'No, I don't date BIG girls'

Courtney_0402
Courtney_0402 Posts: 55
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Who really says that nowadays?

It really bothers me when some, and I repeat, some guys think 'big girls' are nasty, stinky, lazy, and whatever other degrading adjective comes to mind. Seriously, those kind of guys need to get over that thought because it makes them look like a cocky, dumb, *kitten*.

What are your feelings about that?
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  • catrinaHwechanged
    catrinaHwechanged Posts: 4,907 Member
    I think everybody has preferences and deal breakers, period.
  • stephx4
    stephx4 Posts: 810
    F the haters babes there's always someone better just around the corner ;-)
  • melindasuefritz
    melindasuefritz Posts: 3,509 Member
    F the haters babes there's always someone better just around the corner ;-)
  • SmartAlec03211988
    SmartAlec03211988 Posts: 1,896 Member
    Anyone who makes such blanket statements isn't worth your time anyway.
  • Courtney_0402
    Courtney_0402 Posts: 55
    I think everybody has preferences and deal breakers, period.

    Everyone is entitled to their preferences. I'm not going to deny that to a person, but there's still no reason to be an a-hole about it.
  • LaurenAOK
    LaurenAOK Posts: 2,475 Member
    I think it's an offensive thing to say and I think you're right that anyone who assumes 'big' girls are lazy, stinky, etc. are just idiots.

    However, I also think it's fine for people to have preferences. I'm not attracted to big men (whether it be "fat" or even if they're "big" as in "super ripped"). That doesn't mean it's wrong to be a big man, it just means I, personally, am not attracted to them. I probably will never date a big man, because even if I loved his personality, there would be no attraction there for me. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
  • catrinaHwechanged
    catrinaHwechanged Posts: 4,907 Member
    I think everybody has preferences and deal breakers, period.

    Everyone is entitled to their preferences. I'm not going to deny that to a person, but there's still no reason to be an a-hole about it.

    True, but it sure does make it easier to weed out the asssholes when they show their true colors. And if they are not being an *kitten* about it, than it goes back to simple preferences.
  • GnomeQueen84
    GnomeQueen84 Posts: 55 Member
    I think people have a right to preferences regarding who they date.
  • elpiper
    elpiper Posts: 183 Member
    I see it the same as when I used to say "no, I don't date blondes." everyone has their personal preference. If you are attracted to something aesthetically you are...if not.....you're not.
  • Isakizza
    Isakizza Posts: 754 Member
    Hey... I'm afraid my husband will leave me for a chubby girl when I reach my goal!!! LOL

    There's someone for everyone.
    Don't worry you'll find your great match. :wink:

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  • WhataBroad
    WhataBroad Posts: 1,091 Member
    well, he didn't say Fat... that would be a-hole.
  • linaholbert
    linaholbert Posts: 1
    Well. he said Big, he didn't say Fat. Just accept it, you are what you are. But I agree I cant care less when people voice their preferences. Also, it is shallow. And then it is fun watching people falling in love with what they thought they don't like.
  • blackmagic25
    blackmagic25 Posts: 227 Member
    I think everyone has their types for example I can't get mad at a girl if she's not attracted to black guys lol just saying
  • Courtney_0402
    Courtney_0402 Posts: 55
    I think everyone has their types for example I can't get mad at a girl if she's not attracted to black guys lol just saying


    I like me a black guy though. LOL.
  • stephx4
    stephx4 Posts: 810
    I love me a black guy ;-)
  • Siege_Tank
    Siege_Tank Posts: 781 Member
    Some guys have gone through life looking "normal" or "average", some have even grown up as very attractive boys and men, and they've had the chance to be choosy about the type of woman that they date, they're picky, because they can be.

    Some guys, like the chubby ones had to cultivate a personality as they grew up, they had to be NICE for people to treat them the same as the pretty ones. That's why you have the disconnect, nice guys more often than not have more humility and more compassion than pretty ones.

    Here's a chart

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    This is also true

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  • 2boned
    2boned Posts: 44
    I think everyone has their types for example I can't get mad at a girl if she's not attracted to black guys lol just saying


    I like me a black guy though. LOL.
  • beatrixkiddo23
    beatrixkiddo23 Posts: 14
    i agree with what others have said...u can't hate on someone preferences...i think maybe u don't like how they may say it? that can be hurtful...but in the end, it's that person's tastes...
  • blackmagic25
    blackmagic25 Posts: 227 Member
    I love me a black guy ;-)
    well thank you :)
  • liftingheavy
    liftingheavy Posts: 551 Member
    I have preferences too, but I'd never say them out loud, I just dated guys who I was physically attracted to. I think people who make those kinds of statements are secretly attracted to that very type of person, but are too cowardly to pursue such due to their own insecurities or fear of pubic perceptions.
  • LMT2012
    LMT2012 Posts: 697 Member
    I have preferences too, but I'd never say them out loud, I just dated guys who I was physically attracted to. I think people who make those kinds of statements are secretly attracted to that very type of person, but are too cowardly to pursue such due to their own insecurities or fear of pubic perceptions.

    Right on the money!
  • obeseandsassy
    obeseandsassy Posts: 118
    Who really says that nowadays?

    It really bothers me when some, and I repeat, some guys think 'big girls' are nasty, stinky, lazy, and whatever other degrading adjective comes to mind. Seriously, those kind of guys need to get over that thought because it makes them look like a cocky, dumb, *kitten*.

    What are your feelings about that?

    Everyone has preferences. Some people don't like fat chicks, and that's cool. But I think to outright say 'I WILL not date ______ girls/guys' is stupid. Completely disqualifying someone based on physical attributes is pointless. My preference is tall lanky tattooed guys. But boyfriend of 2 1/2 years? Stocky without any ink. But I'm wildly attracted to him! Obviously i'm not saying you should date someone you're not attracted to, but at the end of the day, even if you have preferences you never know for sure what exactly will attract you to a person.

    There are some fat girls who are 'nasty, stinky, lazy', etc. There are also some thin girls who are 'nasty, stinky, lazy' etc. You can't judge what a person will be like simply based on their weight/ethnicity/hair color/*choose your poison*.
  • WhataBroad
    WhataBroad Posts: 1,091 Member
    I think everyone has their types for example I can't get mad at a girl if she's not attracted to black guys lol just saying

    That's crazy talk! Like there's a woman out there who isn't ;)
  • LonLB
    LonLB Posts: 1,126 Member
    The primary issue is in them SAYING that. A simple "not interested" should suffice.



    And I wouldn't get bent out of shape. I'm sure there are plenty of guys that are too big for you/to unattractive for you.
  • likitisplit
    likitisplit Posts: 9,420 Member
    Well you don't date *kitten* either, so that makes you even.

    “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”

    ― Dita Von Teese
  • MisterDerpington
    MisterDerpington Posts: 604 Member
    Everyone likes what they like. More for us lovers of the thickness anyways.
  • LonLB
    LonLB Posts: 1,126 Member
    Well you don't date *kitten* either, so that makes you even.

    “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”

    ― Dita Von Teese



    Even the WORD Peach is delicious
  • rebbylicious
    rebbylicious Posts: 621 Member
    frankly - I would be grateful that he revealed himself as a douche before I had to find out the hard way. Better he be an honest open douche than one that tricks you into thinking he is nice and then BAM major douche.

    I don't know why it bothers you so much... nothing is more unattractive to me than a person like that.. just nasty!
  • fufi04
    fufi04 Posts: 471 Member
    Well you don't date *kitten* either, so that makes you even.

    “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”

    ― Dita Von Teese

    This
  • missybct
    missybct Posts: 321 Member
    I agree with the majority - everyone has their preference and the right to it. We all have the things that make us alert and attracted.

    That said, I would never automatically discredit somebody based on a couple of arbitrary factors. Some people do, and let them; it'll be their loss in the long run. I have left wing political views, but I'd still date someone on the other side providing they were not a total a-hole. I would never automatically go "Nah, I'm not going out with him because he doesn't earn xxx or hasn't got a degree" because that's just silly, for me. Same with weight. Sure, I may prefer the slightly skinny tall guy, but I'm sure as hell not going to pass on somebody who may complete me because he's 20lbs above the ideal weight.

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