'No, I don't date BIG girls'

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  • MaydayParadeGirl
    MaydayParadeGirl Posts: 190 Member
    Who really says that nowadays?

    It really bothers me when some, and I repeat, some guys think 'big girls' are nasty, stinky, lazy, and whatever other degrading adjective comes to mind. Seriously, those kind of guys need to get over that thought because it makes them look like a cocky, dumb, *kitten*.

    What are your feelings about that?

    Did some guy legit tell you that he didnt' date big girls for all the reasons you listed up there? Because if not it kind of seems to me that YOU'RE the one who feels that way and you're trying to let it out some how. In my opinion when you put words into somone else's head or thoughts it's just echoing what you think so maybe you should take a step back and learn to love who you are for who you are and not worry about what some guys think. Sure some guys like skinny girls, some guys like girls with huge boobs, some like them with little ones, and some guys like big girls. You can't change that about people. It's all in how they see a person, how they feel when they see that person. I think this really boils down to you need to boast your self esteem and make yourself love who you are before you even worry about what SOME guys say. Just my thoughts
  • hellokathy
    hellokathy Posts: 540 Member
    I think no matter what your personal preferences are, it's always best to just be polite and say you're not interested. No need to blame it on any physical features even if that is the reason. If a guy isn't interested in me, it's fine, I don't need to know if it's because of my body or hair or whatever. Outer appearances are too much a matter of taste for me to get upset about. What matters is that you like yourself. If you don't, it's time to try and change what you don't like. :)
  • chantelp89
    chantelp89 Posts: 590 Member
    Are we not allowed to have a type or preference? I mean, I like tall men and girls with nice titties
  • thisdarkpassenger
    thisdarkpassenger Posts: 76 Member
    "Big" girls do it best. It's truly their loss and they don't know what they're missing. I bet after an hour with me they'd "date" "big" girls ;)
  • Koldnomore
    Koldnomore Posts: 1,613 Member
    I think if you are basing any major part of your mate selection on something as fleeting as physical attraction you are already dooming yourself to an unhappy relationship. Physical attraction should be a nice to have not a deal breaker.

    A big part of what I consider to be involved in a "relationship " with someone is a rocking sex life.. So if the thought of having sex with someone does not appeal to me due to a physical trait that is already a 'bad relationship' why would I even set myself up for that?

    I mean great if your idea of a "relationship " does not involve sex but for me not finding someone even a little attractive physically IS a deal breaker if ever there was one :p
  • Natihilator
    Natihilator Posts: 1,778 Member
    Years ago I was having a cigarette outside a bar and I noticed a guy making the eyes at me. His friend saw him checking me out and "whispered" something like "Dude, but she's so much bigger than you!". The part that annoyed me wasn't that the friend called me fat, as that was nothing I hadn't heard before, but it was the fact that the guy was showing obvious attraction towards me and his friend tried to talk him out of approaching me because of my weight. Like, why should the friend even care if his buddy wants to hit on me? I wasn't interested in the dude at all, but yeah that really irked me.

    I think that illustrates the reason why a lot about people make statements about not wanting to "date fat chicks". They aren't saying it to themselves, they are saying it to their peers/society/whoever they think really cares about who they date, regardless of who they are really attracted to. And if they truly aren't into big girls, that's their preference, but there is a difference between having a preference and putting it on a bumper sticker or making it your motto.
  • Manda86
    Manda86 Posts: 1,859 Member
    The world is full of sensitive mind readers.
    I also don't get offended by people that aren't attracted to "big girls". I don't feel attracted to me when I'm fat, either.
    At least he was kind enough to use a euphemism.
  • mrdexter1
    mrdexter1 Posts: 356 Member
    "Big" girls do it best. It's truly their loss and they don't know what they're missing. I bet after an hour with me they'd "date" "big" girls ;)

    always one !!!!!

    and you shot yourself in the foot already be them big or thin.....!

    what goods an hour ??????????????
  • eric_sg61
    eric_sg61 Posts: 2,925 Member
    "Big" girls do it best. It's truly their loss and they don't know what they're missing. I bet after an hour with me they'd "date" "big" girls ;)
    Yaa, I have heard that one before..and was left totally disappoint
  • thisdarkpassenger
    thisdarkpassenger Posts: 76 Member
    "Big" girls do it best. It's truly their loss and they don't know what they're missing. I bet after an hour with me they'd "date" "big" girls ;)

    always one !!!!!

    and you shot yourself in the foot already be them big or thin.....!

    what goods an hour ??????????????



    Always one WHAT? and shot myself in the foot? Your comment makes no damn sense. And I was saying, give me an hour (or less) and I could change their mind about "big" girls.
  • chantelp89
    chantelp89 Posts: 590 Member
    "Big" girls do it best. It's truly their loss and they don't know what they're missing. I bet after an hour with me they'd "date" "big" girls ;)
    Yaa, I have heard that one before..and was left totally disappoint
    Aw sorry to hear that babe
  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
    I would prefer not to be with someone shorter than me. Everyone is entitled to their preference. Why be offended because you aren't everyone's cup of tea?

    or you could try googling for dating sites based on chubby chasers.
  • thisdarkpassenger
    thisdarkpassenger Posts: 76 Member
    "Big" girls do it best. It's truly their loss and they don't know what they're missing. I bet after an hour with me they'd "date" "big" girls ;)
    Yaa, I have heard that one before..and was left totally disappoint

    Any girl, big or small, can disappoint. Same goes with guys.
  • thisdarkpassenger
    thisdarkpassenger Posts: 76 Member
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  • eric_sg61
    eric_sg61 Posts: 2,925 Member
    "Big" girls do it best. It's truly their loss and they don't know what they're missing. I bet after an hour with me they'd "date" "big" girls ;)
    Yaa, I have heard that one before..and was left totally disappoint

    Any girl, big or small, can disappoint. Same goes with guys.
    Yet, your post says "big girls do it best" implying that ALL big girls do it best.
  • thisdarkpassenger
    thisdarkpassenger Posts: 76 Member
    "Big" girls do it best. It's truly their loss and they don't know what they're missing. I bet after an hour with me they'd "date" "big" girls ;)
    Yaa, I have heard that one before..and was left totally disappoint

    Any girl, big or small, can disappoint. Same goes with guys.
    Yet, your post says "big girls do it best" implying that ALL big girls do it best.


    I wasn't implying anything, simply stating my opinion. And I didn't mean ALL"big" girls, I meant THIS "big" girl.
  • PaleoChocolateBear
    PaleoChocolateBear Posts: 2,844 Member
    I disappoint all, so I always carry a Hallmark card saying I'm sorry this has never happen before flowers and batteries
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Eh... I don't think people really need to give an explanation when they say no. When I was dating, I told people "No, but thanks" all the time --- usually I was saying no because I wasn't physically attracted to them in any way. This is not to say that I only dated "hot" people, cause I didn't. But physical interest in important - at least it is for me because I like having sex.

    ETA, I don't care how anyone does it -- if you don't want to be doing it with them in the first place, DOESN'T MATTER
  • LonLB
    LonLB Posts: 1,126 Member
    Eh... I don't think people really need to give an explanation when they say no. When I was dating, I told people "No, but thanks" all the time --- usually I was saying no because I wasn't physically attracted to them in any way. This is not to say that I only dated "hot" people, cause I didn't. But physical interest in important - at least it is for me because I like having sex.



    Reading, reading, reading (eh just a normal reply), LAST 4 WORDS!

    Ya that's more like it.
  • d9123
    d9123 Posts: 531 Member
    "Big" girls do it best. It's truly their loss and they don't know what they're missing. I bet after an hour with me they'd "date" "big" girls ;)
    Yaa, I have heard that one before..and was left totally disappoint

    Any girl, big or small, can disappoint. Same goes with guys.
    Yet, your post says "big girls do it best" implying that ALL big girls do it best.


    I wasn't implying anything, simply stating my opinion. And I didn't mean ALL"big" girls, I meant THIS "big" girl.

    no thanks jeff
  • mrdexter1
    mrdexter1 Posts: 356 Member
    "Big" girls do it best. It's truly their loss and they don't know what they're missing. I bet after an hour with me they'd "date" "big" girls ;)
    Yaa, I have heard that one before..and was left totally disappoint

    Any girl, big or small, can disappoint. Same goes with guys.
    Yet, your post says "big girls do it best" implying that ALL big girls do it best.


    I wasn't implying anything, simply stating my opinion. And I didn't mean ALL"big" girls, I meant THIS "big" girl.

    you havin' a laugh !!
  • mfleeg
    mfleeg Posts: 137 Member
    Sometimes, though, the people who are best for you are almost not what you're generally into, but getting to know them as a person makes them attractive.

    I had always dated really tall, muscular guys and was into tall guys. My current boyfriend of 3 years is 5'6". After getting to know him and realizing that we could talk for hours about anything and everything and that he had the best sense of humor of anyone I knew, the really shallow stuff faded away. I was close to rejecting a second date based upon not feeling immediately attracted to him, but boy am I glad I put aside that stuff.

    It sucks that this guy said this, but each person has their individual tastes and preferences. If I would have met my boyfriend at 18-19 or when I was at a very immature place in my life, I doubt we would have wound up together. Now, I can't imagine being with anyone else.
  • chantelp89
    chantelp89 Posts: 590 Member
    I disappoint all, so I always carry a Hallmark card saying I'm sorry this has never happen before flowers and batteries
    That is actually pretty damn considerate of you
  • gogojodee
    gogojodee Posts: 1,243 Member
    Some guys have gone through life looking "normal" or "average", some have even grown up as very attractive boys and men, and they've had the chance to be choosy about the type of woman that they date, they're picky, because they can be.

    Some guys, like the chubby ones had to cultivate a personality as they grew up, they had to be NICE for people to treat them the same as the pretty ones. That's why you have the disconnect, nice guys more often than not have more humility and more compassion than pretty ones.

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    BAHAHA. The Venn Diagram is true and made my morning. Ahhh so applies to me.

    This is also true

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    I hate photobucket with the fury of a nova.. Resizing never works, even when you check the "replace the original" box
  • smoootka
    smoootka Posts: 67 Member
    I think everybody has preferences and deal breakers, period.

    Everyone is entitled to their preferences. I'm not going to deny that to a person, but there's still no reason to be an a-hole about it.

    ^this :)
  • clarkeje1
    clarkeje1 Posts: 1,641 Member
    I think everybody has preferences and deal breakers, period.
  • berriboobear
    berriboobear Posts: 524 Member


    In the end, you can't control what people like and don't like. I do believe, however, that if that person is directly telling you why they're not interested in you, than they should at least have the decency to be polite.

    jesus, on here you cant even respond to a thread "no i dont date big girls" and be honest without all sorts of negativity !!!!

    In the real world you take your life in your own hands even when you reject a woman politely as it stirs incredable anger and negativity towards you..


    Which is unfortunate, and yes honesty can be brutal. I meant more along the lines of being truthful without being necessarily rude.
  • ArroganceInStep
    ArroganceInStep Posts: 6,239 Member
    Eh... I don't think people really need to give an explanation when they say no. When I was dating, I told people "No, but thanks" all the time --- usually I was saying no because I wasn't physically attracted to them in any way. This is not to say that I only dated "hot" people, cause I didn't. But physical interest in important - at least it is for me because I like having sex.

    ETA, I don't care how anyone does it -- if you don't want to be doing it with them in the first place, DOESN'T MATTER

    No kidding! Me too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • CLFrancois
    CLFrancois Posts: 472 Member
    "Big" girls do it best. It's truly their loss and they don't know what they're missing. I bet after an hour with me they'd "date" "big" girls ;)

    always one !!!!!

    and you shot yourself in the foot already be them big or thin.....!


    Obviously not everyone reading this thread isn't "big", so you are saying that because a gal is "big" they are better than one that is not. I am not big, never have been, but I sure the hell would never go around a thread on MFP saying anything like "thin girls" do X better. F that. The whole point of the original posters statement was that it was rude the way the man said it. Now you are going there.
  • thecakelocker
    thecakelocker Posts: 407 Member
    I disappoint all, so I always carry a Hallmark card saying I'm sorry this has never happen before flowers and batteries

    LOL

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