Girls wear certain clothes when they are looking

Ruby Wax is an American comedian but probably better known in the UK. She's very sarcastic, facetious and sardonic. She also has qualifications in psychology and does a huge amount of work - support, discussions etc - in that field.

I'd take anything she says with a pinch of salt as I've never seen or heard her do anything wholly serious. Her humour isn't for everyone.

On the other hand, I think that women (including me) often dress in certain ways to make themselves FEEL good, and it may be the case that feeling good = feeling sexy. Most people will agree that the sexiest looking people are the ones that throw that confident attitude out there. As a result, it will attract attention, whether you are targeting that or not.

I'd be pretty shocked if any woman could tell me that, at least once in a while, they either do or want to put on a pair of jeans and say "damn, my *kitten* looks good in those". Why would you care if it looks good if you didn't care how you project yourself?

Everyone wants to feel attractive from time to time and, whether we like it or not, people's opinions do often impact how we feel. The way many women (& men) get that boost is when someone says something about their appearance ... whether it's someone they know, a friend, or perhaps a stranger. MFP is rife with it and I say "good on 'em!"

It doesn't mean for one single minute that women are looking to be letched over, harassed or .... anything worse. Human beings feel great when they are considered attractive. At least half the time we want to buy or wear clothes because it compliments our best assets, whatever they may be.

If you spent hours getting doll'd up, picked an outfit that you felt really complimented you and you were feeling on top form ... wouldn't you even be a tiny bit gutted if no-one said anything? Not even a tiny weeny amount?

I'd have to read the script then, but want to point out that this:

One of the panellists, a comedienne called Ruby Wax, just suggested that women who wear certain clothing are inviting sexual attention. That their purpose is to attract sexual attention. The clothing was not specified, but she mentioned shaving one's legs and wearing high heels.

and this:

It was formulaic; shaved legs, heels, means that the women is hoping to attract a sexual partner. The implication is that if the woman receives attention that she wasn't after then she should have worn something else.

Are not the same thing.

If the argument was the old 'well if she wasn't wearing that outfit she wouldn't have been sexually assaulted' well then yes, that's idiotic. However, wanting to be seen as attractive, even sexually attractive, is NOT the same thing as wanting to find someone to sleep with you.