Girls - your first thought when..

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  • pspetralia
    pspetralia Posts: 963 Member
    Depends....have to wait until he opens his mouth. Can't stand when they're cocky, arrogant or dumb.....of course that applies to guys with all different body types.
  • fit_spired_vicky
    fit_spired_vicky Posts: 152
    But, buff/fit guys probably wont hit on me anyways, so I have nothing to worry about!

    Dr Chimpanzees wife?

    I wish *sad face*
  • fishnbrah
    fishnbrah Posts: 550
    If women are anything like us their personality is the last thing on their minds.

    but are they like us?
  • FitandFab33
    FitandFab33 Posts: 718 Member
    I usually have the initial response of "Huh... are you talking to me?" And then turn around three or four times to be sure there's not someone standing behind me. haha

    Yeah, it can be a little intimidating (mostly because I'm usually surprised) but it's really all about what they say/how they approach. Confidence and arrogance are VERY different. And being physically fit doesn't automatically make someone shallow, just like it doesn't make someone have a great personality/be a better person.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    :huh: Um, I don't really judge people by their body types. The first 5 words out of their mouth, yes.
  • alisha_1983
    alisha_1983 Posts: 507 Member
    Can't really share the thoughts that go through my head when I see something like that. Let's just say I'm focused on the visual until he opens his mouth--then the thinking kicks back in.

    interesting. this is kind of what i was wondering.

    no i never hit on girls, im pretty shy. but i was told by a girl that i know that they can be intimidated by a guy with a really nice body or something like that? like im only concerned with looks or something, or their body has to be crazy good too,
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    Usually a guys actions are what makes them intimidating, not necessarily their looks (to me, anyway). If they are super hot and arrogant about it... that is a def turn off! Just act like a nice guy and not a douche and you'll be good :)
  • Morninglory81
    Morninglory81 Posts: 1,190 Member
    I look for the short girl he is truly looking at and get out of the way.

    Even when I was hot in my 20's muscled guys were less than interested in a relationship. I made friends with many of them and asked once why they never tried anything before we were friends and the answer I got was I was to tall:cry: I am only5'9" and most of them were 6'2" +:noway: I was told the woman had to fit just under their chin preferably below their shoulder! What gives on that?:explode:
  • brower47
    brower47 Posts: 16,356 Member
    If he's looking at himself in the mirror while hitting on me, I take a wild guess that he's shallow. If he's staring at my chest, I assume he's a boob guy. If he's smiling and we're having a mutual conversation, I assume he's a nice guy.

    In all three cases, I imagine he's someone who works hard and has a lot of dedication.
  • JessieJanie
    JessieJanie Posts: 428
    I assume it's a joke and he's picking on me.







    ^That's a joke by the way.
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    If he flirts with me, I look for the rest of his buddies and/or girlfriend who is laughing and waiting for the fat lady to fall for him. Just on looks, I don't think he's a narcissist or shallow. I crush on plenty of muscular men but never dated one.
  • CantStopWontStop92
    CantStopWontStop92 Posts: 165 Member
    I'm down for it! I'd like to think I'm not shallow or narcisstic but I like to take care of my body, so I wouldn't judge a guy off the bat like that:) It's really about the approach. For instance, I had a guy approach me in the gym a few weeks back but immediately started critiquing minute things about my form and figure. "Hey you might want to work on your shoulders, your posture isn't doing it for me. Wanna go out with me?" Aw hell no.
  • WeightHacker
    WeightHacker Posts: 260 Member
    completely depends on his body language and what he is saying.

    ^^yep

    Confidence > arrogance

    agrees
  • PeachyKeene
    PeachyKeene Posts: 1,645 Member
    DDDDAAAAAAMMMMMMNNNNN!!!!!!!!!
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    I wouldn't assume he's shallow, especially not now.

    But yes, when I was younger I would have been intimidated by a man with your physique. Honestly it'd make me feel fat. I'd feel bad about myself so I'd try to pretend I wasn't interested anyway by labeling him as shallow.
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    Can't really share the thoughts that go through my head when I see something like that. Let's just say I'm focused on the visual until he opens his mouth--then the thinking kicks back in.

    interesting. this is kind of what i was wondering.

    Spill it..You hit on someone and didn't get the reaction you were hoping for?
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    no i never hit on girls, im pretty shy. but i was told by a girl that i know that they can be intimidated by a guy with a really nice body or something like that? like im only concerned with looks or something, or their body has to be crazy good too,
    [/quote]

    So you never hit on woman?
    You'd date someone that wasn't as fit as yourself?
    Since your shy..I am too..how do you go about dating?
  • fishnbrah
    fishnbrah Posts: 550
    I don't really have experience with that.

    Depends on the situation



    Would you be walking up to me with your shirt off?

    would i have better success shirtless? id be afraid that might come off a bit "douchey" if i undress before approaching.
  • silvergurl518
    silvergurl518 Posts: 4,123 Member
    is he smiling? 6 pack or not, if a guy isn't smiling, he's not HOT, in my opinion.

    i'm somewhat intimidated by good looking men. not sure why. if i get hit on by any man, muscular or not, i think i'm very oblivious. because i have zero game ;) hahahah.

    i agree with the body language comment. 100%.
  • lkplibra
    lkplibra Posts: 147 Member
    For me it's like observing a piece of art work. A "that's nice" sort of thought and then there is also the fact that I am kind of oblivious. I most likely would not be aware that I was being hit on as it is so outside of my expectation I would not recognize it if it were to happen.
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    you see a fit/muscular guy, or get hit on by a guy like that do you instantly think he is narcissistic or shallow cuz he's buff? or do you just think, cool that guy has a nice body?

    Out of curiosity what practical difference does it make?

    Obviously there won't be a general consensus really. Women are different with different views. You never can tell. All you can do is smile sweetly and make your play...
  • Ivian_
    Ivian_ Posts: 276 Member
    I don't get hit on by hot/buff guys.


    And if I did, I'd probably look around aimlessly looking for the person they WERE trying to hit on :laugh: Sorry bud!
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    I'd be flattered and my first thought would be "hmmm...I wonder if I could get away with this without my husband finding out" :laugh:

    Seriously though...I don't automatically think he's a narcissist.....I'm generally impressed with guys who take good care of themselves, as long as they aren't gazing lovingly at themselves in the mirror while they're lifting :flowerforyou:
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,274 Member
    My b/f is 70, has a very fit body and he hit on me. I thought...."Hmmmmm.....nice....."
  • fishnbrah
    fishnbrah Posts: 550
    Can't really share the thoughts that go through my head when I see something like that. Let's just say I'm focused on the visual until he opens his mouth--then the thinking kicks back in.

    interesting. this is kind of what i was wondering.

    Spill it..You hit on someone and didn't get the reaction you were hoping for?

    no i never hit on girls, im pretty shy. but i was told by a girl that i know that they can be intimidated by a guy with a really nice body or something like that? like im only concerned with looks or something, or their body has to be crazy good too,
    [/quote]

    So you never hit on woman?
    You'd date someone that wasn't as fit as yourself?
    Since your shy..I am too..how do you go about dating?
    [/quote]

    pretty simple, i dont.
  • maiaroman18
    maiaroman18 Posts: 460 Member
    Can't really share the thoughts that go through my head when I see something like that. Let's just say I'm focused on the visual until he opens his mouth--then the thinking kicks back in.
    That's why I carry a roll of duct tape in my bag... no need to ruin anything with thinking.
  • fishnbrah
    fishnbrah Posts: 550
    this is interesting, getting several different opinions.
  • sleepingtodream
    sleepingtodream Posts: 304 Member
    For me it's like observing a piece of art work. A "that's nice" sort of thought and then there is also the fact that I am kind of oblivious. I most likely would not be aware that I was being hit on as it is so outside of my expectation I would not recognize it if it were to happen.

    This is me too!! But my mind doesn't immediately go to shallow;) I'd feel inferior before I'd peg him as shallow...
  • berriboobear
    berriboobear Posts: 524 Member
    Can't really share the thoughts that go through my head when I see something like that. Let's just say I'm focused on the visual until he opens his mouth--then the thinking kicks back in.

    interesting. this is kind of what i was wondering.

    Spill it..You hit on someone and didn't get the reaction you were hoping for?

    no i never hit on girls, im pretty shy. but i was told by a girl that i know that they can be intimidated by a guy with a really nice body or something like that? like im only concerned with looks or something, or their body has to be crazy good too,

    So you never hit on woman?
    You'd date someone that wasn't as fit as yourself?
    Since your shy..I am too..how do you go about dating?
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    pretty simple, i dont.
    [/quote]

    that's a shame
  • LoggingForLife
    LoggingForLife Posts: 504 Member
    Woman...any female over the age of 18-20 is a woman. Personally, I prefer muscle that is built by playing a sport or doing manual work over the gym type of muscles.
  • MyOwnSunshine
    MyOwnSunshine Posts: 1,312 Member
    Well, my first thought would be that it's some kind of set-up.

    My next thought would be, "Wow, this guy really works hard at the gym and lives a disciplined lifestyle."
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    I want him to remove his shirt and bust out a can of Redi Whip.

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