'No, I don't date BIG girls'
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When I was dating (and very fit), I immediately rejected any guy who indicated he didn't date "fat chicks." Even if an online profile said, "HWP," I would write that guy off. I figured if a guy wouldn't take the time to know me when I was fat, I certainly didn't want to know him when I was fit.0
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sucks, but there is someone for everyone and that person isn't your one.
Not true.
Well, sure. Date the guy who doesn't prefer your type. That makes sense.
does that make sense or do you mean it doesn't make sense?0 -
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It really bothers me when some, and I repeat, some guys think 'big girls' are nasty, stinky, lazy, and whatever other degrading adjective comes to mind.
Wait....so you found a guy who THOUGHT it & you THINK he thought it & you are having a go at him for thinking it?
I think.
Wait....unless a guy actually SAID it..... then he's allowed more than welcome to say he dont date big girls.You going to hate on someone for not wanting to date a big girl? It's HIS choice...0 -
When I was dating (and very fit), I immediately rejected any guy who indicated he didn't date "fat chicks." Even if an online profile said, "HWP," I would write that guy off. I figured if a guy wouldn't take the time to know me when I was fat, I certainly didn't want to know him when I was fit.
When you were fit did you give fat guys the same amount of time or consideration as fit guys?0 -
Every body has their own personal preference in the kind of person they like. I know guys who only like skinny girls, guys who like muscle girls, and guys who like girls with meat on their bones. Each girl is different and unique; they have that something that the guy likes. Bigger girls have the super sexy busty curves while thinner girls have the delicate softer curves. Some guys like more while others like less. So I don't think you should feel bad that a guy isn't into you because of your size because it just means there's someone else who can and will appreciate you so much more.
Now, the problem occurs when the guy "pokes fun" at the girl because of her size. It's not just bigger girls that get harassed either. I've seen thinner girls get told they look sick, bony, anorexic, and other such terms. I know some guys who just don't like thinner girls because they look "breakable". These are the kind of guys you want to stay away from. This is actually advice for everyone, guy or girl.... If they don't fit your preference, then politely say so. DON'T poke fun at the person. Words do hurt and leave internal scars. Sad fact...
But yeah, that's my opinion and my input.
I think, no matter your size, make the best of it and forget the haters. Besides, nothing effects the haters more than seeing you still hold your head high, no matter what. Confidence is sexy~ 0 -
This is something that, somehow, I've never encountered... and I've been over 200 pounds for the last 12 years. Actually, in the last few years, where I've weighed the most, I've also had the most self-confidence... and run into more guys being interested in me.
Plus 1+. So many of my male friends love bigger women. I was not comfortable there but that does not mean that big is not beautiful. This is the truth. My SO is a bodybuilder and liked me softer than I am now.
Who knew??!!??0 -
I think people date who they want to date. I'm not going to concern myself with everyone's personal preferences.0
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Sorry, I can't even fake outrage over this, and I used to be a "big girl." No one needs to be apologetic about what he or she finds attractive. His manner may have been offensive to you, and that sucks, but I'm not going to join the crusade against guys who prefer to date thinner women.0
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You can be as PC as you want, but you like what you like.
It's a different story, however, when it comes to explaining to someone why you don't want to date her. Only a jerk would tell a woman that he won't date her because she's too "big".0 -
Sorry, I can't even fake outrage over this, and I used to be a "big girl." No one needs to be apologetic about what he or she finds attractive. His manner may have been offensive to you, and that sucks, but I'm not going to join the crusade against guys who prefer to date thinner women.
Yep.
I've tried to pull some info out of the ones bashing this guy.
Mainly, "how much consideration do you give to big guys?" Or something similar.0 -
When I was dating (and very fit), I immediately rejected any guy who indicated he didn't date "fat chicks." Even if an online profile said, "HWP," I would write that guy off. I figured if a guy wouldn't take the time to know me when I was fat, I certainly didn't want to know him when I was fit.
When you were fit did you give fat guys the same amount of time or consideration as fit guys?
Yes. I married an overweight man. He is the best husband EVER.0 -
I feel personally attacked by this thread. I have a strict dating policy. I don't date girls that are over 153 lbs. based on hight. If she is under 4'5" well your just out of luck with this roller coaster. Over 5'9" Sorry charlie tuna. I have a scale set up in my entrance way to help me. with a coat rack placed by the side I'm able to determine this pretty easily and without her ever knowing.
I simply make an excuse and ask her to leave.
I don't see why my personal preferences should be attacked or looked down upon. I am simply being honest and strait forward. If a girl asks me about it. Yes I say, I don't date big girls. I usually then ask to see their mothers, because that's pretty much what they are going to end up looking like.0 -
I think everybody has preferences and deal breakers, period.
^this...I like tall men...with huge shoulders and big guns. I also like abs....I don't like guys my age or older, never have....
its all about what attracts you and what doesn't...I prefer honesty ...but that is me.0 -
Hey... I'm afraid my husband will leave me for a chubby girl when I reach my goal!!! LOL
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I have the same feeling about my BF...lol0 -
Who really says that nowadays?
It really bothers me when some, and I repeat, some guys think 'big girls' are nasty, stinky, lazy, and whatever other degrading adjective comes to mind. Seriously, those kind of guys need to get over that thought because it makes them look like a cocky, dumb, *kitten*.
What are your feelings about that?
My feeling is that I very, very rarely see a thin girl with a big fat guy.
I guess the main difference is that girls have enough tact not to say they don't date fat guys. But... they pretty much don't date fat guys.0 -
I've never been a "big girl," but I'm quite certain not every man on earth finds me or my type ttractive. It's never occured to me to worry about it or really even care. Enough of them are attracted to my type that I focus on them.0
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Sorry, I can't even fake outrage over this, and I used to be a "big girl." No one needs to be apologetic about what he or she finds attractive. His manner may have been offensive to you, and that sucks, but I'm not going to join the crusade against guys who prefer to date thinner women.
Yep.
I've tried to pull some info out of the ones bashing this guy.
Mainly, "how much consideration do you give to big guys?" Or something similar.
stop making sense.0 -
Limiting your choices to a preference for a certain shell seems sad to me.
If I said I don't date girls, I'd have missed out on Tiffany and Fari. Both girls rocked my world and left a lasting impression.
If I said I don't date black people, I'd have missed out on Will. While the relationship was bad, it was a life lesson that I needed at the time, and I don't regret a minute of it.
If I said I don't date fat people, I would have missed out on the greatest love I have ever known. My husband was morbidly obese when we met, and is even bigger now. (I am on MFP because I allowed his habits to become my habits, but I'm getting back in shape!) And I love every single soft, incredible, sexy inch of him. Yes, I want him to lose weight for health reasons, but I love him and am attracted to him because of who he is.
A shell is not a person. It's just the house they inherited. L'amore è cieco.
she's right people, a shell is not a person. you cant talk to a shell. a shell wont be there for you in the hard times. but you can hold it up to your ear and it sounds like the sea. I know right!?!
I've got to stop reading threads backwards. I started on the last page and spent several pages trying to figure out what the shell had to do with anything.0 -
sucks, but there is someone for everyone and that person isn't your one.
Not true.
Well, sure. Date the guy who doesn't prefer your type. That makes sense.
does that make sense or do you mean it doesn't make sense?
I originally said in response to the OP "sucks, but there is someone for everyone and that person isn't your one." The guy said not true. So, my sarcastic response was "Well, sure. Date the guy who doesn't prefer your type. That makes sense."0 -
Sorry, I can't even fake outrage over this, and I used to be a "big girl." No one needs to be apologetic about what he or she finds attractive. His manner may have been offensive to you, and that sucks, but I'm not going to join the crusade against guys who prefer to date thinner women.
Yep.
I've tried to pull some info out of the ones bashing this guy.
Mainly, "how much consideration do you give to big guys?" Or something similar.
stop making sense.
Ya there is no place for that nonsense here!:laugh:0 -
Hey, you are not attacked man, if you like slim women there is NOTHING wrong with that so do that! If you tell bigger women that you will not date them I wonder why, that's all. Do You.0
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Limiting your choices to a preference for a certain shell seems sad to me.
If I said I don't date girls, I'd have missed out on Tiffany and Fari. Both girls rocked my world and left a lasting impression.
If I said I don't date black people, I'd have missed out on Will. While the relationship was bad, it was a life lesson that I needed at the time, and I don't regret a minute of it.
If I said I don't date fat people, I would have missed out on the greatest love I have ever known. My husband was morbidly obese when we met, and is even bigger now. (I am on MFP because I allowed his habits to become my habits, but I'm getting back in shape!) And I love every single soft, incredible, sexy inch of him. Yes, I want him to lose weight for health reasons, but I love him and am attracted to him because of who he is.
A shell is not a person. It's just the house they inherited. L'amore è cieco.
she's right people, a shell is not a person. you cant talk to a shell. a shell wont be there for you in the hard times. but you can hold it up to your ear and it sounds like the sea. I know right!?!
I've got to stop reading threads backwards. I started on the last page and spent several pages trying to figure out what the shell had to do with anything.
hahaha. I hope you enjoyed that 0 -
Who really says that nowadays?
It really bothers me when some, and I repeat, some guys think 'big girls' are nasty, stinky, lazy, and whatever other degrading adjective comes to mind. Seriously, those kind of guys need to get over that thought because it makes them look like a cocky, dumb, *kitten*.
What are your feelings about that?
My feeling is that I very, very rarely see a thin girl with a big fat guy.
I guess the main difference is that girls have enough tact not to say they don't date fat guys. But... they pretty much don't date fat guys.
YES!0 -
Who really says that nowadays?
It really bothers me when some, and I repeat, some guys think 'big girls' are nasty, stinky, lazy, and whatever other degrading adjective comes to mind. Seriously, those kind of guys need to get over that thought because it makes them look like a cocky, dumb, *kitten*.
What are your feelings about that?
My feeling is that I very, very rarely see a thin girl with a big fat guy.
I guess the main difference is that girls have enough tact not to say they don't date fat guys. But... they pretty much don't date fat guys.
YES!
yes
yes
yes
brb i need a moment.0 -
When I was dating (and very fit), I immediately rejected any guy who indicated he didn't date "fat chicks." Even if an online profile said, "HWP," I would write that guy off. I figured if a guy wouldn't take the time to know me when I was fat, I certainly didn't want to know him when I was fit.
When you were fit did you give fat guys the same amount of time or consideration as fit guys?
I'm fit and the last guy I dated is 300+ pounds.
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I think everyone has their types for example I can't get mad at a girl if she's not attracted to black guys lol just saying
That's crazy talk! Like there's a woman out there who isn't
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Who really says that nowadays?
It really bothers me when some, and I repeat, some guys think 'big girls' are nasty, stinky, lazy, and whatever other degrading adjective comes to mind. Seriously, those kind of guys need to get over that thought because it makes them look like a cocky, dumb, *kitten*.
What are your feelings about that?
My feeling is that I very, very rarely see a thin girl with a big fat guy.
I guess the main difference is that girls have enough tact not to say they don't date fat guys. But... they pretty much don't date fat guys.
YES!
yah. although there are cases to the contrary:
also age is no barrier
if you are a million/billionaire.0 -
I'm glad to see this is still going strong0
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Real simple.
If I am attracted to you, you have a chance.
If I am not attracted to you, you have almost no chance.
It's nothing personal. It's just the way it is. People have been dealing with this for millions of years.0
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