'No, I don't date BIG girls'

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  • feral_teddybear
    feral_teddybear Posts: 39 Member

    Princess Peach wasn't the brightest she kept getting caught on me too, I bet she does like them bad guys she needs to hang out with the girl from the "interpret this text" thread so they can bring da dramah!

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    Love that cartoon.

    On topic, there is nothing wrong with dating big girls. But personal experience give me that opinion because all non "big girls" i knew saw me just as a friend, "brother", or someone to be their pseudo boyfriend when at bars to keep the creepers away.
  • amandapye78
    amandapye78 Posts: 820 Member
    I dont get these things, I mean I am not attracted to super skinny guys. If he's not attracted to "big girls" then that's it. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to one type or the next. It's just who we are.
  • missdibs1
    missdibs1 Posts: 1,092 Member
    agreed people have different attractions and tolerances

    sounds like you are chasing the wrong man ;-)
  • runner2runner
    runner2runner Posts: 1,937 Member
    I'll just go with everyone here and say it's about preferences and everyone's got that right, but that doesn't mean it has to be voiced in a way that insults or offends the other person. There's a very thin line between honesty and just being plain shallow and downright rude and nasty. Unfortunately some people, either intentionally or otherwise cross that line! Your're a beautiful girl and you shouldn't waste your time giving such people you time!
  • d9123
    d9123 Posts: 531 Member
    I'll just go with everyone here and say it's about preferences and everyone's got that right, but that doesn't mean it has to be voiced in a way that insults or offends the other person. There's a very thin line between honesty and just being plain shallow and downright rude and nasty. Unfortunately some people, either intentionally or otherwise cross that line! Your're a beautiful girl and you shouldn't waste your time giving such people you time!


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  • EDesq
    EDesq Posts: 1,527 Member
    To each their own! Do you date "Geeks" and "Nerds"? What about a guy 8 inches shorter than you? I could go on and on...but suffice it to say, EVERYONE has a PREFERENCE and TYPE!!! EVERYONE!
  • Everyone does have preferences but I personally never say I wouldn't date a type of person. You never know who you will be attracted to and if you are around someone long enough that has a great personality then you may not be bothered by their looks, race, body type etc. Sometimes if you are around people long enough you may even be attracted to them even though their personality sucks and their ugly (by your standards) so I say, never say never.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    To each their own! Do you date "Geeks" and "Nerds"? What about a guy 8 inches shorter than you? I could go on and on...but suffice it to say, EVERYONE has a PREFERENCE and TYPE!!! EVERYONE!

    Yep, pretty much. I fully understand and accept that some/most women won't like me because I am overweight, or because I am bald, or because they don't like my personality. And that is fine, because there are others that will like me BECAUSE of that stuff.
  • To each their own! Do you date "Geeks" and "Nerds"? What about a guy 8 inches shorter than you? I could go on and on...but suffice it to say, EVERYONE has a PREFERENCE and TYPE!!! EVERYONE!

    I love nerds and geeks but I also love athletic jocky guys too. A guy shorter than me or even my height hardly has any chance but you never know. The shortest person I dated before my husband was 5'11" and I thought I couldn't go below that height because I love tall guys but my husband is 5'8" and I got used to it.
  • karenertl
    karenertl Posts: 271 Member
    I think everyone has their types for example I can't get mad at a girl if she's not attracted to black guys lol just saying

    That's crazy talk! Like there's a woman out there who isn't ;)

    I know a woman who isn't. She has nothing against them, she's just not attracted to them. She, by no means, is racist but just isn't going to hop into bed with or be physically attracted to black guys. Everyone is entitled to their preferences but we all should at least make the attempt to be nice about it.
  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
    I'll just go with everyone here and say it's about preferences and everyone's got that right, but that doesn't mean it has to be voiced in a way that insults or offends the other person. There's a very thin line between honesty and just being plain shallow and downright rude and nasty. Unfortunately some people, either intentionally or otherwise cross that line! Your're a beautiful girl and you shouldn't waste your time giving such people you time!
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  • CrazyTrackLady
    CrazyTrackLady Posts: 1,337 Member
    To each their own! Do you date "Geeks" and "Nerds"? What about a guy 8 inches shorter than you? I could go on and on...but suffice it to say, EVERYONE has a PREFERENCE and TYPE!!! EVERYONE!

    Yep, pretty much. I fully understand and accept that some/most women won't like me because I am overweight, or because I am bald, or because they don't like my personality. And that is fine, because there are others that will like me BECAUSE of that stuff.

    One of my best male friends is very heavy. I'd like for him to lose weight, because he also has high blood pressure. I am trying to encourage him to exercise and eat right, but there is only so much I can do. The rest is up to him. HOWEVER, I don't see his weight as a hindrance to our friendship. We were friends many years ago, lost touch for 17 years, and resumed our friendship a few years back. Now, we're actually closer because we've had the time to learn more about each other's lives.

    When I connect with someone on an intellectual or mental level, I pay no attention to the physical features. I think it's shallow and superficial for ANYONE to say "I won't date anyone shorter than I am, heavier than I am, etc". Even when I was single, I made my decision based on personality, not looks. Not to sound conceited, but there was a time when I looked exactly like Princess Diana, and had numerous men coming up to me wanting to "get to know me". The attention was overwhelming and, honestly, annoying, because it was all about how I looked, not about who I was/am. They didn't see the funny, sweet, and smart gal. They saw the outside, and the outside is only superficial. I didn't really care to date them and preferred to be very selective based on their personalities.

    I think you're kinda cool, based on what I've read in your posts. :flowerforyou:
  • WhyFlowersExist
    WhyFlowersExist Posts: 78 Member
    Personally I cant stand dating bigger girls, because of their unjustified insecurity. If im out and about with her, you know taking HER on a date, ALL I seemed to hear everytime i looked around was "are you looking at that girl?" "No i was looking at the movie times." "Well do you think shes prettier then me because shes skinny?" On and on and ON! Its exhausting! I dont think its really a matter of weight but in all honesty finding a secure big girl is SO HARD!
  • CrazyTrackLady
    CrazyTrackLady Posts: 1,337 Member
    Personally I cant stand dating bigger girls, because of their unjustified insecurity. If im out and about with her, you know taking HER on a date, ALL I seemed to hear everytime i looked around was "are you looking at that girl?" "No i was looking at the movie times." "Well do you think shes prettier then me because shes skinny?" On and on and ON! Its exhausting! I dont think its really a matter of weight but in all honesty finding a secure big girl is SO HARD!

    I don't date "girls" because I'm a straight married female, but I have to add that I find the super skinny women just as, if not more, insecure about themselves than "big girls". Some of them are SO obsessed with being super skinny they go to drastic extremes to keep themselves that way -- VLCs included. And they are constantly comparing themselves to OTHER skinny girls, which usually ends up in some sort of cat fight and attention who*ing behavior.

    It does go both ways.
  • lostdogg
    lostdogg Posts: 450 Member
    I really can't say anything that hasn't been said here already. For me it's is not so much size as it is confidence, sexuality, how they project themselves and carry themselves.

    I have dated girls of all sizes. Tall, short, big, tiny.... There are many small girls that I don't find attractive for one reason or another and the same is said for big girls.

    It's hard to explain really, but I look at just as many big girls and think "damn she looks good" as I do smaller girls.

    Each person has certain things they find attractive.

    As it was posted before, if someone makes a blanket statement they aren't interested in finding out who you really are......
    Er go they themselves aren't worthy of your attention. You deserve someone who will take the time to figure out who you are.
  • okcat4
    okcat4 Posts: 224 Member
    response: That's good (whew!) I don't date short sighted prejudical idiots! SO i guess we are good.
  • fishnbrah
    fishnbrah Posts: 550
    im willing to bang big girls when im drunk if that means anything.
  • mrdexter1
    mrdexter1 Posts: 356 Member
    im willing to bang big girls when im drunk if that means anything.

    you siko !!!!!

    get some respect !!!
  • hharvey9
    hharvey9 Posts: 36 Member
    I have a thing for tall guys because I'm 5'9. I did date a guy that was a bit shorter than me and it just didn't feel right. He was very smart and good looking, but I couldn't ignore the height thing. We didn't break up because of that, but it did matter because I was a bit unconfortable walking with him on the street.
    I gave the 'not really my type' relationship a chance and it wasn't ok.


    YES! I'm 5'9" (according to one doc and 5'10 according to another) - either way, I'm tall. I've dated shorter guys mostly since high school and I always feel wierd and uncomfortable standing or walking by them. Current BF is two inches taller and its heaven!
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    To each their own! Do you date "Geeks" and "Nerds"? What about a guy 8 inches shorter than you? I could go on and on...but suffice it to say, EVERYONE has a PREFERENCE and TYPE!!! EVERYONE!

    Yep, pretty much. I fully understand and accept that some/most women won't like me because I am overweight, or because I am bald, or because they don't like my personality. And that is fine, because there are others that will like me BECAUSE of that stuff.

    One of my best male friends is very heavy. I'd like for him to lose weight, because he also has high blood pressure. I am trying to encourage him to exercise and eat right, but there is only so much I can do. The rest is up to him. HOWEVER, I don't see his weight as a hindrance to our friendship. We were friends many years ago, lost touch for 17 years, and resumed our friendship a few years back. Now, we're actually closer because we've had the time to learn more about each other's lives.

    When I connect with someone on an intellectual or mental level, I pay no attention to the physical features. I think it's shallow and superficial for ANYONE to say "I won't date anyone shorter than I am, heavier than I am, etc". Even when I was single, I made my decision based on personality, not looks. Not to sound conceited, but there was a time when I looked exactly like Princess Diana, and had numerous men coming up to me wanting to "get to know me". The attention was overwhelming and, honestly, annoying, because it was all about how I looked, not about who I was/am. They didn't see the funny, sweet, and smart gal. They saw the outside, and the outside is only superficial. I didn't really care to date them and preferred to be very selective based on their personalities.

    I think you're kinda cool, based on what I've read in your posts. :flowerforyou:

    Everyone is shallow to some degree and it is important to remember that everyone is attracted to different things. You may be mentally attracted to intelligence and humor, while another girl might be attracted to rippling abs and big biceps. The probably usually lies in being attracted to someone who doesn't find you attractive back. That is when people's feelings get hurt because they want that person so badly but feel rejected by them.

    And thank you! I really appreciate that! :flowerforyou:
  • fishnbrah
    fishnbrah Posts: 550
    im willing to bang big girls when im drunk if that means anything.

    you siko !!!!!

    get some respect !!!
    \

    lol
  • Faye_Anderson
    Faye_Anderson Posts: 1,495 Member
    Who really says that nowadays?

    It really bothers me when some, and I repeat, some guys think 'big girls' are nasty, stinky, lazy, and whatever other degrading adjective comes to mind. Seriously, those kind of guys need to get over that thought because it makes them look like a cocky, dumb, *kitten*.

    What are your feelings about that?

    Would you rather they say fat?
    You can't change someone's personal choice :flowerforyou:
  • aproc
    aproc Posts: 1,033 Member
    Nothing wrong with that. It sucks to hear it said to you, but there is nothing wrong with that personal preference.
  • MsPudding
    MsPudding Posts: 562 Member
    From my grand old age of 44 I can tell you young'uns that where you're going wrong is dating. Forget dating. What you actually want to do is fast-forward to having sex with them to figure out whether you like them enough to bother dating them - a far more efficient use of your time.
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    From my grand old age of 44 I can tell you young'uns that where you're going wrong is dating. Forget dating. What you actually want to do is fast-forward to having sex with them to figure out whether you like them enough to bother dating them - a far more efficient use of your time.

    Lady we have been doing that for years!
  • It's unfortunate that society has become of a place, where your size matters if you should be LOVED, this is just selfishness and rudeness. Yes we should all take care of our HEALTH and not become obese, but WHY is this a issue for being LIKED.
  • Gwen_B
    Gwen_B Posts: 1,018 Member
    I think everybody has preferences and deal breakers, period.

    Everyone is entitled to their preferences. I'm not going to deny that to a person, but there's still no reason to be an a-hole about it.

    True, but it sure does make it easier to weed out the asssholes when they show their true colors. And if they are not being an *kitten* about it, than it goes back to simple preferences.

    Well put!!
  • LeanneGoingThin
    LeanneGoingThin Posts: 215 Member
    It's unfortunate that society has become of a place, where your size matters if you should be LOVED, this is just selfishness and rudeness. Yes we should all take care of our HEALTH and not become obese, but WHY is this a issue for being LIKED.

    I'm not sure it has to do with liking the other person. You like your friends, you don't have to be attracted to them. When dating or having a romantic interest in somebody, you do want to feel attracted to the body of that person. Either you are, or you aren't. Personal preference. I usually don't find myself attracted to big guys either, unless they have a great personality.
  • CrazyTrackLady
    CrazyTrackLady Posts: 1,337 Member
    To each their own! Do you date "Geeks" and "Nerds"? What about a guy 8 inches shorter than you? I could go on and on...but suffice it to say, EVERYONE has a PREFERENCE and TYPE!!! EVERYONE!

    Yep, pretty much. I fully understand and accept that some/most women won't like me because I am overweight, or because I am bald, or because they don't like my personality. And that is fine, because there are others that will like me BECAUSE of that stuff.

    One of my best male friends is very heavy. I'd like for him to lose weight, because he also has high blood pressure. I am trying to encourage him to exercise and eat right, but there is only so much I can do. The rest is up to him. HOWEVER, I don't see his weight as a hindrance to our friendship. We were friends many years ago, lost touch for 17 years, and resumed our friendship a few years back. Now, we're actually closer because we've had the time to learn more about each other's lives.

    When I connect with someone on an intellectual or mental level, I pay no attention to the physical features. I think it's shallow and superficial for ANYONE to say "I won't date anyone shorter than I am, heavier than I am, etc". Even when I was single, I made my decision based on personality, not looks. Not to sound conceited, but there was a time when I looked exactly like Princess Diana, and had numerous men coming up to me wanting to "get to know me". The attention was overwhelming and, honestly, annoying, because it was all about how I looked, not about who I was/am. They didn't see the funny, sweet, and smart gal. They saw the outside, and the outside is only superficial. I didn't really care to date them and preferred to be very selective based on their personalities.

    I think you're kinda cool, based on what I've read in your posts. :flowerforyou:

    Everyone is shallow to some degree and it is important to remember that everyone is attracted to different things. You may be mentally attracted to intelligence and humor, while another girl might be attracted to rippling abs and big biceps. The probably usually lies in being attracted to someone who doesn't find you attractive back. That is when people's feelings get hurt because they want that person so badly but feel rejected by them.

    And thank you! I really appreciate that! :flowerforyou:

    Trust me, there are many men out there who still turn my head because of the way they look. HOWEVER, that has never been the motivator for me wanting to get to know them further. When I was single, I never went for what society had defined as the 'gorgeous" guys. It wasn't what caught and held my attention. Perhaps I psychologically felt inferior to them, I don't know. I just didn't go out and actively seek to meet those types. I also didn't pick men up in bars, either. I met my husband in the cafeteria of our college. so, there's that....

    I do think, however, that "big" girls tend to be more outwardly insecure than "big" guys. Big guys tend to hide their insecurities by becoming the "funny, cuddly, fat guy" that all the girls love having around with and basically keep friendzoned. "Big" girls tend to be more judgmental of others and are more often making snarky or competitive remarks about other women. That's been my observation.

    Does that sound shallow of me? Probably.
  • mamosh81
    mamosh81 Posts: 409 Member
    my brother says that but that is just his taste and he has always been extremely fit
    i met my boyfriend when i was at my highest weight and he never minded it now i am going to give him the best of me and show him he made the right choice