Asking Bridal Party To Lose Weight

Is she also the sort of person who won't have a cake at her wedding, because cake is too fattening? Because that would make me sad :frown:

That said, one of my cousins had a fake cake (for show) at her wedding. I was extremely disappointed...

That would be VERY sad to have a fake cake!!!

Sick and wrong...my maid of honor was my disabled sister who has severe cerebral palsy....couldn't have been happier to have her by my side...if that is what that girl is worried about, I fear for her husband and children to come....She has no idea what love is....

Is she also the sort of person who won't have a cake at her wedding, because cake is too fattening? Because that would make me sad :frown:

That said, one of my cousins had a fake cake (for show) at her wedding. I was extremely disappointed...

That would be VERY sad to have a fake cake!!!

Hmmm, wedding is a sham. Is the marriage a sham also?

Not cool! I read a story on Jezebel last month about a bride who had previously been her best friend's maid of honor, and didn't ask said BF to be in her own wedding party when that day arrived. And when challenged, the new bride not only specifically said "because you're too fat" but then apparently launched into a huge body-shaming speech that apparently she'd been saving up for her friend for a while.

I know the world is full of people like this but it's constantly mystifying to me that they even HAVE friends to disrespect this way.

No, I am not doing this ( I think its horrible). However, I am recently engaged and have an acquaintance who is as well. We were chatting and she was telling me that she wants people in her bridal party to drop a specific amount of weight for her wedding, or else she is going to reconsider replacing them with a skinnier person.. Has anyone else on this board actually requested this from their wedding party? It seems to be a new 'trend' ... Personally, I think this is over the top and Bridezilla- ish. However, I do understand the whole thing about wanting your wedding day to be perfect. What do you guys think about it?

Any of those women who does not decline the "honor" of being a bridesmaid should have a mental check.

I would not ask this of people I loved and I would end a friendship with anyone who asked it of me.

..... wow.

I've never known anyone in real life that would do this! I didn't even ask my girls to wear the same dress because I had a size 2 bridesmaid, a size 8 bridesmaid, and a size 20. I wanted to make everything as easy as I could for them. Fortunately they did find a dress that looked fabulous on all three of them, but it was NOT a requirement of my wedding. To ask them to lose weight for the wedding? That would be INFINITELY more inappropriate of me.

Umm...how are they even still FRIENDS?? Seriously?

Unacceptable in any circumstance. I was the fattest bridesmaid at a wedding this year, and frankly if the bride would have "reconsidered" asking me to be a bridesmaid because of my weight, I would have "reconsidered" going to her wedding at all.

The TV show idea is great. Awesome potential.

Wow how self absorbed could someone be..... pretty scary...

I think what makes a wedding beautiful and perfect is being around those you love and having them share a special part of your life. Obviously this person has messed up priorities and doesn't share these beliefs, which is a shame.

wow, if someone made that request of me, I would laugh at them and tell them there was going to be one less guest at the affair.

plus, as I think someone else pointed out... the reason bridesmaids traditionally wear awful dresses is so that the bride looks like the most beautiful woman there. Hell, I'd think a bride would ask her pretty, skinny friends to put ON weight!

I've been a bridesmaid four times when I was a little heavier and weight was never mentioned. But the brides were my sister and very close college friends. One of the brides later told me that if one of our friends had been as big as she is now (50 lb heavier) she wouldn't have had her in the wedding. I think it had more to do with the fact that they are not really friends anymore and wouldn't mind burning that bridge. But this is the same bride who gingerly asked me if I would consider growing my hair out for her wedding. Some people see their weddings almost as photoshoots. Won't ask short men to be groomsmen, etc.

Maybe this is why I have never been a bride's maid. How rude.

I think its down right rude. If a bride told me that I'd tell her where she could go and I wouldn't be part of her wedding and she would no longer be my friend. NO ONE is THAT special to tell me how much I should lose.

She should hire models to stand up for her.

Also, she is a total ****. (The first asterisk is a "c", by the way)

id do just about anything for a close friend. losing weight wouldnt bother me at all. or growing a beard. or wearing a weird groomsmen's outfit. etc...

and for those saying they'd disown a lifelong friend for asking this i say you werent that good of friends to begin with.