore because some of you are just RUDE.
What makes you think you can treat someone like they are stupid?
Forums are like that. Some people use them to get attention from their "shocking" comments. Some use them for attention for their bodies. Some use them for dialog attention. You just have to sift though what you don't want and take in what you do. Almost *ever* forum will have some touch of this.
Find people you like and stalk them around and interact with them. Ignore the rest.0 -
In before the lock on yet another complaint about how mean people can be. Fight rudeness with rudeness and they will cancel each other out by bursting into sparkly rainbow colored unicorns.0
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@ Bannedword --- Being snide (as you are in your post) is against the policies of this site. If you can't be positive, be quiet.
Bossy. My favorite kind of rude.0 -
You need to APPLAUD them for taking the step to be healthy.
I don't need to do anything. I don't ask you to validate my decisions and my actions and my choices. Why the heck would I need to do that with you? Or anyone else for that matter?I've taken ownership of my decisions and choices and as such I get to own my successes and my failures. If you are asking for advice, and I share my advice, you, as the asker, should be prepared to hear something that doesn't jive with your world view. Usually, people like myself who have been here for a long time and learned a lot of hard lessons are willing to share our experiences, only to get shot down, disrespected and told "but that would never work for me!" then disregarded. It's rare that the snarky responses precede the good advice and imminent rebuttal.
Also, your post is exceedingly RUDE and condescending. How about removing the massive tree branch in your own eye before looking for the splinter in mine, k?
You win the thread :drinker:0 -
I have gotten to the point where I don't want to read the forum's anymore because some of you are just RUDE.
What makes you think you can treat someone like they are stupid?
People have legitimate questions that need thoughtful answers. You may have lost 50 pounds and be in the best shape of your life but that does not give you the right to talk down to someone. Where are you manners?? I don't care if this is your 50th time answering the same question. Don't be a prick about it. Some are new to this site and don't want to go through the million pages of topics that are posted. For a lot of people this is there first time trying to get healthy, they may not know that you shouldn't eat less than 1200 calories. You need to APPLAUD them for taking the step to be healthy. If you have some criticism, say it nicely. Don't say things like "you're stupid" or "I did that back when I was a naive idiot" or other sarcastic blows. People come here for support and advice. You can give your advice is a nice way.
Pretty sure this site is for motivation and support. Let's make sure we keep it that way. Keep it classy, people. Keep it classy.
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Thank you!!! People on here are a-holes. Guess they forget what it's like to just start out.
Well, several times I've tried to be helpful by posting what worked *for me* and been attacked.
A lot of times people simply don't want to hear what worked, because they don't want to hear it. Get over it, I'm not going to say you're doing great for eating pizza and pop tarts.
What's wrong with pizza and pop tarts? IIFYM
Somehow I just knew that was coming.0 -
I guess I have not ran into the problem with rude people yet and I have been using this site since January.I have gotten to the point where I don't want to read the forum's anymore because some of you are just RUDE.
What makes you think you can treat someone like they are stupid?
People have legitimate questions that need thoughtful answers. You may have lost 50 pounds and be in the best shape of your life but that does not give you the right to talk down to someone. Where are you manners?? I don't care if this is your 50th time answering the same question. Don't be a prick about it. Some are new to this site and don't want to go through the million pages of topics that are posted. For a lot of people this is there first time trying to get healthy, they may not know that you shouldn't eat less than 1200 calories. You need to APPLAUD them for taking the step to be healthy. If you have some criticism, say it nicely. Don't say things like "you're stupid" or "I did that back when I was a naive idiot" or other sarcastic blows. People come here for support and advice. You can give your advice is a nice way.
Pretty sure this site is for motivation and support. Let's make sure we keep it that way. Keep it classy, people. Keep it classy.
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I agree....some people forget that they were once the ones looking for advice, then the drop 50lb and go all diva like....shame some peoples attitudes cant reflect on the inside what they become on the outside.
The reason those successful people have that attitude is because that attitude is what is takes to succeed. 0 -
Ya know - Rudeness is relative. Many times when people say things that are against what we feel or believe, it can be taken as Rude. Sometimes it's blatent, sometimes it's just someone who passionately believes in something differently than you do. Been doing this for over a year now (which isn't much compared to some - but a lot longer than others) - and what I've found is, there is NO 'one size fits all'.
Better to find what works for you (operative term is is 'works') - not just what you 'believe' - but what actually 'WORKS' long term. Then, once you figure it out, the highly opinionated posts of others won't bother you so much, because you won't feel so sensitized and a bit lost in trying to figure it out.
Until then, it's best to put on a suit of armor, because until you work out your own pathway and figure out what manner you want to use to lose the weight (preferably healthily), you're going to be putting yourself out there for positive and negative responses. No different than walking into a room full of strangers and saying "Do you like my hair cut?" you're going to get a wide variety of responses, some sneers, and some helpful. People are people - the internet is interaction without reservation, because people don't have the concerns they may have responding the same way in real life.
Think about it - most people know it is easier to type something down, than it is to say it. Less chance of lash back. What's the worst that could happen? They get their hand slapped by a moderator. Not like someone is going to punch them in the face. LOL.
It's a challenging thing, learning what will work for you. Best to read and learn as much as you can, and plan on being in it for the long haul (full body armor in the beginning), because it won't happen overnight.
Good luck
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one friday while bored at work i posted something of the same nature....18 pages later of people telling me off.....oy.....people are crazy....some of the forum posts here are like train wrecks....some are motivational, informative, others just sad.....
if people are being mean for fun, yikes....what kind of miserable pathetic lives do you think they have?
well crap I am at 8 pages now. HOWEVER, I have received 15 new friend requests and 6 personal messages thanking me. So guess its a pretty darn good day.
Happy Friday, everyone!0 -
You need to APPLAUD them for taking the step to be healthy.
I don't need to do anything. I don't ask you to validate my decisions and my actions and my choices. Why the heck would I need to do that with you? Or anyone else for that matter?I've taken ownership of my decisions and choices and as such I get to own my successes and my failures. If you are asking for advice, and I share my advice, you, as the asker, should be prepared to hear something that doesn't jive with your world view. Usually, people like myself who have been here for a long time and learned a lot of hard lessons are willing to share our experiences, only to get shot down, disrespected and told "but that would never work for me!" then disregarded. It's rare that the snarky responses precede the good advice and imminent rebuttal.
Also, your post is exceedingly RUDE and condescending. How about removing the massive tree branch in your own eye before looking for the splinter in mine, k?
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If you are offended by these boards you should definitely avoid pregnancy boards!
When people get rude it's usually because they offered helpful advice (that actually works) and it was ignored. People come here seeking validation of why something failed them instead of why they failed at it. The successful people are the ones who did the research, took the advice and had patience. The people who get offended ask for advice, never take it and are impatient.
If you don't like it move on or avoid the boards.0 -
well crap I am at 8 pages now. HOWEVER, I have received 15 new friend requests and 6 personal messages thanking me. So guess its a pretty darn good day.
Happy Friday, everyone!
Make that 7 personal thank you messages. 0 -
Can't we all just get along and be happy and supportive and all that ****....
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I don't know what's going on here but I am so glad that this gif has come into my life.
me too...me too!! I'm attracted and repulsed at the same time...what does that mean???0 -
one friday while bored at work i posted something of the same nature....18 pages later of people telling me off.....oy.....people are crazy....some of the forum posts here are like train wrecks....some are motivational, informative, others just sad.....
if people are being mean for fun, yikes....what kind of miserable pathetic lives do you think they have?
well crap I am at 8 pages now. HOWEVER, I have received 15 new friend requests and 6 personal messages thanking me. So guess its a pretty darn good day.
Happy Friday, everyone!
why don't you try this... the next time you seem somebody being rude, why not address that specific person right then and there for it, instead of leveling an open accusation of rudeness at the entire community at some later date/time?
i'd still like to see a specific example or two of what you are complaining about, but you have failed to provide any. i am doubtful that such examples exist, but if they do it would be worthwhile knowing who exactly the rude people are so that i can avoid them in the future.
if you're getting grief for this thread, it's for those 2 reasons.0 -
"I notice you left out police... because they are strangers and btw so are law officials and yet they tell us how to behave.
And actually yes, I have gone up to a complete stranger and told them to stop screaming in a restaurant and ruining everybodies meal. The childs parents were pointing out how the childs behavior had everybody staring at him and yet they did nothing about it. They wanted to embarrass him into behaving properly and when that didn't work, I went over there and told him to knock it off, that it was rude... and you know what, people actually applauded! lol"
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"We listen to the police because they have the guns, and also because we've consented to certain laws and regulations as a condition of living in a particular society.
And walking up to a complete stranger and correcting their behavior is rude. You may have gotten applause but you were completely rude.
You can keep arguing that it's not. You'll continue to be wrong. It is unforgivably wrong to correct the behavior of another person who you are either not (a) the parent or caregiver of, (b) a person in a position of authority to such person, such as a member of the clergy, a teacher, a coach, a scout leader, etc., or (c) a public official enforcing laws and regulations.
And if you'd spoken to my child in a restaurant about her behavior, I would have told you to step away from my child. Who do you think you are?
And yes, I'm being rude by telling you you're being rude. It's not ironic. It's intentional."
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^^^ Agree wholeheartedly.
I can't IMAGINE disciplining another person's child, if the parents are present. In no way is that anyone's business, unless they are abusing the child in some way. The people in the restaurant applauded? What type of establishment WAS this? I can't imagine... And, in all honesty, what you did was probably extremely embarrassing for those parents, when they were already probably horrified at how their child was behaving in public. :frown:
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Gosh you know what... if they were horrified by their childs behavior they have nobody to blame but themselves and if they're not going to parent their kid and make it a nuisance for everybody else, then yes I will say something, obviously they wanted the reaction of the other patrons or they wouldn't have been pointing it out to their child. Why did people applaud, cause it was the right thing to do. What the parents were doing is child neglect, just as bad as child abuse!0 -
one friday while bored at work i posted something of the same nature....18 pages later of people telling me off.....oy.....people are crazy....some of the forum posts here are like train wrecks....some are motivational, informative, others just sad.....
if people are being mean for fun, yikes....what kind of miserable pathetic lives do you think they have?
well crap I am at 8 pages now. HOWEVER, I have received 15 new friend requests and 6 personal messages thanking me. So guess its a pretty darn good day.
Happy Friday, everyone!
I'm happy for you. A little sad there are so many like minded whiners...but happy for you.0 -
It is baffling that people suppose that all persons on the internet should follow the offended one's own personal ettiquette on speaking to others. Not everyone thinks the same, has the same ideas or information, or even knows that what they are saying can be considered rude instead of helpful. It's so simple, you don't like it then ignore it and move on just like you do offline in the real world. If you are interested and want to add your two cents go for it but be prepared to meet others with differing opinions and a possible debate... and also be prepared to receive opinions whether you asked for it or not. You may get an opinion from someone but it is up to you how you use it if you use it at all.0
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Good for you. Go enjoy your new "friends" while you all congratulate each other for everything. The "rude" (read: honest) people on the forums will still be here working hard and offering real advice if anyone needs something a little more helpful than a pat on the back.well crap I am at 8 pages now. HOWEVER, I have received 15 new friend requests and 6 personal messages thanking me. So guess its a pretty darn good day.
Happy Friday, everyone!0 -
one friday while bored at work i posted something of the same nature....18 pages later of people telling me off.....oy.....people are crazy....some of the forum posts here are like train wrecks....some are motivational, informative, others just sad.....
if people are being mean for fun, yikes....what kind of miserable pathetic lives do you think they have?
well crap I am at 8 pages now. HOWEVER, I have received 15 new friend requests and 6 personal messages thanking me. So guess its a pretty darn good day.
Happy Friday, everyone!
I'm happy for you. A little sad there are so many like minded whiners...but happy for you.
It's easier to collect friends and whine then it is to do the work necessary to achieve goals.0 -
I was actually really surprised when I looked at the forums for the first time last night and ran into so many people treating other like they were stupid for asking questions, but then I remembered that we are on the internet and everyone inflicts their opinions on others.
I said to my fiance I glad I'm not on here for wight-lost otherwise even i would probably hate myself reading some of these.
I think so people forget how it feels to be in the position of not knowing what to do and being at an utter lost.
I just try to remember how I would feel if someone said what I was going to say, even when I see a hand in face comment.0 -
one friday while bored at work i posted something of the same nature....18 pages later of people telling me off.....oy.....people are crazy....some of the forum posts here are like train wrecks....some are motivational, informative, others just sad.....
if people are being mean for fun, yikes....what kind of miserable pathetic lives do you think they have?
well crap I am at 8 pages now. HOWEVER, I have received 15 new friend requests and 6 personal messages thanking me. So guess its a pretty darn good day.
Happy Friday, everyone!
I'm happy for you. A little sad there are so many like minded whiners...but happy for you.
It's easier to collect friends and whine then it is to do the work necessary to achieve goals.
I knew I liked you! :flowerforyou:0 -
Peoplez is b^tches.
i am not
i never understood why people cant just ignore people on the internet.
its pretty easy and actually burns more calories than a 1200 cal daily diet
I will not ignore someone who is promoting unsafe or dangerous behavior on the forums. For every post, there are hundreds of lurkers who read that crap and don't post anything that will take what they read on the forums. They will emulate the bahavior. If it were as easy as just telling the OP "You're doing it wrong." and they ignore you, and do what they want, I would be willing to let that go as , "OK. You're an idiot, and will get what you deserve." I just worry about the people who are taking it all in as a smart thing to do. If the post is left unopposed, or uncorrected, you will have a bunch of people doing dangerous things.0 -
When somebody explains that they are having difficulty eating 1200 calories, they get called stupid or are talked down to. I've found that providing a list of healthy, higher calorie food options is more effective. I have it saved so I can copy and paste it instead of typing it out thousands of times.0
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These kind of threads happen all the time on other boards, people asking the same questions a million times over happen on other boards, people getting annoyed with noobs happens on other boards. Welcome to the life cycle of the internet.
You see forums are this giant melting pot of everything from broccoli to shoes with pen ink added for extra flavor. Its not going to taste pretty but its definitely going to be interesting.
Its not always that people are meaner on the internet than they are in real life, its just that we can easily pick and choose who to interact with in real life and we don't have hundreds of strangers dropping in on our conversations in real life either.
Some people do hide behind their keyboards, but I doubt all the people who like to throw their weight around or be blunt are going to be super sugary sweet in real life. I know they aren't because i have met plenty of people who are exactly that way with or without a keyboard in front of them. But, no one is paid to be here, its not a job, they aren't required to be nice, and to expect them to be honored to be helping isn't the best stance to take....not on the internet anyway and probably not in real life either
We are a mix of every personality out there all interacting in one place at one time and there are going to be rubs and conflicts. But thats just part of what makes the internet so dynamic. We have people on opposite ends of the spectrum in every post, we have those who love to throw their weight around and act like they know everything, and we have people who can't take a piece of advice unless you serve it with a heavy dose of sucrose and pie on the side. Its not ever going to change, only thing you can do is decide what you are going to do and how you are going to behave.0
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