Asking Bridal Party To Lose Weight
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LOL, for those of you feeling sorry for the groom to be. Don't. He is even worse. Not that I dislike him, but in simple terms, they are made/meant to be together!0
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wow thats crazy! My wedding party was such an diverse group of women. Everyone had such different body types I didn't even make them wear the same dress! All i said was pick a dress in this specific color and preferable not full length (why waste money on a dress you wont wear, and most the time people don't wear floor length dresses). Each of them picked a dress that fit their bodies and their style and I think it made them a lot happier.
This is kind of like my wedding...I got married in Italy and they don't have bridesmaids, they have witnesses. I actually had 3 women and 2 men. I asked the women to see if they could find the same dress, but they couldn't decide on anything so I told them to just get whatever they wanted! In retrospect, I think that everyone dressed exactly the same is kind of creepy. The same color scheme is nice, but I think that it's nice to vary the style, regardless of sizes! And like everyone's said, your wedding day should be about love, including the people you choose to celebrate with you.0 -
When I got married I chose five of most important girls in my life at the time to be a part of my wedding. I didn't care what their sizes were or the fact that my sister was the one who was successful at losing (while I was struggling to lose). My attendants were different sizes and to me were very beautiful. My wedding wasn't perfect, but it was memorable. My brother escorted me down the aisle. Our dad passed away in October 2008 and I was married in September 2009. When the preacher said, "Who gives this bride in marriage?" My brother responded with, "Her family and I." Then my side of the church responded with, "We all do! And no takes backs!" Everyone got a laugh out of it.0
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You would think if one was IN a bridal party they are friends with the bride..right? So.....wouldn't one also think that friends love you in whatever package you come in...??? Maybe I am just not trendy enough to only be concerned about the outside "shell" of my friends...0
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Serious see you next Tuesday behavior. :noway:0
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Both sound superficial and I can't believe the bridesmaids would oblige or even consider. Typically, you ask your friend to be in the wedding because you like them for their personality and size. If the ladies use that as motivation then so be it. I think that if a person really felt strongly about this, there are other ways to go about it; for instance, pointing out her own flaws and asking her bridesmaids to come to a class with her to tone up. Even then, it would be deceitful and only an option.0
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Then my cousin's SIL was HUGE with twins for my cousin's wedding and the only similar dress they could find was tea length while the rest of us wore full-length gowns with trains. The SIL was still welcome in the bridal party.
That's how it should be!
-signed, person who has no ambitions to get married so don't assume I'm saying this because I'm a bridezilla lol0 -
Then my cousin's SIL was HUGE with twins for my cousin's wedding and the only similar dress they could find was tea length while the rest of us wore full-length gowns with trains. The SIL was still welcome in the bridal party.
That's how it should be!
-signed, person who has no ambitions to get married so don't assume I'm saying this because I'm a bridezilla lol
As for the one that didn't come in the size, you'd never know the difference if I showed you photos.0 -
Then my cousin's SIL was HUGE with twins for my cousin's wedding and the only similar dress they could find was tea length while the rest of us wore full-length gowns with trains. The SIL was still welcome in the bridal party.
That's how it should be!
-signed, person who has no ambitions to get married so don't assume I'm saying this because I'm a bridezilla lol
I don't know ANYONE who would ditch a bridesmaid over a dress. Well, not any more lol.0 -
I'm having a difficult time believing that someone with this self-centered, shallow, immature mentality is ready to be married in the first place. How can you possibly love someone so much that you would ask them to stand up with you at your wedding and then turn around and say they are replaceable if they don't fulfill this ridiculous criteria. Perfect day indeed...0
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Then my cousin's SIL was HUGE with twins for my cousin's wedding and the only similar dress they could find was tea length while the rest of us wore full-length gowns with trains. The SIL was still welcome in the bridal party.
That's how it should be!
-signed, person who has no ambitions to get married so don't assume I'm saying this because I'm a bridezilla lol
I don't know ANYONE who would ditch a bridesmaid over a dress. Well, not any more lol.0 -
To value the appearance of your wedding over your friendships is not only the height of narcissism but a frightening way to begin one of the most pivotal and, at times, challenging relationships of one's life. Marriage is not a pagent at the end of a fairytale, but a commitment at the beginning of a path of self-discovery, growth, connection, compassion, compromise, self-lessness and adventure. I think this woman should reconsider her priorities.
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I'll want my sister to lose weight before my wedding... there's ways and means around everything,
no need for heart breaking like!0 -
Then my cousin's SIL was HUGE with twins for my cousin's wedding and the only similar dress they could find was tea length while the rest of us wore full-length gowns with trains. The SIL was still welcome in the bridal party.
That's how it should be!
-signed, person who has no ambitions to get married so don't assume I'm saying this because I'm a bridezilla lol
As for the one that didn't come in the size, you'd never know the difference if I showed you photos.0 -
Wow, that is totally awful. It should be about having your friends there with you on your special day rather than making sure everyone fits in a cookie cutter shape so pictures are just so. I was asked to be a bridesmaid and I decided on my own that I want to lose so I can look better....I was never asked. That is really rude and shallow and I'd reconsider whether or not that person was my true friend.0
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No, I am not doing this ( I think its horrible). However, I am recently engaged and have an acquaintance who is as well. We were chatting and she was telling me that she wants people in her bridal party to drop a specific amount of weight for her wedding, or else she is going to reconsider replacing them with a skinnier person.. Has anyone else on this board actually requested this from their wedding party? It seems to be a new 'trend' ... Personally, I think this is over the top and Bridezilla- ish. However, I do understand the whole thing about wanting your wedding day to be perfect. What do you guys think about it?
I think that's being a total Bridezilla. She needs to back off and realize that she is being an arrogant, um, dirtyword that MFP would just **** out if I wrote it anyway.0 -
I'll want my sister to lose weight before my wedding... there's ways and means around everything,
no need for heart breaking like!0 -
Seems to me she'd look better with no bridal party, and no friends.0
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To value the appearance of your wedding over your friendships is not only the height of narcissism but a frightening way to begin one of the most pivotal and, at times, challenging relationships of one's life. Marriage is not a pagent at the end of a fairytale, but a commitment at the beginning of a path of self-discovery, growth, connection, compassion, compromise, self-lessness and adventure. I think this woman should reconsider her priorities.
Well said.
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The awful part about it is she knows some of the girls in my bridal party and she was telling me I should do the same as her and request them to lose some weight LOL. Some people *shakes head* ...I have been seeing this time and time again on television though, so I didn't know if it was the 'norm' or what.
She opened the door for you to give your opinion on what she is doing. Give it.
Oh, I have. Several times. I cannot change someones mind about what they ultimately want. Got my own wedding to focus on. I did tell her though, she should really quit focusing on what size her bridesmaids are and focus on herself and fitting into her own dress. She is not exactly a skinny minny so I am not sure where she gets off on telling people they are fat and need to lose weight.
Wow. That's even WORSE somehow!0
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