'No, I don't date BIG girls'
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I'm starting to like you more and more.
its. kicking. innnnn!
Silly Shell, those are cupcakes. :bigsmile:
there. is. no. shell.
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I think it's an offensive thing to say and I think you're right that anyone who assumes 'big' girls are lazy, stinky, etc. are just idiots.
However, I also think it's fine for people to have preferences. I'm not attracted to big men (whether it be "fat" or even if they're "big" as in "super ripped"). That doesn't mean it's wrong to be a big man, it just means I, personally, am not attracted to them. I probably will never date a big man, because even if I loved his personality, there would be no attraction there for me. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
agreed. huge muscles disgust me but if someone wants to have huge muscles, go for it because there are people out there who dig that. same with big girls, there are people out there who are all over that. but if you don't like it then no need to waste your time with it, just move along and find someone you're attracted to. idk why anyone would let big girls bother them to waste time saying these things if they aren't attracted to them. we all have our own preferances0 -
Funny, it's often the least attractive/desirable men who say crap like that. That said, everyone has a type that they're normally attracted to. However, most people move outside the box when they find that special person...Those who don't aren't worth the trouble...0
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Funny, it's often the least attractive/desirable men who say crap like that. That said, everyone has a type that they're normally attracted to. However, most people move outside the box when they find that special person...Those who don't aren't worth the trouble...
unattractive men are as$holes. got it0 -
Who really says that nowadays?
It really bothers me when some, and I repeat, some guys think 'big girls' are nasty, stinky, lazy, and whatever other degrading adjective comes to mind. Seriously, those kind of guys need to get over that thought because it makes them look like a cocky, dumb, *kitten*.
What are your feelings about that?
I think it goes both ways. Some women date men only for their looks and their money, and they are VERY vocal about this. There are even websites dedicated to finding sugar daddies. This makes them look like shallow, gold digging b******.
So, before we go condemning men for their reluctance to date a "fat chick", maybe we can also take a moment to ask ourselves: Would we date a fat man who doesn't have money or a job?0 -
Funny, it's often the least attractive/desirable men who say crap like that. That said, everyone has a type that they're normally attracted to. However, most people move outside the box when they find that special person...Those who don't aren't worth the trouble...
unattractive men are as$holes. got it
I know I am. Wait, what? :huh:0 -
Funny, it's often the least attractive/desirable men who say crap like that. That said, everyone has a type that they're normally attracted to. However, most people move outside the box when they find that special person...Those who don't aren't worth the trouble...
unattractive men are as$holes. got it
I know I am. Wait, what? :huh:
I know. con. fus. ing.0 -
So, let's say you're single and a bodybuilder asks you out. Given "huge muscles disgust me," it's likely you'll turn him down. He asks why. Do you a) lie by making an excuse unrelated to his physique b) tell him why and come across as rude (by the metrics established in this thread) c) something else?I think it's an offensive thing to say and I think you're right that anyone who assumes 'big' girls are lazy, stinky, etc. are just idiots.
However, I also think it's fine for people to have preferences. I'm not attracted to big men (whether it be "fat" or even if they're "big" as in "super ripped"). That doesn't mean it's wrong to be a big man, it just means I, personally, am not attracted to them. I probably will never date a big man, because even if I loved his personality, there would be no attraction there for me. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
agreed. huge muscles disgust me but if someone wants to have huge muscles, go for it because there are people out there who dig that. same with big girls, there are people out there who are all over that. but if you don't like it then no need to waste your time with it, just move along and find someone you're attracted to. idk why anyone would let big girls bother them to waste time saying these things if they aren't attracted to them. we all have our own preferances0 -
I think "You're not my type" is the standard in that situation.0
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That sounds like "I don't date [insert type]," which appears to indicate rudeness by the metrics established in this thread.I think "You're not my type" is the standard in that situation.0 -
its hard to describe, i would date a "big" girl but usually they (the ones ive talked too) act like im not being serious as if im too good for them, because im considered fit. so i take it as theyre insecure with themselves and to me, thats a turn off. I really liked one of my bestfriends who was considered "big" but when it came to trying to be intimate she always thought it was a joke or it was because i felt bad for her, but that was far from the truth. I dont really care how you look, if theres a connecton that grows in time, then there is potential of me wanting it to be more. if youre a "big" girl and you act amazing thats all i really care about, but if you're going to be all insecure about weight...i wouldnt date you whether your big or slim..im into confidence or at least attempting to be confident...you can be insecure after a while we started dating but before dating, then it gets kind of annoying depending how far they take it. but thats just off my experience.0
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i can handle chubby girlz but i perfer fit an nice bum0
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Different strokes...
But as someone said "you're not my type" is still the appropriate path. So now I ask had he said "you're not my type" would it be less offensive?0 -
Different strokes...
But as someone said "you're not my type" is still the appropriate path. So now I ask had he said "you're not my type" would it be less offensive?
Hell no. Men are screwed no matter what. No matter how we reject you, we are always the jerks.
I think more people need to get used to rejection. If you're fat and getting rejected, either find people who like fat people, or get on the stairmaster and hop like the plumber named Mario.0 -
Can I be princess peach?Different strokes...
But as someone said "you're not my type" is still the appropriate path. So now I ask had he said "you're not my type" would it be less offensive?
Hell no. Men are screwed no matter what. No matter how we reject you, we are always the jerks.
I think more people need to get used to rejection. If you're fat and getting rejected, either find people who like fat people, or get on the stairmaster and hop like the plumber named Mario.0 -
Can I be princess peach?Different strokes...
But as someone said "you're not my type" is still the appropriate path. So now I ask had he said "you're not my type" would it be less offensive?
Hell no. Men are screwed no matter what. No matter how we reject you, we are always the jerks.
I think more people need to get used to rejection. If you're fat and getting rejected, either find people who like fat people, or get on the stairmaster and hop like the plumber named Mario.
I used to call princess peach the "C" word often because no matter how many times I'd rescue her... she'd always somehow endup getting caught. Sometimes I think she just did it to screw with me. Maybe she was dating the bad guys. And I was friendzoned
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^ Did she ever pop a zit or put on make up in front of you? That's a sure sign of friend zone
Princess Peach wasn't the brightest she kept getting caught on me too, I bet she does like them bad guys she needs to hang out with the girl from the "interpret this text" thread so they can bring da dramah!0 -
Meat is for the man, bone is for the dog is one thing and one thing only.
Funny. A play on words. At least appreciate it for what it's meant to be-A JOKE- if you still insist on being offended and butt hurt by it.
u jelly?
Lol not even a little bit0 -
Meat is for the man, bone is for the dog is one thing and one thing only.
Funny. A play on words. At least appreciate it for what it's meant to be-A JOKE- if you still insist on being offended and butt hurt by it.
Tell us again exactly how that is funny......
It's funny because it boosts someone's low self esteem to insult skinny people while they whine about people insulting big girls.
Yes because in comparison to big women in America, skinny women have it solo rough. As I said before (but of course people only acknowledge parts of a post that they want to), it's merely a statement used to empower big women. I find it laughable that they only folks whining about it are those whose profile pics are of them shirtless. Oh yes, I'm sure this FUNNY saying has surely put a damper on your self-esteem. Come on now.
Besides, biologically men are made to be attracted to women with some meat on them because it's an indication that the women would bring healthy offspring into the world and be capable of adequately nourishing said offspring. So it's completely a cultural thing to only like women with the body of a 12 year-old boy.
Look at any artwork before the 1960s and you won't see any females with washboard tummies, no boobs, and no hips.
Bottom line is, if you weren't thin and you were big, you wouldn't be thinking the way you are about a simple, measly d*mn saying. Have some cultural relativism and look at it from a big woman's shoes.
It's easy. I'm quite certain I'm the only not fat girl who's not boohoo-ing about it. Put on some weight and we'll see if you feel the same way, all I'm saying.0 -
I have no idea which 'lady' you are directing your remark at. Just in case it was me, I wasn't even quoting the OP, I was making a response to someone else in the thread. That is why I quoted certain statements and did not speak directly to the OP."Big" girls do it best. It's truly their loss and they don't know what they're missing. I bet after an hour with me they'd "date" "big" girls
always one !!!!!
and you shot yourself in the foot already be them big or thin.....!
Obviously not everyone reading this thread isn't "big", so you are saying that because a gal is "big" they are better than one that is not. I am not big, never have been, but I sure the hell would never go around a thread on MFP saying anything like "thin girls" do X better. F that. The whole point of the original posters statement was that it was rude the way the man said it. Now you are going there.
I was just trying to lighten the mood, and speak up for my fellow "big" girls. And I personally don't even think him saying that he didn't like "big" girls was rude. But you might be considered a "big" girl in some man's eye, as everyone has a different definition of BIG.
Good grief, lady. She was making a joke. You know, like haha funny ha ha?
I know you weren't quoting OP. I was referring to the "big girls do it better" JOKE.
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its hard to describe, i would date a "big" girl but usually they (the ones ive talked too) act like im not being serious as if im too good for them, because im considered fit. so i take it as theyre insecure with themselves and to me, thats a turn off. I really liked one of my bestfriends who was considered "big" but when it came to trying to be intimate she always thought it was a joke or it was because i felt bad for her, but that was far from the truth. I dont really care how you look, if theres a connecton that grows in time, then there is potential of me wanting it to be more. if youre a "big" girl and you act amazing thats all i really care about, but if you're going to be all insecure about weight...i wouldnt date you whether your big or slim..im into confidence or at least attempting to be confident...you can be insecure after a while we started dating but before dating, then it gets kind of annoying depending how far they take it. but thats just off my experience.
That's the nicest post I've read in this forum.
It's unfortunate, but the insecurity of these women and women thinking you're joking or feel bad for them truly is the result of the American culture post-Twiggy.
Think about it, nowadays they would tell Marilyn Monroe to grow her hair out, remove her beauty marks, and lose 40lbs. What a crazy thought that is. Marilyn was 140lbs and a size 8/10. Had she come out around the time Twiggy did or later, she wouldn't have stood a chance and none of us would know her name. Same goes for Betty Page and all the other remarkably beautiful, curvaceous pin-up vixens.
It's astounding how drastically the ideal beauty of Western society has changed. People call Kim Kardashian fat, and had she been around in the 1950's she would be considered the sexiest woman in existence.0 -
I don't really get this argument or discussion, I think a beautiful woman is a beautiful woman regardless of what size she is. A friend said to me the other day that she is never going to win a bikini contest because she had a baby. Does anyone really care about that sort of thing? Beauty is that a woman can have a child and that does change her body, but so what. People should stop looking to hollywood to define beauty but define it within themselves. Woman have these wonderful powers that some don't seem to know they have.0
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This feel..I know itits hard to describe, i would date a "big" girl but usually they (the ones ive talked too) act like im not being serious as if im too good for them, because im considered fit. so i take it as theyre insecure with themselves and to me, thats a turn off. I really liked one of my bestfriends who was considered "big" but when it came to trying to be intimate she always thought it was a joke or it was because i felt bad for her, but that was far from the truth. I dont really care how you look, if theres a connecton that grows in time, then there is potential of me wanting it to be more. if youre a "big" girl and you act amazing thats all i really care about, but if you're going to be all insecure about weight...i wouldnt date you whether your big or slim..im into confidence or at least attempting to be confident...you can be insecure after a while we started dating but before dating, then it gets kind of annoying depending how far they take it. but thats just off my experience.
I especially love hearing "why do you like me" a hundred times a day.
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There's sort of a paradox. If you're obese and insecure about it, it says that you don't have the strength of will or dedication to fix it. If you're obese and think you're beautiful and fabulous and there's no need to change, you're living in a state of serious self-denial about your health and day-to-day functionality and ability. Those are both things I'd have a very hard time looking past.
Yeah, it's understandable if you have a genuine medical condition. And I'm talking about obese, not chubby or a little overweight.0 -
I can't believe this is still going on. If you enjoy being a big girl, then own it baby. If you don't then do something about it.0
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Everyone has a right to be attracted to whatever. Some guys like big girls, some like petites. Some guys like blondes, some like brunettes. Some guys like black girls, some like latinas, some like white girls. Some like all of the above. Some guys aren't superficial and really are attracted based on what's "inside". Some guys even like other guys. These are all just preferences, and we all have different ones. No need to get bent out of shape over it.0
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Well hello thereEveryone has a right to be attracted to whatever. Some guys like big girls, some like petites. Some guys like blondes, some like brunettes. Some guys like black girls, some like latinas, some like white girls. Some like all of the above. Some guys aren't superficial and really are attracted based on what's "inside". Some guys even like other guys. These are all just preferences, and we all have different ones. No need to get bent out of shape over it.0 -
I wouldn't date an a-hole regardless of his size.0
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Every one is entitled to a choice, that is why we are all made different (shape, emotion, mentality, etc)
There are plenty more fish in the sea.
If you do not like someone for whatever reason and vice versa then just move along.
I am sure the `BIG girl` which the OP didn`t say she was, I get the feeling it is hypothetical questioning...anyways she would be within her rights to not date ` a footballer/skinny guy/fireman/office worker/bodybuilder etc0 -
Princess Peach wasn't the brightest she kept getting caught on me too, I bet she does like them bad guys she needs to hang out with the girl from the "interpret this text" thread so they can bring da dramah!
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