Asking Bridal Party To Lose Weight

the least someone can do for a close friend on their wedding day is lose a little weight.

I hope you're trying to be funny.

Wow. I wouldn't even want to be at person's wedding who is like that. Not to mention be in their bridal party.... Wow

Absolutely ridiculous.

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OP, I think your friend sounds horrible. You ask people to be in your bridal party because they are special to you and you want them to have a special role in your day. If I ever had a bride tell me that I needed to lose weight to be in her wedding party I would tell her to find someone else and then most likely stop being her friend all together. I hope your friend realizes that she is going to alienate her friends and wind up lonely.

I feel sorry for the man marrying her, unless he is as big a jerk as she is. Why would anyone want to be friends with someone that shallow and insensitive.

Years ago a "friend" asked me to be a bridesmaid, then said that they didn't make the dress she wanted the bridesmaids to have in my size and asked if I would mind not being a bridesmaid.. And that was the beginning of the end of that friendship.

I was in a wedding many moons ago and the bride's mother made our dresses. The pattern didn't come big enough for one of the bridesmaids, so they found a similar pattern for her dress.

Then my cousin's SIL was HUGE with twins for my cousin's wedding and the only similar dress they could find was tea length while the rest of us wore full-length gowns with trains. The SIL was still welcome in the bridal party.

That's how it should be!

I donno...have you priced bridesmaid dresses? And if someone has a love and a passion for their wedding and have an ideal of what it should be go them. And if they asked you in the first place it's not that she wanted everyone to change their identities like the second person mentioned (why on earth would someone marry her). And if they find out that they can't make a specific dress in a certain size well that's really ****ty for the bride and for the person suppose to wear the dress. She'd have to change the whole look of her wedding. Or pay a crap ton because of something that isn't her issue. You'd figure that if something like that happened you'd tell the person and ask them what they think they should do and offer options.

-signed, person who has no ambitions to get married so don't assume I'm saying this because I'm a bridezilla lol

The bridesmaids should be paying for their own dresses.

As for the one that didn't come in the size, you'd never know the difference if I showed you photos.

Me and a few family members have been bridesmaids and the ugly *kitten* dresses were always just given to us lol.

Well, that isn't traditionally how it's done.

The bride did pay for the material for the ones that her mother made, but that was basically our bridesmaids' gifts and while nice of her, not expected.

what a b1tch.

I do not like the way this sounds. However, if I was getting married I would pick out what the brides maids, groom, groomsmen and myself wear. I would want them to look a certain way, so I can see wanting the bridal party to weigh a certain amount.

I'm sorry that you don't have any real friends whom you love.

Wow.... I am a bridesmaid in an upcoming wedding but thats not why I'm losing weight... my friend is so incredibly sweet that even though I am by far the largest of the party, she says we all have different body types any way and is having us all wear different dresses to suit our body types... she picked the color and the material but the style is up to us and what we feel best in. I think I would have to reconsider friendship if my friend told me I was too big to be in her wedding.

The bride in this wedding is one smart cookie. She knows that the same style doesn't look as nice on all body types. Bravo to her! You're lucky to be her friend. She's a true gem.

You don't like the way it sounds, but you totally agree with it?

Marriage isn't a big game of dress-up. If you want to do that, have a costume party.

I do not like the way this sounds. However, if I was getting married I would pick out what the brides maids, groom, groomsmen and myself wear. I would want them to look a certain way, so I can see wanting the bridal party to weigh a certain amount.

And if you had a really close friend or your husband to b's sister or the like was a different weight then the rest you would do what? Find some strangers that are appropriately sized and let them fill their shoes?

.....she was telling me that she wants people in her bridal party to drop a specific amount of weight for her wedding, or else she is going to reconsider replacing them with a skinnier person.. Has anyone else on this board actually requested this from their wedding party? It seems to be a new 'trend' ... Personally, I think this is over the top and Bridezilla- ish. However, I do understand the whole thing about wanting your wedding day to be perfect. What do you guys think about it?

That's just being a bully ....... glad she's not a friend or relative of mine :noway:

Makes you wonder if she is a he and his name is abercrombie lol

I am quite shocked by this bride's behavior, and I could never imagine asking my friends to do such a thing. To me, the people I care about are equally as important on my special day as my groom and myself.

Case in point, my bridesmaids and I went dress shopping for them about two months ago. I decided to let them pick their dress styles, while I would pick the color of blue it would be, which depended on what designer they went with. Fast forward three shops later, and all of them gravitated toward Mori Lee's Lace Affairs in assorted styles - which only came in black, ivory, or white.

Happy bridesmaids who are going to be comfortable and confident on a day I wish to share with them, or bridesmaids stuffed into unflattering, lackluster dresses which very well may detract from their ability to enjoy the rest of the day? Instead of my "vision" of a royal blue wedding party, I now have six very happy bridesmaids sporting beautiful black dresses, each tailored to their body type and comfort level. I can always have them wear matching accessories to bring in my colors.

My point is, if your "vision" of a wedding involves policing people's weight, maybe you need to step back and reevaluate some of those priorities.

I do not like the way this sounds. However, if I was getting married I would pick out what the brides maids, groom, groomsmen and myself wear. I would want them to look a certain way, so I can see wanting the bridal party to weigh a certain amount.

I'm sorry that you don't have any real friends whom you love.

I do have friends I love and friends I care about, but that doesn't mean I want them to pick out what they wear at my wedding. I want the outfits to be the same.

Have you actually read anything in this thread?

I do not like the way this sounds. However, if I was getting married I would pick out what the brides maids, groom, groomsmen and myself wear. I would want them to look a certain way, so I can see wanting the bridal party to weigh a certain amount.

And if you had a really close friend or your husband to b's sister or the like was a different weight then the rest you would do what? Find some strangers that are appropriately sized and let them fill their shoes?

I do not care about the weight of the people in the Bridal Party I care about what the people standing up with me at the wedding wear. I was saying I could understand the weight of the Bridal Party affecting how someone else wants their wedding to look.

Sorry, I was going by the assumption that you would pick your close friends or husbands sister to stand with you :ohwell: